September babies thread #6 - half way!

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@fortheloveofscience
I don't have an anterior placenta and I have only been feeling definite recognisable movements since Monday at 21+4 and they aren't regular yet (mostly in the evening though). There was virtually nothing at 21 weeks and then all of a sudden there they were. This is my first.
It might just be too early still regardless. In a week you might find it changes a lot!

@Fortheloveofscience I have an anterior placenta, I'm 21+ 2. I started feeling flutters at around 16/17 weeks but they were rare (maybe every few days/ few times a week).

Proper movements that are clearly the baby only started in the last few days and that's generally being able to feel him move and change position if I'm lying on my back. And a few very light kicks during the day. This is my first and the midwife told me not to worry about movements (how regular they are or if I'm actually feeling them) Until 24 weeks.

Pretty sure I lost my cervical plug earlier. Luckily I'm working in the elective section theatre today, so had an immediate chat with the midwife. She's not worried as there was no blood, it wasn't an odd colour and no pain (other than the normal stretching ones). Naturally I'm still bricking it, so we're going to listen to baby's heartbeat later, and if anything changes I'll head upstairs to MAU.

Happy 20 weeks today to me. Scan on Friday cannot come soon enough now. I was already starting to get anxious. Didn't need this now.

Also any movements I feel are very low down and to the sides

@Dyra im sure you'll be fine I don't know about everyone else but I'm finding this pregnancy really stressful I don't know if it's because I'm a lot older but when I had my first 2 pregnancies I was 20 and 22 and I sailed though them no issues at all I think I took everything for granted and didn't worry about anything now I'm willing the weeks on I'm petrified of bleeding again and concerned about every ache and pain I get !!

I have mentioned before but i have been more paranoid about things going wrong in each pregnancy since dc3. I think its partly due to more awareness of things that can go wrong and partly because i have had four healthy pregnancies with no problems (bar spd) and i kind of feel like at some point my luck will run out

I'm on my third and feeling slightly more nervous too, but the biggest difference is how much tougher I'm finding the pregnancy! I'm just wiped out, I'm only 19 weeks and huffing and puffing just going upstairs, never still awake at 10, still feeling grotty. I quite enjoyed the first two, but this is definitely me done! decaf I keep thinking of you with great admiration!

I think I'm only anxious as I have been recently because I've seen a number of IUDs through my work and how devastating they are for all involved. I know my Mum also had a 16 week loss. Ignorance really seems like it might be better at times. I've calmed down now though. Think I felt a few movements a few minutes ago which is always good. And the midwife will still check on the heartbeat when we both have time.

I'm still a nervous wreck. I really want to get to the end of 24 weeks as I feel like she has a fighting chance then. Up until then she doesn't count as a person which keeps making me cry!

I'm older and I feel so lucky to have got pg without help - so I just want her here safely. The pg is physically easy so far, but mentally torturous. I keep fearing the worst and can't relax at all.

We'll not be having any more as age not on our side.

Is horrible isn’t it, the anxiety of it all! And I’m the same with wanting to get past that 24 week mark, especially after the events of the weekend. I’m still getting pains but nothing has got worse so just trying my hardest to not over do anything. Obviously sex is off the cards too now because of all this!

I’m 24 weeks tomorrow and it feels like a huge milestone to me.

Just had my midwife appt. slightly worrying as my iron has gone from 56 to 39. Under 30 I have to take double iron :/. Similarly blood count gone down. Trying to take the vitamins and eat healthily but it’s still dropping.

Did however get my mat form.

@easterbuns1 yes! I'm still on all my hyperemesis medications which are helpful but make me feel so tired. Until early afternoon, I tend not to be able to eat other than a piece of dry toast for lunch but in the evenings I'm ok & can eat small portions of my usual food then. I've been off work for weeks because of it & it's getting very old now!

Thanks stroan, Megan, db92 that’s really reassuring. Looks like I’m being a bit impatient and just need to wait another week or two. Just can’t wait to feel her and feels bizarre I can’t because my bump seems huge!

I’m super-nervous, mostly that I’m going to do something that ends up hurting her. Sure I double-check the food list about 10 times a day, sometimes for the same thing!

Does anyone mind if I lower the tone and ask about sex, or lack thereof? I’ve got no issue with pregnancy that means we shouldn’t but complete lack of sex drive means we’ve only done it twice since my bfp. Was really hoping it would come back in second trimester but apparently not...

DH is being v sweet about it but he’s started to have problems sleeping because he’s feeling “rejected” at bedtime, then feeling guilty that he’s feeling like that, beating himself up for being a terrible person (for having a sex drive ) and ends up too stressed to sleep. He only told me this last night, before that he claimed he couldn’t sleep because he’s been too hot or worried about work etc, bless him. Wish he’d just talked to me sooner!

@fortheloveofscience it's completely off the table here. I had early bleeds in both pregnancies and far too terrified for sex after those experiences. DH is totally understanding and I think was expecting it after my last pregnancy. Also I'm huge, uncomfortable, nauseous and don't feel even slightly attractive or sexy, ever. It would feel like a chore.

I think it's a tricky one as everyone is different so have no real advice but it's good he has finally talked to you about it.

Fortheloveofscience we have been told no sex after the weekend's scare until things calm down - which they havent completely. I am glad your DH has been able to talk to you about it finally though, hopefully he can understand it isn't you rejecting him

@Fortheloveofscience we’ve not had sex for a few weeks and now I’ve been told I’ve got a low lying placenta I’m terrified of having sex and having a big bleed after it. DH is totally understanding, but I feel terrible.

Had midwife appointment today and BP is doing fine (116/65). She’s now coming to my house weekly for BP check, which is so much less stressful than having to go into the surgery or hospital for it. Talked about birth options and although I said the dream would be to have a natural birth with limited intervention, she agreed that it was eminently sensible for me to ask for a c-section if I have to be constantly monitored and confined to the bed like last time. I could have hugged her.

Forgot to mention MatB1 damnit!

We've only done it 3 times since BFP.
We have both admitted that we feel weird about it, and after the spotting the other day there is no way anything is going in there!
Fortunately DH is on the same page as me, we both have some drive but no desire to act on it, for now at least. He's happy to sort himself out for now, which is fine with me. All my senses have gone to pot - so what I liked before feels strange anyway. Orgasms are not the same!

Megan I am with you on that, mine trigger awful BHs so something I am not really enjoying now anyway

We are still doing it but not very frequently. It’s also getting a bit difficult finding comfortable positions. I think the obviousness of the baby now is putting DP off as well.

We’re still having sex every few days. I find it really helpful for maintaining the intimacy between me and DH as a couple rather than everything being about the baby. But I’ve had an easy pregnancy so far, and pregnancy has made everything way more sensitive (tmi!) in a good way and we’re managing to work around my growing belly so far.

We hadn't for the first 20w as I was so paranoid after a previous mmc. But have since with no issues. As our vicar said to us once ( on a marriage preparedness course for some context - literally the most cringy moment ever 🤦) - ' it doesn't have to be penetration'. Not advice I was expecting to pass on, was hoping to block it from my memory, lol but it stands in this context. Being intimate without dtd was how we got through the first 20w.

Is anyone else having anxiety over weight gain? I've always hated gaining weight, but it's currently starting to really bother me - even though I know it's completely normal and healthy, my brain is making me feel really uncomfortable with it. I'm so scared I'm never going to feel like myself again.

No sex here either but I think that mainly down to our DS sleep has gone out the window so we are all exhausted. He's keeping us up all night and DH has resorted to taking him in the spare room so that I can get some rest. It's nice of him to do that but it's just delaying the inevitable of actually sorting it out. I feel immense pressure to get his sleep sorted again before the babies arrive. It's actually making me panic how I'm going to cope with 3 children that won't sleep :-(
Any tips on getting a 2 year old to sleep in his own bed without waking constantly?

We are still doing it,

Well that was a great post easterbuns.

Was trying to say we are still doing it, I was completely celibate in previous pregnancies as ex wouldn't entertain me at all in any way shape or form so very glad dp is still on board! I do tend to get bh after but I can live with them so far. I'm a bit ashamed to admit again that I'm absolutely hating my changing shape though and dp is always very careful not to touch the bump during so not sure how we will get on as I get bigger.