June 2018 #4

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts again.

June 2018 #3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3100612-june-2018-3

Glad it went so well xx

That's fantastic news @ElizabethLemon, How many weeks are you now? Very impressed with the care you've received too, sounds like your midwife is brilliant

Glad to hear it went well x

Pleased to hear it went well @ElizabethLemon! Sounds like you've got lots of support.

@ElizabethLemon, so glad it went well, fingers crossed all the way! ×××

Excellent news @ElizabethLemon! Keep us posted x

@Northernbeachbum I’m 37+2 today so there’s no concern about delivery as obviously lungs etc should be fully functional. At the moment he’s just sat there getting fatter and fatter, he’s already estimated to be 7lb 12oz! Almost 3lbs more than my 1st.

The consultant rang me just now and said she’d been liaising with the neurological and paediatric team and they want to meet with us before the birth to discuss what will happen after he’s born. This sent me into momentary panic because I suppose there is always the chance that they could have a more negative viewpoint as they will have wider knowledge and experience than the fetal medicine consultant we saw today. I will just be so relieved when he’s here, although I’ve resigned myself to the fact that we will most likely be living in a constant state of anxiety for a good while, even when he’s home and healthy.

Yes the level of care is truly fantastic. It makes me feel even more grateful and protective of the NHS.

@ElizabethLemon Glad it went well and fingers crossed baby stays put until everything is in place.

I'm currently 36 weeks and feeling like a whale. I have to walk a mile to take ds to preschool and if I walk too fast it feels like my insides and baby are about make an early appearance. 3 weeks to go til my elective and I feel so unorganized for another baby.

@Dinosauratemydaffodils yes I’m also at the stage of feeling like my whole bottom half is about to fall off!

@Elizabethlemon ah that's great so he can come out asap then! It sounds like they're being incredibly proactive which is great.

@dinosaurs I feel the same, massively disorganised and feeling massive

That’s great news @ElizabethLemon - sounds like they are really covering every base for you which is a good thing.

Yep, 36 weeks and feel like baby might fall out some days . Feeling organized as in everything is in the house for the baby.. might not be clean or in the right rooms tho

So, new late pregnancy symptom.....I'm really horny was not expecting that!! DP has been working a lot so will get a shock when I see him as I've been much less in the mood this past month

Ha northern, I’m impressed!! I’m far too much of a whale although there’s a now or never element to it though as will be out of commission for a while after

Wish I was feeling horny tbh I just feel like a beached whale at the moment, I normally have a high sex drive too so I really don’t feel myself.
Had to have a scan today (reduced movements again) and at 36weeks baby is already weighing 7lb4, they are predicting a 9lb odd baby again.
Hope everyone is doing ok today 😊

@Shutupanddance1 @jadeward89 when is your due date? I'm 36 weeks too, mines 12th June.

@jadeward89 oof, how do you feel about a possible 9lber? I'm very curious to hear from my MW how heavy she reckons mine is now.

@WreckItRach I’m due the 14th and I’m currently praying that baby comes early as my back is in agony 😕 I’m also feeling rotten, don’t feel like I’m any use to anyone least of all my 3 kids.
My youngest was 9lb8 so I’m not overly surprised that they are predicting another 9lber my daughter (middle child) was the smallest at 8lb9 so (as a mw said early on) “I grow them well!” Haha 😆 still not looking forward to labour though as my youngest was my longest labour by a long shot.

@WreckItRach I’m due on the 13th with an eviction notice date of the 20th if baby hasn’t arrived. I’ve already chatted to my OB and said if baby isn’t here by 41 weeks he can take it out. Mainly as I’m doing a VBAC and statistically I’m taking any chances.

Ahh @jadeward89 you really do grow them well 😂 sorry your back is awful.
@Shutupanddance1 that sounds like a good plan! At least you know you won't go too far overdue then.
Hopefully we will all have had babies before then!!

@Northernbeachbum good for you! We have pretty much given up in that department 😐.

@jadeward89 people keep telling me that big babies are easier to birth!

I had a call from the consultant midwife this afternoon to organise an appointment with the neurologist which was good, all booked. But...he’s said that actually the neuro and paediatric team now don’t think it’s necessary for me to have a c section! I explained to the midwife that I felt I still wanted one, she proceeded to tell me I had to consider the risks, prolonged recovery etc and that although csections are great there are best only when necessary for either Mum or baby 😐. She did say ultimately it’s up to me and that I will still be able to discuss this all with the obstetrician on Monday but I’m feeling nervous now that they won’t be as keen for it now there is no medical need.

Sorry feel like I’m hogging the thread! But I know a lot of you have had c sections before and some have requested them this time around. Do you think I’m right in wanting a c section even though the experts now don’t feel it’s necessary? I know no one can really answer this but I feel a bit like my head might explode at the moment!

@ElizabethLemon if you feel happier and safer then surely they should take that into account as you are the one having to go through it.
My easiest was my daughter but I then had pph (thankfully didn’t need a blood transfusion but scary) but my heaviest was the hardest, though that could have been because the “pain relieve” halted my labour and made me sick. He probably would have been born several hours earlier if I’d just had the epidural. I’m requesting an induction for around my due date (or earlier if I can push it) after my last experience.

@ElizabethLemon definitely discuss the fact that you believe you'd be incredibly stressed out if you had to go through labour (which stalls labour) and you don't want to risk stressing baby out especially with everything else. If you feel happier with it then go for it. If you feel you want to go for natural go for that just fight your corner on whatever you feel is best for you two

@jadeward89 that must have been scary. Fingers crossed for a smooth birth and recovery this time.

The “big babies are easier to birth” is just another thing people seem bleat, along with “the 2nd one is always quicker/comes early” People say these things but then we’re also told “every baby/birth is different!” My 1st was not much over 5lb and I still had a 2nd degree tear!

And yes I think you and @Northernbeachbum are right, if I’m clear that I don’t feel comfortable waiting for and then going through natural labour due to the situation I’m sure everything will be fine and a c section will be approved. I think it just feels daunting as I’ve never wanted a c section and it does scare me a bit, even the thought of an epidural freaks me out. I was so lucky to have a very quick and straight forward birth the 1st time and I guess i just presumed it would be the same (although that totally contradicts what I said above about every birth being different 😅)
The Drs changing their minds does mean that I now won’t be a priority and I expect I’ll have to wait until 39 or 40 weeks instead of potentially next week but I’ll just have to deal with that.

What a hoo-ha! I’m just going to try and relax now and maybe even enjoy the last part of this pregnancy.

@ElizabethLemon - my experience of c-sec first time round wasn’t the most pleasant (nor is normal childbirth either I suppose) as I had pre eclampsia. I don’t think it’s the easy way out or less stressful tbh as you have a whole host of other things to worry about I suppose - like I worried about the spinal, if they would cut the baby (irrational I know).

And then the recovery.. I can’t remember my first 24hrs with my baby very well due to the drugs . It hurt like fuck - but I’m assuming an episiotomy/tear would too. I remember the nurse telling me to stand up and I turned to her and said ‘you realise I’ve had abdominal surgery and a baby today’ . I feel like it did tho give DH a chance to step up to the plate and put us on a pretty even 50/50 footing parenting wise.. An advantage was I didn’t change any nappies until after I had left the hospital

I’m going to try for a VBAC but if baby isn’t here, I’ve told OB to schedule me in for a section.
I’m lucky I’m living somewhere that does it like that and I can just say exactly what I want and they will do it.

Pros and cons to it tbh, it’s definitely about how you feel.

Thanks for sharing your experience @Shutupanddance1 and I have also had the irrational fear of the baby being cut! I don’t think it’s the easy way out either and I suppose I feel a bit bonkers for putting myself through it when the Drs are saying it’s not necessary! You’re right, vaginal delivery isn’t easy and I was shocked, sore and exhausted afterwards but I was able to get up and have a shower, carry my baby around etc.. and I didn’t have the anxiety about having serious surgery. Was your c section planned, if you don’t mind me asking?

The main reasons I want one is so that the birth is planned and organised, the right people can be there (neonatal dr needs to be available whatever the delivery is) and I can hopefully avoid the unlikely situation of labour happening so quickly that I give birth at home. My midwife told me that on Saturday the labourward at my hospital was shut as it was too busy, that worries me as I would then have to transfer to a different hospital where our circumstances wouldn’t be immediately known.

Also and I am not saying I don’t trust the Drs as I absolutely do but I really can’t understand how it is ok to squeeze my baby’s (apparently very large!) head through a tiny space when he has this clot sat there. I know the Drs will say that it’s perfectly safe and that there’s no reason to think anything sinister would happen, but I just can’t get my head around that! If I went into labour naturally following the Drs advice and because I wanted to avoid the unpleasantness of a c section and then something went wrong I would never forgive myself. There’s so much to consider and I do feel overwhelmed. My husband has been good at listening but he is hellbent on a csection and while supportive doesn’t seem to get why I’m slightly apprehensive.

I think it's normal to be apprehensive as no one wants major surgery unless it's definitely needed (and I'm saying that with a c sec booked due to tokophobia) and they're not saying it's a necessity. I'd have an honest conversation with them may be about your fears either way. I talked my fears of both births through with them and they were fantastic.