June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

I'm an hour away- possibly more in traffic. It freaked me out last time and I definitely went in too early but my brother lives in the city so DH and I went to stay overnight (I paced rather than slept) when we did get sent away so that we were 15 mins away rather than doing the journey two more times. I will still worry about how soon to go in this time- especially as I have to be consultant led and have a cannula in. But so long as labour doesn't last 30 hours again I won't mind!

30 hours, @elpheba well done for surviving that

I'm 20 mins from the hospital. DFIL is lovely but not exactly emotionally intelligent. Had the following conversation with him:

FIL: Which hospital will you be giving birth at?
Me: St Mumsnet's
MIL: Oh how handy, 20 minutes away
FIL: (shakes head sadly) It moved from a different site though, the old St Mumsnet's was 5 minutes away, now it will take a full 20 minutes to get there
Me: I'm pretty happy with 20 minutes away, could be a lot worse
FIL: Well every minute counts in these things, you'll find that out soon enough. And the surrounding area isn't very nice.
Me: I don't really care about the surrounding area, I care about the hospital and it seems good
MIL: It's a great hospital
FIL: Hmmm... it used to be a great hospital
Me: I'm happy with the hospital, everyone says good things
FIL: It used to have a good reputation on the old site, I'm not sure it's anything more than run-of-the-mill now
MIL: It's a very well-regarded hospital
FIL: I'm not sure I'd agree it's VERY well-regarded...
Me: THIS IS THE HOSPITAL I AM DEFINITELY GIVING BIRTH AT AND I AM HAPPY WITH IT
FIL: Yes... pause... Such a pity it isn't still on the old site...

Christ @heregoeseverything your FIL did not get the hint there did he?

So we had our big scan today, everything is looking great and we are definitely team girl! So a lil sis for my DD1.. we are over the moon that it is definitely a girl, got a great bum shot so no question
We took our DD1 with us as our childcare fell through and she was showing off saying ‘baby’ and pointing to my tummy to doctor, so cute!

Anyone else feeling absolutely shattered at the moment?! Despite feeling exhausted all the time I'm excited as today I am 24 weeks so officially the baby is now 'viable'!

@Elpheba wow 30hrs. That's epic! Fingers crossed the next one isn't as long!

@Shutupanddance1 - congrats on your scan. Glad everything was fine. Exciting you're having a little girl.

@Heregoeseverything - you had to work hard there with your FIL!!!

Happy days, @shutupanddance1! Two little girls will be adorable, how old is your DD?

Many congratulations on your viability, @Sparkles

Yes...my DFIL is not one for taking hints. The number of times I've watched him walk very slowly into a terrible faux pas with someone else and desperately tried to guide him out of it. This usually results in him digging his heels in more deeply and obliviously diving into the worst possible thing he could say. Generally we find it amusing, as he just doesn't get it and his heart is in the right place... but in pregnancy I am just not in the mood for it!! And I dread the comments he will make as I get fatter and about eg childbirth and breastfeeding

@heregoeseverything - thanks so much, my DD is 19 months so it’ll be lovely to see them grow up together. Dr says everything is looking fab and he’s very supportive of my plans for VBAC.

I’d be dealing with FIL pretty sharpish if he made comments on BF etc while being pregnant - but I’ve no patience!

Yep @sparklesandbubbles I am tired all the time

@Shutupanddance1 It's a nice gap too - hopefully not old enough to be too jealous! I always melt when I see little children hugging their new siblings, so cute!

Generally I see the humour in FIL's massive insensitivity as I know he has a good heart - took a few years to get to this point though!! I am really noticing that I am more irritable with him in pregnancy - nobody else, just him - but I rationalise this on the basis that I am just a normal person's level of irritability with him at the moment, and a saint usually...!

His worst pregnancy comment so far has been when MIL asked over a family dinner (when I was 14 weeks) whether I had told my beloved grandpa (who is in full health and lives an active and independent life). If FIL had a modicum of emotional intelligence he would have gathered that I am ACUTELY aware that anything can go wrong in pregnancy, if anything overly so, but he came out with this gem:

MIL: Have you told your grandpa yet?
Me: Yes, he is delighted. Said he always hoped to live to meet a great-grandchild.
All of family except FIL: Aw! Sweet! How lovely!
FIL: Hmm, and you never know, that might just happen.
Me: ??
FIL: Your grandpa, he MIGHT meet a great-grandchild before he dies.
Me: FIL, are you threatening me with the imminent demise of my grandfather or my child?!
FIL: I'm just saying you just don't know WHAT will happen with babies.
Me: Thank you, FIL.
Everyone else: awkward silence
FIL: Well, I mean, you really don't, do you? ANYTHING can happen at ANY time...
Me: leaves room before FIL provides detailed analysis of miscarriage and stillbirth statistics

Haha oh @Heregoeseverything that sounds like tough work! I'd struggle not to boil over with all the hormones on the go. Amusing that he thought the surrounding area would affect the performance of the hospital.

@SparklesandBubbles - I'm feeling shattered too. I felt like it had passed weeks ago but now I seem to need at least 10 hours sleep to have a decent day! I'm struggling most in the mornings. Been trying to avoid organising meetings and calls before lunchtime at work because my head is taking so long to switch on!

@Shutupanddance1 - that all sounds so exciting! I was very close in age to my little sister and apparently I was completely fascinated with my new sibling!

Hi everyone, very late arrival to the group here. I have been holding off letting things get too real after an early MC 14 months ago and the loss of our son at 21 weeks in May.
Challenging pregnancy so far, but amniocentesis results are normal and we have had an anomaly scan at 16 weeks which was normal, 19 week scan coming up this week. Foetal Medicine Team have been amazing.

We are expecting at the beginning of July, but DD was a little quick off the mark and am seriously considering ELCS so will almost certainly be June.

Welcome @CyclingFanGirl , so sorry to hear about the terrible time you have been through. I'm similar on dates - ie, due beginning of July but quite likely late June due to Caesarean.

Hi everyone, glad all the scans are going well. We bought the car seat and it seems like a good buy

www.toysrus.co.uk/babiesrus/graco-snugride-group-0-i-size-car-seat-and-base-in-midnight-black/TRUP9086170001

We’re half an hour away at the right time of day but last time it closed and we got stuck in traffic

Not worrying yet, will see what the consultant says about an elcs this time.

Is anyone else suffering from rib pain?

Hi everyone. Due the 13th of June, although it will be hopefully be the week before as I'm aiming for an elective section due to my dodgy obstetric history. I've been in denial for a while for reasons relating to for-mentioned dodgy obstetric history but have reached the point where denial seems pointless.

Welcome @Dinosauratemydaffodils!

Currently at hospital waiting for my 24 week growth scan. Looking forward to seeing my wrigglers.

Hi all, just had 20 week scan, all normal most importantly and we found out we're having a baby boy 💙 so happy!

Hi all, i'm very late to the party but can i join?
I'm 22 weeks with my first baby, due on 10th of June and very excited to be having a little girl!

Congratulations @meow1989 and @Snoopy30.

I had my growth scan today - both boys doing well. Twin 1 is 1lb4 and twin 2 is 1lb7oz. No wonder I've started to feel a bit heavier.

Congratulations on all the scans. Slightly jealous that you get told if you're having a boy/girl as our trust won't do it. I had a private scan last time but didn't want to this time however DH has decided it's a girl and taken to using female pronouns which is annoying me (probably irrationally).

That is annoying @Dinosauratemydaffodils. Our trust tells you but I would have gone private otherwise. I'm not coming up with three sets of names!

Congrats on joining the boys club @meow1989 and sounds like your boys are growing well @clareb83

Getting increasingly cross with the MIL thinking it's ok to rub my belly whenever she wants, dp thinks it's funny, I'm struggling to hold my tongue! They also seem to see me as a walking womb, all she ever talks about is how exciting it is and how's baby doing etc. Now I get that she's excited but it would be lovely to talk about something else with her

I wouldn't be cool with that @Northernbeachbum. I think I would just say "can you not" next time she tries and maybe sit out of easy reach.

I expect to be asked before there's any belly fondling by people who aren't my DH.

It's so hard to not be rude but say something, deliberately put a bump hiding top on the other day to distract her and she still bloody did it

I've told DP a number of times I hate it.....maybe one of those "hands off the bump" tops

She'll just think it's a funny thirty. You have to say what you want. Either could you please not touch my bump or could you please ask before touching my bump (depending on your preference). If you want to you could add something like "I'm a bit funny about it" to make it sound like it's you whose to blame and not her, but frankly I wouldn't bother.

*tshirt

@Northernbeachbum
Two of my colleagues have started doing the same, I just put my arm up to block as I see them starting to do it. One of them has taken the hint and stopped but the other is totally feckless so has carried on 🙄.