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[SoozC]

Calling all up-duffed Yammers! Come and continue the swearing and the love on our pregnancy thread, and let us never forget how lucky we are!

Urgh.. stupid phone! Id written a pretty long post and pressed a button with like the side of my hand or something which wiped the whole thing!!! Gah! Anyway as i was saying...

I used to go and see this lady just over a year ago who was really great.. she really helped me see another side of my issues and helped me to work out which battles were worth fighting etc. The only problem is she was quite expensive and im not sure i can afford more sessions with her.

Ive enquired about reflexology too as used to love it.. but stopped going as i was worried that it would harm the developing baby in the first few months.

I do have my next midwife appointment in the next few weeks so will definitely mention my low moods to her to see if there is a scheme or something that i can go on, if it hasnt gotten any better.

I should also commit myself to more exercise.. like twice a week or something. I keep putting it off coz i worry that the night i go swimming will be the night i get to spend time with DH. Lol (plus ive not really felt like exercising.)

Everything.. or at least most things just feel like such a struggle.

I think DH and i need a holiday.. just him and i with like no phones or contact with the outside world. Bliss (but such a pipe dream. Lol)

Please do talk to your midwife Pink they will help. You dont have to wait for your appointments either just call.

Could you visit the relative too some nights? Not ideal but at least you wouldn't be alone so much. Unless it's ExW or something awkward I'd think then you'd get the journey to chat and get out of the house.

Limpboy has woken after a 6.5 hour stretch! He's a star sleeper atm but 6.5 feels like a miracle, especially as he's already falling back to sleep. Long may it last!

Yeah i could go round more.. but to be honest its so depressing. At least when I'm at home i can try and relax.. do stuff to keep my mind off things you know? Plus coz of work timings etc.. id turn up when hes already there.. and i end up having to leave before him because i get tired and he doesnt want to leave, which is horrible!
Sorry.. i know i keep bumping off everyones suggestions. I dont mean to.. its just such a shite situation that we are in and we cant see a way out of it. I think if i didnt feel so damn tired all the time, i would be less emotional and be able to cope a bit better.

Glad to hear you had a good sleep.

@Pinkemi for you. We fought for this baby and went through a very difficult few years ttc and when I was around 8 weeks I totally freaked. I thought I'd made such a massive mistake and it all felt too real, I even started looking up other options as I didn't want to continue with the pregnancy. My sister forced me to call the midwife and she was so lovely to me. Everyone rallied around me and I got so much support and nobody thought I was going to be an unfit mother because of my wobbles (I was convinced they would) and most importantly, after a horrible two weeks, those feelings passed. I suffer from low moods, always have and pregnancy can really aggravate those emotions. I still have some days where I'm just sad and weepy but I know it's just the hormones now, but when it was at its worst I would of put money on it not being hormones and actually being me realising I had made a mistake (I was wrong).

My Midwives were brilliant, non judgemental and supportive and because I asked for help, they now know to keep an eye and give that extra little bit of support which could be a lifesaver for someone. Don't be scared to talk to them! Hope it gets better for you soon

@maddiie3 thank you for telling me that. Its good to know that im not the only one who is struggling. I feel so guilty coz we like you have fought for years to get here.. and im now like.. ahhh! To be fair its more the loneliness i struggle with at the moment.

Ill give my midwife a call then.. maybe later on today when my friends have gone home.

So this morning I called my midwife team. They have got me to self refer myself to like a "well being" team. The other route was talking to my GP and getting them to either talk about medication (which I really dont want to take) or signing me off for a bit. Being signed off would help with my tiredness, but Im not sure if it would help with everything else.. seeing as its loneliness I'm trying to beat... you know?

Well done Pink for taking the first step, that's the hard bit over with. Did they explain what the Well-being Team are? Or what they can offer?

How is everyone doing? Sooz I've been thinking of you when I'm up in the night although I've got to admit I'm actually not that much, as boy is still only up once or twice now and managing good 6/7 hour stretches. Means he spends a lot of time tanking up in the afternoon and early evening but I'll take that.

Any progress on your wellbeing team, Pink?

Not heard a peep from them yet.

I did call my GP though who recommended that i took the rest of the week off work, ao have been off since yesterday.

Have been trying to pick up my needlepoint again to try and de-stress. Also had an argument with DH (it started as a discuss) and hopefully going forward he will keep me in the loop a bit more, so i dont feel completely abandoned. He seems to have taken it on board, coz even though he was away all evening again.. he messaged to let me know. Baby steps.

Ive been spending most of my time trying to catch up on sleep. Also bought a notepad to have by our bed.. so for any very bad dreams.. i cam write them down and hopefully forget about them!

Thanks, Limp, the boy is still up a lot in the night. I get 2 hours at the beginning then it's awake every hour. So tired and I don't look forward to nighttime like I used to (I think instead of enjoying a good book then having the oblivion of sleep, it's now sitting awake alone in the dark trying not to sleep and it's lonely and I'm so tired).

We stayed at my parents' the other night and my mum had the boy through the night, bless her! I got a six-hour stretch but still felt tired the next day. I think because I still have a deficit.

I'm just hoping he starts to sleep a little longer each time soon. I could really do with more sleep.

for Sooz - I don't know how you're surviving, hope it gets better soon x

@SoozC sorry to hear of your struggles Hope little man gets better soon!

So still not heard anything from the well being team... which is slightly annoying I have to admit.

Got my 16 week midwife appointment today so I am going to mention it to her.

Hope everyone else is doing okay?

That's annoying Pink defo speak to your midwife. Are you feeling any better anyway?

Keeping it all crossed for you Sooz, sleep deprivation is total torture and I hear you re the lonely night shift it sucks. Limpboy changes his routine every week but is pretty good but I spent long hours awake with my DD for many months, you have my sympathies.

Do we have any due dates soon? I can't remember!

Hope you're feeling better @Pinkemi Sorry you're not getting fat! It's a shame how different things are handled in different health boards and areas. Hope they get back to you soon 

Hope you're doing okay too @SoozC

I'm just chugging along. Still got HG so in and out of work soon. I've got a bump now though which is exciting! But overall still hating every second.. feel awful after desperately wanting this for so long but I had no idea pregnancy would make me so bloody ill. Just holding onto the fact it'll all be worth it..

@Pinkemi sorry you're not getting far ** not fat!!

How was your appointment Pink?

39+1 here. Still feel pretty ok until nighttime. Insomnia has well and truly kicked in. Awake at 00:00, 02:00 (for a wee, obv) and then from 04:00 until now. Can't move in bed without sharp pains in my pubic area. Which is fun.

I've spent the afternoon with women telling me how awful the first two months are, and how I'm basically going to be sobbing, in pain and desperate. So that was nice. 🙄

Thanks guys, still much the same here. 😴

Hope you hear from the wellbeing team soon, Pink.

Sorry you're so unwell, Maddiie. I can't offer advice, only sympathy 😯

Ooh, Wonky, 39+1!!! I had the boy at 39+3. Keep posting. If you go quiet we know you're in labour! Don't worry about people telling you how horrible it'll be; it honestly won't be. For all I was sore and emotional and I'm so tired, it's been truly wonderful and worth every blessed moment!

I've had EWCM the past two days. Funny how my instinct was to want to track it and ensure I dtd with DH. It's going to be odd not having such a close relationship with my cycle; it was my life for over 2 years, day in, day out.

@SoozC Hope you manage to get some more sleep soon. How old is your boy now?

@Pinkemi I hope you manage to get some support soon

@WonkyDonk87 Ooh exciting! Will be keeping an eye out for updates. Are you all ready?

29 weeks here, not much going on here apart from heartburn and acid reflux. We're going on a babymoon next week and I can't wait to have a break from work!

Thankyou Sooz, I'm pretty sure they had good intentions One is a very good friend so it'll be more fool her if I am an emotional wreck - it'll be her looking after me.

As ready as I think I can be Hope. Babymoon sounds lovely, hope you're packing plenty of gaviscon!

Gaviscon! I had two bottles on the go, one for upstairs and one for downstairs/going out. I would swig from them when needed, such bad heartburn so much of the time! At least as soon as he was born it stopped

Yes! All the Gaviscon! I have bottles by the bed, in the kitchen and at my desk in work as well as tablets in my handbag and laptop bag!

Glad to hear it does go away!

Just to let you know that Nathaniel Peter was born this afternoon by c section at 8lbs 8. All induction methods failed to work, so we opted for a section, which turned out to be a great thing as he had his cord wrapped round his neck twice and if we'd pushed the vaginal birth path he'd have been in real trouble.

Anyway, he's fully gorgeous, feeding like a champ and celebrated his birth by pissing in the midwife's face

Congratulations @Si1ver! 🎉🎉🎉 Gosh that's such a scary thought - it's as if he knew to hold on until you decided for the section. Going to be a smart one for sure!
Hope you and the midwife have recovered x

Oh congratulations Si1ver!!! I'm so pleased for you both after your ttc journey. I'm sure he's absolutely gorgeous! xx

Congrats @Si1ver, what lovely news! xx