July 2018 Babies

[HarryPotterandtheSAHM]

I thought I’d start this thread now as I can’t see one yet! I got my bfp this weekend on a digital and estimate my due date to be 1st of July, but I have long cycles so I’m anticipating it changing at a dating scan. Anyone else with me for end of June or beginning of July 2018?

I'm sorry @daffodil, sounds like you're getting it bad. Personally I've been eating a lot of crackers and drinking ginger or peppermint tea.

@Nimbleknitter - how many weeks are you? I was considering going to the gp but as I'm not actually being sick yet I didn't know if they would give anything. Does it ease the nausea too or just the vomiting? Glad you have something that helps.

I'm trying to keep eating even though it's the last thing I want to do. Lots of bland food and carbs. So much for my plans for a healthy diet in pregnancy, I'm already in survival mode!

I’m only 4+4 - the vomiting started at 3+3 (so super early).

I’m extra sensitive to progesterone - I used it to get ovulation sickness, and the mini-pill gave me morning sickness.

But yeah, it helps with the nausea as well as vomiting.

Go to our doc - they earlier they start treating it, the more effective the treatment is

@Nimbleknitter wow, 3+3! You poor thing.
I'll see if I can get an appointment. Thanks for the info.

Yeah. It’s crap. Word of warning - the drugs do not help with fatigue. I’m so tired!

So I decided to check up with my GP re midwives and am pretty cross/upset...

It turns out that when I rang them over 2 weeks ago they didn't refer me to midwives at all, I was supposed to self-refer (though how I was supposed to know that I don't know).

The very day I told the GP surgery I was pregnant I got a text saying, "You have been referred today" and telling me I'd hear back in 4 weeks. I assumed that this was midwives. It turns out it wasn't, it was a referral to a consultant. I suffer with a chronic illness and told the GP a few months ago that I really wanted advice on how best to manage the illness/medication in pregnancy (eg whether there are more pregnancy-friendly alternatives). I told her we would be trying and that I was conscious that the first trimester is the most important in terms of possible effect of medication etc, so I wanted this sorted out preferably before I got pregnant, or at least immediately after I did. The GP expressed doubt that I would get pregnant anytime soon (I'm 34, not 46!), told me it would probably take me a year to get pregnant as it took her a year at my age (my medical condition has no effect on getting pregnant) and that she was thus reluctant to refer me at this stage. Ultimately she did tell me that as it was my wish she would refer me to a consultant immediately.

So it now looks like she didn't actually refer me to the consultant at all until I told the surgery I was pregnant. I'm not due to hear from the consultant for another 2 weeks (when I'll already be 9 weeks) after which time I imagine it may well be hard to get an appointment before Christmas so I may well finish the first trimester with no help or advice. This is exactly why I asked her to refer me before I got pregnant, but she "didn't believe" I would...?!

Aww @Heregoeseverything That is so annoying and really bad of them not to refer you when they said - just as well you phoned and checked! Hope that’s it all sorted now.

Oh no @Heregoeseverything that's dreadful Hope you get your appts soon.

I'm 4 + 5 today. I phoned the antenatal clinic yesterday whilst at work - praying that the quiet room was sound proof enough that no one on the other side of the door could hear me! (and discovered that their phoneline is only open Monday - Friday 10am - 12:30pm?!?! What on earth do they expect people who work to do?!) and the lady was really lovely, and congratulated me, which was nice. She said I should expect some paperwork in the post in the next few days, so it sounds like things will start moving soon. Mr Karate works funny shifts, so I really hope he's able to come to appointments with me - he's so excited and wants to be involved with everything.

The cramping is still on and off for me, and heartburn has been rumbling on as expected. I've also been surprisingly out of breath today, but I'm putting that down to the weather and my asthma.

My mum had HG when she was pregnant with me, and I'm so anxious that I'll end up with it - or even standard morning sickness to be honest. I'm on the train for 3 hours every day on my commute, so heaven knows what that's going to be like...

So sorry to all you ladies who are suffering badly from nausea, it must be awful. I don't think you should worry about eating healthily at this point, just eat whatever you can keep down! I really feel for you all

Congratulations to all the newbies

I had a bit of a scare on Friday - started bleeding brown/pink blood so called the EPU and they referred me for a scan today. Baby measuring 8 weeks and doing really well! Such a relief as I've skipped forward a week so one less to worry about. Still bleeding a little bit but trying not to overthink it

Also to anyone worrying about cramping, I had it every day from 4-7 weeks and even now still get it on and off. Think it's just the hormones

Thanks @hann and @karate, and sorry for the vent!

@Lilychouchou Congratulations on your extra week, live the dream!

I'm personally not throwing up as yet but more at a 3-5 out of 10 nausea most of the time. Manageable but tedious. And yes, my little bean's diet is significantly more beige than I had intended...!

(and sorry for your scare @Lilychouchou, sounds extremely stressful)

Thanks Heregoes, yeah I was convinced it was all over so couldn't believe it yesterday. Very please although still bleeding on and off today.

Just saw your rant about your referral, that is ridiculous - you should complain.

Had my booking appointment yesterday at 7 + 5. I've come out feeling really deflated. She measured my BMI and I'm horrified that it's above 30. I'm 5'5 and, yes, a bit chubby but I'm a size 14 and don't look obese by any means. The midwife made little comments about having to take more folic acid and it increasing my risk. Just feeling down today. I had an ED when I was younger so this has really gotten to me when I'm meant to be focusing on baby.
I don't eat a lot at all, and I eat healthily but suffer with severe joint pain so that affects my mobility. I just don't know what to do about losing weight now.

I'm sorry @ReverseGiraffe I hope you don't still feel rubbish, size 14 isn't exactly enormous and BMI can come up with some strange results for some people (eg lots of athletes are obese). You are growing a human, your body is obviously functioning as it's supposed to, go easy on yourself

Reverse I have a high bmi, and have done for my previous pregnancies as well. I wouldnt worry too much about losing weight whilst pregnant. Instead try and aim for a miminal weight gain. My previous pregnancies I have lost all baby weight gained a couple of weeks after birth because I essentially only gained weight that the actual baby, waters and placenta were giving me. Don't let it get your down, as long as your sensible you will be fine. The bmi measure is very outdated and is known to not really be an accurate measure if people are short.

That's rubbish Reverse I've had my appointment through the post today - 19th December - and nervous about what my BMI will come up with. I'm around a 12-14 but expect I'll be in the overweight category.

Is anyone feeling really rough? I’m 5+5 have a cold, cough and sore throat! Had cramp up until the weekend so I’m hoping times will get more enjoyable soon (positive thoughts!)

Hi all!

I'm getting myself a bit worked up about the fact that I haven't really got any symptoms. Other than a bloated stomach which is annoying because it does look a bit like I'm pregnant. And maybe a but mogę out of breath going up and down stairs.

No nausea, no peeing, no sensitivity to smells.

I'm 5+2 and I know I'm lucky not to feel sick but I can't help but wonder. Anybody else??

@LittleBirdBlues Be careful what you wish for! I had nothing at your stage apart from the odd cramp and some hunger pangs. I said to my DH I was worried and it would be nice to have symptoms. I am now (at 7+1) nauseous pretty much all day every day, have gone off most things I normally like to eat/drink (including tea, which will be a dead give away) and have (ahem) digestive disturbance along with a litany of other symptoms...

@LittleBirdBlues I sailed through my pregnancy with my daughter, literally hardly any symptoms, she is now 4 and was a very healthy 9 lb 2 baby! Also with this pregnancy other than sore boobs I didn’t get much sickness until bang on the 6 week mark so it’s still early for you to be having very noticeable symptoms if you are going to get them. Xx

@heregoeseverything im sure you're right! And I remember all too well how awful all day nausea and vomiting is. I had it until 20 weeks with my other two pregnancies. I was awful, I feel for you!

Still.... A bit of lightoening sickness would be nice for reassurance now!

Hello all! Latecomer to the party... can I please join?

I'm 33, 7 weeks today, EDD 12/07/18. It's my first pregnancy, feeling excited but cautious - we'd not been TTC for long so feel v fortunate to have conceived quickly, but also v aware it's early days yet. Not helped by the fact I won't have my first scan until well after Christmas - 8 Jan - which feels like an age away!

Full of sympathy for those of you battling all-day nausea and vomiting already... I've not been feeling too bad so far - a bit of low-level nausea, especially first thing when I get up, but mostly just incredibly tired. Trying to take it easy and get through the last few weeks at work before Xmas...

I know this is going to sound really stupid and superficial, but since finding out I'm pregnant I've been getting really stressed out about a trip to Amsterdam that I have planned with a big group of work people in March next year and I'm not sure what to do about it.

There are 20 of us going for someone's retirement and it's basically going to be a massive drinking weekend which obviously I can't take part in. This week emails have been going round from the girl who is organising everything and she's trying to arrange a whole bunch of activities: an all inclusive evening of drinking on a boat for 120EUR, a prosecco bike for 30EUR and a tour of a gin distillery.... so obviously all quite expensive and all involving alcohol. To get the prices she's negotiated, a group booking is required so she's wanting us all to get back to her and agree so it can be booked.

At 4+2 weeks pregnant I really don't want to be telling people at my work - my own family and closest friends don't even know, and it's super early so I'm already worried enough as it is about anything going wrong (and in fact I know that a trip to Amsterdam is really the last thing I should be worrying about at the moment because anything could happen with my pregnancy between now and then, and obviously my first concern is having a healthy pregnancy and baby!)

Quite honestly, I feel like I want to just not bother with the trip at all anymore - the fact that everything is just focusing on lots of drinking means I'm not really going to be able to take part, and now that we've got a baby coming it's an expense we could do without. I've paid my flight but I would be happy to accept that as a sunk cost and move on - it's a small price to pay for the lovely reason that we're going to have a baby - but again, I can't really turn around and just say I'm no longer going without giving a good reason.

I feel like it's such a silly thing to be worrying about but I don't really know how to deal with the situation - what would you do?

Thank you for all the kind words, you've helped me feel slightly less whale-like Hope everyone is feeling good today (or slightly less poorly!)