@nightmanagerfan, constantly having to cancel social engagements is a right pain. Do hope you feel better soon as well- how far along are you now?
@marmite2018, I try to aim for a "chase assertively but don't worry" policy. I think usually not hearing is a good sign but you still have a right to find out for sure.
@melissa112 Apparently listening to heartbeat isn't a full "wellbeing" check, as it's only a point in time, so nice guidelines don't recommend it, only a full scan would count. And I didn't have a scare as such as there was no bleeding or anything so they wouldn't scan. (Which I agree would be overkill.)
Totally get their rationale, it's just a bit frustrating because they've been banging on about my mental health nonstop (when I've felt well in myself!) insisting they can come round for more support if i feel i need it etc etc. So from my perspective that was pretty much why I was asking, a purely emotional reassurance visit with a bit of placebo heartbeat because I know how I tick mentally and that that'd put me on an even keel. So it's a bit lame to ask for that support and get a no.
Tbh I think my primary midwife would have done it, she seems quite in tune with emotional stuff. But she's just phasing into the team as a new member so has to run everything by and learn all the processes from what was meant to be my primary mw, who I got a much less compatible vibe off when I met her. Guess the upshot is that I lucked out not being with her!
Sorry, this turned into a novel, but helped me process it a bit writing it all out, I think!