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Due May05-part2

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northstar · 28/10/2004 15:03

I live in Ireland, due May 12th. V happy SAHM (36)to ds 2.5yrs. Heard baby's heartbeat today, scan end november.

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Tinker · 02/11/2004 11:56

Hi logic. I did drink a bit more water but they did say you needn't have a full to painful and bursting bladder. Scan was great and I got to video it yesterday. Bizarre!

Uwila · 02/11/2004 11:58

I haven't had any contact with the midwife either. But, that is because we are fighting a little catchment area battle. My GP is in Richmond and Twickenham PCT. I am in Sunbury, which puts my in the St. Peters (Chertsey) catchment area. But I've heard bad things about St. Peters. So, from day one I stood up and point blank refused to go there. My GP is trying to get me into Kingston. We'll see if it works.

Meanwhile I did get an appointment for a nuchal scan at St. Marys in Roehampton. I am also going to pay for a second nuchal scan at FMC just because I don't trust the bloody NHS. If I have to show up at a hospital in full labour with my own medical records in hand, I will. Although this is very much not what I hope for as I really want a planned caesarean...

Oh well, a big battle ahead for me.

Uwila · 02/11/2004 12:00

That sounds nice. How did you get to video your scan?

myermay · 02/11/2004 12:36

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Tinker · 02/11/2004 12:37

It was for my nuchal scan, was told I could take a blank video. Had to pay for this of course

Uwila · 02/11/2004 12:46

I am not a bashful person. I don't really care who I have to upset. I'm not going to St. Peters. No way. No how. They can't make me. I will win.

Unfortunately, it might mean VBAC rather than planned caesarean. But, I won't be at St. Peters.

If I have to pull my show up in labour stunt, I might as well go to Queen Charlotte in London, which would be my first choice -- if I actually had a choice.

Uwila · 02/11/2004 12:47

Tinker, where did you have nuchal scan? Did you have to bring the tape? Or did you just pay them to make and give you the recording.

Very cool. I want one!

Tinker · 02/11/2004 12:50

Nuchal scan was actually about 1/2 mile from my house - found the place via the Fetal Medicine site. Scan cost £120, blood tests = extra £40. They didn't charge to video it, I just brought a blank one. Cool indeed but bizarre without any commentary.

myermay · 02/11/2004 13:07

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MonMoo · 02/11/2004 13:10

Hi all - thought I would join in as I'm having similar troubles to fisil at the mo. Due date is 05/05/05 (so cool!) but I've been bleeding very lightly for about 2 weeks. Have seen the midwife who checked the heartbeat and sent me for blood tests. Then saw my GP who also listened to the heartbeat and said there was nothing else he could do. This morning I went into the drop in clinic at the hospital where they were a tad more reassuring. Said it was probably a cervical erosion. Heartbeat is still fine so feel abit better. It is a worry though. I've booked in for a private scan next Monday so hopefully that will tell me if baby is OK. Any advice gratefully received!

logic · 02/11/2004 13:27

I would love to have a video of the scan but I don't think that they offer it. Maybe I could ask...

I think they worst thing about the migraine is lack of painkillers. I have found some cool strips which really help but look ridiculous.

btw girls, it's officially Christmas. I got my first Christmas card this morning from a relative in Australia!

Uwila · 02/11/2004 13:33

Oh yes, the cool strips are nice. I use them too, and put on a big big sweatshirt and a baseball cap, basically dress like I'm going running. Of course, you couldn't pay me to go running with a migraine. But it covers the silly white strip so paeople don't stare if I have to go out (which I guess I try to avoid anyway) Sometimes I get a wash cloth wet fold it neatly so it has a bit of a curve (the shape of my head) and put it in the freezer. Then I put the frozen cloth on my head under the cap... you can put it in a plastic bag if you don't want a wet head/hat.

logic · 02/11/2004 13:42

Uwila, I feel the same about my big, local hospital. I am not going there either even if it means giving birth at home. Are you really, really against a vbac?

myermay, I know exactly what you mean. I have gone off curries which means that poor dh is also not allowed to eat them

Hello MonMoo - hope everything goes ok at the scan.

Marina · 02/11/2004 13:51

Tinker, an official on-board congrats from me too! . So is it a little Sylvain or a little Ana? Assuming from your post that all went well at the nuchal, still for you that money had to change hands.
Fisil, hope things improve for you very soon on the bleeding and on the antenatal care front. They sound really uncaring.

Uwila · 02/11/2004 13:52

So, what's your plan, logic? Are you going to go for home birth? If you do that, and something goes wrong, where would they take you? The local big hospital that you don't want to go to?

Maybe you should make your way to another suitable hospital which is far far from your local (so that they can't transfer you there against your will)

My husbands family lives in birmingham. I've though about showing up at a hospital there just so I'd be too far for them to even attempt transferring me.

Uwila · 02/11/2004 13:58

Sorry, didn't really answer your question. YEs, I'm really quite against the VBAC. I think a planned caesarean is soooo much better than an emergency one. And, since, I've already had one, I know what I'm in for. And I frankly would swap caesarean recovery pain for the experience of delivery any day.

But, I'm aware that since I don't even have a hospital, my hopes of caesarean may be a big disappointment.

I wonder what they would do if I show up in labour and just tell them that I refuse to push.

logic · 02/11/2004 14:05

Uwila, Last time I found a cottage hospital in a neighbouring nhs trust which was great so I am going back there. In the event of a problem, I will be shipped to their associated big hospital in Slough so I'm covered either way I did consider a home birth anyway given that I don't mind labour and we will need to summon a babysitter for ds otherwise but I'll decide at the time I expect!

Uwila · 02/11/2004 14:08

Oh, and I want to stay in the hospital for as long as possible this time. Just so DH can find out what it's like to look after a toddler for days in a row (rather than minutes in row).

Oh, that will be fun. :-)

logic · 02/11/2004 14:08

Uwila, meant to add, I can't see why they wouldn't give you a c-section if you turn up and insist on it - given that you are sure it's what you want.

logic · 02/11/2004 14:09

lol sounds like we will be having exactly opposite births. I intend to go home as soon as I can stand up

Brighteyes · 02/11/2004 16:21

Hi Ladies

Haven't posted for a couple of days, been spending all my spare time with my 5 day old nephew, I'm totally in love with him.

Been sent home from work again today due to sickness would have to say I was throwing up for Wales not for England though myermay
Hoping its going to end soon now I've passed the 12 week mark.

Have to go to the hospital on Thursday due to my bloods showing low thyroid level last time I was in hospital, a bit concerned about this since recent research suggests that women with low thyroid levels tend to have babies with a lower IQ.

Fisil so sorry to hear about the difficult time your having at the moment, hope things start to improve soon and you can start to enjoy your pg a bit more.

Right off to visit my nephew

logic · 02/11/2004 17:34

Hi Brighteyes, please don't worry too much. Most medical studies these days tend to "prove" anything anyone wants them to! You need to relax and take care of yourself. Isn't it your scan tomorrow? Have fun visiting your nephew

Brighteyes · 02/11/2004 18:23

Thanks Logic. I had my scan 2 weeks ago. They gave it to me early to make sure I wasn't having twins because I was so sick. You have yours tomorrow though don't you?

logic · 02/11/2004 18:44

yes, my scan is tomorrow - so excited!

fisil · 02/11/2004 19:49

wow - so much to catch up with today. I'm bound to miss someone/something cos I'm pg and my brain is mush!

MooMoo, it's rubbish, isn't it. It sounds like you're being so much calmer than me. And it sounds good that the baby is so healthy. Good luck.

Tinker - welcome, good to know who you are at last, and official congratulations!

Uwila, I can't believe you are still trying for Kingston after having read about my hideous experience yesterday!

Logic, good luck with your scan tomorrow!

Brighteyes, you poor poor thing. How many weeks are you now? Any sign of things improving?

Have I forgotten anyone? (hello cab & myermay!)

I am much happier today (as I'm sure you can tell!). I felt last night that maybe going to work would be the right thing to do - I hated the hospital because I felt so stupid and that everything was out of my control. So I forced myself to go into work today and sure enough I discovered that when I am totally absorbed by something that I am good at, in control of and enjoy, then I am happy again! I am so lucky to have a job I love (even if it is stressful at times). And I arrived back to the joyful news that we have an HMI inspection next week. Only two days, and they are only really inspecting 3 departments and in particular the leadership of these 3 departments. Oh yes, I happen to be head of one of those departments! But I'm actually really happy to have the challenge rather than sitting around feeling sorry for myself!

Thanks for all your lovely wishes - it is always so good to know that you can rely on MN!