September babies thread #6 - half way!

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@fortheloveofscience
we are still at it regular, possibly more regular than before bfp! However, DH relies on me to initiate and if it's a long stretch there's a bit more private shower time in the mornings. We almost always make time for a nudie cuddle at bedtime though - on the theory that skin-to-skin works on bonding adults too!
@GemmaJen OMG so much on the weight anxiety. I find buying pregnancy clothes super upsetting as I struggle to see bump as 'attractive' and almost nothing fits right. I've been staying off the scales for 4 weeks now - I can't bear to look.

Yay the royals haven’t taken my name!

I despise the weight gain but am also ravenous. Keeping up exercise and just planning my attack post baby

boodles honestly, we did have to do CC with DS - 5 minutes tops crying (including night wakes not just bed time) and being rather firm about it being bed time. Was difficult but only took 3 nights. He still awakes occasionally but he certainly is great at sleeping now overall and has a great bedtime routine.

Gemma I was feeling nervous about loss of weight in 1st trimester and think now maybe I have tried too hard to gain it all back! I am worried about gaining too much like I did with DS, I piled it on and didnt realise because everyone kept telling me how in proportion I looked and it must be all bump - it certainly wasnt but I didnt realise until post birth but its so obvious when I look back at photos now!

twittlebee I did CC with him as a baby and it worked really well, haven't had a problem since then...til now! I did try it the other night and he got really hysterical. I think I'm going to decide on the best thing tonight and then start on Friday when I can be consistent all weekend and going forward.

boodles good luck with it, cant even have a big glass of red wine to help you through! maybe stock up on some good snacks instead? We only sort of recently done CC as we knew we would have to night wean him first. Dreading the thought that DS probably wont nap when DS2 is here though!

It's completely normal to be showing now, right? I'm nearly 23 weeks... popped into my bosses office today and he went "omg, you're showing! When did that happen? You're going to be huge" errrr thanks 😟 I thought it was pretty normal to be showing by now? I've just jumped on the scales though and think I've put on the best part of 14lb - is that too much?

Dh and I are kind of down to every other week... and actually at first it wasn't even that "regular" as as someone else said, I found orgasms definitely did not feel nice either. We're fairly touchy feely in general though so hopefully that helps to keep the closeness.

kyles according to my pregnancy apps we should expect to start "popping" / "showing" between 20 to 24 weeks. You can always use a weight tracker if you want to see averages of weight gain www.babycenter.com/pregnancy-weight-gain-estimator

Only done it a few times since I found I was pregnant, as sex is how the first bout of bleeding of my MC appeared last year. Plus I'm just plain not in the mood for it anyway. Now, it's been heavily hinted that my 'recent activity' with DH is likely what has caused my plug to come away, so while he doesn't know it yet I think a drought is imminent. At least until 24+ weeks anyway.

I’m really enjoying my changing shape. Although it is only bump so far, the rest of me looks the same. I may turn into a blimp later on though.
I’m not especially hungry though so not eating differently yet.
Bump is huge though!

Definitely showing here...

I'm still waiting to pop tbh... All my 1st trimester bloat got me excited thinking I was going to show earlier this time round but nope although I couldnt fit into my usual trousers this week so maternity clothes are now a must. My boobs have certainly changed though - long gone are my As and hello Fs!

I cba with sex right now- we've done it maybe three times since finding out. We had an early mc last year and whilst dtd had nothing to do with it and I "know" it's safe, I just can't relax enough to actually want to. Gave it a go again at the weekend but it was sore (turned out to be thrush, yippee....) and so stopped and did other things. Also worried and weirded out about her feeling my orgasms. She's like a little person now in my head, so now even though I know it's a bit precious I just don't want to disturb her!

DH and I are annoyingly tactile normally and have a very open communication style, so whilst it's important I'm not beating myself up about it.

I don't weigh myself normally so no idea about weight gain- I've been told my BMI is healthy and my diet hasn't really changed except more fruit and water. My face is definitely fatter though! I went to a pre-wedding boot camp which still runs, so I'll just go back to that once I've recovered and that should hopefully break the back of any pg-related gain. So long as I don't gorge on crap in the interim.

Definitely showing here...

Nothing here for a while either. I’ve had bleeds almost every time after sex which is terrifying and husband is now squeamish about poking the baby too, so lots of cuddling here.

I’m freaking out about body shape. I’ve always had a control thing with my weight - either through good or exercise and although I love being pregnant, embracing the body changes hasn’t been easy. Rubbish maternity clothes don’t help either. Think I’ve found my mat clothes mojo now, and the fact I have a proper bump helps. Definitely more at peace with it now I can feel the baby move and there’s a bump. My body is doing more important things than being a certain weight right now.

@fortheloveofscience not a lot of sex at all, a handful of times. Dh is well up for it, but not so up for it that he would come to bed early, or allow me a lay in to rest and recover from the restless nights and long days! We have grown apart a bit, I often "sleep" downstairs or choose a bath over time together now. It's quite shit. @kyles1010 definitely normal! I'm 20wks, and it's very noticeable. I'm not telling work till my scan tommorrow and have a long scarf and waterfall jacket to cover it a bit!

kyles I feel huge. I'm uncomfortable already and trying not to panic about how much worse it's going to get over the next 12+ weeks. It doesn't help that babies like to sit right at the top/front of my belly so they are constantly just there like a dead weight. I suppose cos they are breech it just feels worse than with my DS, that and the fact there's 2 in there taking up all the room.
One of my friends said today I do look quite big, then she said I was about your size when I went to a Halloween party when pregnant. Then she counted and realised she was about 6 months pregnant and I said well I'm about 5 so I don't think that's too bad. Think she made herself feel worse by that realisation!

God, I am DTD more than ever my sex drive is through the roof! DP is very happy haha. And I think my orgasms feel even better but I do get BH afterwards.

We had the scan yesterday and we are having a little boy! All is healthy anatomy wise but he is small, all in proportion but just small right now has any one else experienced this? She didn't seem overly concerend just that she would pass it on to my midwife.

Stroan i am impressed you are bigger than me! I think anyway. I tend to get to s point in pregnancy where i stop noticing the growth. Like nose blind. But bump blind. Hopefully i havent reached that point all ready

I think i am pretty decided now on finishing work at 29 weeks. Everything hurts. It will only get worse.

It’s completely normal @kyles101 - you’re only 1 week off being 6 months pregnant!

25 weeks tomorrow and feeling so, so relieved. Week 24 is such a magic point, isn’t it! Are you an NHS worker too @Dyra? Sorry to hear about today’s stresses but you were definitely with the right people at the time! Do you know when you’ll finish yet? People keep asking me but I’ve got no idea - the thought of 13hr shifts in the hot wards in summer fill me with dread though!

Getting ahead of myself - 24 weeks tomorrow that should read!

Ok I’m feeling a lot better that it’s not just me, I was genuinely expecting to have my sex drive shoot up in second trimester and was feeling a bit defective when it didn’t!

And yes to those saying that things feel different now - I’ve found that “other” things DH used to do now feel really eurgh.

@showerTheHorse not yet this time, but DD was small from 20wks, I measured smaller too. Had extra scans, calorie loaded. She was 6.12 which isnt too small, she was perfect really but I was nearly 2wks over so she was classed as under and I have more scans this time. But I'm certainly not small this time!

@ivegotthedecaf it's ridiculous! I have a picture from the same stage with DD and I'm much bigger this time. Given how ridiculously big my bump was last time, I'm a little scared.

Really don't think they'll let me go to 39 weeks...

Ah i have now gone back to looking at the Nuna Mixx! Why cant i make decisions!

Two people have commented on the size of the bump this week, maybe i have gone bump blind

23 weeks tomorrow