BFP! August/September 2020 Babies!

[Beth804]

Hi, just found out after a long time trying! Haven't really told anyone yet so thought some ladies in the same position might want somewhere to share symptoms/stories/worries. Doesn't feel real yet and that 12 week scan seems a loooooong way off!! 😂

@Vialarooski Aw that's given me a bit of hope then! Lol Two of the same gender growing up together is lovely, my boys adore each other and are so close so it's definitely great news whatever. But I can't help longing for a girl too. Either way I'm happy and grateful for what we have 🥰 I just can't wait until I'm 14 weeks so I can relax a bit! Lol please let us know how your scan goes Thursday 💛

Hey ladies. wanted to share a tip - san pellegrino limonata drink is really good for nausea, I am finding! So bubbly and refreshing.

Also wanted to check in on @Peanutty86, @Maggie272 and @TunnocksTcake! How are you all? I hope everything is going well with your pregnancies

Ahhh thank you @IslayBrigid

I'm doing well (apart from the usual). Had an early Scan at 6+3 and saw a heartbeat. 9 weeks today, waiting for the date for my 12 weeks scan to come through.

I'm sorry I've not been active on here, I felt it quite overwhelming trying to keep up with everything, the toddler has been extremely demanding and the extreme fatigue didn't help.

Hope you're all well!!

@Mammasj I will, and you do the same with yours :)

@Peanutty86 Lovely to hear from you and hear everything is going well! No worries about not being active, I understand. I go through phases :)

I have my 12 week scan in 3 weeks. I am also 9 weeks today! I can't wait for the scan... I haven't had an early one. I decided that when I first see the bean I really want it to look like a little baby haha. I just think that will make it all the more real. Fingers crossed it is a happy experience! xx

@Mammasj I've also always thought that you get more sickness with a girl. Until my best friend was sick her whole first trimestr...super exhausted and not able to smell or eat anything else than a croissant in the morning...we both thought she was definitely having a girl but nope. A boy it is 😄 Maybe she is an exception and in most case the symptoms might be more intense with a girls but after her pregnancy, I rather try not to guess into anything 😄😄

@Martina2311 Wow thanks for sharing! I was hoping this one would be totally different so that I could at least have an inkling as to the gender but it's pretty much very similar. I'll be absolutely shocked if it's a girl! I'm already convinced it's another boy to add to my brood 😂 the most reliable prediction I've found (fun predictions rather than using a proper scan) is the heartbeat. Both my boys' heartbeats were classic boy heartbeats - in the 130s. I guessed the gender of 3 of my friends' children by the heartbeats and they were all right! Lol x

@Mammasj wow that's amazing, that your guess was right every time! I also heard about this heartbeat theory. The girls are supposed to have a faster heartbeat right?

I guess its heard to say. Everyone is a bit different. My other friend had a boy first and then she had a girl with her second pregnancy and she did say she was assuming it would be a girl as her pregnancy was so different from the first. But then I have a friend who has two brothers and her mum told her that all her pregnancies felt completely same 🙈

Did you also hear about the sperm theory, that the male sperm are faster so boys are usually conceived very close to the ovulation and girls are the ones who last longer inside so can wait days before conception. I know that for me, this was possibly the case with our boy, as although I wasnt tracking my ovulation back then, it was our only unprotected sex that we had and I took the morning pill within a day..but still got pregnant. This means I was just ovulating when I had this intercourse so the pill didnt work anymore, as they only delay ovulation but if you are pregnant already they dont do anything. At least that's what I like to think was the story 😄

This time I know I got pregnant while I was away from my partner so it must have been from sex at least a couple of days before so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a girl. Of course the main thing is that the baby is healthy and in the end we will be happy for any gender...but I would love a girl, just because I'm not sure if we will have a third one in the future and would love to see the difference between them etc. However, if we have a boy, our son will be over the moon and we will save a lot on clothes as I have tons after our son 😄

@Martina2311 Yes that's right so girls tend to have heartbeats over 150 in the second trimester. Boys are lower. I've seen online that some say it didn't work like that for them but it has been accurate for all my friends so there must be something in it. Her girls were both 160+ and her son was 130 ish. My other friend is pregnant now and heartbeat was 140, she's having a boy.

Yes the timing of sex is apparently an indicator, you're right. It won't help with me because I think we did it every day for a few days before and the day of 🙈 lol we had enjoyed a night away! 😂

Oh my gosh, I can't believe you got pregnant even after taking the pill! That was one determined little boy! Lol

I completely feel the same, I don't think we'd have a fourth as I don't think we'd be able to afford it. So I feel like this is my last chance to have a daughter. But if it's a boy, I'll still be super happy that I'll have 3 strapping boys to take care of me and love me all my life! Lol and ill hopefully get some grand daughters in future instead! 😂 x

Hey @martina2311, @Mammasj and @Vialarooski! It's so interesting hearing you chat about different things that could mean its a boy or girl, and ways of swaying the gender too! It's funny coz I was just thinking about this today and wondering. I always thought girls created more sickness too, but a friend had two daughters and didn't have so much as a day of nausea so that sort of blows the theory out of the water haha. Who knows!

Also regarding the boy sperms being faster and girl sperm living longer... I was aware of this while we were TTC and while I didn't end up really 'trying' it out, we ended up DTD about 2 days before I ovulated (I think it was 36 hours haha because I think I felt myself ovulate... and I know what time we had sex...). So I guess according to this theory it puts us slightly into the girl window... will be interesting to see when we have the 20 week scan!! I can't wait. Have any of you thought about doing the blood test sneak peak? Apparently it is 99% accurate and can tell you the sex at 8 weeks!

It's my first baby so I would be thrilled for either of course. I would like a girl eventually as I have just always imagined a girl. But I am hoping to have 2-3 kids so there is time! x

@Mammasj aaah you see, it's quite funny because my ovulation got delayed on that month and I was so annoyed because we were doing it every other day during that time but then I knew I was going abroad and guess what, I started having my signs of upcoming ovulation right away when I flew off. I was so annoyed that I will spend my 4 fertile days away and cant do anything. But we did try the night before I left and then on the night that I returned but I thought by then I've already ovulated anyway. Then the both early scans confirmed that I conceived during the time I was away so if it's true and if we end up having a girl, I will so much believe the delayed ovulation happened for a reason because I know that I would most probably have sex every day leading up to the ovulation. 😄 I know it's a funny thinking but I do believe things happen for a reason so I'm kind of playing with that idea a little. Even though it can still very easily be a boy lol Either way I cant wait to find out. I am not the patient type to be able to wait and only get the answer at the delivery room. 🙈

Same reasons here, dont think we will be able to afford it as we dont have any family around to help and it's just quite tough. Saying that, we might still end up having a third one later (especially daddy is really up for it) but two are my goal and I will feel so blessed to be able to have at least two. If I had a girl now and then we end up trying for a n.3, I wouldnt mind the gender anymore. While I know that if I'm having a boy again, I might still feel the secret desire for a little girl! ❤

Yes, my boy was definitely very determined to be born. I really think it happened for a reason. Me and my partner where not together for that long back then, so it felt a bit scary and that's why my son wasn't planned. But now after all the happy years together, I believe it was meant to be, maybe to make sure that we really stick together. :) I had no idea about fertile days then and we just must have hit it right on point with him, because otherwise the pill would have worked and also how likely are you to conceive the only time you have unprotected sex 🙈

I'm going for another scan tomorrow at 9+2 and I have to say I have been feeling emotionally quite stable and positive but then I kind of get worried even for this exact reason...that maybe I shouldn't feel so sure...because I may easily get opposite facts. It always feels scary to go to the scans. 😐

Just catching up! That's interesting about the slower swimmers. We were away when I ovulated and did it every day for for a week and the day I ovulated we did it twice (poor husband must of felt it was going to fall off haha) so we could of been caught on any day really. It's our first and i have always had a strong feeling we will have a girl first. I would love one of each in the future. But as long as they are healthy I dont mind at all! We have decided we arnt going to find out.
@Martina2322 what time is your scan tomorrow? Mine is 8pm on Wednesday. I will 10+3 then. I have felt very anxious since booking it. I think knowing it's coming up and I'll find out either way. So scary! Xx

12 week scan went absolutely fine, little bean was kicking all over the place - also been told I am actually 13 weeks and 1 day not 12 exactly on like I thought I was today..Thank you so much to everyone that kept me calm over this weekend when I was really worrying xx

@Miniemee Ohh wonderful news! Congratulations lovely! So so happy for you!! What a relief! And being a week ahead. What a great surprise! Relax now and enjoy the rest of your journey!! Xxx

@Minniemee Yay congratulations!! Do you have a pic from your scan? Would love to see :) 13 weeks is quite far along... baby must have looked like a real little baby!

@Minniemee congratulations you must feel so relived!! xx

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Congratulations @Minniemee I am so so happy for you.🥰 And how amazing to find out you are further than you thought! What is your due date then? Must be the very beginning of August? X

@IslayBrigid yes it looked like a proper baby, not like the hamster from our 6 week early scan!! It kicked and we saw the feet properly, I'm so excited for you all to be able to experience this in the next few weeks!! Here you go:

@Martina2311 my new due date is the 2nd August.. was meant to be the 10th!

Aww lovely pic @Minniemee

@ButterflyRuns I'm too paranoid about losing one, so not telling most people until after 12 week scan. Close friends and family know though xx

@Minniemee oh wow! That's amazing! So happy for you! What a lovely day you must've had :)

Just jumping on the fast and slow swimmer theory/convo, me and my husband only DTD once during my ovulation week (well twice but in one night...lol) and I had been complaining all day about how I was having ovulation cramps so if the theory is true, then that means I'll be having a little boyo?!! Eeek exciting!

@Martina2311 oh wow it definitely sounds like you've got a good chance of getting that little girl! Lol I really wish we hadn't been frisky that night I ovulated! 😂 I can tell when I'm ovulating, we were actually out at the time and after a few drinks, you know how it ends! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

I didn't find out the sex on any of my two boys, I love the surprise 💛 I won't be finding out this time either. Especially as I am hoping for a girl. I wouldn't want to feel disappointed and I know that once he's out and put into my arms, I could never be disappointed and will love him with every ounce of my being. So I definitely will be waiting until delivery again 🥰

I definitely think there's something in this heartbeat test though! We all need to be sharing the heartbeats and then we can really see how accurate it is! From about 16-20 weeks though I think it has to be. How exciting! 🤗 xx

@Jessem29 I am going right away in the morning so should be hopefully done by around 9.30 am. I will be thinking of you on Wednesday. Keep positive. I am trusting my little baby that he can manage this time and is super strong. And I'm sure yours is too!

I find these early scans really reassuring and helpful to get through this long 12 week wait but at the same time I do get anxious before as it can go either really well or really bad. I always feel so nervous before the sonographer says something.

@IslayBrigid oooh it sounds like you'd definitely be in the girl window! Lol i didn't find out the sec on either of mine until I gave birth! Lol so this one will also be a surprise which means I have a long way to go 🤦🏽‍♀️🤣 but I'm already convinced it's another boy lol.

A friend of mine recently had the early blood test and found out she was having a girl! 😃

@Minniemee congratulations!! Beautiful scan pic 💛 x

@Martina2311 Good luck today lovely x