Due April 2008 - for our third and final trimester, give us our extra 200 kcals!

[EllieG]

Here we are!

I'm getting quite impatient now too . . . pity i have 10 weeks left!!

The head of DD's room at nursery went on maternity leave today - and she's an April lady too! It's coming around sooner than you think (well for Peachy and sheds, etc, anyway!)

'Tis true. Not that long now ladies...though I feel like I've still got loads to do to get the house ready. I can feel some nagging coming on this weekend - poor DP! We need to do lots of clearing of cupboards and paint our room.

If I was to agree to my csection I'd have baby in just under 8 weeks!

now that is scary VS!!

Millie has taken to scraping my insides regularly now, instaed of kicks iswim? think she is getting less room in there....though i am hoping she has turned and is still not breech.

what way up were your babies at last check?

My LO is doing the same scorpio, seems to squeeze past me as it moves round.
Last time I sw the docs (monday) baby was head down, but free so could easily change.

yeah Mills was free too so thats ok..that was my 28 weeks check. im next being seen at 31+ to check BP, it always seems to be a tad high....i am hoping she has turned by then, i do not want a breech baby at 36 weeks or something.

I still feel sad today, really down. i can't shake it. i'm worried im getting depression again....think i had it last time when i was pg, i had such bad PND last time after for about 2 years. I just don't know how to shake it....

Lady VS - you seem to have gone up in the world !

Sorry to hear you are miserable Scorpio - is it just post-wedding blues, or is there more to it? How can we help?

Mine too, he keeps doing strange scraping thingsunder my ribs.....

Sagitta, your quite right only 8 wks till I should get to meet my little man. in turn on ly 4 weeks left at work, thank god

Oh Scorpio I also suffered from PND last time but hide it i felt like I was under a cloud for about 2 years My sister also suffered with her last but spoke out even though my dad was very much of the attitude shake it off there is nothing wrong with you by the end he even came to understand that there was a problem! It was a really worry for me and even nearly stopped me having another child but I came to relise with help from seeing my sister that its an illness and you can get help! I really do think that it could be as Sagitta said a bit of post wedding blues and also the worry with your DS but if you feel its more as only you would know pop to the doctors and they will help x

Oh yes Lady VS - have you got some news for us?

Scorpio - is there anything that you could do which might lift your spirit a bit? Last weekend I was feeling a bit low and went to meet a friend in the park. It was a really cold day but lovely and sunny and the toddlers were having a great time playing on the swings and things. Then we had a coffee and a cake in the park cafe and by the time I got home, I felt like a weight had been lifted. I think I was just needing some air!!

its just lots of different things - individually ok but not as a whole iyswim? DH is trying vry hard but he works hard and cant be here 24/7. he also needs his own time to himself becuase if we were both shite then thats no good to anyone!! I have been like this for a week or so now, and i keep crying which is not good. I'm tired, and sick of doing the same thing all the time. Jamie has been home from nursery dor 2 weeks because he has threadworms. he goes back next monday, hopefully. because the cheque bounced nursery have said he cant come back until its been paid - because of the bank charges i have had to find nearly £100 extra from household money. i am stressed about Reilly - his behaviour, his assessment and lately it feels like i dont even like him he is so hard to get along with at present. I have other bills that need paying. i need to ask dh for his ebay money and he will hate that. I have only been married for 11 days and DH shouted at me yesterday. I need some help, i want to ask my mum but she wont. or the ywill chuck money at me like they normally do when all i want is their time and help. im tired, i have 3 assignments due in in 6 days and have done nothing, i am going to have to hand them in late. I dont even really have a friend to spend time with in RL. My MIL is too far away to help. I am worried i am putting too much on DH to help me through this shitty time. We havent been very cuddly the last day or so because we have a new laptop and DH spends most of the evening on it and i feel ignored. i know thats pathetic but i do.

I'm so sorry im doing all this here and that i keep going on about it. i just feel very lately. i dont want to be ill again i really dont.

Oooh, poor scorpio. I am so sorry - everything seems to have built up at once. But there is so much you are going through, anyone would be miserable - so it might not be depression IFSWIM. Hopefully it'll be easier when Reilly is back at school next week, you'll have more time to yourself. It's good of you to give DH so much space, but it sounds as if you should tell him what that is costing you emotionally - whether DP or DH, his job is to help when its tough.
And do remember than being pg makes you cry ...
Call the bank and take a bit out on them, and will uni be a bit understanding?
I got paid recently for a job. If you need to borrow some cash to get you through, please just ask. Sometimes its easier from someone you don't knbow than from family, IFSWIM. Fewer strings attached...x

Scorpio . None of what ytou are feeling is anything unusual fotr the host of situations you have going on, you know. Be kind to yourself and just keep life as basic as possible for a bit. If it gets too much chat to your MW- antenatal depression is common, and pretty much everyone I know in the SN crowd had a bout of some type of depression around referral time or diagnosis time. And do feel free to post on the Sn threads if you feel you need support about all that- its a very welcoming group. (well as longa s you dont come on and post 'asd kids shouldnt be allowed at birthday parties' like someone did - then we get a bit peeed LOL!)

Lots of big to you.

Bassy baby is head down nd ahs been for a bit, yesterday was 2 months until d-day and I even packed my labopur bag- its all getting close!

Oh scorpio, you sound like you're feeling really down and overwhelmed you poor thing. I have had 'depressive episodes' several times over the last few years and I know that feeling well - I am on a low dose of anti-depressants at moment as couldn't come off them entirely as would have turned into a complete loon what with all the hormones. Remember you are choc-ful of weird chemicals and natural anxieties so some mood dips are only to be expected.
Some things that I find useful are explaining exactly how and why I am feeling to DP so he doesn't just think I am being grumpy but sees how worried and sad I am and then he can help, not snap. He's not a mind reader so I have to make the effort to tell him exactly how am feeling and then it gives him the chance to respond helpfully, and he does.

Other things - break all these tasks down into managable bits. You are not super-woman and cannot do everything at once, especially not the way you are feeling now. You're only human, and a tired and pregnant one at that, so try to concentrate on the things you HAVE achieved rather than looking at the stuff you can't manage. No one will die or be seriously hurt if you leave a few bits undone.

I would contact your tutor now to explain how you are feeling and get an extention - mine were always fine when I told them what was going on.

Money is tight obviously - ask DH for his ebay money - it's not like you are asking for it to spend on make-up it's for his child's nursery place. Explain all these worries to him and perhaps he can take over some of organisation of finances for a bit? It sounds like you need a break.

Take a bit of time for you - even if it's only for a half an hour. When I am feeling crappy I ask DP to take the strain for a bit and I go upstairs, put on my music/meditate/have a bath. Even when I can only take 15 mins is still lovely.

Leave the housework for a bit - if you have a choice between 'you' time or housework, take the chance to rest.

We're all here for you hon xxxx

Uni will understand, they have been very supportive.

I will challenge the bak on Saturday. i looked at my statement and they have charged me 3x£38.

thankyou very very much, but we do have enough money, just using our last bits we had earmarked for more fun things, we did wnat to go away for a weekend before Millie is born but i doubt we will. We aren't struggling on our basics and still have enough spare to go out, etc, but just seems to have all come at once. I forgot to pay our water bill since October. They didn't even ring me or contact me by letter until last week....i didnt even write the bill in my diary, it completley passed my mind iykwim? they rang me and treated me like a person who was trying to get away with it, even when i explained i wasnt had just forgot - i have had a very busy time of it!! i have to ring them back with instalment offer, but thats ok. i may get DH to do that.

He is being great but i dont want him worn out too iyswim? He already does tons and is brilliant. i do want a big cuddle though

virtual cuddles coming over...

Maybe just tell him that you want a big cuddle? Mine was playing on his platystation last night and I really wanted a hug so I just asked him to stop and he didn't mind! It's not like it's a chore for him to give you a bit of attention, is nice for both of you.

I had thought, Ellie, that i will get DH to share sorting out the finances from now on, at least until mills is born, then i will remember everything hopefully.

Thankyou all for being so kind

i have explained to DH and he is being understanding, i have explained it feels like i have too much on at the moment and i all i want is a rest or less on me. Pity he cant do my assignments isnt it!! He is going away for the weekend to see his son 2 weeks saturday so i am hoping to be better by then. I am going to tell Reilly's dad he can have him for the whole weekend whilst kev is away. why not, eh? My friend has already offered to take my kids out for a day in the half term so i can have a peaceful day.

I am going to do slow cooker dinner today so i dont have much to do. i feel so bad for Millie when i am like this.

That's good scorpio - you have a lovely day to yourself coming up. Just make sure you don't spend it doing jobs - take some rest time. And stop beating yourself up - Milli is fine - it takes a lot more than a few tears to worry them. She's nice and comfy inside her Mummy not being bothered about a thing.

xxx

I'm going to ask DH if he can not go training tonight and if we can have a bath together later and a cuddle. I'm sure he will love to, he is noticed missing cuddles too.

Im going to start my assingments next week, and do one at a time. i will get an extra 6 weeks to hand them in, so am planing on one a fortnight - not taxing at all. they are on management, child psychology and a research proposal. All 3000 words.

Thanks all, you are having some good ideas to help me.

Scorpio, you sound better already. Ellie's plan for taking a little chunk at a time was a good one.
What's for lunch?

seems a bit better when its written down and put in smaller bits. will talk to DH again later and get him sharing the load with the money people.

Lunch - i dont know. have however put slow cooker dinner on - sausages, tin of mixed curried beans, two tins of tomatoes, onion, garlic. yum. will have with baked pot and green beans. And ice-cream

Scorpio - it really feels like you're doing the right thing. You're not ignoring how you feel but taking positive steps to make yourself feel better. I agree with the others about your feeling low - it sounds more likely that it's natural because of your circumstances rather than baby related.

I have killed the thread today