September Babies Thread #5 - we're a chatty bunch

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Yet another thread for our September babies!

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@fortheloveofscience
I’m a first timer and moving countries between now and about 36/40, so if I do get to antenatal classes it will be fairly late too! Does everyone go or do some people just take a chance winging it on their own? Not worried about learning about birth stuff, but I know absolutely nothing about what to do with it when it comes out and we go home 🤔

Still no bump but hurts when bending over or when hunched over on road bike, feel stuffed like I’ve just eaten Xmas dinner all the time 😬

Anyone else’s boobs so itchy they scratch them in their sleep till they bleed? TMI, soz 😬

@Fortheloveofscience
Our NHS classes consist of a single day, in a really rough part of Leicester (where we don’t live), whereas NCT is in a village down the road so we’ve gone for that. Our NCT starts in June for 7 weeks which seems about right.
I’d be very worried about leaving the NHS that late. Is there anything else that’s not NHS or NCT? Our hospital seemed to advertise various private providers offering classes. None local to us though hence doing NCT.

@fortheloveofscience NCT - get booking! My first preferred one was full and the only other option I got the last space. Mine are 6 weeks before due date
I’m only going to make the friends

Moraxella this is my fifth baby and i have never done NCT or nhs antenatal classes. Was 19 when expecting dc1 and felt i would be the odd one out and judged. We all survived.

I've just signed up for the NHS classes. Think it's a course of three. NCT are supposed to be great, but just another thing to pay for!

Also I popped into Halfords with the car seat even though we didn't buy from there and they were very helpful and checked the fit etc for us, in case anyone else is in the same position :)

notwhereishouldbe I booked my shopping cough for next week when I'll be 18+4. Midwife said any time after 16 weeks so I just booked to get it done before I forget! Can't remember what stage I had it last time.

@TwittleBee I would deffo have the afternoon tea if that's what you want to do. I've been to a couple of small showers in homes where we didn't have to pay but been to similar tea type things where we did if there were more of us. It's no different to going out for a friends birthday.

I've started with the positive birth course, it's so reassuring already, had plenty of babies around, it's just the getting them out bit and breastfeeding I'm clueless about - apparently one born every minute is a really bad reference for learning birth technique 🤔 even persuaded dh to watch them with me closer to the time.

1 week today, so excited, absolutely can not wait........ game of thrones... erm I mean 20 week scan 😉

I need to book my whooping cough, dont fancy shopping cough though

Has anyone decided on names yet?

We have decided on Roy! Calling him by that already too

We've got a list of each gender for names we like but not going to name bubba until it's born _

We still love our boys name from last time - Ruairi but very worried a friend might use a similar version before us. She mentioned it was top of her list. It's the only boys name we've ever liked that meets the criteria - Irish/gaelic, easy to pronounce in Scotland!

We have a few girls names - Niamh, Maeve, Ciara. Niamh is the front runner just now because DD can actually say it. 😂

I got the letter through last week- head like a sieve so I put a reminder on my phone to book it this morning. Thought it would be a few weeks before the surgery could get me in as it's only done during midwife clinic hours, but I'm going next week when I'll be 17+1. Also got a letter confirming that I'm not immune to German Measles which is amazing, especially as the advice is pretty much limited to "stay away from people with German measles- the end.". Will have to sort my MMR once baby is here so I'm up to date.

Name-wise we have two contenders which we both really like- we know it's a girl so that's been nice discussing it with some certainty. We think we'll wait until she's here to decide between the two though.

Yesterday morning we were in bed and DH suggested looking at the most popular girls names in France, Spain etc for some inspiration (just to make sure we're 100% on our short-shortlist!) and it's amazing how much overlap there is between countries- Lina/Lena seems really popular all over Europe at the minute, as are Sophia (various spellings), Emma and Olivia.

My list of names appears to grow every day

I like sooooo many girl names. Boys names are much harder. Dp and i also like different kinds of names which is a pain. So far he has suggested boy names, which i dont really like. But i have no suggestions of boy names myself! I am keeping my girl names from him until we know the sex and if it is a girl i may dig my heels in a bit as this is definitely our last dc.

Girls names are so much easier. Far more simple to find something a bit different but not "younique". We had one boys name we agreed on- George, which is obviously mega popular, albeit not locally. The only other ones we both liked were Ralph which I wasn't 100% sold on, and Peter which DH didn't love as we say it like "Peedur" here

Anyway last name is the big bone of contention here! DH is double barrelled and I didn't change my name after marriage so we keep going round in circles about what her surname will be. I think we've got agreement on giving her DH's mum's name as a middle name, and then baby being Baby Craic-DHDadsName. But he could change his mind again. I think he feels like he's "choosing" a parent and he's worried about hurting their feelings. It's very hard for him, I completely get it.

No names here and we only need girls!
I had a shortlist, DH hates them. He had 1 name, I don’t mind it but not with our surname.
We decided to leave it now until after scan.

Our last kitten took a month after he arrived to be named. I don’t hold out for the baby being any quicker!

We had a shortlist of boys names, - we really like Felix, Walter, Miles and Sebastian. But had pretty much settled on a girls name, which is quite useful now we know she's a girl 😊 Girls names came a lot easier, me and DH like the same styles, where as with boys names we don't really. The final name may change in the next 6 months, but it's been really nice to refer to her by her name,akes it all feels much more real ☺️

We have a double-barreled name TheCraicDealer and so was rather interested in an article that cropped up on the BBC a while back. it was disusing the issue of Double-Barrels like the one you mentioned, the solution appeared to be that the child would take the parent's name that was the same sex as then it would be easier for record tracing.

So, your DH could just default to taking his Dad's name to continue to pass down? Is so messy though.

We've already said that we will just let DS choose which ever name he wants to keep if he was to get married (assuming his partner wouldnt want to take the double-barrel) but point out that my DH's part of the name would go better with most things and makes logical sense for him to take to continue.

Hope that makes sense TheCraicDealer

And apologies for everyone else on that wall of text!

We aren’t married (him: “too patriarchal”) so I’m digging my heels in about it having my surname (him: apparently allowable patriarchy) ha 💪

Both me and OH have very unique, different double barrel surnames 😂 we're both happy for bubba to take his as I haven't got much contact with either half of my family (where my 2 names come from) and OH hasn't got any brothers to pass on his name where I have 2

@Moraxella do it!! Mine have my name and I don't know anyone else in a relationship whose kids have their mum's name. We were going to alternate but DP changed his mind when DC2 came along as he thought they should have the same surname as each other.
Although they do have DP's name as a middle name to make crossing borders easier- if an adult and a child with no names in common try to cross a border together it can get tricky, and you can be asked for a full birth certificate which is obviously a nuisance. And is worth noting when you do the names the other way round too!

We aren't married but dc all have dps surname. My surname is a pita to spell / pronounce.

I spent all my life saying I was not getting married and there's no way I'd change my name.
Then I married DH at 36 and took his name as I preferred it to my own. All feminist principles vanished overnight
No regrets though.

DH wants to call her Felicity, but our surname is an F and I am not sure if I like alliterative names.

I changed my name when we got married (but slightly regret it as everyone gets it wrong) but kept my maiden name as a middle name. DD also has it as her middle name and this baby will too.

If it's a boy, I'd quite like to give it my Mum's maiden name as a middle name too - it's a well known boys name.

I compromise by letting DH have the Irish name that is important to him as long as my background is represented by the middle names. And having to pick an Irish name actually makes it a LOT easier because we're starting from a smaller list!

DHs family tried to insist that it's tradition to name children after their grandparents. they should know by now that trying to make me do something by calling it a tradition is a waste of time!