Due May 2008 - Second trimester, here we come!

[blobsmummy]

Hope you found it ok!

Hello!

Yea! It worked!

hey blobsmummy - i'm going with the urine infection. pre-eclampsia signs don't usually show (except for high bp) before week 20 as the placenta isn't mature by then - so i was told last time and also this time.

also apparently if it was an early wee of the day or if you had done it and it was anything more than 45 mins old the protein can increase rapidly - so they told me last time i was at the hospital!!!

sweetbean - let it all out - sounds like you have lots going on to be thoroughly p'd off about apart from having hormones going mad in pg!

all ok here not much to report, hope everyone else all ok

hayley how're you feeling now?

Hello! Finally had my scan today. Baby looks good and the nuchal risk wasn't too bad given that I'm an old bat. They've moved me forward a couple of days so here's our updated list...

Bobsmum - EDD 25th April, DS 5years, DD 2years
Macaco - EDD, 26 April first baby
Potpourri - EDD 29 April, DD1 2yrs 8mths & DD2 15 months
Jacobandlysette - EDD 29 April, DS 13.5 months
Mumofk - EDD 29 April, DD 22 months
Greenapple - EDD 1st May, first baby
ShellySara - EDD 1st May, first baby
Seaturtle - EDD 1st May, first baby
Missvicki - EDD 1st May, first baby
Goodcatholicgirl - EDD 2nd May, DD 15 months
Jennyjane - EDD 2nd May, DD 3 years
podglet - EDD 2nd May, DS 10 months
Yellowflower- EDD 3rd May, First Baby
Blobsmummy EDD 4th May, DD 15 months
LondonIrish - EDD 4th May, first baby
Asicsgirl ? EDD 5 May, DS 2 years 4 months.
Mumtomadison - EDD 5th May, DD 9 months
Mrsstresshead - EDD 5th May, DD 2 years 1 month
Coolmama - EDD 5th May, DS 2yrs 9mths
hotpotmama - EDD 7th May, DS1 4yrs, DS2 3yrs
Walkingwomb - EDD May 7th, first baby
deepblue - EDD 7 May, first baby
Jackblackroady - EDD May 8th, DS 12 years
cece - EDD 9 May, DD 6 years, DS 4 years
Indiechick - EDD 9 May, DD 3 years
IndigoBlue - EDD 9th May, DD 1 year
Wolverina - EDD 10 May, DS 5 years
Mitchell81 - C/S 12th May, DD 7 years and DS 16 months
Chuffed - EDD May 11? x 3, DD 3.5 years, DS 21 months
Hayleyandbaby - EDD 11th May first baby
itsazoohere - EDD 12th May, DD1 12yrs, DD2, 7 yrs, DD3, 8 months
Bramblina - EDD 12th May, 1 DS 2yrs
Mollymawk - EDD 13th May, DS 2 and 4 years
Bobsi - EDD 14th May, dd 2
Kanga44 - EDD 14th May, DD 2.4 years
GwenofLeeds - EDD 16th May DD 16months born May 06
Magicfairy - EDD 17th May? DS 13 months
PinkGlitterFairy - EDD 18th May, DS1 4.5yrs DS2 2yrs
Coby- EDD 18th May, DD1 18 months and DD2 3.5yrs
toffeecrisp - EDD 19th May? DD 1.6 years
sydmum - EDD 22nd May DS 16 months
Pazza- EDD 22nd May, First babies (Twins)
Sweetbean - EDD 24th May DD 2.9 years
Aussiesim - EDD 25th May DS1 4.5 DS2 2
tootsweet - EDD 26th May
teeheelaydee - EDD 26th May first baby
TheDuchessOfNorksBride - EDD 26th May, DD1 6yrs, DS1 4yrs, DD2 3yrs
sparky77 - EDD 28th May, DS1 2
pregnabrain - EDD 28th May, DD 2.5
Gingerwench- EDD 29 May, First baby
Helen 3472 - EDD 30th May, first baby
Secreteater - EDD End of May

Hi

Haven't been on for a few days, computer has been playing up, finally got it to work! Things have been busy and builders started doing work on our house yesterday so it's going to be a bit hectic but worth it once it's done and will hopefully get rid of our slug problem when the house is done properly.

Have started feeling the baby move, wasn't sure the last few days but definitely felt it today. Managed to get a second hand moses basket off someone for free which i'm pleased about. Hope everyone else is ok.

I have a genuine question: Is there a protocol for being an 'accepted' member of the Antenatal Club, besides your due date? Should you ideally have to live in the UK or be from the UK or have lived in the UK previously? Is it preferred that it is your first baby? Does one have to comment on the last five or six posts before one can contribute what is going on with them in order to expect a response? Sometimes I feel like I am speaking a different language to everyone else - or maybe it is just the timezone I am posting in ...

Hello Aussie! Everyone is welcome. I don't always comment on previous posters and I don't always get comments on my posts. Being a regular elsewhere on MN I don't feel neglected though! It's probably true that the more you post and the more you ask about other people, the more response you will get.

I see you're due the day before me - have you had a scan & met a midwife? Tell me about antenatal care in Aus (you must be sick of hearing what happens in the UK)!

Damn your eyes, i came here to post on a nice clean thread, only to find I am WAY too slow

AussieSim - there are no rules. I am very lazy and hardly ever post on this but enjoy reading other people's posts.

IndigoBlue - we are (hopefully) moving into a new house in january and it needs craploads of work done to it. i am starting to panic that we wont' get it done before the wee one arrives adn I will give birth as the builders step over me, pausing only to wipe the dust from my fanjo.

On a more regular note - I think my tummy is starting to get hard, which is nice. Had midwife's appointment yesterday and heard the heard the heartbeat so all is fine. Otherwise I have a stinking cold and am eating lots.

WW xx

AussieSim - Hope you aren't feeling left out, don't think those things are true. When people ask questions about stuff they probably get more responses than when talking about how things are going generally but doesn't mean we don't read those posts or aren't interested.

Walkingwomb - I know what you mean about wanting the work done, we are still waiting to find out if we need planning permission for part of it which will really drag out the work if we do.

Hayley&baby - re the piles I would definitely go to the gp if they are bothering you & bleeding etc as they might be able to help and if you leave it they may get worse the more pregnant you get as the baby starts putting more pressure on that area. It's common to get them in pregnancy so don't suffer without getting it checked out.

Aussie you are definitely welcome. I think posts get lost in the pages as there always seems to be a flurry of them at once. I asked a question a while ago and no-one replied but I think it was down to my post being drowned out by lots of others. I found the answer elsewhere on MN in the end

btw, this is mt first post on here for ages 'hallo everyone!'

All well this end as far as I can tell. Still getting some MS but no way near as bad as earlier. Sitting here getting little kicks already at 14+2 lucky me

hello all,

Not a regular poster. Am so paranoid this time round, worried it would jinx me!!

Aussie welcome. I hardly ever comment on other posts, but I do enjoy the community feeling and always find answers in here in the end.
I know that if I need support I will find it.

Suffering from SPD (again!) with increasing pain in sacro iliac joints this time. Will have to see osteopath soon....

I'm going to go and read the end of the previous post to get a proper update on everybody.

My EED is 16th May, here's the amended list:

Bobsmum - EDD 25th April, DS 5years, DD 2years
Macaco - EDD, 26 April first baby
Potpourri - EDD 29 April, DD1 2yrs 8mths & DD2 15 months
Jacobandlysette - EDD 29 April, DS 13.5 months
Mumofk - EDD 29 April, DD 22 months
Greenapple - EDD 1st May, first baby
ShellySara - EDD 1st May, first baby
Seaturtle - EDD 1st May, first baby
Missvicki - EDD 1st May, first baby
Goodcatholicgirl - EDD 2nd May, DD 15 months
Jennyjane - EDD 2nd May, DD 3 years
podglet - EDD 2nd May, DS 10 months
Yellowflower- EDD 3rd May, First Baby
Blobsmummy EDD 4th May, DD 15 months
LondonIrish - EDD 4th May, first baby
Asicsgirl ? EDD 5 May, DS 2 years 4 months.
Mumtomadison - EDD 5th May, DD 9 months
Mrsstresshead - EDD 5th May, DD 2 years 1 month
Coolmama - EDD 5th May, DS 2yrs 9mths
hotpotmama - EDD 7th May, DS1 4yrs, DS2 3yrs
Walkingwomb - EDD May 7th, first baby
deepblue - EDD 7 May, first baby
Jackblackroady - EDD May 8th, DS 12 years
cece - EDD 9 May, DD 6 years, DS 4 years
Indiechick - EDD 9 May, DD 3 years
IndigoBlue - EDD 9th May, DD 1 year
Wolverina - EDD 10 May, DS 5 years
Mitchell81 - C/S 12th May, DD 7 years and DS 16 months
Chuffed - EDD May 11? x 3, DD 3.5 years, DS 21 months
Hayleyandbaby - EDD 11th May first baby
itsazoohere - EDD 12th May, DD1 12yrs, DD2, 7 yrs, DD3, 8 months
Bramblina - EDD 12th May, 1 DS 2yrs
Mollymawk - EDD 13th May, DS 2 and 4 years
Bobsi - EDD 14th May, dd 2
Kanga44 - EDD 14th May, DD 2.4 years
GwenofLeeds - EDD 16th May DD 16months born May 06
Slim22 - EDD 16th May - DS 3.8 years
Magicfairy - EDD 17th May? DS 13 months
PinkGlitterFairy - EDD 18th May, DS1 4.5yrs DS2 2yrs
Coby- EDD 18th May, DD1 18 months and DD2 3.5yrs
toffeecrisp - EDD 19th May? DD 1.6 years
sydmum - EDD 22nd May DS 16 months
Pazza- EDD 22nd May, First babies (Twins)
Sweetbean - EDD 24th May DD 2.9 years
Aussiesim - EDD 25th May DS1 4.5 DS2 2
tootsweet - EDD 26th May
teeheelaydee - EDD 26th May first baby
TheDuchessOfNorksBride - EDD 26th May, DD1 6yrs, DS1 4yrs, DD2 3yrs
sparky77 - EDD 28th May, DS1 2
pregnabrain - EDD 28th May, DD 2.5
Gingerwench- EDD 29 May, First baby
Helen 3472 - EDD 30th May, first baby
Secreteater - EDD End of May

Thanks for your supportive posts. Sorry about being a bit 'me me me' and I know that threatened miscarriage and SPD are far bigger worries than mine. It is just that I am feeling a bit vulnerable 3rd time round being older. I only have a couple of weeks to decide whether I want to go ahead with the Amnio (my DH would rather I did but would not try force me), my hair is falling out in clumps and I've put on 4kg am only 13 weeks along I am also a bit worried about how DC3 will cope with having to be dragged around after DS1&2's commitments and all anyone around me seems to be worried about is whether it will be a girl or not and what names we are thinking of. In this case I am truly only concerned that it is healthy and that I will cope with 3.

Oh Aussie!
There are no small worries!!! The prospect of an amnio would send any of us spinning. Sorry you feel let down!!
How old arre you? Why the amnio? Can't you have the CVS sampling at this stage?
Did you have a scarry reading with the nuchal?
Don't you start spoiling your joy with the weight now
Don't want to scare you but you're going to be so knackered running after 3 kids when this one is born taht it will fall off in no time.
Of course you will cope. the first 2 will help

Aussiesim, often posts are not answered, I think everyone just manages to read them and then posts. RE: Amnio - when do you have to decide? Would you do something if there was a problem?

I had a perfectly average pregnancy, told my baby was healthy and perfect turns out that wasn't the case when I had my daughter in 2000. She had dislocated hips, knees, various problems with joints, cleft palate and other thinsgs. Now looking back would I have terminated maybe, but now looking at my beautiful little girl who yes still has most of those problems. I wouldn't change her for the world. I know other people are different, but I thought my baby would be heathly no reason to think otherwise.
I am going through this pregnancy knowing that there is a 1 in 4 chance of it happening again, but praying it doesn't. Coping with 2 children in a wheelchair is impossible.

Glad everyones scans are going well.

Sorry for the long post

Aussie, my friend is in her 30's and is due her 4th child in April - her other 3 kids are a 1 year old, a 3 year old and a 4 year old - I'm sure you'll cope fine!

Having said that, I'm panicking with having 2 under 2!

My dates have been moved a week, so I've amended the list again:

Bobsmum - EDD 25th April, DS 5years, DD 2years
Macaco - EDD, 26 April first baby
Potpourri - EDD 29 April, DD1 2yrs 8mths & DD2 15 months
Jacobandlysette - EDD 29 April, DS 13.5 months
Mumofk - EDD 29 April, DD 22 months
Greenapple - EDD 1st May, first baby
ShellySara - EDD 1st May, first baby
Seaturtle - EDD 1st May, first baby
Missvicki - EDD 1st May, first baby
Goodcatholicgirl - EDD 2nd May, DD 15 months
Jennyjane - EDD 2nd May, DD 3 years
podglet - EDD 2nd May, DS 10 months
Yellowflower- EDD 3rd May, First Baby
LondonIrish - EDD 4th May, first baby
Asicsgirl ? EDD 5 May, DS 2 years 4 months.
Mumtomadison - EDD 5th May, DD 9 months
Mrsstresshead - EDD 5th May, DD 2 years 1 month
Coolmama - EDD 5th May, DS 2yrs 9mths
hotpotmama - EDD 7th May, DS1 4yrs, DS2 3yrs
Walkingwomb - EDD May 7th, first baby
deepblue - EDD 7 May, first baby
Jackblackroady - EDD May 8th, DS 12 years
cece - EDD 9 May, DD 6 years, DS 4 years
Indiechick - EDD 9 May, DD 3 years
IndigoBlue - EDD 9th May, DD 1 year
Wolverina - EDD 10 May, DS 5 years
Mitchell81 - C/S 12th May, DD 7 years and DS 16 months
Blobsmummy - EDD 11th May, DD 18 months
Chuffed - EDD May 11? x 3, DD 3.5 years, DS 21 months
Hayleyandbaby - EDD 11th May first baby
itsazoohere - EDD 12th May, DD1 12yrs, DD2, 7 yrs, DD3, 8 months
Bramblina - EDD 12th May, 1 DS 2yrs
Mollymawk - EDD 13th May, DS 2 and 4 years
Bobsi - EDD 14th May, dd 2
Kanga44 - EDD 14th May, DD 2.4 years
GwenofLeeds - EDD 16th May DD 16months born May 06
Slim22 - EDD 16th May - DS 3.8 years
Magicfairy - EDD 17th May? DS 13 months
PinkGlitterFairy - EDD 18th May, DS1 4.5yrs DS2 2yrs
Coby- EDD 18th May, DD1 18 months and DD2 3.5yrs
toffeecrisp - EDD 19th May? DD 1.6 years
sydmum - EDD 22nd May DS 16 months
Pazza- EDD 22nd May, First babies (Twins)
Sweetbean - EDD 24th May DD 2.9 years
Aussiesim - EDD 25th May DS1 4.5 DS2 2
tootsweet - EDD 26th May
teeheelaydee - EDD 26th May first baby
TheDuchessOfNorksBride - EDD 26th May, DD1 6yrs, DS1 4yrs, DD2 3yrs
sparky77 - EDD 28th May, DS1 2
pregnabrain - EDD 28th May, DD 2.5
Gingerwench- EDD 29 May, First baby
Helen 3472 - EDD 30th May, first baby
Secreteater - EDD End of May

Morning all. Thought I would join you if that's ok because I promised Slim22 I would! (waves to slim). My EDD is 1st May and I haven't dared join you all before because of a miscarriage this summer at 9 weeks. Already have ds1 (3.2) and ds2 (18mths) so like lots of you will have my hands full next year! Here's the updated list (hope it works)

Bobsmum - EDD 25th April, DS 5years, DD 2years
Macaco - EDD, 26 April first baby
Potpourri - EDD 29 April, DD1 2yrs 8mths & DD2 15 months
Jacobandlysette - EDD 29 April, DS 13.5 months
Mumofk - EDD 29 April, DD 22 months
Greenapple - EDD 1st May, first baby
ShellySara - EDD 1st May, first baby
Seaturtle - EDD 1st May, first baby
Missvicki - EDD 1st May, first baby
Snooks - EDD 1st May, DS1 3.2, DS2 18 months
Goodcatholicgirl - EDD 2nd May, DD 15 months
Jennyjane - EDD 2nd May, DD 3 years
podglet - EDD 2nd May, DS 10 months
Yellowflower- EDD 3rd May, First Baby
LondonIrish - EDD 4th May, first baby
Asicsgirl ? EDD 5 May, DS 2 years 4 months.
Mumtomadison - EDD 5th May, DD 9 months
Mrsstresshead - EDD 5th May, DD 2 years 1 month
Coolmama - EDD 5th May, DS 2yrs 9mths
hotpotmama - EDD 7th May, DS1 4yrs, DS2 3yrs
Walkingwomb - EDD May 7th, first baby
deepblue - EDD 7 May, first baby
Jackblackroady - EDD May 8th, DS 12 years
cece - EDD 9 May, DD 6 years, DS 4 years
Indiechick - EDD 9 May, DD 3 years
IndigoBlue - EDD 9th May, DD 1 year
Wolverina - EDD 10 May, DS 5 years
Mitchell81 - C/S 12th May, DD 7 years and DS 16 months
Blobsmummy - EDD 11th May, DD 18 months
Chuffed - EDD May 11? x 3, DD 3.5 years, DS 21 months
Hayleyandbaby - EDD 11th May first baby
itsazoohere - EDD 12th May, DD1 12yrs, DD2, 7 yrs, DD3, 8 months
Bramblina - EDD 12th May, 1 DS 2yrs
Mollymawk - EDD 13th May, DS 2 and 4 years
Bobsi - EDD 14th May, dd 2
Kanga44 - EDD 14th May, DD 2.4 years
GwenofLeeds - EDD 16th May DD 16months born May 06
Slim22 - EDD 16th May - DS 3.8 years
Magicfairy - EDD 17th May? DS 13 months
PinkGlitterFairy - EDD 18th May, DS1 4.5yrs DS2 2yrs
Coby- EDD 18th May, DD1 18 months and DD2 3.5yrs
toffeecrisp - EDD 19th May? DD 1.6 years
sydmum - EDD 22nd May DS 16 months
Pazza- EDD 22nd May, First babies (Twins)
Sweetbean - EDD 24th May DD 2.9 years
Aussiesim - EDD 25th May DS1 4.5 DS2 2
tootsweet - EDD 26th May
teeheelaydee - EDD 26th May first baby
TheDuchessOfNorksBride - EDD 26th May, DD1 6yrs, DS1 4yrs, DD2 3yrs
sparky77 - EDD 28th May, DS1 2
pregnabrain - EDD 28th May, DD 2.5
Gingerwench- EDD 29 May, First baby
Helen 3472 - EDD 30th May, first baby
Secreteater - EDD End of May

hi snooks

Hi Slim22 and Mitchell81. To answer a few questions: I will be 39 when I have DC3. I need to decide about the amnio within the next 2 weeks. It would be super hard, but having consideration for my DH's feelings on the matter as well as the impact on DS1 and 2 I would terminate if I had a child with a syndrome (not for cleft palate and things of that nature). My NTS was 1:1897 which is not low risk and I was discouraged from a CVS as chance of miscarriage are higher for that procedure than for the Amnio.

I probably wouldn't be in this quandry if I hadn't read a thread on here about a mum with a NTS result of 1:5000+ who went on to have a DS Baby (and I told my DH about it).

All this worry is probably why my hair is falling out (Hi MrsStresshead - I kinda feel better that I am not alone)

I have always managed DS1 and 2 to a fairly rigid schedule and the result is two very secure and easy going kids who give me no trouble, but I know that I will not be able to do the same thing with the third as I will be running DS1 to school, sport etc and DS2 to pre-school etc and DC3 will just have to fit in around them ...

Don't get me wrong though, this baby was very much planned and I am thrilled to be pregnant. I know I will manage whatever happens but .... only human and all that.

Hi Aussie,

I'm in a similar situation to you in that when No3 is born I will have DD1 who will have just turned 4 and DD2 who will have just turned 2.

They already have their set things that they do routinely and I did give some thought / panic to how I might find time for the baby too. I have decided that newborns like nothing better than the hustle and bustle of a busy house - especialy if there are older ones to watch and try to copy. This one will have to be thrown in the car in the middle of a nap etc becuase it is time to do the preschool pick up or school run but I think it probably won't mind that much. The one thing I'm not sure about is how to handle swimming with 3, I keep telling DD2 she'll have to learn doggy paddle by May

PS - you are allowed to be all 'me me me' right now as you can blame it all on the hormones and get away with it

I will be 2 wks off my 39th birthday when DC4 is born. My nuchal was 1 in 350 which I'm actually quite happy with. DC3 was 1 in 80 and she's just fine (and I was only 35 then). I didn't have further tests done for her and I'm not this time either. Downs or spina bifida etc would be challenging with 3 other DCs but we'd manage.

Subsequent babies do fit into existing routines - because they have to. The first couple of months can be gruelling, they want feeding or changing just as you're leaving for school or they cry through an entire swimming lesson. I try hard to allow extra time for these emergencies and not try to fit too much in to a single day. DD1s class mums are fantastic and they'll be doing my school run for me for the first couple of weeks. I'm also hoping that this baby arrives during half-term! And I'm buying extra uniform so there is always something clean for school! And it all passes soon enough. (How I wish DC4 could arrive as a 2yo, I'll take toddlers over babies any day!).

Hi Everyone.

Aussie- Personally, I totally refused the blood tests for downs. If I had had them I wouldn't have an amnio. I would never terminate. I love my baby whether it's perfect in every way or has a disability. Only time will tell. But I'm only 22. I understand why people have them, particularly when they have other children to care for. I don't think it's a good idea. 1 in 100 people miscarry due to amniocentesis and I would never want to be one of those people. There's always errors that could result in the termination of a healthy baby. It adds stress to a pregnancy. I think the best thing is to chill, enjoy your baby and your pregnancy, and not test it for problems there may never be. It's too uncertain. But that's just me. I don't judge anyone who does do it.
Also, I'm sorry you've felt a little left out. I suspect it's partly because people tend not to want to comment on amnio as it's such a difficult decision for a mummy to make. I was a little shy on this thread at first but now I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT

Jacobandlysette- I'm fine thanks!! My bump has gone mental in the past week or so. It's really hard and really big and I look very pregnant! My headaches have gone but I still have my embarressing problems (piles and bloating ). I will visit the doctor Indigoblue, thanks. No matter how embarressed I get

Welcome to the new people. Especially Snooks- i think we've nattered on another thread at some point.

Duchess- so glad your scan went well. We can't stop looking at our scan pics

Hope everyone's well

Hi Aussie,

I have spoken to you about this before but I am not having the amnio, even though my screening results were 1 in 50. (Well I am 99.9% sure I am not having it done.) I am 16 weeks this week so will need to decide if I do pretty soon. I will be 41 by the time this one arrives and TBH I am feeling pretty ancient. All my friends are past the child bearing stage so hoping to meet some new people once the LO arrives. DD and DS will both be in school next Sept...

Off to MW appointment now though