Due April 2005

[Seabird]

Hello!

Have tested very early so not surprised to have to start this one off! Due 8 April I think.

Anyone joining me?

definitely 006 My vomiting bug has given me an extra week in normal clothes but I'm thinking I should get some use out of my existing maternity clothes as they're all for summer (well that's my excuse anyway). Unlike sensible posh spice who I'm sure will be recycling her maternity wear, I'm due in completely the opposite season from last time.

Many many congratulations on your scan Delgirl! I'm really over the moon for you, you so deserve that good news

Hope all went well for you, Mazzy.

Delgirl, that is fantastic news.

Hope you are feeling better tallgirl - sounds grim.

DG

hurray my headache-from-hell has nearly gone!

how is everybody else today?

Delgirl, fantastic news about your scan. I'm desperate to have mine, but have another few weeks to go (including going on holiday). In fact, I'm thinking of having a private scan before we go away just so I know everything is ok - is that a massive waste of £100? Seabird, glad your headache has gone. I can barely keep awake here at work, but as I've been in the office over 70 hours this last week, it's hardly surprising. I normally leave at 5pm, but we've just had a complete nightmare at work - I got home at 11pm last night (again), and DS woke up at 5.15am. Despite my better judgement I've just had a non-decaffeinated cappuccino to wake myself up a bit (and a muffin to keep it company - yum).

Poor you Azure, That sounds horrible.
Delgirl, I'm so pleased your scan was good.
Sorry I need to have a whinge here.... I was up at 6am today because dh woke up both dd's having a noisy shower coz he had to go to work early, and we had a late night last night too which didn't help either. We had to have a big talk because I was diagnosed with a degenerative eye disease yesterday, which has completely freaked me out. It is managable but blindness and/or corneal implant operations are also possible in a smallish nuber of cases. Not exactly the sort of news I wanted when 8 weeks pregnant. And the optician has also kept my glasses to put new lenses in so I'm sitting here squinting at the computer and just know I'm going to have a dreadful headache by tonight.... sorry this is all a bit me me me, but this has really thrown me for a loop. Oh well at least it make the m/s seem trivial for a bit!

Excellent news DG!!! Now are you SURE the other seven weren't hiding behind that one??

oh xoz poor you, that sounds like the last thing you need to be having to deal with right now. And I bet the lack of sleep hasn't helped at all today. I hope you manage to rest more tonight and tell dh NO SHOWER tomorrow! I'd go beserk if mine did that, not that there's much chance of dd sleeping past either of us!

Azure - your work sounds grim right now. Plus it must be awful noone knowing you're not at your best and need to be getting more rest than normal, not less. Hope the cappuccino and muffin helped! I'm really glad I had my scan, I feel so much more relaxed in these last few weeks of first trimester knowing there's something there, and seeing the little wriggling baby makes the m/s easier to deal with, too. It did feel a bit of an indulgence at the time, but I think it was money well spent.

Azure & xoz, sorry you're having rough times. Glad you're feeling better Seabird. Glad all ok with you Fisil - good news. Great news Delgirl! It's so exciting isn't it? had my scan yesterday - what a palaver - after making sure my bladder was full and being absolutely desperate for wee, the sonographer then told me to go and empty it as I've apparently got a back-sloping uterus and she couldn't get a good picture!! Anyway, all fine as baby was there, waving and kicking - 4.7cm!! Dh scanned picture in at work and we now have an A4 size copy on our mantlepiece!! They amended my due date to March 25th so I shouldn't really be on here now I guess, but I'm sticking to my original date as, having charted my cycle I know that I wouldn't have even ovulated at the time they reckon I conceived!

Hurray Mazzymcg, that's great news 4.7cm - wow. Mine was 2cm at 8+5. I guess they grow quickly at this stage!

oh that's great news Mazzymcg, i've been waiting for you to post since yesterday.

Great news about your scan Mazzymcg.

oooh great news Mazzymcg! Think I might splash out and pay for the nuchal scan - I just want to see everything is OK and make it seem real!

Had a really embarrassing moment yesterday. Went round to a friends house who had about 4 other friends there who I know but only through my friend. Anyway, everybody was suddenly saying they were pregnant (all about 5 weeks gone) so I admit I blabbed and said I was too. When I told them I was 9 weeks one of them said - Oh wow, I thought you must be at least 4 months. MORTIFIED! How fat and yukky to I feel now? I had to laugh at the time and say that I popped early last time too (which I did - and ended up with quite a neat bump in the end) but what a nightmare. Am sitting here glumly eating cottage cheese and feeling queasy. Felt like clocking her one. She's only about 4 weeks and 1 day but I'm kind of hoping she'll have really bad m/s and pile on the pounds so I can return the favour next time I see her... Sorry, that's really uncharitable isn't it but it's not a good idea to mess with a hormonal woman!

HOW rude was she, Bronnie?! Maybe she was jealous that you're further along than her.

DD & I are having a lovely lazy day today in the garden. She's got a cold but it doesn't seem to be bothering her at all luckily so she's roaming the garden slimey with sunscreen and snot (sorry, TMI! but no matter how much I wipe...), happy as larry playing in dirt and puddles from the hosepipe (obviously ignoring the huge pile of toys and books carefully laid out on a rug under the parasol) while I read my magazine on a sunlounger - bliss

Seabird, I'm so jealous of your lovely day in the garden. Bronniemuldoon - sorry, but I had to laugh. How very rude - please don't take it to heart.

No offence taken Azure .

Haven?t been about much of late ? very busy at work and in an open plan office so difficult to get on here as much as I would like (which is all day every day tbh!!). Also had a week away as DD1?s nursery was closed so I was offline completely.

Sorry to hear so many feeling so bad! I?ve been feeling pretty lousy too. Not getting sick but very nauseous indeed. Trying so hard not to go down the same route as last time overindulging in junk to get the sick feeling to go away (never did lose all that weight) but am fighting a bit of a losing battle.

Haven?t told anyone much yet. DH?s sister cos she was there when I arrived back from the loo with the test in my pocket and one of my sisters. That?s it. Not looking forward to telling work as we are a fairly small company (of whom I am one of only two female employees- that?s the software industry for you I guess) but when the jeans start to burst I guess I?ll have to come clean.

Sorry about the loss to our group through m/c. Hope everyone else who is going through nervous spells gets through ok.

I?m feeling a bit freaky at the moment myself and feeling the need to offload. Sorry in advance ? it?s a bit upsetting so stop reading now if you?re feeling fragile?

Two of my siblings are carriers of a recessive genetic disease called Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA) and have lost kids very young to it. My sister?s son died just last June. Although the probability of my having a baby with this is low (according to a genetic counsellor I?ve spoken to) so too was my sisters. In fact they didn?t think anything was wrong until the baby was 3 months old (he passed away aged 6 months and 2 days) so I am obviously fairly worried. CVS could rule out possibility but there is obviously a risk of m/c so we are trying to weigh that up right now. Apart from that practical worry about this pregnancy I am really conscious of how my being PG is going to make my sister feel (it took them 4 years to conceive my nephew and we did it first month ? really bad timing I?m thinking in retrospect ? I didn?t expect it to be so fast) and in a knot about how to tell her (last time she was the first person I told after DH, the day I found out). We?ve always been really close but we live in different countries and so I haven?t been around much physically to support her after her recent loss.

I don?t think there is much anyone can say but I am in a real heap over this. If anyone does have any experience, either of sitting out a pregnancy with a risk like this hanging over them, or of CVS or of breaking the news to someone vulnerable like my sis I?d like to hear about it.

Anyway, feel better for writing it. Just realised how long this has grown. Sorry about that.

Keep growing outwards everyone! I may not be able to contribute so often (due to work) but I?m thinking of you all.

motherpeculiar - don't worry about telling work too much. There are only 6 of us (including MD) in our company and two of are pregnant - within 2 weeks of each other. Also another member of staff has just handed in her notice! Luckily the boss is being very understanding about it all although I think he's having major stresses.

Bronniemuldoon - if it makes you feel any better, a friend of mine was in the park a few months back and bumped into the father of one of her son's friends who she hadn't seen for a while. He said to her "Oh I see you're expecting again - congratulations". She wasn't! Sh'e just put on quite a bit of weight so imagine how mortified she was!

motherpeculiar - sorry, just read the rest of your post (was rushing previously) - so sorry about your difficulties - hope you work things out

Motherpeculiar, so sorry to hear about the losses in your family - what a terrible thing to lose your child. With regard to CVS, what are the changes of a miscarriage? Does it carry the same sort of risk as an amnio? I guess you've got to consider what you would do if you sadly found out that your baby had the condition. Best of luck with whatever decision you make. With regard to your sister, you will have to tell her eventually and it won't be easy whenever you do - if you delay it too long, she may feel hurt that you excluded her from that news. Worse still, she may hear it from someone else. Try not to be upset if she takes it badly - time will make her used to the idea and happy for you. Another good reason for telling her sooner rather than later is that it won't be hanging over your head - it must be stressful now everytime you speak to her knowing your news but feeling unable to tell her. When is your scan? Would that be a good time (well, as good as any)? Poor you with these difficulties.

Motherpeculiar, it must be awful living in a constant state of anxiety like that. With regard to your sister, I think I would tell her. Although she may feel secretly slightly jealous and/or upset I am sure that deep down she will be happy for you and be able to rationalise your news. She may be a good source of support as well for you to discuss your worries over your baby, for instance what would she have done if she had known in advance that her son had the condition? That doesn't mean that you would necessarily do the same of course but she is someone who will be able to understand your worries.
Hope everyone else is feeling good. I'm getting used to the constant tiredness and nausea now(I now understand the expression "sick and tired"!).

Thanks Azure, Mazzy and Roobie

my scan in on 20th Sept so I will probably tell my sis after that if I haven't done so beforehand. Azure I think you are right about not leaving it too long either, I have been conscious of this too. She would always have been the one in my family that I told everything to, straightaway so this feels very strange. I am prepared for her to be upset, I do have another sister who we are both close to and I wondered whether I should ask her to tell the news. That way my sis who lost her baby could just have a really honest reaction without worrying about upsetting me. But I'm not sure that's such a good idea. The bummer of the whole thing is that we are in separate countries and so I have to tell her over the phone. Ah well.

I am going to talk to the consultant at my scan about CVS etc. I think the risk is about the same as with amnio but I'll be doing a bit more homework beforehand. The genetic counsellor has been a great help but I keep getting muddled about tests and risks and so on. I know when I tell the rest of my family I will be bombarded with questions and well-meaning (but probably annoying) advice (my dad is particularly good at this!)

Roobie, good point about my sis maybe being a possible source of support. I won't expect anything though, she may not want to talk to me about it as things are still very raw with her.

Thanks so much for your sensible advice.

Surely the sick feelings and tiredness will wear off soon for us all. I seem to remember things getting better around week 14 with DD1.

Good luck everyone - gotta go do some work now. Yawn.

MotherPeculiar - I don't have any direct experience of your situation but I'm sure your sister will be pleased for you. I know when I had a mc recently I was still pleased for a close friend who was pg at the same time. Good luck with your scan.

I had my scan this morning and all is well. I was so nervous after having a missed mc recently but everything is fine. The baby measures 31mm which puts me slightly further ahead than my last period suggests - nearer 10 weeks than 9 weeks so they have said a due date of 9th April.
I have the nuchal scan in 3 weeks time and we hope to find out whether it's a boy or a girl. Last time, we waited until DS arrived but have decided to find out this time.

Hope everyone is ok.

Strawberry, great news about your scan. Can you find out the sex of the baby as early as 12-13 weeks? My understanding was that you have to wait until the 20-week scan to find out. I really can't wait for my scan. It's very frustrating having one of the later due dates of the thread (the 23rd) because so many of you are ahead of me for all these things!