Fed-Up February Fatties Facing the Final Furlong

[Gill79]

Hi everyone

There's still some space in the old thread - Waddling Zombies and Dancing Babies so no need to start posting yet. Just thought I would get it set up before I go home tonight ready for all you insommiacs!

Am posting on here now so I can easily find it again when I need to when the other one gets too full for us!

Great title Gill

Me too!

All the best this week mini!

Going for midwife appointment tomorrow where, if little crumb measures big for a third time I will be sent for a scan...kinda hoping I will be for the attention and to see him again - is that bad?

Welcome to new people!!

Dead jealous of you Londoners meeting up (although def NOT jealous of living in London!). Anyone wanna do a Midlands meet up??

i just changed hospital at 35 weeks and the midwives are all gonna hate me. The hospital is dirty and they ran out of batteries for the fetal heart monitor when i went. Just got paranoid tho cos my original hospital is too far away and my dh works long long hours, but i have read the SAS survival handbook for delivering babies on your own so i am ready

hello
poblet, i sympathise with the lack of nesting ability at the mo as am in same boat, still living with my dad.
cosima go with your instincts.
tyaca on a scale of 1-10 re newborn, it's massively dependent on what type you get. main difficulties i found were breastfeeding and sleep deprivation (which is used to torture people in some countries). also doesn't help when the baby turns out to be lactose and gluten intolerant i can just about smile now, but am preparing for the worst again just in case.
no idea how you twin ladies can cope, there doesn't feel like any room for me left and i only have 1 and only 33 weeks.
woke up last night and night before with excruciating pain in lower right abdomen. felt as bad as worst contractions when was in labour last time and lasted about 5 minutes. had to do the labour breathing thing just to cope. dh woke in panic as i almost drew blood on his leg where i was gripping it. has anyone else had this. i have no idea what was happening. luckily am going for check up tomorrow so will ask.
wish wish wish i was back home
still...at least should be able to go meet up

Mini - that's very exciting!! Good luck for your appointment on Wednesday!

Ok have added a new picture of my bump to my profile. It is huge and will be my last picture of my bump if i get my way and get these pair out on wednesday,just thought i'd let you ladies have one wee last look

Love the new title.
Gosh mini - your poor body! Have been attempting to illustrate your predicament to dh and we are both in awe of you! Hope they take care of you and get those babies out asap.
I had great news today, saw a lovely registrar and am now booked in for cs on 4th Feb and have signed all consent forms so if anything happens any earlier they'll be able to whip me in straight away for section. I'll be 38 +3 days which is still 5 days later than ds1 arrived so will be keeping my fingers crossed that this one's a bit more relaxed.
Went on our hospital tour on Saturday which was great. Hospital is much smaller than Brighton where I had ds so it seems a bit more homely and relaxed and the theatre wasn't too scarey so am feeling much less anxious about everything now although 4 weeks still seems a long way off...
V jealous that I won't be able to come along to the London meet-up, hope you have a great tme.
Welcome to the new members and love to everyone - we all seem to be getting restless and there are lots of worn out bodis out there! Am so inspred by you cleaning bunnies! Gonna try and get on top of things this week so can rest and enjoy a week or so of laying on sofa watching films before the BIG DAY!
ps - continuing saga wth mother, no word from her so am going to send her a card to let her know when her new grandchld is coming!

Oh My God Mini!! Am definately going to stop complaining about the size of my bump which feels HUGE!! I have so much admiration for all you twin carriers out there

MATERNITY LEAVE HAS OFFICALLY STARTED!! WOO HOO!! Felt relly great watching the neighbours kids traipsing down the road to school in the sleet knowing that that is me finished - no more teaching. Well at leaset for the next year!

Had a growth scan on Thursday which went well although they won't tell me roughly how big the LO is as it is apparently far too inaccurate! So am resorting to buying a variety of sizes of babygrows just in case Was lovely to see the LO again though - even though it was a bit hard to see as everything looks so big compared to the 20 week scan!

The last of the nursery furniture finally arrived today and is now up thanks to DH Only have to put up the border and it's finished - Yippee!!

First ante-natal class on Wednesday.

Hope everyone is enjoying the final furlong!

Wow mini I am SOOO impressed - and like Amy78 going to stop whinging about feeling enormous!

Today was given a baby monitor and bouncy chair by a friend of mine whose babies have grown up, and also some more clothes by another - they have all been so kind in lending me stuff which is fantastic. Still deliberating on the changer issue, but mum coming over this week so hope she can make up my mind for me!!

Great thread title by the way

Oh mini what a fab bump! Well done you for cooking that.

Hello and welcome new ladies.

Great title, really sums up how I feel, I would have added the final f*ing furlong though, as it really getting unpleasant now. My right leg keeps giving way in a rather embarrasing fashion, got Diazapam now to try to stop the muscles going into spasms. Bloody SPD. Seem to spend more of the night in the bathroom than in bed! and feel like a hippo trying to heave myself off the sofa or out of bed.

Had more bloods done today as ferritin was 7 last time. B12 dropping like a stone, but doctors a bit crap about topping it up (long story).

aaawwww DP just came to ask did I want any ice! Now have 6 ice trays in action. Settled for a hot chocolate, tiramisu and a pint of icecubes. Yummy!

Tyaca, new babies are hard work, but it really does get better. Honestly. The first 3 months or so are the hardest, and thats more due to interrupted sleep. Forget cleaning, put an note on the door saying you are asleep, get as much rest as you can. Don't feel guilty about accepting help, true friends will love to do the washing up or sitting with the baby while you have a bath. Swaddling was great.

If you are planning to breastfeed, it seems to be something people find either really easy or terribly difficult. I fell into the latter and struggled and then beat myself up for weeks when I finally gave up. I completely lost sight of the fact that I was unwell feeding and the baby was happier on formula. So it it works for you, thats fabulous, but don't waste time and emotion feeling guilty if you can't. Sorry it just I worry that everyone will feel as guilty as I did.

One thing for 1st timers that no-one told me is that it (the baby) feels like its coming out of the wrong hole, IYSWIM! Sorry if thats TMI, but I was horrified, until the midwife assured me it was normal!

Princessllama, I know where you are coming from, DD was diagnosed as milk/soya allergic after 6 horrendous weeks. I remember thinking I know babies cry but surely not THIS much. She was also allergic to me! This one is going straight onto hypo formula. Good luck, I hope you get a normal one!

Sorry its sooo long, I haven't had anyone to talk to today!

Evening ladies.... love the new thread title!!! Mini i am in awe..... and will stop complaining now!
Too tired for a long post.. sorry! but just wanted to say to Tyaca that i found a newborn loads easier than late pregnancy. Yes, you're tired but at least you get good quality sleep in between feeds, etc... not this knackered napping stuff! and it's lovely to cuddle your baby and know it's all been worth it! Prepare to meet the great love of your life! and to echo bluedomino i couldn't b/feed at all.... still waiting on a drop of milk coming in 18 months later!!!! and the trick is to make decisions for yourself and not to feel guilty whatever you do!
Am also a bit of all those with cleaning and nesting instincts.... i just can't be bothered! Oh well, never mind! It's not looking that bad! Anyway, away to bed for a kip... here's hoping! night all. lolo xx

Great thread title, thanks Gill.

Mini - I love your bump. Keep meaning to take a picture of my bump...

Princessllama - sorry to hear you can't nest either. It's getting me down quite a lot. 1st day of mat leave today, and my house was taken over by 2 builders upstairs and a carpenter downstairs. Will be the same for at least another week. Was hoping to sleep at lunchtime and generally slob about for at least some of the day (DS at nursery) but it wasn't meant to be . Oh well, people put up with a lot worse. At least I have a roof over my head.

Tyaca, for me having a newborn was pretty awful, but purely because of the sleep deprivation. From about 7 weeks, when DS started to sleep more & we made a few changes (DH & DS moved into DS' room so I could get some sleep), things quickly improved. If you do find things difficult, please bear in mind it's only temporary. Keep eating, drinking & sleeping and allow yourself the time to get used to your new family life. I had some great Health Visitors last time - they visited me at home once a week for a few weeks after I was discharged by the midwife, which really made all the difference. All I mean to say is... everything will probably be fine for you, but even if things are a bit tricky at first, they do get better, and if you want it, there is help available. Early days with a baby can be the most wonderful days of your life...

Jo - a midlands meet up, now I could go for that! I'll be quiet one in black with pigtails sitting in the corner!!!

Mini - wow! what a fantastic bump! Good luck with the consultant.

mana - Congrats on your news! 4th of feb is my stepdads birthday, an auspicious(sp?) day I think because he is one of the kindest men on the planet, he's polite and he runs his own business!! (and he had the wisdom to marry my beautiful mom!)

Blu - Good sources of vitamin B12 are meat, marmite, dairy products or free-range eggs. ½ pint of milk (full fat or semi skimmed) contains 1.2 µg. A slice of vegetarian cheddar cheese (40g) contains 0.5 µg. A boiled egg contains 0.7 µg. Fermentation in the manufacture of yoghurt destroys much of the B12 present. Boiling milk can also destroy much of the B12. HTH

As you may be able to guess from the time stamp, I'm having a little bit of trouble sleeping tonight. Raging indigestion plus a sweaty snoring DP left me lying in my bed fuming at the world so I decided I should get up for a bit and came on here before trying to see what late night TV is on. I would really like to do some more cleaning but I don't want to wake the oldest man as he has got to het up for work in a couple of hours so I am resisting the temptation.

Mini- WOW. I definitely feel like a whinger, complaining about my bump!

mana-I'm (most probably) getting induced on the 4th too. Whether or not DS feels like coming out on the 4th is another issue.

Tyaca - I'm going to echo what everyone else has been saying about sleep deprivation being the worst thing about newborns. It's not even sleep deprivation, because you might find that the total hours of sleep you get are normal...it is the BROKEN sleep which is exhausting. I thought that I'd be fine, as being a junior doctor is supposed to train you to deal with constant sleep deprivation...I was wrong. At least in a job, you get days off. The really tough thing for me was the incessant fatigue with no days off.

My worry is that I do remember the demands of a newborn, and now I have to deal with a newborn PLUS a 4 year old who has school and his own activities, which I have to take care of. Oh wait, make it two other little boys I have to take care of (DH counts as another DS as he is incapable of even making himself a cup of tea!). Where am I going to find ME time?!?!?

couldn't sleep either, so have been up hand washing woollen baby clothes and shawls that I was given yesterday. Also got one of those magic bags you put oven cleaner in and the racks come out good as new - am hoping! So have covered the Oven in goo as it is disgusting and I HATE cleaning it - only once in the eighteen months we have lived here. Am not looking forward to getting all the muck off it in a couple of hours though!

Am up for a Midlands meet up if it is not too far away (am Glos)!

Thank you for the all the reassurance to the new mums to be - always good getting honest advice. I went to see my little godson yesterday who is 4 months old - he is soooo gorgeous, and makes me v excited to hold him!

still awake but now I can't do anything, I don't have the energy to lift my arms let alone a cloth and the indigestion still hasn't let up. I've got my fingers crossed for a sleep this morning now that the oldest man has gone to work and I can have the bed to myself, I am just itching to do some house rearranging. Wish me luck!

mymissus - yep the oven is one of the things I wanted to tackle today. GL with yours!

PK - Thankyou! You know its bad when your midwife says 'It's too late for your stomach but....'

Tyaca - I found the sleep deprivation the worst thing with a newborn, it can be exhausting but there are ways of coping with it and it gets easier! I found breastfeeding very hard work at first as my milk took a few days to come in. When it did I seemed very prone to mastitis and also developed an allergy to my hormones which almost made me stop. Luckily my midwife was the best and thanks to her we persevered through the difficult bits, I only stopped when I got pregnant again! I really loved breastfeeding despite all the problems so I would say give it a go and ask for help whenever you're struggling!
Swaddling worked wonders on DD. I'm also giving a bedside cot a go this time so I don't have to get up and down to a s*dding moses basket in the night. I'll be keeping the changing unit next to it.

Mini - good luck with the appointment, you must be so pleased that end is in sight!

Amy78 - hurray for maternity leave, I was so glad to finish when I had DD that I didn't know what to do first! Aberdeen is a lovely place to live, lived there for 6 years and still miss it

Running out of time to reply to everyone, just noticed the chimney sweep is due in 10 mins and I haven't bothered clearing the toys from the front of the fire!!! Fed up of bending to be honest

Hi everyone love the new title!

Firstly can i say well done to MINI for keeping hold of them two for this long! Bloody hell woman i don't know how you've done it, i hope you get took in on wed because i think you're ready for the babies now. Let us know how you get on and good luck if they start you off. It's getting very exciting, how are your other children managing. xxx

Bluedomino i was exactly the same as you with breastfeeding and felt really guilty about giving up, i am going to try again but i won't let myself get upset like i did last time if it doesnt work out. It really is a very personal thing and all you first timers out there, decide for yourself what you think is best for you and baby and dont let well intended people try to interfere. And blue is right....you do push out with your bum....

Hi to MrsDandOllie welcome, i can completely understand why you might go for cs, your poor son, what a horrible thing for a newborn baby to go through and you must have been distraught

Tyaca when our son was born is was a shock to the system, not only the lack of sleep but it's such a huge change to your day to day life. You'll wonder what you did with all your spare time and money.

PK i went to parentcraft classes too, they were allright but it was a bit drawn out and Dp said he felt like a "gimp" when it was time for the audience participation. What he means was having to introduce himself. And by the way if you have a spare few hours do you fancy coming up to manchester for a spot of cleaning.lol.

Egg i'm glad your tummy bug seems better now, did you think it might have been the start of labour though? i must admit that now i'm 37 weeks i dont care when James arrives and every twinge gets me thinking "is this it" i have nothing to go off because my waters just went at 35 weeks with Ds and i didnt have many contractions, just watch this one go right over...and by the way good for you for making the most of yesterday and not doing much, you don't need me to tell you that there won't be many more days like that once the twins arrive

Princess i have had similar pains and so that is why i now take a hot water bottle to bed with me now, along with extra pillows, gaviscon, water you know all the usuall crap. they'll be no room for dp soon...thats an idea

I have to get off now and think about eating another mini roll.

Take care ladies.

The new title is perfect!

Mini - you are amazing, wish I could show your photo to all the numpties that keep telling me I'm huge and is it twins! Good luck with the consultant tomorrow.

Sorry to those who didn't but I slept much better last night and feel like I might even manage some cleaning this afternoon... the bathroom is beginning to upset me and don't get me started on the stupid beige carpet! stupid, no children at the time, idea that was!

Got hospital tour on Sat which could be a real eye opener. No choice about where we give birth really so its a bit daunting... I hope its ok. Not many people have nice things to say about it, but is that just true of a lot NHS hospitals??? Sorry if anyone works for the NHS, so far all the staff I've met have been fine.

Hope Tues is kind to us all!

Wow mini, that really is the mother of all bumps! Glad you will see your babies soon, very exciting!!

I found having a newborn v hard last time but then again, ds was my first so it was probably the adjustment as much as anything. Now I know that my time is not my own anymore, my expectations are probably a bit different!! I have actually been fretting about the adjustment from one to two but will just do what I need to do to get by for a few weeks or months and not give myself a hard time. You heard it here first!!

Just wanted to echo what a lot of people have said. I really found breastfeeding hard at first and shed many many tears because of pain and DS going from 7lbs 8 to 6lbs 7 in the first 10 days as he wasn't getting enough to eat. It all thankfully worked out and I managed for four months in total but it was HARD. Will see how it goes with the twins! Am really determined that i know what to do this time, but who knows...

Fortunately I now know the lovely Marslady from the multiples threads who is a world class expert on bf, and bf twins (she is a doula and has twins herself) so at least have someone to turn to, plus my OWN lovely doula too (suddenly feel spoiled, am sure I wont when I have THREE children).

Stomach much better today. No upset tummy although not very hungry. Have lost 4lbs since Saturday so am now back at 1 stone heavier than I started. Managed some porridge this morning with full fat milk, could only finish half but better than nothing.

Will NOT be cleaning my oven today.

Tis PEEING down here. Thankfully DS seems happy this morning stuck in the house.

Oh and finally...

MINI I salute you. Wishing you so much luck with the birth of your little ones, hopefully in next couple of days. Fingers crossed they give you the go ahead this afternoon and get your induction booked in. Can't wait for some more babies!

Oh and Sarahmikeandharry? Any news? That popping sounds like something was going to happen? Will we have a single baby out before all the twins come?

Beansprout i agree, i seem more anxious this time round, as our sons are the same age i'm sure you'll agree they can be just as demanding now as they were as babies
I have let Ds pick out a blue teddy to give to James and i've wrapped up a couple of cars (more cars!!) to give Ds off his baby brother. Every day he says 'is james ready to play yet" but i keep telling him that he'll be too small to play yet, but i don't think he believes me
I let him help me put the stand up for the moses basket yesterday..its a shame it took us about 1 hr..lol

Yuck yuck and yuck again...that was a vile mess, and it doesn't even look very sparkly..never mind the oven is staying the way it is now for the forseeable future as I ain't doing that again..!!

No sign of Egg today - hope she is ok?

Sorry pressed refresh and there was your message Egg - glad you are feeling better today.

And Crossed fingers for mini..

good morning! i am getting into the hang of this not working thing. if i can just kick into gear before midday... i blame fern and phil.

amy -- congrats on starting mat leave. its raining and grey here in london and soo nice to know i dont have to brave outside (well, i do have to pop out, but can at least leave it til it dries)

princess - the pain sounds horrible and would scare me witless, hope you find a way to deal with it.

ditto blue - tho' i cant lie i'm a bit jealous of the valium . last night, trying to get to sleep, i was fantasing about a lovely big drinking session

leesmum - your DH would get on with my DH. so far i havent done any parenting classes, but am trying to persuade DH to do a yogabirth day with me. my mistake was showing him the website. full of groups of couples cuddling etc....hehehe... his stipulations were that he need not talk to anyone else in the class and that he would never ever meet any of 'em ever again.

maybe its cause my due date isnt til end of feb, but i feel like the pg has finally hit me. we spent the whole weekend decorating and that did it. by end of play sunday was really hurting, we went for a walk to try to stretch out my soreness. no chance - first time i've felt more penguin than person. been shattered, aching and not able to sleep anymore. really grumpy. cant believe anyone can work right up to due date.

ty to all for NB advice. still cant get my head round BF'ing at all TBH. (feel like a criminal for writing that). BUT one of today's tasks is to book a place at a BF class at my hospital.

so much to do today. a quagmire of personal admin and tax nonesense and the ongoing battle against the chaos in our flat. if i can just tear myself away from telly and net....