June 2019 babies - part 5!!!!

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2nd trimester for all the lovely June mummies out there! Yippee!!!

@Napssavelives So sorry to hear that, heartbreak is the worst kind of pain. Really rubbish that he didn’t say something earlier as well when you were trying. Whatever happens you will get through it. We’re here to talk but glad you’ve got a good support network as well

Wow @Napssavelives that's truly awful. What is it with men who won't talk about things first? Keeping everything crossed for you that he comes to his senses and realises what a tremendous fuck up he's making of things.

Checking in again here, I am having a rough few days and I just want to curl up and cry. My blood sugars are mental, the medication I'm on for it is giving me gas, cramps and the runs, combined with the constipation from the anti-sickness is making me feel like I am desperate to go but nothing happens. My 20 week scan is tomorrow, and I am really anxious about it.

I haven't felt much movement to reassure me, despite feeling movement from 14 weeks with DD. I will be asking about placenta location vs feeling movement. Tomorrow I see diabetes team, and will be asking for a referral to genetics as my mother brought up an issue that probably does need checking after all (I declined testing previously in this pregnancy and last!). The diabetes clinic didn't have an early enough appointment for me, so said to turn up at 1 and they will "try and squeeze me in" before my scan. Pfffft. yeah right.

@Napssavelives I'm so sorry. My ex walked out on me like that 1 month after we had bought a house together and I remember the feelings of despair and being overwhelmed. Look after yourself and talk to us and your support network. Hugs xx

I'm really nervous about my 20 week scan (2 weeks today). I didn't enjoy my 12 week one as they didn't really tell me what was going on, just spoke in medical jargon to each other and pressed down so hard it was painful as needed a wee so bad. Is the 20 week similar?

For all those that haven't heard the heartbeat, I actually text my MW yesterday to ask to go in and hear it as I had some bleeding after sex at the weekend. She fitted me in and I heard it loud and clear, made me feel much better. She wrote in my notes 'listened to heartbeat due to anxiety'. So I think if you request it they will do it - I felt like a bit of a nuisance but was so relieved I don't care!

@rollerskaterdata glad the scan went well! I have mine next week.

@Napssavelives so sorry to hear you are going through this, don't feel you have to be strong, take the time to process what you are feeling and if possible try and look after yourself (eat, sleep), to grow the little bean inside of you. You'll get through this no matter what the outcome is x

@Napssavelives I'm SO sorry you are going through this, here for a handhold whatever happens in the days and weeks that follow. So utterly shit to drop this on you (and backdate it...) while you are just left to wonder WTF to do next.

FAO anyone who’s interested Lidl have some maternity clothes in at the moment, I got some maternity jeans for £8 which is good for me as I don’t really wear jeans often.

I've been thinking about you all day, napssavelives. I hope that you're doing okay. Or as okay as you can be right now.

@rollerskaterdata glad to hear the scan went well.

I have mine tomorrow and I'm getting nervous. I know in general, the chances of them finding anything is low. But with all the medication I had to take/couldn't take, plus the failed Harmony test, I feel like my risks are higher.

@Napssaveslives thinking of you, I hope things take a positive turn

Thanks ladies. GL to those with scans tomorrow and in the coming weeks.

@Napssavelives how are you feeling today? X

I’ve cried a lot. He’s home, still doesn’t know if he wants to make things work. Beed to find a way to co exist until he decides if he wants to try make things work. I feel in limbo. Heartbroken and I just want to be with him.

I’m so sorry Naps. Please take care of yourself and do whatever you need to in order to go on with your day to day life. If you need to stay with a friend or relative, do it. You need support, not this.

I haven’t got any family . I just wish he wanted to make things work instead of him not knowing. I cried so hard my belly hurt last bight

@Napssavelives I'm thinking of you x

My friend says I need to speak to my midwife but I’m so ashamed . There must be something really wrong with me for him to want to leave me when pregnant . I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, when I’m not with my kids I sob. I can’t see he light at the end if this tunnel. I’m utterly heartbroken

@Napssavelives No, you really do need to talk to someone about this, and your midwife would be a very good place to start. There’s nothing wrong with you which is making him say he wants to leave now. Pregnancy is a difficult time, and can put a lot of strain on a relationship, but if I were to say there was something wrong with one of you, I wouldn’t say that that person was you.

He might not have intended to be cruel by coming out with this now - he was probably hoping things would improve - but it was cruel. He should have told you how he felt while you were trying at the very minimum. And I wish that he simply didn’t feel that way in the first place - I know that it would have been heartbreaking whenever it happened. I can’t imagine how bad you are feeling. But this is not on you. This is on him.

Sending you hugs.

@Napssavelives no no no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you - repeat this to yourself as often as you need to until you believe it - please my lovely. This must be so so hard especially if your children don't fully know what's going on (I don't know their ages but they probably know something's happening) and you're having to hold it together.
Also agree that you should speak to someone - start with your midwife and please don't be ashamed, you've done nothing wrong. My sister lost her husband when she was pregnant with DC3 (a different situation of course, but still) and was very well supported with mental health care - and yes, she had medication which was safe for her growing baby. Do whatever you need to do but remember your priorities right now are your baby, your children, and your mental health. Sending lots of love to you

My kids are 4 and 5. I go from desperate ness, can’t stop sobbing to so angry. Really beed to stay calm for this baby. He’s taking the kids to school today and I’m going to go out before he gets home so I don’t have to see him.

@Napssavelives you mentioned you see a therapist, are you in regular contact or can you make an emergency appointment? That as well as talking to your midwife is important. You have NO REASON to be ashamed - you wouldn’t think that of someone else going through this. I know it’s hard but you need to be kind to yourself. If having him in the house is currently not helpful to you you can ask him to leave again, even if it’s only for a short period. Lots of love to you.

@Kescilly thinking of you today for your scan, let us know how it goes.

Hi guys! I have been a bit of a lurker on here but am expecting my first baby on 4th June and we found out just before Christmas that it's a little girl. I have been midwife led up to this point but have had a couple of bleeding incidents and as I'm rh negative have had to go up to the maternity triage each time to get anti D. I got a letter in the post yesterday asking me to attend a consultant appointment the day after my 20 week scan, no one had mentioned this to me previously and I was just wondering if anyone has any idea why this could be and if this means I'm being moved to consultant led? It's made me very nervous that there's something wrong.

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Hi, and welcome.. congratulations on ur little girl.. I wouldn't worry, there is a few of us on here who r consultant led (including me) this can just mean they'll keep an extra eye on you.. maybe a couple extra scans which isn't a bad thing 😬

I made an emergency appointment on Monday and seeing her again today. He took the kids to school and I’ve gone out before he got home so I don’t have to see him. Trying to protect the baby by protecting myself. I’m trying to keep things normal for the kids so he kinda had to stay, at least on a weekend. Thankfully he’s gone again today back Friday bight.

Exactly what @Spargle and @toomanyflatwhites said. None of this is your fault and I'm so sorry you're having to go through it now. I'm really glad you've managed to get in touch with your midwife and she's able to see you soon. Hopefully they'll put all the correct support in place for you ASAP. Massive hugs to you and you're not alone, I'm thinking about you too xx

@Kescilly @SassehMonsta hope your scans go well today, let us know!

I'm 20 weeks today, yayeeeee and booooo! Yaye because I'm halfway through but boo because I'm only halfway through!!

Ladies I've had a bit of a scare and was wondering if anyone could tell me if this is normal. I had just started showering when I suddenly felt very faint and nauseous. I've felt a little lightheaded when taking a shower before (only during pregnancy) but not like this. I really thought I might pass out.

I came out and felt like I needed to drink a lot of water and lie down.

I haven't had much nausea at all during my pregnancy, so that was very abnormal for me. Is this a low blood pressure thing? At my appointment a month ago it was 100/65, so not dangerously low I think.