Due June 08 - As we start nesting will the creme eggs start hatching?

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Another new thread! By the time this one runs out we might have some babies!!! Although, we do chat a lot so maybe not...

Oh UDC, poor you. Hope your bp stays down. I'm worries about DH's work too but desperately keeping my head in the sand as much as poss.

Laura - don't leave us!

ktpie - I was at hte hospital anyway and just asked at reception, and luckily there was a tour starting that I was allowed to join. They do them every week. Either ask your mw or phone the hospital.

Have everyone at home today. DS2's teacher is on strike, DS1 is unwell.

Love the new list... much easier to read.

upside - try not to worry - if the chairman is Australian, just ply him with beer and good chat, and he'll love you and your business plan! Also, mention that tomorrow is Anzac Day (kind of like the Australian version of Remeberance Day) and he'll be well impressed with your knowledge of all things Aussie.

Thanks Rolf and Nettie - particularly Anzac tip! They are very proud of being from Oz. I know it should all be fine, but I can't help letting my imagination run away from me. Someone hit me on the head so I can switch off and sleeeeep.

I was up from 2 - 4.30 last night - you must be exhausted after 2.5 hours sleep. I didn't have to race to school which was a treat but for some reason DH is finding the sight of me wandering around in my PJs offensive and will be grouchy until I get dressed. I think I'm ready for him to go back to work now

Thanks Rolf, seeing my midwife next week anyway so will ask her.

Hello all. Ernest - good luck!

LauraT - did you get my email with my address? Just checking in case it ended up in your spam box.

Aberdeenhiker - sniggering at the 'anal scientist' comment, I didn't know you were so specialised .

Am hating not getting proper sleep - could punch people (including DP) when they tell me I'm in training for when monster arrives. I'm sure I'll have to get used to it then, no need for it in advance!

BTW, M&S clearance started today, a few good babywear bargains, like their own grobag type things for a fiver. I picked up a couple of original grobags in TK Maxx the other week for £15 if anyone else is looking for them. I am also going bargain/freebie hunting at the Scottish Baby Show thing at the weekend - any of my fellow north of the borderers going?

Morning all.

Just thought I'd come and say hello to everyone whilst I'm sat here in peace and quiet.

Going to go now though as if I start talking, it will turn into a major rant and I've done that on other threads so will leave you guys in peace

Just wanted to have this thread back on 'my threads' list

Bye for now x

Upsidedown hope all goes well tonight if all else failes you could start rubbing your bump and ooing and aaaing a bit, fingers crossed the bp stays calm.

Rolf I would go back to bed till you are ready to get out of PJs see how offended your DH is then lol!

Ernest I hope all goes well for you and you can finally take a deep breath and chill for a while.

WARNING THIS WILL BE LONG AND BORING IF YOU WANT TO READ AND HAVE ADVICE PLEASE HELP....FELL FREE TO SKIP THOUGH.

With DS I really dont know where to start...1st off Debs,Ernest,Rolf do your sons do anything round the house I.E a small job? Well I have a small job for DS only when DH is away and that is feed the Dog in the morning as the smell still makes me gag...he has his breakfast then gets half ready for school and then takes the dog to play football in the garden(half ready so he doesnt end up coverd in mess),which he does when DH is home anyway (DH makes him go out in all weathers though I only do when its nice) Anyhoo im apparently asking too much of him and he wants me to do more for him so he can love me moreyesterday he didnt do the dog,why?"couldnt be bothered" Homework is a battle he goes mad if you give him a correction or try and help and ends up crying,this has always been the case though,not recent. Now he has stopped taking it home or telling lies not to do it. He also has some extra worksheets to do as he struggles with visial/memory work. I have removed his TV time this week for other reasons but give him the choice (as had no homework) if he did 2 of the worksheets he could watch a bit of football-have you done the sheets "no I couldnt be bothered" ok so no football up to bed, he disolved into tears "I hate myself" I try talking to him he says "I dont know" or "nothing" we take them out for the day and what ever we do its never quite enough for him....He still has a bit of a chip on his shoulder as Im now a SAHM with his sister and worked when he was little and will say she gets better treatment than him. I swear isnt the case though obviously a 2yos needs are more demanding than an 8yos. I take him to Golf on a Monday,Footy on a Wednesday and Swimming a Thursday which I think is good going. He forgets things all the time and never listens which drives me mental. Its the same old things everyday like take your school bag to school, wash your face as well as your teeth,flush the toilet,he can forget to get dressed half way through. So I know he thinks im always getting at him and yes I am but he used to be capable of doing these things when he was younger.....right I think thats enough for just now hope some of it makes sense its so hard to put down....is it a boy thing?age thing?do you think he is in need of some kind of help?

Sorry I can't help Josey. It sounds very stressful and difficult. I'm sure that Ernest, Rolf or Debs will be able to.

Hi Looney

Rolf, 2.5 hours isn't so bad. I am going to try and get some sleep today. It's more the fact that I feel useless and hysterical. I think you should go back to bed too - preferably with a large box of chocolates (to avoid pre-eclampsia!).

Whinegums, M&S clearance sounds good

DS and I were supposed to be meeting a friend tomorrow - and her daughter has just got chicken pox. I've had it already but am not sure that I want to subject DS to it right now. What do you all think?

If her spots are out she shouldnt pass it on so you should be ok.

josey no advice but sending . Sounds very frustrating.

Hi looney

Have discovered that I no longer have ankles - they are now officially cankles! Nothing I do makes them go down, and granted they aren't huge, but I used to have very delicate ankles... a minor thing in the scheme of things but

Josey, my ds is nearly seven and some of what you say is definitely true for him. He takes ages to get dressed, eat breakfast etc in the morning and I have to constantly nag him if we have any hope of getting to school on time. His 4 year old sister can achieve in 5 minutes the same as he manages in twenty. He is just incredibly easily distracted and can't multi-task. While she can carry on a conversation and get dressed he stops getting dressed to chat to her.

I now give them a time limit for breakfast/getting dressed and once that has passed they aren't allowed to talk until they are finished. It feels very draconian, but it is the only way that works for him - and yes, I also think this is a boy thing.

He is also very sensitive over homework. I try to praise as much as possible and minimise corrections etc by doing them together, ie. if spellings are wrong then I write them out with him and we discuss them.

I know this doesn't help with any of the more worrying aspects, like the not liking himself or refusing to help around the house but I hope one of the others will be able to help there.

Josey, my dd is similar to your son in some ways. This morning I told her to take her pj's upstairs after she had put her socks on, I had to remind her two seconds later as she had forgotten! She can take ages to get dressed and needs prompting. I told her that she needed to tidy her room after school today and she burst into tears as she hates tidying (to be fair I feel like dong that when I have to tidy!). Both my girls are more highly strung than usual and I'm sure it's worry due to the baby arriving soon and the fact that I'm so exhausted at the moment really doesn't help.

wow josey reading about your son sounds so much like my nephew it's uncanny. he's also 8 and my niece is 2, and she's also got an 8 month old. she thinks that the eldest has only child sydrome because he was so the centre of attention and spoiled for so long and then the girl came along and he just can't deal with it. but identical problems - really slow and easily distracted getting dressed brushing teeth, etc. has to be told 100x's to do anything. i honestly thought she was too hard on him until i stayed there in january and he was so frustrating! he also has a very big chip on his shoulder. they've always been really close and i think she feels very sad that he seems to have so much anger lately. his schoolwork is really suffering too. if you don't mind i might tell her to read this part of the thread so she doesn't feel so alone with it!

just back from the midwife, measuring perfect, blood pressure good, bloods all fine, have double appt booked in 2 weeks for birth plan discussion and then they come the following week to do home visit and drop off kit. so all set for home birth! she also said that his head was very low - not in pelvis but RIGHT THERE! i have a feeling this is going to be an impatient one. he beats me so much now i can't imagine how much it's going to hurt as he gets bigger!!

upsidedowncake have you tried anything herbal like rescue remedy? flower remedies are really good for stress and can help you relax, and they're safe during pregnancy. our hypnobirthing teacher recommended them during labour too!

dylansmum feel free....can I ask does he do things to upset his sister and then try and get her in trouble?

Im starting too feel a bit better already knowing that its not just him IYKWIM thanks guys....I have the added problem that I had My DS before I met my DH he goes to see his dad once a month(this weekend actually) and no matter what this git does its the best thing in the world..generally shove him infront of tv or xbox(which im always banning)He sees my DH as his dad though as has grown up with him as a father figure and there is no difference in the way dd and him are treated....I think I need a magic wand for a solution I have wondered about 1st child syndrom or if he has an addictive personallity things like the tv and playstation thrill him. As they are my wepon he doesnt get them very often....one day I said It was the only thing that made him smile so go and play all day he didnt come up for air and was delighted with himself he snapped at me for telling him to come for lunch...

I ended up most of last night with an upset stomach and pains so feel so washed out and unable to face anything at the moment.....maybe later things will look brighter!!!

whinegums I did get your email, am going to try and get a decent sized jiffy bag this afternoon (if I can sneak away early) and will pop it in the post, possibly with a creme egg inside!

I'm planning on going to the Baby show on Saturday too, dragging bf along as DH is conveniently on call!

TK Maxx is great for bargains, I got a Tommy Tippee breast pump there for half price (the tesco near me didn't have the special offer that everyone else seems to have had) They also had some decent changing bags but they were odd colours!

Hi everyone, sorry haven't read this mornings posts yet but wondered if anyone has experienced any wierd symptoms with their eyesight?

Was working away today, and my eyesight went really funny - I could see, but my field of vision much reduced. Had wierd flashing lights to one side. IT kept up for about a 1/2 hour and has now gone away but I've got a headache and feel very light headed. Have left message for midwife.

Anyone had/heard of anything like this?

Hi Josey, it sounds really tough, and you must be worried with the baby coming too. My ds, though much younger (not yet 2), has started playing up much more than usual in the past week, so much so that the nursery have mentioned it - they normally describe him as an angel! So you are not along. I think the attention thing is partly a boy thing - my dp can't get dressed and hold a conversation at the same time, he always stops to talk which drives me mad!!

My only idea is if your ds loves the tv and playstation so much, is there any way you could start using them more as a reward than a weapon? Looking for behaviour that is at least going in the right direction - even if it's stuff you would 'expect' like feeding or playing with the dog - and rewarding anything that even approaches good with tv or playstation time, rather than taking it away for bad things? Might change the dynamics a bit? Sounds like it has all become really stressful for both of you at the moment, so any change might help.

Hi to everyone else, hope all's well. I'm fine, though really tired; baby seems to have dropped a lot the past couple of days, people have started treating me like an unexploded bomb! Seeing mw tomorrow and will get more info on position then...

Hi Rolf - I should have logged on last night and we could have had a chat. Wasn't heartburn that kept me awake though, it was my awful next door neighbour....we have regularly been woken up over the last few weeks by him and either the police coming round or him and someone else shouting awful abuse at one another. Last night it was the latter, discovered via the abuse that they will be going to court over something or other last night. But the language and the venom and hatred is so horrible.

Because our mortgage application took so long to come through, don't think we'll be able to move to new place until after the birth. But I really want to move away from him before this little one comes into the world. We could do it in theory, but it would cost us an extra £1,200!!! And we're going to be losing out money wise with me on mat leave anyway....really don't know what to do for the best. It'd only be another 4 weeks next to him, but still...

On a happier note (ish), went to a NCT welcome meeting last night....some lovely couples, just not at our table or in our area! We had the wierdest people at ours... take numbers and emails? DH and I nearly ran away. Will still try the post natal classes and mother and baby groups post baby though, those at our table live too far away to attend, thankfully.

Upsidedown - Sorry you're worrying! Go on about how great Oz is instead and maybe DH will get a transfer instead Also as suggested, emphasis the bump...

Whinegums - Thanks for the M&S tip, is that in store or online? PP stops being such a lazy cow and checks online herself.... Here's the link.

Nettie - We googled cankles at work and it means straight up and down. Mine are straight up and down (ie: no bone) with additional bulges!

Dramaqueen - I haven't had that, but hope someone else can help. Sounds like you shouldn't be working anyway.

Sorry for the huge post everyone...btw am liking the 'anal' list too!

josey my nephew is also totally obsessed with tv/video games and taking them away is how sis punishes him too. so maybe it's something in their personalities that makes them behave that way. his main toy is even related, yugioh cards or something like that. it seems like it's all he cares about sometimes. getting him to play outside some days is like pulling teeth. he definitely tries to aggravate his sister and get her in trouble. it's almost like they're hitting the teenage years really, really early!

Thanks PP - am just having some lunch (to see if eating helps) and waiting for mw to call back. IF she doesn't call back soon I think I'll def head home.

Dramaqueen could be a migraine. I had similar when on combined pill and once during the last pregnancy too. I used to get blind areas in my vision then, after that went away, not a proper bad headache but spacey, oversensitive and headachey. If it is migraine it's not serious - so try not to worry - but it's good you have been in touch with mw as they will probably want to check BP etc too.

Josey - just catching up, sorry to read about your DS. Am sure one of the others can help but you could also start a topic in parenting. I'm sure there are plenty of people on MN who could give some advice on your situation and share some tips.

Dramaqueen I did hear of someone with the sight thing that you have experienced but can't remember the outcome, rest if you can and let us know what the mw says.

Josey - you have my sympathies. Stefan was 8 in March, he's a bit of a Jekyll and Hyde character - very, very good or very, very bad!! So at times, he sounds very similar to your ds and other times he's extra helpful, and organises himself and Tristan in the mornings. Today is a bad day and here they get LOADS of homework so whilst I type it's a constant battle to get him to sit down and concentrate. He also gets tearful with his homework. FWIW I think you're doing the right thing with your son Josey and it must be hard always being bad cop when he goes to his real Dad and he can just let him do what he wants.Sounds like he gets lots of your time and attention with golf, football and swimming.
Do you think some of it is a reaction to the baby, with there being a gap between him and your dd, do you think he might be feeling a little that when baby comes he'll get even less of you?
Also, last thing, as a teacher I would suggest that you talk to his teacher, to see how he is at school, of there are any problems and tell her/him how he is behaving at home. Sometimes that home insight isn't forthcoming especially if a parent is having some problems and they may be able to help. Anything's worth a try.
You can e-mail me if you want
debs at austrianfamilyholidays dot co dot uk

Thanks systemaddict - I hadn't considered that possibility. I dont really suffer from migraines but it is a possibility. Headache is a bit spacey. Hoping mw calls back soon - I know she's doing a clinic this afternoon but if I dont hear back from her soon I might just go to the surgery and see if I can see her so she can check my BP.