June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

I'm glad I'm not alone @ElizabethLemon, might try your tactic. I'm worried about upsetting dp if it upsets mil though

Get your mum to start rubbing his butt and see if he gets it.

I'm only starting to bump up properly now so haven't yet experienced this, but am positively PRIMED to eat anyone who touches my body without my consent alive...to the point that I will be slightly disappointed if nobody tries

Gosh - I’d be so angry if someone wants to touch my bump. Had it the whole time with my first DD (I live abroad so it’s random strangers ) - to the point at 36 weeks some random guy kissed my baby bump Freaked me out so much, men love pregnant women here, it horrifies me!

Congrats on all the scans - I find it so weird that they won’t tell you the sex of your baby depending on your trust, I think I’d be a bit annoyed.

I'm lucky in that I have somewhat of a "resting bitch face" and so far this time, no one has dared to touch bump.

@Shutupanddance1 Was definitely annoyed about the scan the first time around, especially given that we're pretty much between two hospitals in two different trusts and could have gone to either. We picked the one with the shorter distance to the hospital because although I'm hoping for an elective, I went into labour at week 38 with my first and they don't tell. The other trust do.

Hey ladies,
I hope your all well?
Just a bit fed up at the moment with broken sleep. Anyone else, bad back pain, headaches and baby is position inwards so all movements are internal and abit painful. I just can't get comfortable and this has only started this week.
Anyway on a more cheerful not I'm loving the new collection of baby clothes atm lovely pastel colours. Getting very excited 😊

I've had a few people rubbing my bump, but anyone who has has been someone I'm close with or a good colleague and they've always asked my permission. I'm quite enjoying the novelty of having a bump at the moment though, which I'm sure will wear off!

@Mummyloves09 I'm having a lot of broken/light sleep at the moment, but I have no idea what's waking me up. I wonder if the baby is giving me a few kicks and waking me up, as even in the day they have made me jump!

We've changed bedrooms as I just couldn't get comfortable in our normal bed. Aching shoulders, hips, knee and carpal tunnel. It is a bit better now but the cat is being really clingy and I keep getting pinned between him and DH. Makes getting up for 40,000 wees tricky!

@Mummyloves09 yep still having a horrible nights sleep here and have crushing exhaustion as a result. I asked my husband to sleep on the sofa last night because between his snoring and the baby’s all night spin sessions I cant sleep at all.

We are getting a new mattress and (king size) bed in March so I hoping that will help.

So I still haven't told nearly all colleagues, maybe half of friends and some family. DH has told most but not all friends, and only one side of his family. Today DH's friend put a comment on DH's Facebook page basically announcing the pregnancy... I've asked him to edit it which he has done, but it was up for 2-3 hours... now what do I do?! Really wanted to wait for 20 week scan, but don't want good friends finding out like this...

AIBU in thinking that most people of our generation would know that this wasn't cool?

@Heregoeseverything me and my partner are also being strict with social media. We don't use it much and did "the baby tour" to tell every single person who mattered. It was exhausting! But everyone really appreciated hearing it from us face-to-face. We're not a fan of social media and don't want our news on there at all.

One person did announce it, but they took it down after a few hours when I realised and sent them a stern message! No questions asked though and they felt pretty bad about it. You'll probably be fine with only a few hours, did anyone like or comment on it? You might find that any friends who saw it won't say anything until you tell them. We had a few friends who found out from others but didn't say a word until we gave them the news ourselves. It was still very special!

I think it's more expected that people will know after 12 weeks so unless you've specifically told people not to publicly mention it, you may need to cut them some slack. Definitely annoying though but I would assume that people had announced it to everyone by 12 weeks unless I'd been told otherwise.

I can't sleep at night... so annoying! Driving me mad. Have second 20 week scan tomorrow as baby wasn't playing ball at the first. I was really bruised for about a week after as the sonographer was so rough so I'll definitely be stricter at telling them to lighten up this time...

I told most people after 12 weeks - tbh if something happened at our 20 week scan I’d need the support to get through it.

We didn’t use social media at all the first time round, we don’t have any pictures bar one announcing DD1 arrival. I plan to do the same this time round. I’ve got a lot of people who don’t understand why I bother as ‘of course they will be in photos’ but it’s me and my DH choice.

I don't know, I get that most people tell friends after 12 weeks, but I would never assume that someone wanted something to be announced on Facebook if they hadn't mentioned it on Facebook themselves!

I have pretty much told any of the people I would want support from if something went wrong (as well as some people I'd rather didn't know if it did!). I would only want support from very close friends/family in that event, I really wouldn't want generalised sympathy. I absolutely would not want 500 Facebook friends talking about it or asking me how my pregnancy was going!

And I would just rather tell people when my primary emotion is joy rather than anxiety, at a time of my choosing rather than having my hand forced...

@HoneyBee03 No likes or comments... it wasn't a "CONGRATULATIONS!" message, more a "How are you doing with the countdown to birth?" one. I'd feel like a bit of a fool "announcing" to friends who already know... but I'm more concerned about people's feelings being hurt...

I'd be upset about someone 'announcing'it to before me but is someone thinks it's common knowledge and they found out weeks ago and weren't told not to say anything, I can see why they'd not think much of it before.

@CyclingFanGirl, @Snoopy30
@Dinosauratemydaffodils - welcome to the group.

@meow1989 Congrats on having a boy. We're having a surprise - although I'm wondering whether I should have found out as everyone is asking!!

@Northernbeachbum - I've definitely found more people touching my bump now. I find it really weird how people think they have a right to just touch it. Funnily enough I don't mind so much if someone asks me.

@Mummyloves09 - I'm also having broken sleep. Doesn't help that my OH snores like crazy too which is making it ten times worse. I'm finding my back is aching loads at the moment too. Sadly though it's just pregnancy and not a lot we can do about it.

@Heregoeseverything - I would be so annoyed by that but I guess it is more usual for people to know after 12 weeks so maybe they just didn't realise. An old friend of mine heard I'd had our DS from her Mum (the day after I'd given birth) and even though she has my phone number and email she decides to post a message to me on Facebook effectively announcing his arrival. I started getting loads of messages asking if I'd had the baby and we hadn't even had a chance to tell all DHs family in New Zealand. I was livid!!!

So most of us are in the same boat... I know it won't get any easier from this point in and this is just the begining.
I would be upset if someone announced my pregnancy on social media however I don't have any accounts (Facebook, Instagram etc), so I would never know unfortunately. When I told family and close friends, I was pregnant I made it very clear it wasn't their news to tell. ( I know it sounds harsh but I know how they can be sometimes).

@heregoeseverything some people are just incredibly clueless. I told my work colleagues at about fifteen weeks as I was starting to show. One of them then promptly used me as an example of a pregnant mammal with the kids in his English set, which included ten or so kids from my own class! Found out he'd done it when a kid came up in the middle of my afternoon lesson to tell me, 'Mr W says you're pregnant.' I was livid.

Also, hi everyone. Did used to post on here back in the first trimester but switched phones and it wouldn't let me access my old account. Hence Addy2.

I'm definitely achey and not sleeping well either, although a week of night shifts isn't helping. Pre-natal Pilates has been really good for keeping my back healthy though.

We have a total social media blackout about children, no photos, no news, not even our DD's name gets mentioned. All my friends respect it, but my SIL doesn't get it and occasionally posts photos and birthday wishes, I try to ignore it.

Given our history we told a few people within a few days of finding out about the pregnancy because we knew from experience that we would need support if anything went wrong. Told a few more people after the 12 week scan, but have only started to admit it to colleagues and acquaintances since we had a reassuring 19 week scan this week. I'm still squeezing into (extremely uncomfortable) ordinary clothes to stop people noticing the bump (it just looks like I've eaten too many pies), but looking forward to digging the maternity leggings out of the attic at the weekend! After that it will inevitably be open season on the intrusive questions.

Finally feeling lots of kicks, can't wait for DH and DD to feel them too.

Hi @Addy2!

We drove my mum a bit mad as we wanted to wait until 20 week scan before putting on social media and she'd known since week 4. But we were clear about it and she held out.

DH announced the boys were identical in his grooms speech as we just found out that week.

Also I'm 24 weeks today. Happy Viability Day! 😁

Hi ladies, a couple of people touch my bump but they usually ask and are close friends so I don’t mind, I am constantly rubbing it myself!
Had 20 week scan today was still undecided when we went in about finding out and the wee toot was asleep and not moving so the sonographer couldn’t see anyway so we will have to wait until June after all!! X

Hi everyone! I'd like to join you if ok; I'm 20 weeks, due on 27th June and we're having a girl. She's our first and I've been a bit paranoid as first trimester was a bit worrying. I told most friends after 12 weeks around Christmas and New Year but only last week at work.
It was about time as the bump is geting bigger :).

Congrats on the good scans to all that had them and also for the wedding for Clare!

Welcome @Lali1! And congratulations on getting through a tricky first trimester.