November 2018 #2

[BadBadBeans]

Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

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I'm not feeling well today - got a UTI confirmed by the Dr so I'm on antibiotics. I had to tell my boss at work in order to leave for the emergency appointment. :/ I'm really worried about the risk of miscarriage. Everything I've read says it's only a risk if it goes untreated, but I am getting abdo pain (probably the UTI) and I just can't shake the worry. It's a horrible feeling. Anyone had a UTI in their previous pregnancy and been totally fine?

@Picklesandpies That sounds amazing. 🤤Will have to put potato waffles on the shopping list! I'm currently cooking an entire garlic bread that I'm going to joyously eat by myself while I watch Father Brown on Alibi and DD naps. In my defence, it's been a very trying morning as DD was sick all over the living room and seems to have a virus of some description. Dealing with my own low-level bit persistent nausea while cleaning up someone else's vomit was not a particularly enjoyable experience. 🤢

Hope you get well soon @Emelene. Not had. UTI while pregnant myself so can't help you there, but I'm sure what you've read is right. As long as you've caught it and are now being treated you should be fine.

@sarahhh1984 (are you 33 like me?) The garlic bread sounds divine. The clearing up of vomit, less so! Sounds as though your plans are well deserved...

FYI Birds Eye Waffles are much superior to Tesco own (having put both through quality control) and I find the best bread for the job is Warburtons white (for the least nutritional value possible.) 

@Emelene I haven't had a uti in pregnancy but have had them a lot in the past. Foul at the best of times. I don't know whether you have 'the burning' but I found pouring warm water over said area whilst doing a wee was helpful. Also a good one to remember after stitches (although not straight away!)

Thanks @sarahhh1984 that's really useful information. I'll have to discuss it and see what they say at the booking in appointment.

So, I decided to do a test in my lunch break and I think it came back negative so now totally freaking out. I did pee all over it in my haste so it went all watery and blurry under the screen, so i don't know if that will of made a difference? I've also drunk quite a bit of water today and i'm only 4+3 so maybe my wee is too weak. I knew I shouldn't have done it... know I'm sat at my desk on the verge of crying :(

Can you just be not pregnant anymore?

@KW1987 If you're only 4+3 then you've probably diluted your urine a bit too much so please don't worry! Weeing all over the test can invalidate it too so my advice to you would be stop panicking (I know it's easier said than done) and then do another test with FMU tomorrow morning. I think you can safely ignore the test you've just done.

@Picklesandpies Yes, I'm 33 as well. Will be 34 once baba is here. Will be sure to follow your recipe for the sandwich to the letter!

Thanks @sarahhh1984, on a slightly calmer review I could see a faint line and then when I cracked it open (which I know you shouldn't really do) there is definitely a line, so I'm hoping its a mixture of being early, weak wee and me peeing all over it. Feeling slightly calmer now... Like you say I just need to retest in the morning. I knew I shouldn't have done it before I did it but I just had this urge!

@KW1987 Oh, I'm glad there was a line there! Re-test in the morning to set your mind at ease but, after that, I'd say keep away from the tests. Think testing after a BFP causes more panic than enough. Glad you're feeling calmer now.

Thank you @sarahhh1984, I think your right about the tests! The line on the test has now become a blur, but I spose that would be expected once you crack it open and throw it in the bottom of your handbag, so I've put it in the bin to stop myself looking at it and winding myself up. Hopefully I'll get an easily identifiable line in the morning and I can calm myself down a bit. Thank you for helping ease my mind, its hard at this stage when you don't have so many people to talk to!

@KW1987 I did another clear blue digital test a few days after my BFP and it said 'Not Pregnant' - did another a few days later and it was positive again. Think it very much depends on your wee at this early stage. Sure you are fine - do a first response tomorrow first thing and don't do like I did and get obsessed with the digital ones. They have caused me more anxiety than anything else!

Thank you @Picklesandpies. I'm gonna test in the morning, and considering its positive, I will not be going near another test this pregnancy!

I seem to have a massive anxiety about it all this time. Is anyone else struggling with it? Or have any tips on coping with it?

@KW1987 I get the anxiety - I really need to pee but I'm sitting holding it as I think I overdone it lifting things today and I'm terrified I will find blood as I have lots of cramps

Guess it's not going to change the outcome so of I should go!

Co incidentally I have had lots of UTI this past few months and I have just opened my post for an appt at hospital for ultrasound scan to investigate. I wonder will they cancel now I'm pregnant

Sorry to hear you are suffering with it too @confuddledconfudle.

It's hard, as like you say, worrying about all these things won't change the outcome. It's just hard to reign it in once the thought starts whirling away. I had some CBT at the beginning of last year and I think I need to go back and have a look at some of it because it definitely helped a lot at the time.

Welcome @pipsqueak126 :) The sickness might not get any worse... You never know! Mine with DS was worst around the 7 / 8 week mark, and got better from there - but I never actually threw up, so I was quite lucky I think.

@Emelene sorry to hear you are feeling rough :( The antibiotics will kick in really soon, and as you say, the most important thing is to get it treated. I should imagine it's quite common in pregnancy? I must admit I thought I had a UTI last night as I had a sudden and urgent need to pee that was very unlike me, and I still felt like I needed to pee even after I'd been. However, I'm totally normal today so I guess I must have just held on too long?! I am terrible at remembering to drink enough water in this cold weather - how do you guys manage your water intake?

@KW1987 sorry you had a scare with the pregnancy test. I personally would ONLY take a test with FMU to make sure that whatever I see is going to be as strong as possible. Also, 4+3 is really, really early so the line is going to be faint. I am attaching a picture of the 4 pregnancy tests I've taken this time. The first was at 4+1 (I think - I may be a day out on when my period started) and the positive line didn't show up until about seven minutes after I peed on it. Second is at 4+3. Third is at 5, and fourth is at 6+1 (today). They were ALL with FMU, and I hadn't gone for a wee during the night either so they were as strong as possible - and yet see how weak that first line is?! Regarding anxiety, I found CBT really helpful and if you have as well, then I would definitely spend some time revisiting it. I struggle a lot with anxiety about keeping my DS safe. For example: we live with his great-grandma, and yesterday I found out that she lost her hearing aid two days ago. I was then panicking before I went to sleep in case he had found the hearing aid and had somehow managed to remove the battery and swallow it (with nobody noticing - very unlikely as someone has an eye on him almost every second of the day). To be honest, I am still worrying about the damn thing but I have to accept that I just need to keep an extra-close eye on him until it's found. I find my anxiety very, very hard to deal with because it usually comes from a rational place (small children + small batteries = dangerous). I just can't seem to get my worries about these rational things down to the level that 'normal' people would worry about them, if that makes sense.

Thanks @BadBadBeans. I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself but I'm sure I'll perk up when the antibiotics kick in. Yes it's very common in pregnancy, my GP was lovely but not overly concerned. You get a longer course of antibiotics in pregnancy though compared to normal.

I've got myself into such a state I've booked a scan for this Sunday when I'll be 8 weeks to check everything is okay. Does anyone know of any free resources for CBT or what people have found good before?

Sorry ladies haven't caught up yet; quick question. As I was walking out of work before I got a weird pain across my pubic bone and now I have an ache very low down on the left hand side - advice? There was no bleeding when I went for a wee before but haven't been again yet.

Hi there! I’m 26, first pregnancy and 5 weeks tomorrow. Complete newbie to everything here so any support appreciated haha!

Fell first time trying so super lucky but I’m very anxious something may go wrong so turning to online community for reassurance/support as little one grows!

Thanks @BadBadBeans for the advice about the both the tests and the anxiety. I have calmed down a lot now and I'm feeling a lot more positive, and the helpful replies on here have really helped with that!

Sorry to hear your suffering @Emelene. Its hard to worry but if the doctor isn't concerned that is a great sign. I hope you start to feel better soon.

@GiveMummyTheWhizzer I don't know how far along you are but I have had a lot of aches and twinges down below and I've just put them down to my uterus stretching/moving/changing etc, could it be this?

Welcome @Jt1991!!! Lots of support and reassurance on here (as I've found today!)

@GiveMummyTheWhizzer I've had a few odd pains like this and did last time as well. Put it down uterus stretching. Also remember all your ligaments etc are softer now so even just moving a bit too quickly can pull them.

@BadBadBeans I'm dreadful with water too. Doesn't help that a) I'm a serial tea drinker and b) cold water seems to be setting off my nausea at the mo. I've found drinking cups of warm water (boiled in the kettle and then allowed to cool for a bit) has helped me drink more without making me feel sick. It's also great for helping with indigestion and trapped wind, even if it does taste a bit bland.

@Emelene I hope that the scan helps reassure you - I think that sounds like a good idea for you :) Regarding resources, I don't know of any free ones but I'll have a little look on my bookshelf and see what I would recommend. I probably most heavily relied on the photocopies given me during my CBT course though.

@GiveMummyTheWhizzer I've never had that so can't help... Maybe if it persists, call your GP / midwife for advice?

Welcome @Jt1991 ! I found Mumsnet an incredible source of support during my first pregnancy and I'm kind of hoping I can pay it back a bit now by being helpful / vaguely knowledgeable (about some things?!)!

@KW1987 glad you feel better :)

@sarahhh1984 have you tried putting a squeeze of lemon in the warm water? I find hot water a lot more palatable that way.

Well, I just rang my GP again (remember I rang them at about 4.5 weeks and got told by the receptionist to get in contact again at 8-12 weeks... Um, what?!?!) This time, a different receptionist answered and wanted to book me in to see a GP immediately. I asked if she was sure about this (given the first receptionist's response!) as I didn't want to waste anyone's time. She went to speak to the practice manager. Came back and said that the practice manager had told her that I MUST come and see the GP on Monday and get the ball rolling! Talk about conflicting advice . Anyway, glad that the process has started anyway - will help me feel more like it's real...

7+5 roughly now. Just odd as I've had no pains apart from the initial mild cramping at 5/6 weeks.

Thanks everyone. I will see how it feels tonight and give them a call tomorrow if I still feel sore. Early private scan scheduled for Wednesday in any case. Just a bit worried now.

@BadBadBeans Yep, sometimes I add a squeeze of lemon, although sometimes I find it causes me indigestion. Seems to depend on the time of day so in the evenings I just have plain hot water.

Sounds like the first receptionist you spoke to was acting under old guidelines or something. Could be worth mentioning when you see your GP to make sure all staff are up to date. I think I mentioned on the old thread, but my mw said current NICE guidelines are to see all expectant mums as soon as possible. Maybe that first receptionist didn't get the memo! Glad you can get the ball rolling now.

Thank you @Kw1987 and @badbadbeans .
I went to make a doctors appt but they don’t do them now! Straight to midwife at 8 weeks but because they only have a clinic once a week and I’m away for two of them, I’m not being seen until 10 weeks! I booked a private scan for 8 weeks but it seems like it's going to be a very long 3 weeks

Anyone else super thirsty? I’ve drank 2 litres of water today and still want more, is this normal? 😂