The March-ers (2019) #2

[frankiefumbles]

Eek! On thread 2 already...welcome over everyone!

@rab1991 and @Miami81 congratulations and I'm so sorry for all you've both been through. I'm constantly on knicker watch after my Mc in January. Had a smear of dark blood yesterday but nothing since so think it's left over from implantation (I'm 5+5). I seem to have bleeding from the other end now due to constipation - I had diarrhoea last week FFS!

Well ladies. I'm officially out.

After my scan last Wed where the Dr showed me a tiny bean and what appeared to be a heartbeat, I started the miscarriage that evening as I suspected. Its beyond me how it's possible for it to happen so quickly. But it did, and that's okay. Personally as I've said before...what will be will be. It obviously wasn't right. It hasn't yet completed but I hope it will do so naturally.

I had an interesting weekend of DH pretending nothing has happened but simultaneously getting some sort of man-miscarriage-flu at the same time as me that prevented him from being of any practical help in the house (poor man having a headache, how did he survive) and some uniquely helpful comments such as "I bet the internal scan prompted you to miscarry. You should never have an interval scan again", and the very best one from MIL "well clearly she overdid it, she's done too much. What can you expect it you go on holiday when you first find out you're pregnant, she shouldn't have gone. I hope you didn't have "relations". That can make it miscarry". I call bullshit.

Amongst that I've had amazing support from family and friends. I would absolutely tell these people next time. And there will be a next time. For us as a couple it's a huge relief we can conceive and so we will no doubt try again.

I'm going to miss you guys, especially those of you at the beginning of March who got me through the time I was in France. I'm going to dip out of the Facebook group, but those of you who have seen me on there feel free to PM on Facebook if there is anyone who just needs someone to talk to if you're going through the same thing and need to vent.

I'm chilled now and, personally for me, I'm going straight back on the TTC bandwagon. If I do get a BFP in the next couple of months then I'll be right back here to hassle you again and expect to come in as a late honorary member (!!)- I'll miss the Marchers ;) in the meantime I wish you all the absolute best in stickiness and healthiness. :) with love xx

@frankiefumbles so sorry for your loss. Your post even made me smile a little... I had visions of all the people you mentioned making their comments and you just shrugging them all off.

Wishing you all the very best for the future and hope you can join us again really soon.

Big hugs x

So sorry to hear that @frankiefumbles, glad your not letting the unhelpful advice get to you, wishing you the best of luck going forward.

I contacted my doctor's surgery today and the earliest booking in appointment isn't until I'll be nearly 11 weeks (only 5 atm) the issue bring that they only do 3 booking ones a week which clearly isn't enough, last time I got one at 7 weeks.

@frankiefumbles good to hear from you, although I'm very sorry to hear your news. You're absolutely right to feel confident that you did all you could for that bean, it just wasn't the right bean this time. Bullshit indeed to the rest! You did everything perfectly.

Wishing you the best of luck for ttc again and hope to see you here again soon. All the very best. X

Sorry frankiefumbles and especially for the dickhead comments you have had to suffer.
People are so inconsiderate sometimes.
Definitely come back as an honorary Marcher, I can’t remember if I said that already or just thought it!

frankiefumbles I’m sorry to hear your news I hope you are back with us very soon. Grrr to the dickhead comments some people do really have foot in mouth syndrome

@frankiefumbles So sorry for your loss and for having to deal with such unhelpful comments on top of it. People can be such dolts when they don't know how to cope with their own reactions to a painful event.

It sounds like you're taking a healthy and self nurturing attitude that I can only admire, and I wish you all the best on the next stages of your journey. Xxx

@frankiefumbles I'm so sorry to hear that and I'm gutted to see you go: it's odd how you can feel close to someone in such a short period of time. I really hope you're back here soon. I'm also sorry to hear about the dickgead comments: your MIL in particular needs to shut her mouth! Did she say that to your DH? I hope he put her straight.

@rab1991 and @Miami81 I'm so sorry to hear about your devastating losses. Any loss is painful but a late one is particularly cruel. I hope you both have super sticky means and find this pregnancy a healing process.

As for me, bit tmi but I have so much cm I am considering wearing a liner. 🤢

That should obviously be "super sticky beans" #fatfingers

@frankiefumbles what utter nonsense from your MIL. Not what you need, but you sound like you’re dealing with it very well. I hope you get a sticky bean soon xx

frankiefumbles so so sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope to see you back in here before my pregnancy is over
.all the best to you x

I have just experienced my first horrible dream! Hope this isn't the start of them . It was awful. I have been working 7 days solid - long hours as well. So maybe it's because I was exhausted hence having the after work map nap.

Also the past couple of days I've had more energy than i did last week and my symptoms seem to be going . No heart burn no bloating and no feeling sick. It worries me x

@frankiefumbles sorry to hear this, and the twatish comments to top it off. We are going to miss you, hope to see you back soon x

@frankiefumbles I'm so sorry to see you go. I can't get over the insensitive comments you're having to deal with. I hope you're back with us soon. xxx

@Sarahandduckarehigh I was thinking the same thing!

@Jenlou1992 try not to worry. Symptoms do come and go, with DS I had minimal symptoms in the first trimester and he was a very healthy bubba.

So sorry to hear your news is confirmed @frankiefumbles Don't mind MIL's comments....insensitive wagon. Rest up and get yourselves ready to have some fun while TTC again....as you said it's a relief to know you can conceive and you will again soon please god! Please come back and say hi xxx

@frankiefumbles I’ll miss you terribly. Thank you for all your kindness and support. Look after yourself and sending you all my love x

@frankiefumbles i am sorry about your news and the horrible comments by your family.

With my maternal health hat on, a few comments.

90pc of mc are caused by anomalies in the dna of the embryo. The comments are BS, ignorant and

A couple of studies have shown that paradoxically women who have a mc have a higher chance of carrying FT in their second pregnancy.

Take some time to heal and I hope you get another bfp in the next few months xxxxxxxxx

@frankiefumbles so sorry to hear the confirmation of your news. And I'm sorry you've had to deal with comments like those - please do take no notice! I will miss your posts please do come back as an honorary member, we will welcome you with open arms! Take care of yourself xxx

Hi and welcome @rab1991 and @Miami81 . Very sorry to hear what you have both previously been through, it's hard to even imagine just how tough that must have been. Wishing you both all the luck in the world this time around x

@frankiefumbles gosh, you have some rather ill-informed relatives! Glad you are able to take their silly comments in your stride. I hope your miscarriage does complete naturally. I was straight back on the TTC wagon too, and got this BFP pretty quickly. I hope it works out for you. Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk about it at all.

@Bluebelltulip eek, that's quite late on isn't it?! Hopefully it won't have a knock-on effect on scan dates.

@Jenlou1992 I know it's hard, but do try not to worry. Not everyone feels symptoms. The first trimester is a very weird, unreal-feeling time.

I went to see the GP yesterday who was very pleasant and referred me to the midwife service. He weighed me and took my blood pressure - blood pressure was low (104 over 70) but I hadn't been feeling faint and so he said that was fine. However, today I have been feeling dizzy and had a load of head rushes! Hopefully it will settle down.

I also had a much stronger line on my cheapy test this morning, which was cheering after a hideously disrupted night with DS!

@BadBadBeans my BP was low a couple of weeks ago too (5-6 weeks) with lots of dizziness and light-headedness but bounced back now so hope its the same for you too.

Just got back from my booking in appointment and officially been designated as high risk because of ds's medical history (stroke during childbirth causing seizures post-birth and resulting hemiplegia) which I guess I was expecting but still a little sad about it. Not about having consultant-led and more hands-on antenatal care, that's all to the good as far as I'm concerned, but I'm guessing it will also limit my options during labour and birth and I was hoping for a more natural experience this time around.

Hi all, wondered if I could join you all? I'm 6 + 5 with our first today, it's not been plain sailing so far as I've had some bleeding and pain. A scan on Monday confirmed there was a little bean there and we could see a flickering heartbeat, so fingers crossed it sticks. We had been told we might struggle to conceive but conceived first month of trying, which all seemed very easy, wasn't anticipating the amount of stress and heart ache the next few weeks would entail. My heart really does go out to those who have had losses.

I have had some days of appalling nausea but others where I feel OK. No appetite though and have lost about half a stone from where I just can't face eating, although I'm doing my best to force something down. My taste buds seem to have changed completely too, used to have a real sweet tooth but now can't get enough of savoury flavours! My work know due to the nature of my job and they have been great. Booking-in appointment is in just under 2 weeks. It's nice to have a space to chat openly about it as it's still early days so not many people know. Wishing you all all the best.

Apologies, realised I missed off other information.

Age: 25
Wiltshire
DC1
Due March 8th

@toastfiend hi!! I'm due 8 march too! Lol what a coincidence!

Im the total opposite, ive been eating so much food that i have gained weight already. I've lost two babies previously so im so looking foward to a successful pregnancy 😊😊😊😊