Due December 07 - The end is in sight, or is it just the beginning!

[Wizzska]

Hello everyone. Will you come and join me?

Wizzska

LOL at your comments about your DH being your birth partner in this state!
My DH also gutted with the result - well not so much the result but the manner in which the result was given.

Congrats beachbunni!!

My friends children were both 6 weeks early but they soon caught up.Her second was due the day after dd1 and when she called to say she had been born I was shocked but she was only in hospital a day as she was 5lb and she had already had an early baby so had experience. Hope you little one will be home soonx

I am not geting much sleep too but my main complaint is heartburn. Baby is stuck up in ribs and when I eat it feels like the food is in my chest for hours. dh finding my massive tena ladies v funny but hopefully if waters break I will spare the new mattress!!

Getting v tired and breathless now and cant believe that I am 38 weeks today,With all the worry about house I have not been thinking about it too much.

Last night I had v odd dream where I gave birth to a 10lb 2 oz boy whilst asleep and my late mother woke me to tell me I had given birth and when I looked down I had a tiny baby penis down below and my mum said oh thats what happens when you have a boy and I said oh no and she was all matter of fact about it!
Then I felt a baby move inside me and I said im still pregnant and that cant be my baby but everyone insisted it was!!Then I rang everyone to tell them I have had baby and nobody wanted to know!!

told dh and he said im mental!!

LONG AND DISTRESSED MSG ALERT)

I'm not really sure why I'm posting this, but I don't really have anywhere else to go at the moment. We had our 36 wk appt on Friday at the birth centre where we were hoping to have our baby. All was going well until mw started to have a feel of my tummy - she said it felt like there was too much fluid and not enough baby, so we went across the corridor to AN clinic for another scan. Sonographer didn't seem too worried, but noted head circumference small, abdo circ bang on, femur length also short. So we were booked in, 'just to be on the safe side' to see the consultant on Wednesday, five long days away.
My parents had arranged to come over and stay Friday night, and they were v good at providing reassurance, but dh and i didn't really get a chance to think about things until this afternoon after they'd left. We looked at the charts again, and realised that the head circumference is actually very low, off the shaded area and therefore we think less than 3rd centile. Which is possible very, very bad news. So now it's nearly four o'clock in the morning, and I've been trying to reassure myself that our baby isn't going to have congenital brain damage, but reassurance is pretty thin on the ground. I just don't know what to do. I know I should wait for the consultant to explain things, and that I'm no medic so can't really make a judgement about whether this really is a problem, but at the moment it just feels as though the bottom has fallen out of our world. We are both utterly grief-stricken and very, very scared, and I'm wishing I'd never got pregnant.

Sorry if this brings you all down. Just needed somebody to talk to. Hope everyone else is okay.

Hi Dundee, so sorry to hear your news, no wonder you are worried, it's perfectly understandable. I know it's easy to say but try not to spiral off too far in the what if's until you know more.
I know that's esp. hard in the middle of the night when everything always seems bigger and harder to cope with.
When will you know more?
Try to stay as positive as you can and keep talking with your dh.
We're all here for you, I'm glad I woke up this early now and was able to respond.
I know there's nothing I can really say to make it any better but just know my thoughts and support are with you.
Sending big hugs to you both xxxxxxxx

Hello Dundee and many many {{hugs}} from down under. I know EXACTLY how you feel. If its any reassurance I was completely convinced my LO had Down's Syndrome and various defects a few weeks ago and now know that she doesn't have D/S and in all likelihood is perfectly fine. In my case I'd been convinced of the D/S and defects by the consultant - but when I saw the sonographer who got a better look she was very reassuring and they are very experienced even if not medically trained.
FWIW I tried not to even think about the result from the amnio after I had it done until the MW rang me with the good news. It kind of worked for me.
The more you look at stuff on the internet the more you scare yourself I've found.
I'd watch something mindless on TV to get you through the night then ring whoever you can (MW, hotline etc) as soon as you reasonably can in the morning.
I always took a huge amount of reassurance from my instinct which told me that LO might be showing a few odd things on the scans but she FELT like she was doing everything normal - kicking, giving me heartburn, sending my hormones wonky, having hiccups etc etc.
My LO's head circ is big compared to other measurements (like 90th centile) but I was told not to read much into that.
Really hoping you can get some reassurance before Wed.

JARM 26/11/07 2DD's - Expecting a BOY!!!
Nbg 28/11/07 1 DD and 1DS - Expecting a BOY
BunnyBaby 28/11/07 - Expecting a baby
Littleoldme 28/11/07 - Expecting a boy
Beanstermum 30/11/07 1 DD - No idea - except a very wriggley one!
Cazzybabs 30/11/07 2dds - Expecting a baby, but wouldn't mind a horse or a puppy! Suspect a girl.
Claraq 01/12/07 1DD - Expecting a BABY (I hope)!!
CHOCOLATEPEANUT 01/12/07 1DD Expecting a BOY
Mrswizz 02/12/07 - No1 - expecting a BOY
SarahPT 02/12/07 - First baby (eek!) - don't know if it's a boy or girl.
Mad4girls 04/12/07 2DD's - Expecting a BOY!!!
Ambi 04/12/07 - No1 - Expecting a GIRL!!
thelady 04/12/0 - no kids - Expecting a BABY!
Kitsilano 06/12/07 - Expecting a baby
Shells 06/12/07 - 2DSs, expecting a baby
Mellymooks - 07/12/07 - no idea!
FirstyMe 08/12/07 - Expecting a baby
Mememummy - 10/12/07 - Expecting a girl
Lizzer 10/12/07 - 1dd - Expecting a BOY!!!
Suey2 10/12/07 don't know but suspect boy
Claireybee 10/12/07 - 1dd- expecting a baby!
skidaddle 11/12/07 - 1dd - Expecting a BOY!!
Caz10 12/12/07 - no kids - expecting a baby!!
bambino1andbump 15/12/07 - 1dd - Expecting a baby!
Fifisworld 17/12/07 - 1 ds - Expecting a BOY!!!
Lucy 17/12/07 - 1 DD - Expecting a Baby!
Insywinsy 18/12/07 - 1 DS - Expecting a Baby!
Dundeemarmalade 18/12/07 - Expecting a baby!
Poppy10 20/12/07 - Expecting a baby!
peanutbutter 21/12/07 - 1ds - Expecting a BOY
PuppyDogsTails 21/12/07 - expecting a girl
Buzzybee 22/12/07 - 1 dd - expecting a GIRL!
Bouncingturtle - 23/12/07 - Expecting a baby! (now thinkig boy?)
Curlygirly 24/12/07 - 2ds's - Expecting a Baby!
Peckarolloveragain 26/12/2007 (GIRL!)
Macdoodle 26/12/07 - 1DD (5) definitely a girl
Becklespeckle 27/12/07 - 2 DSs - Possibly a Girl!
Tabimum 27/12/07 - 1DD - expecting a GIRL
Housemum 29/12/07 - 2DDs - (probably) a GIRL!
Amani 30/12/2007 - 1 DD - Expecting a baby!
Ozzymoomoo - 30th Dec 1DS (3 half yrs)
Awen 31/12/2007 - 1DS - expecting another boy
Mixedmama 31/12/07 - 1DS - EXPECTING A BOY
imawurzel 31/12/07 - 1st timer- NOT SURE YET.

Babies

3littlebears - BOY 5 Oct (due 27 Dec)
Beachbunni - BOY end Oct (due early Dec)
Kerioke - Logan Vann 5 Nov, 5lb, 7oz (due 14 Dec)

Hi Dundee, hope you are getting some sleep. Thinking of you and hope you find ways of getting through the next few days. Awful to have to wait so long, as I'm sure the 'not knowing' will be worse than the 'knowing' - whatever the outcome. Hang in there.

Beachbunni , you and you DH must be so worried, I know it's hard not to, but please don't think worse case scenario. Sonographer and MW don't seem to be too worried. Wish you could get to see consultant earlier, must be horrible not knowing. Fingers & toes crossed that when you do see him, it won't be too serious. Just keep in touch here and we'll be here for you.

Bolloxks sorry that message was meant for Dundeemarmalade - stupid me!

Beachbunni, congrats on your ds, hope you get to take him home very soon.

Am loving the new comfy cushions in this new room, can't get off em so easily though, thank god sven the masseur is sat in the corner waiting to look after us.

Caught up now, congrats beachbunni, was thinking about you recently and not heard from you. Glad he?s being looked after and hope you get him home asap. Wow, we?re starting to pop now.

Dundee, big hugs from me. It sounds like the lack of info available is making things worse for you. Please try to get some sleep, and confide in DH. Wishing you loadsa love and hope that everything is not as bad as you imagine. Like BT said, as the MW didn?t seem too worried, perhaps things aren?t too bad. I?d have thought if there was serious probs that you?d have been taken in and monitored? I hope you are feeling better soon and am thinking of you.

Dundee - have everything crossed for you - hopefully like the others have said it will all turn out to be OK as they haven't called you in as an emergency. And scans are not 100% accurate - I was told DD1 would be small-for-dates, and she weighed 4lb 13oz at 7 weeks early - she'd have been a monster! Hope you get good news on Weds

Beachbunni - congratulations - sure it won't be long before he's back home. One of the mums at school had her son 6 weeks early and they were home quite soon - he's little but gorgeous!

Nice meal with friends last night - felt v relaxed - and not too much heartburn (maybe LO is shifting lower?) Day of tidying and sorting today - DH keeps making comments about nesting but I said it can't be that as I son't have an "overwhelming" urge to do it, I just know if I don't get round to it now it'll never be done! I have an overwhelming urge to sit on sofa reading magazines and eating toast!

Have at last worked out where cot fits best in DD2's room (not going to put it up till after it's born as have Moses basket, just wanted to know in my mind where it will go). Going to sort my wardrobe today - took a guess on nursing bra size and have a couple of cheap ones from the sales, need to find them and stick them in my hospital bag. Planning to treat myself when LO is a week or two old and I know if it's working/what my size is to some really pretty ones so just bought cheap ones for now.

Dundee thinking of you and praying that everything will be ok

Scans are not always accurate so please do not give up hope
x

Dundee - thoughts are with you. As with all the other messages, I suppose you'll jsut have to hang in there. A friend of mine had a wonderful little girl a year ago - a few days late even and she was only just over 4 lbs - perfect but tiny and I think they had gone through all the late on scans etc and worry when told something may be wrong because scan showed things too small - you just never know. All this probably won't help but thinking of you anyway.

I'm sitting here now stressing about Obstetric Cholestatis (?) as a nasty rash appeared all over my tummy on Wed, Doc (on Thur) said nothing to worry about but I'm now itching all over and feeling generally quite unwell. Rash is spreading everywhere which in a way is good as you don't get a rash with OC - any one else had any experieince with this type of thing? Hoping it'll all jsut go away anyway when Button arrives in next week - positive thinking here that s/he won't be late as since previous CS they won't induce me and so would have to have another one - don't want to. Had some real long periods of BH's the last few days so fingers (not legs!) crossed

Is anyone else getting impatient and stressing with partners/Dh's? I'm rapidly losing will to live with things which need doing which are not getting done - especially as I know my Mum and Dad will end up helping out when Button arrives - DH doesn't seem to have grasped that in a matter of days (Yikes ) we won't have time to sort things out, put shelves up, vacuum bag spare duvets etc etc etc..........rant rant rant with DH - love him loads as I do but still bloody frustrating

Dundee I am also sending you lots of positive vibes and love. You just don't know til the little one pops out.
Hugs from Neuro xxxx

Dundee - I am sure if they were really worried you would be in hospital. With both previous pregnanies I have ended up being admited over stupid things. So they fact you are here means they can't be that worried. But equally I think I would also be worried...keep posting that is what MN is for. I will keep my fingers crossed...

BeachBunni - congratulations.

I am so tired today, but still not nesting. Am stighlty worried that by working so close to d-date means I won't nest (as no energy)...and trust me I need to nest!

hi guys
thanks for your support. it means a great deal to me, and to dh.
we're hoping we'll get in to talk to the mw again sometime today - some face-to-face reassurance is seriously needed. meantime dh is ironing (wot a poppet) and i'm trying to muster up the energy to eat something.
i'll keep you posted... [wobbly smile emoticon]

poor you dundee but remember, they didn't even do scans until relatively recently and they will just be being extra careful, i am sure. My LO's head has always been little compared with the other measurements. Tyr and think they are referring you on just to check and be extra sure.

Congrats beachbunni

Dundee - I can only add to what others have been saying, I feel for you and your DH, it's so stressful having to wait so long to hear any more news. I hope you get to see the M/W today and she gives you some good reassurance. And I am sure if they were really worried they wouldn't have packed you off and told you to come back next week. But it must be a really worrying time. Let us know how things go.

Beachbunni - congrats on the birth of your little boy - does he have a name?

I have been wondering how Kerioke is getting on too. Can't believe so many Dec babies now being born - it has felt like such a long time away for so long. And now it's (nearly) here.

Bouncingturtle - thanks for asking about my dd - she is sounding a bit better now. Still has a cough (which is still keeping me awake at night) but I don't think it is croup anymore. There is so much illness going around at the moment, I am beginning to wish I wasn't having a winter baby as she'll almost certainly be ill at some point in the first few weeks....Talking of which I think she has just woken up from her nap....

...sorry was interupted. She was still half asleep and crying out "where's my mummy gone" - am getting a little worried that she is having nightmares about me disappearing off to hospital to have the baby and not coming back. Mind you, this morning she told me she "didn't like mummy" and that I had to go and live at the doctors (which is about right!)....

Beanstermummy - I see that you are also hoping for a VBAC (like me). I have stated that I don't want to be induced if I go too far over my dates and would rather have another c/s. However, they keep trying to pursuade me they can induce up to a point, so it might be worth having a word with your midwife or hospital consultant about this. I have agreed to a sweep at least but not sure about anything else....

Hello ladies, I don't post as often as I should especially as I finished work 3 weeks ago but I log on often and as a first-timer, find everyone's comments and advice reassuring and useful.

Beanstermummy - my friend had an itchy rash in the last 2-3 weeks of her pregnancy earlier this year. It was not OC although she was worried and saw mw and dermatologist about it. The rash was mostly on her lower body - bump, legs and feet which was very uncomfortable. She used oilatum, calomine lotion and aqueous cream to soothe it and it did go away soon after her baby was born.

dundeemarmalade - I just wanted to say I am thinking of you having such a worry at this late stage in your pregnancy. As everyone else has said, everything could be just fine - they are probably just being over-cautious.

Dundee, I can't add anything to all the other posts, just hang on in there and hopefully they will be able to give you some reassuring news soon. I hope you're ok.

DH has just been talking to a friend of ours who now lives in France. We've just heard she's got breast cancer and all her hair is falling out. She seems to be being very strong about getting on with life. Its so horrible wanting to help or send her something but being so far away. I know it sounds selfish but it is a bit of a minefield knowing how to react.

Evening everyone

Dundee - sorry that you're going through this extremely worrying time, I really hope Wednesday comes round quickly so you can get some advice and information from the Consultant. In the meantime please do vent on here.

I feel really crap today. Had a nice long lie in but I am the grumpiest person in the world. DH did ironing earlier but he can do no right today! Poor wee DD, I've not been a great mum today - thank goodness Daddy was home to give her fun.
Not sure why I'm feeling like this, I need to give myself a kick up the backside and remind myself how lucky I am and how I don't have any real reason for being so down.

Ah loucee it's our hormones nothing we can do about them!! i've been the same tearful and overwrought, then totally grumpy ratty and irrational, doesn't help that I've been awake since 2.30am this morning and haven't been able to sleep all day........
but really I've got no excuse no reason to feel this way, all is going well but i still feel rubbish, just have to go with it I guess and hope I feel more "myself" tomorrow.

mememummy - how is the egg?