Due in the New Year - waddling our way past the half way mark

[mixedmama]

Hellooooo there

Hi lulubump - if it's a boy you can always call it Louis?! sort of the same. I'm always being mean to dh. If you are aggressive you're having a boy and if you're moody you're having a girl. I'm both!

MotherofZ - 2 hrs without food? Not possible!

MrsMcJnr - good luck with these viewings - fingers crossed. I have girl at work who covered for me when i was last on maternity leave and now job shares with me (but she's full time). Anyway - she's 5 yrs younger than me and has been doing my job for 2 yrs - I've been doing my job for 10yrs. Cut a long story short SHE THINKS SHES SOOOO MUCH BETTER THAN ME - aghhhhhhh!

I feel better now. x

Mrsmcjnr - thanks for the link,and good luck with the viewings!

Hi lulubump- My friend called her bump Holly all the way thru pregnancy convinced she was having a girl...and Michael popped out!! No complex though..you should be fine xx

Re MEN: I quote from Emma's Diary, "Still failing miserably to get DH to read anything about labour and birth"...

Is this just a typical man thing because my DH although happy to come along to scans etc is just the same, which is starting to wind me up!

Friend's DP in medical profession and he took an almost unhealthy interest in her pregnancy etc. but mine just says, Oh you tell me what to do - but I'd prefer him to read up about it so he knows what is happening to me etc!

I think its a typical man thing. I don't think they actually seriously realise you're having a baby until week 30 to be honest and then their interest grows.

I was actually shocked at how much more I had to do with the baby than dh when it first arrives as well. Only I could settle dd to begin with (not all of the time!) and obviously initially only I could feed her. I know it sounds a stupid thing to say but I really thought the workload would be split 50-50. I guess this isn't the same for everyone though!

oh god - the reception lady at work has just over ordered sandwiches and chocolate brownies from pret a manger and left them out for us to eat. God help me!!

Angechica, I totally agree! And Bettymama, I think I'm starting to realise that there's no way the workload will be split 50-50, because my DH said in the car today 'I can't wait until we have this baby (pause) and our lives return to normal'. He must be delusional.

Just for the record, although I call the bump Lulu, I'm not really planning on calling him/her that when they're born, at the minute, we're leaning towards Jameela for a girl (Millie for short) but I'm sure I'll have changed my mind by next week!

Don't worry - we're all changing our minds still on the name issue. Jameela - Millie is nice.

Love the comment from your dh - hehehe! They just don't realise I think.

Just out of interest..has everyone/anoyone has a risk assesment done on their work station??

oh god no. That sounds far too organised for my work! Have they suggested it to you?

no, buti know every workplace has to..just looking at the tacky old chair i am sat on..keep getting lower back ache...not sure if its the chair or just carrying babybel around

Hi all.
Beller - not sure what you mean by 'what will it look like not having a father on the birth certificate'. Do you mean you're worried that you will look like a loose woman?!
You need to make the decision for yourself only. For me, I just think it would be idiotic for me to seek permission from my baby's father to go on holiday! Today I was sorting a new Life Insurance policy so baby will be taken care of in case i pop my clogs early. Don't think it's father will be doing anything anywhere near that!
And, i have a copy of my birth certificate and neither of my parents are on it, also everytime i produce ID for something like a bank, these days everyone wants photograhic evidence.
I just think, especially from your posts this week, jeez if this is what he's like now, do you really want this guy having equal parenting rights while you do all the hard work?
I'm going to stop now though as i don't wish to sound bull-ish or that i am bullying you. God forbid!
In other news...I am eating crisps everyday at the mo, which isn't good, but i did eat a salad for lunch that had every possibly nutrient in it. I dropped one of my crips today and nearly fell off my chair! I feel bloated this week...AND drinking even more water than usual which has so far resulted in 8 trips to the loo so far today. Eeep.
xxxx

sorry, I meant to say i dropped a crisp, leaned over to pick it up and tummy got in way and i nearly toppled over because of tummy.

I am trying to grow my fringe out and it's at in between stage AND IT'S DRIVING ME MAD. Have got hairgrips in and everything, feel about 10!

Lulubump ? hello and welcome and congratulations! my 'stubborn little foetus' don?t think I would have liked to hear my precious Beanie referred to as that either ? at least you got another chance to see it Like Lulu my sister is Lucy but always Lulu when we were little

Bettymamma ? grrrrr ? these upstarts hey!

Beller ? LOL at Michael Holly ? my Mum was convinced I was a boy so called me Adam throughout (even had name tapes made ? why? Where was she planning to send me so young?) Anyway, I didn?t have a name for a few days until she heard a certain Barry Manilow song on the radio??!! no risk assessment but then they tried to claim I couldn?t work at home unless they risk assessed it?! I was getting lower backache so got them to get me a back support and a foot rest, it helps, and also, you need a chair that doesn?t slant downwards. Re XP what would worry me is that he might have some guilt complex in the future and want to play a role and that?s when things would get tricky.

Angechica ? know the feeling ? I bought DH the Haynes manual for babies ? I see he?s read the ?exhaust? section ? he seems to think nappies will be his main domain ? hope he does them more frequently than the cat litter! I send DH the email update I get from Baby Centre each week; it?s short enough to retain his interest. He hasn?t a clue about labour ? in for a massive shock me thinks!

Neuro ? I?m with you on the water ? on litre 5 and still thirsty!

Beller - I had a workstation assessment done, plus a general risk assessment, just because my boss is pretty organised, and we had a proper meeting going over everything we had to do before my maternity leave. It did look at my work chair and comfort levels, so if you're not feeling that it supports your lower back, they need to look into getting you another one! My boss and I have agreed I'll just bring up any issues I may have as they come up, and he actually suggested I might need to start going home early and working from home for an hour or so, if I start getting really tired in a month or so. That wasn't even something I had considered!

For anyone like me who has been struggling to eat healthily, I have discovered fab frozen fruit ready mixes in Tesco that you just add juice or yoghurt to and whip up in the blender to give a great smoothie. Yummmm (still want those brownies though )

Hi MrsMc - good idea re the Haynes Baby manual - I've seen this before & might give it a go.

Hey Neuro, I know how you feel, I have to sit like Ummi from the Kumars to get my sandals on now . Had a sad realisation in the bath last week that my lady garden has now disappeared from view for the foreseeable as well!

good luck on the house front then mrs mc sounds promising
Wow Lulu that sounds like a fab place to work and a fab boss

ds just felt baby kick was lovely

Agree Lulu - fab boss, my boss looks unconfy just seeing my bump!

Thanks Lily

Angechica - I got the book cheap on Amazon.

Ah Lilyloo - cute - what did he think!

Lulubump - your boss is an angel. Is he married??

Angechica - have beautiful image of you and your sandals

MrsMcnr - what's your name, what's your name? Lola or Mandy??

Neuro - I think you have good advice for Beller. It must be very tough - I think you are both very brave.

ps -if i had just a salad for lunch though - I'd be STARVING by now!

i don't know really he sort of looked at me then grinned then ran off to watch lazy town
dd just tried to feel it but she hasn't the patience to wait and said 'it's not working'

Neuro - yeah your right....stupid for thinking of things liek that..who's going to see it anyway..and like it matters!! I really dont think he will be coming after parental rights, he only sees his daughter that he lived with about once every 4-6 weeks! But is it worth the risk?

Do think i need a new chair....!

I have been eating quite healthy..cereal + berries and yoghurt for brekkie..salad for lunch, then dinner..but inbetween i have maybe a bar of chocolate an dlatest craze for me is butterkist toffee popcorn! mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Still going to the gym though so hoping im working that off!

Yes ladies, my boss is definitely an angel (in fact, sometimes a bit too sappy, which can lead to awkward moments!), and he is married, with 3 kids - one of whom has Down's syndrome. Explains his pregnancy friendly attitude!

Beller - good luck with the birth certificate issue, definitely research all the legal implications of having his name on, and ultimately, do whatever you feel is right for you and your little one!

what risk do you speak of O-Beller?

The way I look at it: if my baby's father does everything he says he will and behaves correctly then i wouldn't dream of suggesting that he wasn't baby's father. At the moment he is saying he will, but he's a single guy, he might meet someone horrid who doesn't want my child around, etc etc.

I think it's worse to have no father around than one who is a let down and flaky. but I say that from experience. My father was awful but my my mum had to send my brother and I to his house every other weekend and for half of all holidays and we hated it, but if we didn't go he would have got nasty via the courts.

anyway, by not putting his name on certificate i feel i am protecting the baby. But my situation is different to yours as i set out to do this on my own and so have made plans that don't include the father so anythign he does will be a bonus. I feel i'm setting myself up to not be disappointed.

I've actually felt lonely this week. Not pining to be with baby father but just to have a boyfriend to have fun with (not sex particularly, but things like cinema and walks)

Neuro - Think my dilemna is answered anyway
www.bmd-certificates.co.uk/articles/birth-certificate-england.html, he has to be there or send a form to be on the certificate anyway!! So unless he asks to be on it..I guess he wont anyway. Plus id dosnt effect any financial implications anyway, as they are seperate issues! The risk i was talking about was if I put him on there, and he started meddling and being difficult? I feel like that too..lonely sometimes.. I have great friends and stuf...but not the same eh?

You lot must be bored with my ramblings by now.....!Note to self - must not talk about X and issues all the time!

No! talk about whatever you want. And no it's not the same as hanging out with friends. I keep having massively sexual dreams, then waking up and feeling disappointed. In another realm i'm having great sex ha ha.

An ex of mine has just started seeing a friend of mine's sister and whilst i don't feel jealous at all becuase i left him for being such a crap boyfriend, i feel down about him conveying to another cool woman (and she is really cool) that he is this great, modern guy. He's so not, but he portrays himself that way, and plenty of decent women fall for it.

He's another bloke that goes literally from relationship to relationship without a break. Well, this time it was 2 days in between. SAD.

See? I'm moaning about my ex AND I EXPECT YOU ALL TO LSITEN!!!!

I'm dying for my supper. going to have an omelette with spinach, red onion, fresh toms and cheddar. Mmmmmm. I think food is replacing my lack of boyfriend loving!