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fourlittlefeet · 09/06/2008 10:01

Am keeping us in antinatal rather than in preganancy so newbies can find us! Have posted for tink on her thread.

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happyathome · 10/06/2008 10:08

hi everyone,
thanks for new thread.Sorry about all the sickness.I'm not sick,just sometimes nauseous,bit picky about what i eat.Tiredness and hormones my problem.Tried to do party for DD at weekend,then was so shattered,was bursting into tears at everything.Waking up couple of times a night thirsty and toilet and then sometimes have some really depressive thoughts about the whole thing,and can't get back to sleep.I just wish i wasn't pregnant sometimes then i panic and remember i've got a little person inside,relying on me and i just think "get it out,i don't want it really!".It sounds so harsh,doesn't it,but i thought i'd share it with you because any of you might just feel that way,but be too scared to admit those feelings.I haven't been in the least excited,lately.I think it's because i see it in the way of me getting on with life,looking after my DD e.t.c.I don't have even energy for a walk,and get a bit 'stich' like when i try.And i keep getting agro with poor DD.I just wanted to enrich our lives,not deplete it..Anyway thanks for listening,wanted to get it off my chest.I suppose i could have depression and if i feel like that still,i will mention it to midwife or gp.1st midwife appointment 19th.No idea about scan yet.Maybe i need the scan to get excited?!.I'm 8.2 weeks now,so am relieved.I suppose it might all be anxiety and tiredness doing it?!.
I'm just sad as i wanted to cherish this pregnancy as i think it will be my last.Imagined i would be glad to have a little baby inside this time and would bond with it and feel all maternal,straight away ,as now i realise it's a human baby.I know it sounds freaky,but last pregnancy,i didn't believe i could make a human and thought there was some alien in there or something and even screamed when i first felt it kick properly.Thought it might break out and attack me.It's just so weird when youv'e never been pregnant before.
Anyway,that's my rant over.
welcome to everyone that's joined since i last posted.
just thought...maybe i've removed my excitement,subconsciously,to protect me from the long wait,it still seems like something in the distant future that may never happen.
guess i just need to get busier,trouble with a big age gap is,i've got all week to think about it...not always a good thing.Week 7 passed quick with the party e.t.c..What do you all visualise to get you excited?.I see my DD looking after/cooing over baby.Sorry i've dragged the thread down again.
I will post again in a few minutes and put on the embryo website picture that i believe is about my stage(and some of you out there) to drool over.
take care.hope you all had/have good holidays and that the scans go well.
happy and Snuggles x

happyathome · 10/06/2008 10:12

here it is,stage 19
19/OpticalRtLat.html

happyathome · 10/06/2008 10:23

sorry,it didn't work.will try again

embryo.soad.umich.edu/carnStages
then choose stage 19 from list.then on next list,choose OpticalRtLat.html
sorry,thought i could take you staight to link picture.or maybe it's preggy brain stikes again!!

poorbuthappy · 10/06/2008 10:33

Morning all

Current due date is 14th Jan. Scan date is 2nd July so as usual due date will probably change.

Sick as a dog, thought I was going to throw up the bean last night. Never had it sooooo bad, only ever had nausea with dd1.

Hair is crap, skin is crap, I look about 16 weeks pregnant, can't stop throwing up, so I've decided it must be twins...god I'm going to be disappointed!!!!!!!

MrsAay · 10/06/2008 10:37

Hi Happyathome - you've just made me cry but frankly it doesn't take much at the moment. Actually I feel a lot better now...

I think having a second baby is very different from the first. It's a completely unknown world the first time, but this time for me, I know exactly what to expect and I know nothing is going to be easy.

What keeps me going is thinking of DS having a sibling to play with. Sometimes he seems a bit lonely in the garden on his own. Some friends have just got one DD - she's 5 now and they've just bought a puppy because they are worried she's a bit lonely. I think we're both making the right decision for the long term.

Anyway, who says you have to be excited about having a baby in the early stages. There's very little to see or feel at the moment, but all that will change in time.

stripeywoollenhat · 10/06/2008 10:52

good morning!

happyathome, sorry you are feeling so down; perhaps it is just because early pregnancy is so tiring and it will settle down in a few weeks? i know that i have had some really quite panicked moments, even though i had to work quite hard to achieve this pregnancy - i find that i am focusing on getting to twelve weeks and feeling better with the kid still on board rather than looking further into the future than that. fingers crossed that you will feel better about it soon.

welcome poorbuthappy, you should stick yourself on the list

poorbuthappy · 10/06/2008 11:13

Yes I know should stick myself on the list...

MsSparkle - 31st Dec (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
scare85 - tbc
charmed24 - 2nd Jan
Teuch - 2nd Jan
kidsfromfame - 2nd Jan
okaythen - 2nd Jan
looweeza - 2nd Jan
Hopenotsickthistime - 3rd Jan
HeathersMummy - 4th Jan
moosemama - 4th or 6th Jan
1973magpie - 6th Jan (will be DC3 - Gulp!)
Chefswife ? 6th Jan
MissHairspray - 8th Jan
witchandchips 9th Jan
laidback - 9th Jan (DC4)
Nellybell 10th Jan (will be DC2, DS born Sept 06)
scared1976 - 10th Jan
mermaid31 - 10th Jan
Shanster - 10th Jan
Mel2005 - 12th Jan (ds born sept 04, dd born jan 06)
LenniEd - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born Dec 2006)
NatalieJane - 12th Jan (will be DC3, DS1 born Mar 02, DS2 born Dec 06)
nooschmoo - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born sept 07)
OutofthisWorld - 12 Jan (1 boy, born April 2005)
elkiedee 13 Jan (DC2, DS due April and born May 2007)
icklepeanut 13 Jan (Son 16, daughter 12)
Stripeywoollenhat - 13 Jan
RambleOn - 13 Jan (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
llareggub 15 Jan (will be DC2. DS born Oct 06)
Aniyan - 15 Jan
Tokentotty - 16th Jan (DC2, DS born Aug 07)
Tryingnottoobsess - 16 Jan
buickmackane - 16 Jan (DC3, DS1 11/01, DS2 08/04)
TheTickListQueen - 16 Jan (DC2, DS born Jan 07)
tink-17th of jan (dc2, have dd1 3 aug 29th)
MissJackson - 17th Jan
FourLittleFeet - 18th Jan (DC2)
MrsT77 - 18th Jan
Happyathome - 18th Jan (DC2. DD born June 02)
Chocsolot - 19th Jan
MrsAay - 20th Jane
FioLondon - 20th Jan
Buckles- 21st Jan
LooseyC - 22nd Jan (DC2. DS born Dec 07)
Booksgalore - 25th (ish) Jan (DS born Mar 07)
Upwind - 25th Jan
Lizzih1974 - 26th Jan
Oops - 26th Jan (DS1 - 6, DS2 - stillborn 19 Dec 07)
FYM - 26th Jan (DC2, DS Dec 05)
NoNickname - 29th Jan
Tobemory - 29th Jan (first is 14 months, Charlie, sorry don't know shorthand yet!)
Largeginandtonic- dunno yet! (dc7 am not listing them all!)
ColumbosWife - 19th January (DC3)
iwouldgoouttonight - 17th (ish) January (DS born August 06)
Poorbuthappy - 14th Jan (1 dd born Sept 04)

Tis done!

LittleSquirt · 10/06/2008 11:21

Morning everyone!

I am liking the new thread. Will take some time to read through all the posts.

I have added myself to the list

MsSparkle - 31st Dec (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
scare85 - tbc
charmed24 - 2nd Jan
Teuch - 2nd Jan
kidsfromfame - 2nd Jan
okaythen - 2nd Jan
looweeza - 2nd Jan
Hopenotsickthistime - 3rd Jan
HeathersMummy - 4th Jan
moosemama - 4th or 6th Jan
1973magpie - 6th Jan (will be DC3 - Gulp!)
Chefswife ? 6th Jan
MissHairspray - 8th Jan
witchandchips 9th Jan
laidback - 9th Jan (DC4)
Nellybell 10th Jan (will be DC2, DS born Sept 06)
scared1976 - 10th Jan
mermaid31 - 10th Jan
Shanster - 10th Jan
Mel2005 - 12th Jan (ds born sept 04, dd born jan 06)
LenniEd - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born Dec 2006)
NatalieJane - 12th Jan (will be DC3, DS1 born Mar 02, DS2 born Dec 06)
nooschmoo - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born sept 07)
OutofthisWorld - 12 Jan (1 boy, born April 2005)
elkiedee 13 Jan (DC2, DS due April and born May 2007)
icklepeanut 13 Jan (Son 16, daughter 12)
Stripeywoollenhat - 13 Jan
RambleOn - 13 Jan (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
llareggub 15 Jan (will be DC2. DS born Oct 06)
Aniyan - 15 Jan
Tokentotty - 16th Jan (DC2, DS born Aug 07)
Tryingnottoobsess - 16 Jan
buickmackane - 16 Jan (DC3, DS1 11/01, DS2 08/04)
TheTickListQueen - 16 Jan (DC2, DS born Jan 07)
tink-17th of jan (dc2, have dd1 3 aug 29th)
MissJackson - 17th Jan
FourLittleFeet - 18th Jan (DC2)
MrsT77 - 18th Jan
Happyathome - 18th Jan (DC2. DD born June 02)
Littlesquirt - 18th Jan (#1)
Chocsolot - 19th Jan
MrsAay - 20th Jane
FioLondon - 20th Jan
Buckles- 21st Jan
LooseyC - 22nd Jan (DC2. DS born Dec 07)
Booksgalore - 25th (ish) Jan (DS born Mar 07)
Upwind - 25th Jan
Lizzih1974 - 26th Jan
Oops - 26th Jan (DS1 - 6, DS2 - stillborn 19 Dec 07)
FYM - 26th Jan (DC2, DS Dec 05)
NoNickname - 29th Jan
Tobemory - 29th Jan (first is 14 months, Charlie, sorry don't know shorthand yet!)
Largeginandtonic- dunno yet! (dc7 am not listing them all!)
ColumbosWife - 19th January (DC3)
iwouldgoouttonight - 17th (ish) January (DS born August 06)
Poorbuthappy - 14th Jan (1 dd born Sept 04)

Teuch · 10/06/2008 11:39

Hello people and welcome all the new additions since my last post, many moons ago!!

I am now almost 11 weeks and had an early scan just over a week ago which was all good. I have been feeling a bit better physically and now have my maternity notes after booking appt yesterday and booking scan later in the month

I haven't caught up properly but just wanted to say happyathome - I definitely think there is a degree of self-preservation involved when you have these feelings of ambivilence in the first trimester. I am happy but not excited all the time and have clear spells of guilt towards my pfb and ambivilence towards my pregnancy. I am sure it is entirely normal and linked to both hormones and your awareness of the enormity of having another little person, but please do speak to your caregiver, okay?

happyathome · 10/06/2008 11:51

thanks MrsAay and stripey for the support.
sorry i upset you MrsAay.Actually i just cried at your comment too.Yes,i am glad really ,snugs(the bean),is here,because,my DD was getting lonely too and constantly making a fuss of babies and wishing she could take her friends baby sibs home.She couldn't be happier about snugs.She will hardly go out in the garden,unless we are out or next door's kids.I keep imagining Jan to try and cheer myself up and the look on her face when she meets it.I'm hoping i will feel better by 12weeks and think i may get more bonded after i feel it move.We thought about it for about 3 years,the last year imparticularly,and although i had doubts,every time i was fertile,i didn't want to lose the chance of getting pg.Was dissapointed on previous BFN's,and then was extremely happy when i got my BFP(although did have immediate thoughts of...oh why did i do that,it's too late now,can't go back).I was completely elated for at least 3-4 days though and then it all crashed as the novelty wore off.
I feel more resentment,(and hence guilt at the moment),than love for snugs.
Although no MS,i've had a HUGE space-hopper style,painful belly,bloated and gassy and my BBS really get me down.
Had just so convinced myself,after evaluating my life,that it was absolutely the right next step,to have another.Family is everything to me.So why so many doubts now?.Think i saw PG/having a baby ,as rose-tinted view whilst TTC and now the reality doesn't seem that great.
Noticed me and you are 2 days apart.How's it going with your pregnancy?
sorry everyone,i'm such a whinge today

happyathome · 10/06/2008 12:05

thanks Teuch for the re-assurance.
Congrats on 11 weeks,and glad the scan went well.Hope the next one does too.
It's so comforting to swap stories,especially with 2nd timers like myself.
Yes 1st pregnancy,i was oblivious to the future and just thought...nothing to lose...ooh what an exciting(albeit worrying)
adventure.
Now in the middle of the night especially my head fills with...no more sleep,endless baby/toddler illnesses,no me time....i won't go on and depress the first timers(they wouldn't believe us anywaywould they?....enjoy the innocence 1st timers whilst it lasts...i don't mean to sound bitter...i do genuinely wish you all the best and say,no matter what horror stories you are dished out,know for sure that you will NEVER look back and will love your baby so much!!

elkiedee · 10/06/2008 13:05

Welcome all the new people, sorry you're feeling down HAH.

I've got a scan letter at home today (dp is off today as working Saturday) - date is 27 June.

primrose88 · 10/06/2008 13:07

happyathome

I no how you feel from a previous pregnancy when I was a lot younger which i terminated, because of the feelings you are sharing.

Let me tell you, you feel 100% worse when them feelings have gone. I suffered from depression regret, like you i thought this baby is in the way i dont want to be pregnant, and a regretable desssion led me down a depressive road. Those pregnancy blues felt like heaven compared to feelings i had after my baby was gone.

That experience taught me that a baby is a gift of life and should be cherrised . There are women out there that would risk there own life to create another and there are peolple (like myself) just throwing it away.

I am nearly 10weeks pregnant and feel like s**t (sorry). (It took me over a year to conceive, with varible tests and clomid) I am sick all day tired all the time and im sitting here in p,js now cause i cant get up but you know what? I wouldnt want it any other way, because its my baby .

Your feelings are normal but please remember it is a blessing I found that out the hard way. I wish you luck and were all here if you need to talk

if theres any anti-abortionaist on line please dont take it personal but keep your opinions to yourself. I have been hurt enough through my mistakes

And to my angel out there somewhere who would be 7 now, your always missed and NEVER FORGOTTEN MUM [SMILE]

primrose88 · 10/06/2008 13:09
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Chocsolot · 10/06/2008 13:20

hi everyone, hope you are all well.

Just had a weekend away with the parents and my brother, who's girlfriend is 18 weeks gone, so we decided to tell them all. Not sure I could have coped with the drama of her being pregnant and me having to keep quiet but it worked really well and it was really nice to tell someone at last (feel like I have been pregnant for ages!)

I think I must be looking more pregnant now though, I felt so sick this morning, and some woman gave up her seat and said to me the 1st trimester is always the worst! I would have been embarrassed at being sussed if I hadn't been so so grateful to her!

happyathome · 10/06/2008 13:34

thanks Elkidee.
Primrose88..just cried my eyes out reading your post.I'm so sorry you went through that.
Wish i could hug you.I'm so sorry too,that you feel crap,just now.Despite my feelings,i do know that snugs is a gift and in my better moments,feel grateful.In my darkest moments,thought about abortion,but it was more of a hormonal fantasy...know i could never do it for real.But that is because,i've already had a child and know how precious they are and also i am older and wiser i suppose.The fact you went for the 'A' option,does not make you evil,or anything like that,you were a lost,young,unsupported person and it is quite understandable you took the path that you did. I'm sure your'e angel will be looking down on you with love(as i believe God does) and will not feel any anger towards you.In fact,i bet your'e angel/God has planned this new baby for you now,because they feel you deserve it and feel you are now in a stronger position to be a mother.We all make mistakes,big or little and it's all part of our lessons on Earth.We grow through them.I'm sure you will be a brilliant mum,even more-so because of yours and your'e angel will be there to protect you and the baby.
All the best,and thankyou for the wake-up call.It did slap me in the face,but i needed it.I do suddenly feel more bonded with snugs,just through you sharing your experience...so thankyou.It was so brave of you to speak about it all.
keep us updated with how you are doing.I'd love to know.And thanks for the friendly ear.
happy and snugs x

happyathome · 10/06/2008 13:41

hi chocsolot!...glad you could spill the beans...know what you mean about it feeling forever already!
hope your'e sickness goes soon.

SugaryBits · 10/06/2008 14:36

Hi all,

Not too late to join you I hope. I'm due with DC3 at the end of Jan so about 7 weeks now. Finding it very hard to beleive I am actually pregnant as with the first two I had severe hyperemesis and I haven't so much as felt sick yet! (touches wood!)

MsSparkle - 31st Dec (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
scare85 - tbc
charmed24 - 2nd Jan
Teuch - 2nd Jan
kidsfromfame - 2nd Jan
okaythen - 2nd Jan
looweeza - 2nd Jan
Hopenotsickthistime - 3rd Jan
HeathersMummy - 4th Jan
moosemama - 4th or 6th Jan
1973magpie - 6th Jan (will be DC3 - Gulp!)
Chefswife ? 6th Jan
MissHairspray - 8th Jan
witchandchips 9th Jan
laidback - 9th Jan (DC4)
Nellybell 10th Jan (will be DC2, DS born Sept 06)
scared1976 - 10th Jan
mermaid31 - 10th Jan
Shanster - 10th Jan
Mel2005 - 12th Jan (ds born sept 04, dd born jan 06)
LenniEd - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born Dec 2006)
NatalieJane - 12th Jan (will be DC3, DS1 born Mar 02, DS2 born Dec 06)
nooschmoo - 12th Jan (will be DC2, DD born sept 07)
OutofthisWorld - 12 Jan (1 boy, born April 2005)
elkiedee 13 Jan (DC2, DS due April and born May 2007)
icklepeanut 13 Jan (Son 16, daughter 12)
Stripeywoollenhat - 13 Jan
RambleOn - 13 Jan (DC2, DD born Oct 06)
llareggub 15 Jan (will be DC2. DS born Oct 06)
Aniyan - 15 Jan
Tokentotty - 16th Jan (DC2, DS born Aug 07)
Tryingnottoobsess - 16 Jan
buickmackane - 16 Jan (DC3, DS1 11/01, DS2 08/04)
TheTickListQueen - 16 Jan (DC2, DS born Jan 07)
tink-17th of jan (dc2, have dd1 3 aug 29th)
MissJackson - 17th Jan
FourLittleFeet - 18th Jan (DC2)
MrsT77 - 18th Jan
Happyathome - 18th Jan (DC2. DD born June 02)
Littlesquirt - 18th Jan (#1)
Chocsolot - 19th Jan
MrsAay - 20th Jane
FioLondon - 20th Jan
Buckles- 21st Jan
LooseyC - 22nd Jan (DC2. DS born Dec 07)
Booksgalore - 25th (ish) Jan (DS born Mar 07)
Upwind - 25th Jan
Lizzih1974 - 26th Jan
Oops - 26th Jan (DS1 - 6, DS2 - stillborn 19 Dec 07)
FYM - 26th Jan (DC2, DS Dec 05)
SugaryBits- 27th Jan (DC3. DS1 oct 03 DS2 apr 06)
NoNickname - 29th Jan
Tobemory - 29th Jan (first is 14 months, Charlie, sorry don't know shorthand yet!)
Largeginandtonic- dunno yet! (dc7 am not listing them all!)
ColumbosWife - 19th January (DC3)
iwouldgoouttonight - 17th (ish) January (DS born August 06)
Poorbuthappy - 14th Jan (1 dd born Sept 04)

Chocsolot · 10/06/2008 14:37

Thank you happyathome

Just refreshed so just read your stuff too Primrose88, far too emotional to be reading this stuff at work, but welled up too.

My DH daid the other day that I was moaning for months that I moaned for months and cried when I couldn't fall pregnant and now that I am I still moan and cry!

The thing is we do all feel shit now and i will moan because i feel so ill, but I wouldn't change it for the world, I so can't wait to have this baby especially as when i have it i will only have sleep deprivation to deal with and not feelgin sick and poorly all the time and i won't have to work for a while so I can concerntrate on the baby and not trygin to do 101 things whilst feelgin so shit!

Aniyan · 10/06/2008 14:51

Hi all - been away over the weekend & yesterday, so am catching up on the thread.

No sickness so far for me either, but I am very flat and lacking in energy - and yesterday sobbed quietly all the way through a (admittedly very short) plane journey for no reason I can think of - I've never been at the mercy of my hormones like this before & I don't like it! DP thinks it's a sure sign we're having a girl because I was so different with ds - but as I was pregnant with ds 9 years ago, I'm not sure it's safe to make any comparisons.

Seeing the midwife for booking appointment tomorrow - hopefully I'll start feeling 'officially' pregnant then - ah, the happy months ahead of peeing in little plastic pots and being jabbed in the arm with blunt needles

TheTickListQueen · 10/06/2008 15:14

Morning,

I feel a bit indifferent to being pregnant after the joy of the BFP. To me its just a means to an end when you get your hands on a squawking, (hopefully) healthy baby. The time in between is just some looong worrying endurance test. (with a few good bits like scans, kicks, heartbeats etc).
Don't get me wrong, I love that I can do this but not sure I've seen many glowing Mums to be.

With DS there was the excitement that he was changing us from a couple to a family which I don't have with this one. The three of us make such a nice unit, I realised this morning how different it is going to be, harder in ways but hopefully more rewarding. I suspect that after this baby is born it will take no time at all to wonder what we did before there were two of them and may even consider another.

Lakelover · 10/06/2008 15:42

Hi all - am hoping this is going to be the right thread for me, am pretty sure i must be due in Jan. I have been a mnetter for a couple of years, but lurked rather than posted much when I had ds - who will be 2 in june. Also had NO sickness with him, but feel sick all day long this time round, coupled with a HUGE appetite. So nice to read these messages!

fymandbean · 10/06/2008 20:58

Evening all!

My jeans are now officially too tight (7+1)

Got my maternity jeans out of the loft and they are also too tight - so much for thinking I would lose all the baby weight

mel2005 · 11/06/2008 08:22

morning everyone
another lovely day!!
off to the dino park with my little monsters today for a play and picnic.
hope you are all well and you have a nice relaxing sunny day.

Upwind · 11/06/2008 08:41

Fymandbean I can't close the button on even my fat jeans. My DH is a bit about all the weight I have put on already when I am only 7+3.