December 2018 Babies - Thread #5 - The Births

[MagicalCreatures]

Hi girls.
Here’s the new thread.
I’ll upload the spreadsheet again too.
Let’s get these baby’s out.
😘

@MagicalCreatures also has Brady got a bit of tongue tie maybe?
Oliver has one and really struggled taking his bottle at first, could only use dr browns teats because they're a better shape for him, they're longer and a bit more wobbly if that makes sense.

I feel a bit jealous of DH sometimes too, he can just jump in the shower whenever as I'll be minding the baby etc but when he's at work I have to juggle Casper whilst trying to shower, do housework etc. I know he's working and I'm on mat leave though so I shouldn't complain but I underestimated what a hard job it is looking after a baby all day alone. And I've got an older DD so I've done it before, lol.

@Athers666 it's hard graft isn't it, I haven't even started tidying the house yet and I was up at 5... sounds awful but the days are sooo long with a baby, yeah I get very jealous my OH comes home goes the gym then comes home and has a bath and then plays on his PlayStation, when it's my "turn" to have a Bath Oliver cries and I feel like I have to rush to get back to him, I don't even manage time to wash my hair most of the time...
and ohhhh myyy!! The washing! I can't keep up with it all!

@December2018 lol yes the endless washing, flip's sake it just piles up so quickly! We have no drier which makes it ten times worse...managed to peg the towels out on the line today as it's quite a nice day, wohoo!

Casper today 😍

@Athers666 he's soooo handsome!!!

I'm only just this minute tidying & put a wash on.... guess what my OH is doing...
Sleeping!!! 😤

Here's my little poorly cheeky! 😊

Bless him. Get well soon Ollie! He's soooo cute!

Do anyone else's little ones get really dirty nails even 10 mins after bathing them? I trim them all the time and they still get full of... god knows what lol

@December2018 ha yeah! Quite often...like how?!
Feeling kinda down today and tearful, like the post birth baby blues are back. It's just such hard work and I hate not knowing if I'm doing anything right. Can't quite put my finger on it but just lost confidence in my ability to look after him well. I dunno maybe I'm just tired lol.

@Athers666 I'm sorry your feeling like that hun, I think we all have those days I was a bit emotional yesterday, I couldn't get anything done around the house and every time I moved to try and do anything Oliver cried and it was just so exhausting
Would family/friends maybe take Casper for a few hours so you can have a bit of space, go out and maybe have a coffee or just even for a walk, I think sometimes we just need a little bit of space, I went out for the day with my sister today and my OH had Ollie and I feel so refreshed
Big hugs, I'm always here if you need a chat xx

@raysan1 sorry your fella is like it aswell. To be fair I think most men are. I’ve got a friend who’s going through the exact same thing as me at the moment too.
Though he has improved since I told him how I felt and he is still better. Hasn’t reverted back yet so fingers crossed.
@Roomarmoset weirdly, the last 3 nights, Brady has had his last feed and then gone 5 hours. It’s bliss. Though he’s such a noisy sleeper that he wakes me up every couple of hours gurgling anyway, and each time I thought he was going to scream for a bottle so I went and made one only to come back in the room and him be fast asleep again.
I really hope you backed up all your photos on your phone. That really frightens me. That’s the only problem about taking pics on our phones these days.
@December2018 poor Ollie. It’s horrible when they’re not well. And No, Brady doesn’t have tongue tie. They checked it loads of times.
Sorry your feeling like that about yourself. I just keep telling myself that my body was a sacrifice I had to make to have my little Boy. And if I had the choice again to either have my figure or Brady, I’d choose him every time. You can get it back in time. When these bubbas are less dependant and we have more time to ourselves.
@Athers666 I totally underestimated how hard it was going to be too. Remember how I was at the beginning? I was a mess and constantly questioning whether I was capable. I even text my mum and told her to come take him because I wasn’t doing a good enough job and I couldn’t cope.
It’s so lonely being at home by yourself aswell. I’m lucky that I’ve got a ton of friends and family around me. I’m busy most days and since I got my confidence in leaving the house, I’m doing much better. We’re new to this. Don’t be hard on yourself. I still have emotional days. Lonely days and days where the relalisation that my old life is gone forever kicks in. It’s bloody hard. And the men don’t get it. Their lives don’t change at all. My OH still goes to the gym, plays golf, gets his sleep, watches his programmes. But I get the best snuggles.
Brady is going through a mummyfied stage at the moment and though I don’t get a lot of time to myself, I secretly love that I’m the only one he snuggles into and calms for. 😂

Today's the day guys!
Ollies having his jabs 😖
2:40 and I'm bloody dreading it

Good luck Ollie! Xx
Thank you guys. I'm doing ok, just feel under so much pressure to be supermum I guess, although only from myself!

@December2018 how did you get on today?

Luckily my phone survived the washing machine and I've made sure all my photos are backed up.

I have the joys of taking the cats to the vet tomorrow for their annual vaccinations. One hates being picked up so I'm looking forward to that battle in the morning 😂

@Roomarmoset he's screamed when he had them, and then I cried like a girl 😂
He's got a fever now tho and is very grumbly but calpol is helping

Hi all - hubby came home late today and i plonked Amber on him and went to the gym!! #assertive

@Athers666 hope your feeling abit better. @December2018 how’s little one doing now. @raysan1 good for you. Hope you enjoyed it. Well here’s abit of reading for you all. Coming from someone who clearly thinks too much (Bipolar) and hopefully it makes you all think ‘thank f I’m not crazy like her 😂
Well life really is a rollercoaster of emotions isn’t it. I’ve been doing so much better but have had a really emotional couple of days.
Brady gave me an awful night after a few pretty good ones. And the next day I just cried all day.
Then yesterday, after a better night and morning with him, I was able to get ready and looked forward to going for a walk along the seafront with my mum. We stopped for lunch where there was a group (5) of mums with their newborns sitting opposite. I found myself comparing everything. I upset myself so much.
Firstly, I was upset that clearly they all met at an NCT class or something coz there was probably only a matter of weeks between them. But I couldn’t afford those classes so don’t have anyone with babies the same age as mine. I’m lucky that all my friends had babies last year but there’s about 3-6 months between them.
Then I noticed how they were all about the same age as me (31) maybe abit younger and all had fabulous figures. Even though I’ve already said to people it doesn’t bother me. But seriously, these girls were SLIM and fashionable.
One even had her nails done. I’m a god damn nail technician and I can’t even find the time to cut my toenails. It’s easier for me to buy a bigger fing shoe size.
I felt like a failure because their babies looked younger then Brady, the oldest looked maybe the same age as him and here they were all out, looking fab and like they’ve got everything under control getting on with their social lives.
They were all feeding them and none of them screamed. I fed my poor little boy that has severe colic and he screamed the sky down.
2 were breastfeeding. I get really jealous when I see women breastfeeding because I wanted too so badly and it killed me that he wouldn’t latch. He wouldn’t have such bad colic if he could have. I feel like I failed at that too and feel like I’m missing out on a massive bonding moment with him.
They all had expensive prams, I couldn’t afford one, even though I don’t have expensive taste anyway and wouldn’t buy one costing £1000 even if I had the money. I imagined that if they can all afford those prams then they can probably afford to have a whole years maternity where I have to go back after just 4 months and it’s killing me the thought of leaving my little boy.
And the little boy who looked the same age as Brady was practically holding his head up. So then I’m thinking that Brady is behind in development and I must be doing something wrong.
He’s also dropped a centile in weight. So they’re worried about that now.
What the f* has happened to me.
I ended up leaving my mum after lunch feeling thoroughly depressed x

@magicalcreatures Oh dude I totally get the comparing to others thing. It's so hard not to isn't it! You're doing an awesome job though with Brady!
I'm doing better now, but Casper still will not be put down ever which is just so draining!

@MagicalCreatures a massive hug for you. You are doing the best you can at a time when you're exhausted, hormonal and it feels like the world and his wife is judging you (they aren't, but it sure as hell feels that way). I wish I had something constructive to say... babies can drop centiles for all sorts of reasons, and it sounds like Brady's feeding has been such a battle but you're still pushing on fighting for him. That is a great Mum right there!

I will say that I am a 31 year old Mum who has had people say I look glamorous / like I've got it together and I want to laugh in their faces and invite them round to see my house which is covered in 80000 muslins and watch me mindlessly eat unhealthy food because I am so. Tired. All. The. Time. When I see a Mum out and about who looks either tired or like shes killing it, I assume she doesn't have it together either. My (rambling) point is we're doing the best we can x

New to this thread--just had my second at 39, after an eight-year gap! My eldest is enjoying being a big sister. Hope you are all enjoying your babies. :D

@Athers666 do you mean quite literally Casper won’t let you put him down. Still even now? How do you get anything done. And what about sleep. Will he let you put him down at night to bed? I’m not surprised that it’s draining.
@kaytees I can laugh at myself really. I know it’s totally normal to feel this way. It’s just funny what it does to us when we don’t feel 100% ourselves.
I do get told all the time that I look great. And like you I want to laugh in their faces. We don’t see ourselves how others see us.
@Kokeshi123 welcome Hun. How are you doing? X

Hope everyone's ok
Got Casper's immunisations tomorrow, eek!
And then next week we have a hospital appointment so they can address his weight gain as he has dropped centiles. He's breastfed at the moment so I feel so rubbish about myself. Like I've failed him. No idea why his weight gain isn't good enough and feel terrible about it. They will probably suggest a formula top up but I'm scared he'll refuse a bottle, he won't take a dummy he just spits it out.

Hey @Athers666 you're not falling at all. We're all doing a good job, it's just so tough. Good luck with the immunisations I'm sure it'll be fine. See what they say at the hospital, they should be able to give you some advice.
We've been at the doctors today, Ava has been screaming for about 3 days. It got to the point that she was struggling to catch her breath. The doctor said it's probably colic and we just need to "ride it out". So helpful 🙄 we bought some colief so fingers crossed that helps her. I cried a lot today, really struggling.

Failing not falling!

Thank you @roomarmoset. Hope Ava feels better soon! Hate it when the drs are not very helpful. Mine certainly wasn't at the six week check. She didn't even ask about my stitches or how I was doing. Even though the letter said the appointment was for both of us. Rubbish.
Hugs to Ava x