May Mummies, w/c 16th April 07 Getting closer, not close enough for some.

[Mrsjaffabiffa]

Morning all...........

Thought after 300 odd messages it was time to go back to our weekly ones. Hope you are all well.

dc's back to school for you and holidays just started for me today. Have ds home for 2 weeks now.

Still sunny? Tis here!

Hello, hello.

So lovely to meet you yesterday Scoot. All lies, by the way, about the glamour - unless a bit of eyeliner counts as glamoourous. I was huffy on the way home about how lovely you looked! How awful was the meeting - I mean apart from the fact it went on til 10.30? You poor thing. Oh and I realised after I got back to the car that I didn't even think to offer you a lift back to work. How awful. Sorry! I was just being a muppet. That said, my car is such a heap of sh'te and filthy to boot, that you were probably better off on the bus!

Pebble - am sending you lots of baby turning vibes. I read in my preg book last night about "visualisation" for turning breech babies. Anything might be worth a shot! Says that on an empty stomach, you should lie down on your back to create lots of room and for 10 mins, breathe deeply and slowly and visualise the baby turning around. BTW, better to have DH come home on a false alarm than miss it completely! I have visions of DH coming off his moped in his haste to get home. I'm hoping this baby comes on a weekend. Mind you, DH is quite good at "displacement". You know, where something really needs to get done, but they do something else as some sort of avoidance technique. I can also imagine him out digging over the potato plot telling me to text him every time I get a contraction.

Had a really bad night the last two nights. Very restless all night, waking up WIDE awake only a couple of hours after dropping off. In fact, last night, I had to lie there and practice my relaxation breathing as I'd woken up convinced I was going into labour. I even went to the loo to look for a show. Weirdo.

Been cleaning most of yesterday and today. I wish it was nesting, but it's not. It's "mother is coming to stay" syndrome. Tch. Sore feet, sore back etc. My mum usually goes mad cleaning for me, but when she's over I'm usually away (and she's minding DD) or I'm at least at work. COuldn't bear to sit here and watch her do it. Anyhoo, waiting for her to phone from the tube station so I can pick her up.

There was much intrigue and subterfuge about the whole thing. Very long story as to why, but in effort to avoid seeing her brother, I have had to pretend to my Grandma that I'm coming to collect her today. (She lives about 2 hours drive away). Mum in fact is "surprising" her and coming to get her - she hasn't told her mum she's over. I think the surprise will be "Hey, I'm here and you're not getting a nice lift up to London, you're getting the bus to the Tube station, going on a 60 minute Tube journey and you're only getting picked up at the end." Yep, I'd be pretty feckin' surprised if that were me. Anyway, I'm rambling...

Cut my foot this morning. Badly. Stepped over a broken ceramic plant pot whilst hanging hte washing (bottom of the garden is a bit of a tip at the moment) and sliced open the side of my foot. Didn't think it was that bad til I saw the pool of blood filling my Birkenstock. Yeuch. Had to squelsh back to kitchen and sellotape kitchen roll around my foot and then hop/ hobble upstairs to bathroom to find first aid supplies. Suffice to say that when you're at a stage of pregnancy that makes it hard to even SEE your feet, it's even harder to wash and dress the outer edge of one. Mananged to stop the bleeding with some alginate powder and cover it up. Then had to clean up the murder scene I'd left in the kitchen. I was not amused. I wonder does having so much extra blood in your body affect what happens when you wound yourself? It seemed awfully dramatic for the size of the actual cut.

SOH - You're tired because you're carrying around a baby 24 hours a day, plus you've been traipsing around London AND you went into labour. (All this aside from canoeing to Sainsbury's or whatever it is you were up to at the weekend.) Hello! It's no wonder you're tired. Give into it and go and have a lie down in the "stacks". I read that somewhere - the pile of books waiting to be catalogued is the "stacks"... Maybe only in the library I was reading about.

I wonder who'll be next to have a baby?

And where are all the missing people from the thread? Scoot and I were talking about them yesterday.

Pebble you hv sounds like a right bundle of laughs! Here we don't meet the hv until after the birth but I'm sure we'll all have some funny stories to tell. Before I moved to a new town I had a lovely, lovely hv who was the nicest, most helpful lady ever and I was really sorry to leave her behind. I have met my new one briefly when she came to do ds supposed 2 year check which was an absolute joke. She seemed quite nice, not as condescending as some, but not a patch on my old one

Hello all!

Jonahb - glad to hear that you are okay after your bump! What a thing to happen. I would love to come and do all your unpacking and preparation but no bag packed here either!
Charleymouse, your boys are beautiful. I'm sorry that people are not acknowledging Benjamin, I'm sure that it's only because they are scared of doing the wrong thing. Please talk to us about it as much as you are able. So glad to hear that George is doing so well, he is a real trouper!

I've been to the consultant this morning to discuss my delivery; it turns out that I have slightly raised BP and a trace of protein in my urine, so I have to go for a BP monitoring tomorrow. I'm pretty sure it's nothing, as my DH was missing in the hospital at the time of the raised BP as he could not find a parking space and had been gone 40 mins! Plus, had not realised I would be required to do a wee, so had to squeeze one out, so not a very good sample. However, it has scared me a bit, and have been to the shops to get some bits for the baby like more nappies/milk and a nightie for labour and so on just in case I end up being there any sooner then I thought. I have had no coffee since and have been lying with my feet up in an attempt to make sure it is back to normal levels in the morning.

Apart from that, all fine here!

Sorry! Missed your post Charley, whilst writing my epic ramble.

It's really lovely to hear from you. I think it's really hard for people to imagine how you're feeling and how you'll react to things. I doubt very much they're forgetting about Ben - they just don't know how to handle the dichotomy of it. Suffice to say that nobody is being deliberately hurtful - just rather hamfisted in their handling of it.

I'm sure you have good and bad moments, but you've been placed in an impossible situation and it sounds like you're coping very well under the circumstances. I think you're really brave. x

Hey Charley, your boys are beautiful. The blonde hair is amazing!

MrsJB, hope you are feeling better this afternoon. You make sure you get plenty of rest x

Hi
I didn't post very clearly sorry. I really like the congratulations cards its just that so many of them are only for one baby but I do appreciate that people are really at a loss as to how to behave anbd what to say. I just want Ben and George to have a lovely pile of cards just like their sister.

Sorry HV just visited and lift arrived for hospital so will post later.
Cheers
CM

IN these shoes.

Drink a ton of water today. Early in pregnancy I had a little too much protein and the nurse said drink more water. Now the day before my checkups I drink nothing but water (almost a gallon or so). No protein since.

It's normal for bp to rise slightly because your body is working harder than normal, and protein is normal is your not getting enough fluids, but the two together make doctors get their "panties in a bunch"

Charley - you are doing so well in the circumstances. Don't worry about your postings, we know it must be so hard to express yourself at the moment - babies are absolutely gorgeous btw. xxx

I went to the shops before, and kept catching a glimpse of myself in windows. I am truly colossal. Its just not a good look. I would also like to join the 'awkward babies that won't turn' club. I am convinced she is breech, she hasn't changed position since about 26 weeks, but 4 midwives so far have not been able to agree on how she is lying. Unless she has her feet at her head, and is some kind of contortionist, she is breech, breech, breech.

Dh is getting really fed up of me shouting at him all the time now, and I have four weeks left in work. My tolerance level has been severely compromised, and I have my half year review next week, which may not go so well. This is mainly due to a letter which came in yesterday stating that I had been curt and abrupt on the telephone, and this lady objected to me attending her appeal hearing. I can honestly say I didn't realise I was rude, but I'm pregnant!!! Leave me alone!!!!!

Charleymouse, George and Bejamin are absolutly beautiful. You are amazing and seem to be coping with things so well. I bet dd loved her cuddle with George.

Thanks AM, I still feel sick, just can't shift it. Nothing serious though.

Hope your foot is OK TYG, sounds nasty.

In theseshoes, good luck with your monitoring tommorow, keep us posted.

SOH, I saw my MW at 33 weeks and don't see her again until 39. May be worth a call to check if they think you should see someone before but I'm not sure you are going to make it anyway. Sorry!

TYG, your foot sounds nasty. Do you need to get it checked by the dr? or was it not too deep.

Where is LG&T??

I am here, been out all day. Have puffy ankles, look sooooo pregnant. I am wearing a warp dress over linen trousers all in black and i still look gargantuan.

Charleymouse so lovely to hear from you, i have photos of samuel and Jacob at that size too. They were about 8 weeks old by the time they got to that size though!! They look so cute snuggled together, im sure George will treasure that photo when he is older, as will you. I didnt get any congrats cards when i had them as people were not sure if they were going to survive. It was awkward and upsetting.

Glad you met up with Scooter, TYG. I cant wait to meet you all

Too much chatter to catch up properly, will do it tomorrow.

Missed you all today

Lovely to hear you are back home Charley and the boys are gorgeous as is your dd, too cute.

I hope it goes alright tomorrow for you intheseshoes and that you are feeling better soon MrsJB, I keep feeling a bit queasy after eating, maybe there is not so much space there anymore or maybe I am just a fat pig whose eyes are bigger than her belly (like that is possible)

I went to see the mw today, and its official, I am enormous, measuring big but she says the baby feels the right size..obviously an exact science then. I have to see her weekly from now on, am I the only one doing this?

Also I am relieved to hear that I am not the only person unable to walk properly, more like a weeble, I am always getting a stitch too.

I am starting to panic more about the logisitics after the baby comes, is anyone else feeling the same way? Dh goes to Nairobi for 2 weeks this weekend and gets back a week before my cs date, so fingers crossed there are no rumblings. He has to go again at the end of May, luckily or unluckily its half term so I won't need to drive, but I will need to drive the dc to school the following week and am hoping that if I can't then I can enlist the help of a few local gullible mums

Hello all,

Charley, what lovely pictures they really will be something treasure.

Hope that foot is okay TYG. I know what you mean about limited visibility. I did my bikini line yesterday (at least I think I did, I waxed in the right general area) and am about to tackle my winter feet.

I'm trying to tick things off my must do list - just bought DS some summer clothes so that if it stays hot he will have something to wear, must also get his feet measured....

Men are so cruel!!

Today dh called my cell phone. Even though I was at home I couldn't get to phone in time, because . . . well . . .at almost 35 weeks pregnant I'm just not as quick as I used to be. I missed the call and called him back. He asked where I was that I didn't get to the phone. When I told him, he started laughing that I wasn't quick enough anymore.

Charley, your babies are both gorgeous! Just repeating what everyone else is saying here, I don?t think the people close to you really know how to react. They certainly don?t mean to upset you further.

MKG, your DH is definitely braver than my DH ? he wouldn?t dare to make a joke like that in case I started crying .

Intheseshoes ? good luck for tomorrow

Today was the last time I?m going to see my boss before I go on mat leave. I took the opportunity to tell him exactly what I was given last time (vouchers pre-birth, flowers & champagne post-birth) just in case he got any misguided ideas about not getting me something . Sometimes men do have to be pointed in the right direction, especially as he didn?t bother to get 2 of the other male team members anything when their babies were born at the end of last year.

Midwife doing home visit today after all.

Oh God. Can I hoover and dust at the same time?

It's the official home check today. Will she look in the fridge? I never tidied the tin cupboard properly. My rice pudding faces the wrong way. DH's muddy training gear is lying on the laundry floor. Oh God. I can't breathe.

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I just found myself standing over DH in the bathroom shouting about cleaning behind his ears. As he - rightly - pointed out, nobody cares about his ears.

I've lost the plot.

Summmerfruit, they will check you have adequate heating, running water, access incase of transfer to hospital and they'll just chat about how you think it'll all work. Me, in my neurotic hormonal state thinks it's inspection and am about to line up by my bunk. Don't worry!

Just dropped ds off at school, it's the very first time I've ever done it like a "proper" Mum as he goes to the school I teach at, so usually either dh does it or I have him with me, we go out into the playground just before the bell, I kiss him goodbye and then see him about five minutes later. It was very wierd, especially as I could see all the children in my class, thier mums came to talk to me etc, I'm glad it's over and done with.

Just drinking yet another glass of water and relaxing after the walk to and from school before I set off to the hospital. I am sure some of this is because I haven't been drinking enough, as I have been going to the loo even more the last 24 hours. Fingers crossed.

SOH - don't worry! Your midwife will be delighted with you, and much more interested in how you are feeling than the direction of your Ambrosia Creamed Rice....

Well I never got a homevisit.I want one now..

Charley both your boys are lovely..all the baby pictures are making me quite excited!

Cameroonmama-I'll say im worried about the logistics-DD was running around like a maniac yesterday after I picked her up and by that time I was pretty exhausted-Ive no idea how I will manage with two lo's.At least I will be able to drink!Thats my only plan for survival..

Looking forward to meeting you madeindevon-not long till May 4th now-im so glad im finishing tomorrow-it took me 2 hours to drive in this morn due to traffic, the last hour of which I was bursting for the toilet-and I set off at 7, with the intention of being here early.Arrived at normal time.Was not pleased!

TYG-Dont worry about lift-a bit out of your way anyway-I never even thought about it!Hope your foot is ok- and the Mama is here and looking after you a bit!Im sleeping really poorly too now-plus finding it hard to move round in bed, (at all) which is doing my head in!

Have you got exams soon lwatkins?

I too am now officially huge.Face has since last night started to swell.I hate it!

SOH and April -sent those bits off yesterday so they should arrive today or tomorrow.The real Scooter got in the bag though so although they are washed there may be a few cat hairs-really sorry-I berated him serverely for it...

Must go, meeting will be back on later

Hey all - have had a quick read through the many posts. So much happening with everyone. We are getting so close aren't we!!

Big wave to Juicy who asked how i was doing many many posts ago.

I have 10 days left of work and it's been extremely busy and I've allowed myself to get a bit stressed about it all. Started feeling dizzy, nausea, low back pain, swollen feet,tired, very emotional (just kept crying all the time) last week. Went to pharmacy on Sat to get my blood pressure checked - all normal.

Thought it was lack of iron so bought some supplements then called midwife on Monday in flood of tears who told me last blood results said iron was very good, even a little high so I stopped taking them. She was just lovely, got me to tell her everything that was going on and what i was feeling and then said 'Oh love, i know what's wrong with you'. Waiting with baited breath thinking the worst i said 'Oh!!!!'

Her response 'You're pregnant. But you also sound very stressed with work so you just need to rest up more'.

Bless her - i guess sitting at a laptop for 12 hours each day isn't the best thing to be doing at the mo but it will all be over next Friday.

So I've not been around much cause I've been freaking out a bit and trying to get through my mahoosive TO DO LIST for work.

Think of all you all though every day - be well

Oh jeez. Mother is in the kitchen telling Grandma that I was ripped off by my cleaners becuase "at least they could have washed the paintwork in all that time they were here"...

Just got a court summons for council tax already paid.

Bins not collected for 4th week in a row. WTF am I paying council tax for?

Sore foot. (It's still attached to my leg so I guess it's ok). Swollen feet.

Baby fine...

Better go and I dunno, do some cleaning or something.

Midwife's just left. She didn't even go in any room other than the sitting room where we drank tea and chatted for a bit. All very straightforward and she'll never know about the rice pudding.

Baby's fine- she said if she's born at term she'll be average at about 7lb so not a giant 17lb baby as I feared. Head is apparently (adopts shocked look) "very well down indeed". Her parting comment was "we'll see you very soon for delivery" and a chuckle.

I bet I get to 42 weeks. You watch.

Why whats wrong with rice pudding?!Glad it went ok though.42 weeks, pah!If I were a betting person I would say its you or largegandt next...

TYG.Stop cleaning now ducky-put the brush and mop DOWN!And console yourselve with the fact that all Mothers do it..Mine was banging on last night about why I didnt play dd nursery rhymes on a daily basis as it is a 'vital' part of her education..Gah!Because they get on my nerves I said and because most of them are actually quite gruesome when you listen closely..Anyway she prefers the Kaiser Chiefs!I went to bed in the end as I could stand it no longer!
Oh meeting was appalling by the way..At one point I was mobbed by at least 20 angry relatives and had to attract the attention of my colleague by standing on a chair so she could rescue me as I feared being injured!But thats me done over there now, bless my poor friend who will now be taking over though, dont envy her it one bit!

O Tam do try to take it easy-not so easy in practice I know..thinking of you...one more week hon, but its not worth killing yourself in the process..she says-at work till 10.30 on Monday, duh!And a big thankyou for my CD BTW...Will put it on tonight to drown Mum out I think!

Hi to everyone else ive missed-(gives general wave)

I've got a mw visit at home next week and I'm not even having a home delivery, does that make me special or do you think she is just being nosy? She won't find anything untowards in my house, all tins present and correct, but I dare her to open the cupboard where the ironing breeds in secret.

Our house is on the market and we had a viewing yesterday and another for today, dunno if I can really be bothered to hoover again..all people ever notice anyway is the noise from the road.

Tam, its a shame to hear you are feeling so down, hopefully when your mat leave starts and you can put your feet up a bit and watch lots of daytime TV you'll feel better.

TYG, glad your foot is still in one piece, our bins have not been collected for 1 day and the whole town is in uproar.

Scoot, I love the alcohol idea, think I might start today.

SOH, 29th April is damn fine day to be born if you ask me.

MKG, my dh is so scared to talk to me without getting his head bitten off he has run off to Bristol for the day.

Right, I'm off to bake bread and put coffee on to get someone to buy my house, any offers out there?