Due March 2008 - we'd give in to our cravings, but we're probably asleep

[merryberry]

Welcome!

Pip and Rach, i am so so sorry to hear your news. Look after yourselves and lean in anyone you need to, including here.

hi yardette and congratulations you will get used to typs soon espo if i am in the thread lol!

I am off to DR in about half an hour to confirm pregnacy. All they do here is ask if ou peed on a stick and was it positive. I am going to try and get an early scan., I don't know how far along i am.....LMP was 13th June but my cycles are sometimes longer. So would help with dating as well as giving me reassurance after previous missed m/c. It was at this stage (6 weeks ish) that the baby died last time but i didn't know until 10 weeks. This is so hard!

Its hard for me to watch some of you planing already so i prob won't be posting lots for now.

((rachel and pip)) so sorry to hear your news look after yourselves xxxxxxx

i have been feeling so sick and tired that i was crying last night, its just so draining, i feel hungry like i want to eat but as soon as i do i feel like i am going to throw up.

re slings, my ring sling is cotton, but it is soft not hard and stiff at all and ds3 loved it, for a while it was the only place he would sleep

i am still feeling paranoid, so i bought myself another pack of three preg tests the other day, i have only done one so far and it came up with a BFP straight away

cant wait for my scan so i can relax a bit.

imjin, yardette - we are clearly cyber soul sisters or something like that - first babies, all worriers. i've banned myself from reading other threads so that i don't either a) burst into tears at people's sad stories and worry it will happen to me or b) burst into tears at people's happy stories and worry it won't happen to me.

if i could have a big glass of wine to help me relax, i'm sure i'd feel so much better...

i'm trying to do nothing to tempt fate at the moment - not making any lists (very difficult for a control freak / spreadsheet geek like me!), not looking at prams and baby clothes, only telling family and 3 close friends so we have some support but don't have to do much untelling if the worst happens. in fact, all i'm doing is focusing on eating healthily and sleeping lots, and in a way almost trying to forget i'm pregnant so i can just carry on as normal rather than be torn up with worry. but time is going very slowly and still another 6 weeks until i get to week 12...

Yup - worrying cyber sisters HolidayQueen! I'll content myself with some new clothes for myself soon, and leave the buying baby stuff till much later I think.
Me and hubbie have been very careful about not telling people up to this weekend, but he's getting quite excited now, and he told his best friend at the weekend. I haven't even told my mum yet (like you, bit scared of having to untell people). I am going to tell her next week tho.
Are any of you having the occasional sip of wine? As I haven't told any of my friends other than my best friend, I've been occassionally (no more than once a week) "pretend sipping" a glass of wine so that they don't realise I'm pregnant - in reality, drinking something like three quarters of a glass over the entire evening. Please don't tell me I'm the only one who is still having the odd sip of booze!

I sipped a pretend glass last night for the first time, Holidaysqueen so impressed by not reading. I'm making a promise as I said - instantly broken it but starting new day tomorrow. No thinking about anything babyfied from here on in.
We've just told dh's best mate as we saw them at the weekend and they live abroad. About to go on holiday and plan to tell the other two couples as can't face having to pretend sip wine all week in italy! Only trouble is one is starting IVF when we get back so it's a very stressful situation... all in all must keep smiling.

hi all,
im rhesus neg. and with my last dd i refused to have the injections at 28 and 32 weeks. she did turn out to be positive but i had the injection after birth. i think the only reason you need the ones while pregnant is just incase. will prob end up having them this time as ive been exposed to pos blood.

ive got my booking in appointment with the mw but its not till 10 weeks its only 3 weeks away but feels like forever. they send out your notes to you as well so you can fill them in yourself - at one point it asks if you babies father is a blood relative!!

so, DR was as useful as a chocolate fireguard although in his defence he was a locum so doesn't know the surgery all that well. He said that i was to make an appt with mw for this week and ask for early scan but they don't see you until they contact yu for booking in. I filled in the pink form though that gets passed to themidwives. I don't think i will get my early scan

Rachel and Pipsqueeke so sorry to hear your news. I've been there and I know how hard it is. Take care of yourselves xx

Spugs ugh, constipation! I didnt get it until later with dd and would gladly have a colonic!

c4it Yes - what is the justification for the existance of top and tail bowls? Just use a normal bowl and dip a fresh piece of cotton wool in each time!

Hello again everyone!

So many of you are saying all the things I'm thinking. That's the good things about this interweb lark - it's very reassuring to know that you're not the only one. The bad thing is reading the sad news - upsetting and fuels the paranoia. Hope Pipsqueak and Rachel1963 are coping.

Also have no pg symptoms to speak of. Boobs might be a little bigger, but that could be wishful thinking. 12 week scan seems a long way off.

Told my sister, only to discover that she is pg too and just 4 weeks ahead. She has her scan next week. Neither knew the other was TTC. Parents won't know what has hit them - potentially first and second grandchildren less than a month apart!

I should be delighted at the news, but it has just made me worry more - potentially horrible if things go wrong for one of us, but not the other. Could make bonding with new niece or nephew a little tricky. On the other hand, great for the kids if all goes well.

Trying to think positive and not wish my life away......

Rachel and Pipsqueeke so sorry to hear your news and sending you both a big hug. xx

So sorry Pipsqueeke and Rachel . That's so unfair. Huge hugs to you both.

Merryberry, how are you doing?

It must be first baby, no symptoms worry syndrome! I'm also trawling through threads worrying about things which might never happen and getting myself more and more paranoid!

Had to go to a work dinner tonight and 'pretend sip' a glass of wine. The worst thing was that it tasted really nice and has just reminded me what I'm missing

My tummy aches got worse today and have had lots of pretty sore cramping, but had mw appt today and she didn't seem concerned and said only to worry if any blood so I'm trying not to..

All in all mw was helpful and if I stay a low risk pg I should be in the mw led unit rather than consultant led, so hopefully less intervention and more pro natural active births (including home and pool which I like the sound of!). Was a bit surprised as I'd heard that with first timers you would normally be consultant led and they wouldn't particularly promote home births??

Anyway, came home with plenty of bedtime reading...

Hello Yardette and congrats

the paranoia has reached ridiculous proportions for me, and I'm one of the lucky ones having another early scan tomorrow. I think I might delete mumsnet from my favorites for a few days. I love reading and chatting but it seems to be creating more concern just as the moment.
Everyone has such real issues, FLossieR- I can imagine myself thinking the same if it were my sister but I know my DH would tell me you can't plan for the worst and somehow if the worst happens you do get through..but thinking about it isn't going to make it any easier. So i'm going to try to take his advice and think only nice thoughts for now!
On a more practical note we've got moths - so I've just sprayed the house and now feeling massively ill - nothing to do with being pregnant just the fumes I've put into the house! Nice. Have a good day all and big hugs to anyone who needs them especially much today.

Morning everyone
Guess who woke up feeling very nauseous this morning? I spoke way too soon about having no symptoms... - not envious but this smiley accurately reflects the colour i think my face currently is...
Despite that good news here today - I got the hospital I wanted. There's a choice of two where I live - one has a midwife-led centre as well as a consultant-led delivery suite plus it is a big maternity research hospital and the other is horrible and was on a Channel 4 expose about how dirty hospitals are... Fortunately I got the nice hospital
Booking appt is 6th September - so long to wait! But I'll be 11.5 weeks then and 2 days away from my birthday so, fingers crossed, will actually be able to tell everyone why I won't be drinking on my birthday (well maybe a small glass of bubbly at least!)
HQ xx

Yardette: welcome and congrats!

It's a tough time early pregnancy isn't it - if you don't have any symptoms you think the worst and if you have them you think the worst. A girl can't win! boo hoo

Sending out positive vibes for all you worriers - I suppose you just have to say to yourself it's totally out of your control so therefore why put yourself through unecessary worry. All you can do is look after yourself, eat well, exercise and hope for the best. Easier said than done for most of you I know but you can do it, I know you can.

Just trying to rally up the troops you know - dispel all that paranoia I can feel going around! Come on girls!

So just try to enjoy your amazing pregnancy journey.....

I'm in the symptomless brigade (at the mo) and don't really feel pregnant at all so I'm making the most of it and doing all the things I might not be able to do soon!

And the sun is still shining....

HolidaysQueen, me too! on the nausea front, I mean ... felt so queasy this morning I had to sit down, and wasn't sure how I'd get on my bike and into work. Happily eating helped - my mum suggests little and often; I came back with lots and often. We'll see.

imjin, funny thing about moths - are they those tiny little ones? apparently there are loads more this year due to the warm winter - they all had two or three litters (or whatever) instead of their usual one. We have them too - DP keeps bounding up from the sofa to chase them round the room. Most disconcerting.

HQ: sorry about your green face! I had a choice between 3 hospitals but didn't base my choice on anything other than distance!!! DIP DIP DIP MY BLUE SHIP....Now I'm thinking, should I have done more research?! especially since I spoke to m/w yesterday and she said the consultant at the one I didn't choose was a specialist in fetal medicine and the one I chose is just a bloke!!! (I'm sure he's got experience!) But she didn't tell me that before I chose.

Don't you feel the m/w tries to lead you into the direction she wants rather than what you want? I feel that way a bit.

How can you do research on whether a maternity ward is good or not and how it is run? I suppose I can change. Or does it matter?

Also if you have a home birth I suppose the distance isn't too important unles things go wrong. My first delivery was only 2 hours from start to finish so they suggested next time I might want to consider a home birth. Our nearest hospital is 30 mins away.

morning all, still tired and queasy here, the afternoons and the evenings seem to be the worst.

I am trying to just relax but i know the night before my scan i will be a nervous wreck and i dont think dp can get the time off work to come with me he was there for all of the scans with the boys, so it will be strange not having him with me this time.

still havent told family yet, not sure how long we are going to wait before we do tell them, maybe till 16wks.

Afternoon ladies!

Sorry you're feeling green, HQ. Hope it passes soon.

I felt really rubbish last night, like the ladies on the Activia adverts! I was all bloated and uncomfortable with a mind tummy ache. Very annoying. All better today but I was so tired this morning that I slept through 30 mins of my alarm clock and was far too dopey to ride my bike. So even in this glorious weather, I drove to work today, naughty me! I'm sure I'll be back on the bike tomorrow. It's nice to have the choice, but since I spent so much money on the bike, DH gets a bit annoyed if I don't use it!

I've just started my lunch break 15 mins early cos I think I would have passed out if I'd waited any longer to eat! I hear you on the 'lots and often', L&S. WRH, not sure how you check on how good a hospital is. Hope someone can tell you, but I know that some people post a question on the Pregnancy board about a hospital and hope they get a reply from someone who's been there.

I'm lucky in that both my hospital choices are good, but since I'm planning a home birth anyway hopefully I won't need one!

As for all the paranoia, well, we all worry a bit but I just keep telling myself that the chances are much higher that everything will be fine than that something will go wrong. There's nothing we can do to change what happens anyway so I prefer to assume all will be well.

theres a thread over on pregnancy that has a link to a site which has statistics for different hospitals. i think the thread is something to do with not having a clue about birth. abnd the website is called birth choices. may be wrong though

Hi all -
I found it's really difficult to get good info on maternity hospitals - I thought this website had the best info although it's not completed for all hospitals. My decision was based more on the fact that the one closest to me was on a Channel 4 programme about the lack of cleanliness in the NHS whereas the other is a leading maternity hospital and I've been there for some gynae stuff so felt more comfortable with it, so it seemed like a really obvious choice. Plus my GP said that everyone puts that one down as first choice which was a pretty good hint...
Not yet met my midwife - I don't see one until my booking appt at 11-12 weeks!
HQ xx

P.S. Toast and malt loaf appear to be helping on the nausea front...

hello, I must be the latest addition, due on 30th March (far too close to Aprils Fools Day). no symptoms what so ever but I can't remember, when do you normally start to feel sick? I appear to have erased all memory of DS pregnancy. I have to say I was hesitant about joining, some of the posts are seriously giving me the heebie-jeebies but I am not going to get too paranoid (particularly with no booze and no nicotine to take the edge off!)

p.s. already researching maternity jeans. I want a pair of boy/slouch fit. I know blooming marvellous do a pair but I haven't been under a size 20 since b4 the first baby. anyone got any ideas?

Hi all on this glorious day. The heeby jeebies have definitely hit this board today... come on ladies, lets stay positive! I am a born worrier, but I've woken up in a good mood today, and its suddenly dawned on me that the worrying won't just end when I reach the magical point of 12 weeks, or when I have my first scan. If you give in to the worrying and paranoia, then you'll still be worried about the next stage, and will still be worrying when the baby is born, when its growing up, when its left the house aged 18....
We've all had the most amazing news and the most incredible miracle is happening inside our bodies. Lets stay positive and celebrate and be happy for that fact! The If something bad happens, then we'll cope - you always do. But why ruin such a happy time, when we should be marvelling at how amazing it is to find ourselves pregnant, but instead make ourselves miserable by worrying and fretting that the worst could happen??

HolidayQueen - hope you feel better soon. I have felt a bit yucky (only a little) and sooooo tired today too, which I'm actually quite pleased about given my other posts yesterday.
Imjin - good luck at the early scan tomorrow, and big positive vibes coming your way!

take care all of you on this lovely day