December 2018 Babies - Thread #4

[MagicalCreatures]

Here we are again. New thread.
And here’s the link to the spreadsheet.

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1-Bt6hXlkeIXp1emEfe6GfXKJFa2c1tfzADIp2ZKExAo

Awww cake! We've got one booked for the 6th October and all the family are joining us too I'm very nervous too ha!
I don't know why.... going for food after tho, looking forward to that 😜
It's so exiting!
Don't get me wrong I know I look pregnant no doubt about it, and I love pregnancy and feeling my baby wiggle & move is just amazing on so many levels, but ignorant people just annoy me!
... on a plus side tho people are always feeding me in work 😂😂
Omg I seen this and I have to post it.... photo incoming...
This is me literally trying to get out of bed 😊

Haha @balalalala I am now in week 30 and my baby is INSANE - trying to escape I’m sure. I feel him all day now. Can see him punching me through my top.

Also - a new thing that happened last week - if I poke a bit of my tummy a few times, he comes to where I am, and he pokes me back!!!!!

@December2018 I just snort-laughed at 'I didn't know my arse and thighs could be pregnant too' - I hear ya! Such lovely stretch marks, too 😒

I keep being told 'oh but you're so small, I didn't realise you were 6 months' and it's making me increasingly paranoid - with my first I was huge and I hated the comments on that too, there's no way to win! I've put on over 5kg so I know I am growing but ugh, it's stressing me out. Kinda looking forward to growth scans in last trimester!!

I have my 'birth options' appt this Friday - those who have had previous pregnancies, if you've had one of these appts and could tell me what to expect it'd be much appreciated (have been referred by consultant as looking to have ELCS)

@peachesarenom Oh I'm having growth scans due to my previous small baby. I was so nervous beforehand but it was actually nice in the end as she took time to show us everything in detail, spine, head, hands, toes etc. The 20 week scan felt a bit rushed. Good luck with yours next week!

Bit of an update..
Now week 28.. almost 29.
Jack has been super active last few days, still think he's breech due to where I'm feeling him wiggle. Got my anaesethic appointment this morning. Was diagnosed with GD a few days ago and was meant to see the diabetes MW today but my daughter moved my phone (that was unhelpfully on silent) that literally had all my cards in the case so I was stuck indoors. I need to learn to have actual cash sometimes and not rely on my bank card alone! 😳 I ransacked the flat looking for the bloody thing.. so stressed and cue hormones I burst into tears. She came home from school and reveals she's put it inside a box of tissues? She was very apologetic.. good job as I was fit to throttle her! 😂

Oh god @Gemsie1984 that sounds like a nightmare!

How did the appointment go?

@Stephisaur - it was a nightmare. Also not sleeping so super hormonal about everything so that didn't help with the situation.

Appointment went okay. Basically said if I stay the way I am - ie well controlled from a respiratory and cardiac perspective then they'll induce me at 38-39 weeks. I'll be given an epidural from the start as they don't want me to work hard in terms of pain as that might exacerbate my condition. Unfortunately they want to induce me in a HDU bed as I'll be on continuous cardiac and respiratory monitoring.. just got visions of being strapped to a bed for 12+ hours :(

If he remains breech and his growth continues on the upper percentiles then it'll be an offer of ECV at 36 weeks with a view to planned c-section. I know already I'll refuse the ECV so it'll be a section.

Worst case scenario and I/Jack deteriorate in labour then it will be EMCS under GA and then time in ITU.

So basically it all depends on how we both do in the coming weeks. They booked me in for another scan at 31 weeks and then taking it from there..

@Gemsie1984 the HDU bed sounds shit :/

Is there no way you could at least be on a ball or something next to it? I thought they were meant to be encouraging more active labours :(

Hopefully it'll all go well and all this worry will be for nothing x

@Gemsie1984 what a time of it you're having! Hope you're ok x
Just had my whooping cough jab, if anyone has it coming up soon and is worried, don't be, it doesn't hurt at all and isn't scary 👍

Feel for you regarding the hdu bed. It feels like it's going against your instinct to be strapped t the bed.

I was wondering if I could all your advice on a girls name;it's Merryn Pronounced mer-in.
I found it in a baby book and I keep going back to it! I always thought I would know what t call a little girl but I'm stumped! Merryn is the only one that really sticks in my mind!

I think that's a really cute name and very unique.

@smorgasborgen yeh I like it too. Very unique. You won’t get 8 of those in the playground.
@Gemsie1984 it doesn’t sound ideal but compared to a few weeks ago, it seems abit more positive in terms of the fact you now have more of an idea of what to expect and a plan put in place.
Sorry you’ve got GD too. That’s frustrating on top of everything else. X

@Gemsie1984 with my second I was induced with epidural from the start and strapped to the bed. It wasn't so bad being strapped to the bed, we watched tv and chilled out. Granted my birth didn't end with the Vbac I wanted due to other issues but the actual process isn't so bad - just boring.

Can I get abit of a virtual hand hold please girls.
I’ve not been hormonal or emotional at all through my pregnancy but my DH has been pushing my buttons and I’m now feeling like I’m at breaking point.
I’m feeling very teary today and I’ve had enough. My anxiety is through the roof x

Magical I feel you girl!
Sending lots of hugs and hand holds your way
.... our OHs just don't understand do they inconsiderate shits (most of them)
Mine does no housework what so ever, finishes work at 3 and goes straight the gym, comes home and relaxes..
Drives me fucking insane (pardon my French)
If they could be pregnant for 1 week they would soon realise how hard it is to lug a hoover up and down the stairs washing basket in the other hand whilst carrying a bump..... pffftt!
Also feeling very emotional & teary hun so your not alone... I'm here if you need a rant xxx 💐

Oh ladies. Sending massive hugs to you all!!! They say as you near the end of pregnancy hormones go crazy. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. Find something nice to do for yourself today. Maybe a nice bubble bath, or a little shopping spree. Or go get your hair or nails done. Just something for yourself. Xx

Sending you lots of handholds and positive thoughts. I'm very lucky to have such a supportive dh who is the one that insists I'm doing too much!

Today I'm knackered. Really long day at work yesterday and had to get antibiotics from the doctor today for an infected cyst that's been really painful. Planning a nice relaxing afternoon with a bath and maybe a film as dh and I have booked a proper babysitter rather than dp/pil for the first time tonight and we're heading out!

I haven't been on here for ages, I just need to get a load of feelings out and haven't got anywhere else to do it.....

Mum went in for her operation today (she has aggressive bladder cancer). They opened her up and found the cancer had spread so extensively that they can't operate. She can have radiotherapy that will buy her time but won't cure her, but she can't have it for 6 weeks because she needs to heal from where they opened her up today, by which time it will have spread further. She was supposed to have this op weeks ago under her private medical, but hey faffed about for weeks and ended up doing it on the NHS, and this is the result.

I'm so angry and broken, I don't know what to do with myself. She's in so much pain, she doesn't want to wait for radiotherapy, she just wants to go.

I'm sorry, but I don't have anyone to talk to in RL.

@RomPom I am so sorry. I am glad you can let it out here. Would hugely advise you get in touch with MacMillan or similar who can offer you proper support as a relative of someone going through this.

Awww rompom I'm so sorry hun I have no words....
I am sending you lots & lots of love tho and millions of hugs
Xxx

Oh @RomPom I’m absolutely devastated for you. What an awful time. We are always here for you. It must be extra difficult after believing there was hope and things looking on the more positive side. No wonder your angry and broken. Big hugs to you. Does this mean it’s terminal? And if so, have they given any indication of how long she has? X

@December2018 thanks for the support hun. I’ve really had enough with his temper and tantrums. What upsets me more then anything is his pride is clearly more important to him then the health of our unborn child coz he would rather see me stressed and unhappy (knowing it’s risking baby) then apologisenor own up to his actions. Men are so selfish!!!

Oh @rompom what devastating news for you. Thinking of you and your mum.

@MagicalCreatures They have offered radiotherapy, but all it will do is buy a bit of time. They won't tell her how long they think she has left. She's in a lot of pain and now has the equivalent of a c section cut to recover from. She still has tubes and bags, draining her kidneys, which I think are now there till the end. I don't think she wants to fight it anymore and as much as it hurts, I think I agree with her.

I'm so worried about keeping this baby safe now. I've had barely any sleep for 2 nights and now I have to fly over to Liverpool at 7am to see her. I only flew back home yesterday. I'm exhausted.

I'm so angry with her doctors. I'm so completely heartbroken for my daughter who isn't even 2 yet. She is really the only grandparent she has and they adore each other. She won't even remember her.

@RomPom I am so sorry, that is beyond cruel and knowing it could have been addressed earlier is heartbreaking. You must be so exhausted dealing with pregnancy already, trying to wrap your head around all of this is so much. Please do talk to us when you need to - you're doing an incredible job managing it but no one expects you to do it alone x

@RomPom How heartbreaking for you. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I second the vote that the MacMillan charity are good, when we went through similar with my late father in law my DH phoned their helpline numerous times and he really got a lot from their support. Although of course it's not right for everyone.
Also hugs to all on here having a tough time at the moment. Thank goodness for this thread to be able to say stuff we can't always say in real life.
So I'm now 28 weeks, can't believe it's the third trimester now! Finding work a struggle after going back from my time off sick and am not looking forward to another few months of it!