July 2018 Babies

[HarryPotterandtheSAHM]

I thought I’d start this thread now as I can’t see one yet! I got my bfp this weekend on a digital and estimate my due date to be 1st of July, but I have long cycles so I’m anticipating it changing at a dating scan. Anyone else with me for end of June or beginning of July 2018?

Morning ladies! Can I join you please?

Here’s my stats:

Name- Glitterandunicorns
Age- 36
Children- 18 month old son
TTC- about a year

Just found out we’re expecting number 2! It took us a year to conceive our son who is 18 months old now, and about a year to fall pregnant this time round. We were getting to the point of going to see the GP to start investigations so I’m super excited but also super nervous!

I’m only about 5 weeks’ pregnant at the mo, so we’re very early but the sickness and nausea has already been pretty rough. Still, it’s a small price to pay!

@hannknitted personally I'd cancel and not go... Could you say there's a family wedding that you can't miss... You just got a save the date card? Your parents anniversary...A big party one?

Hello new ladies, Congratulations and welcome 🖑💖

Hannknitted i would just not go and just say you already have commitments. I've cancelled on the work Christmas party and although people are like "whyyyyy?" I'm just saying I've changed my mind and luckly they aren't probing futher. I have told my manager, as i had to take last friday off bevause of ms and i didn't want it going down as normal sickness- i was supposed to be going with her lol. Goodluck! Plus that trip money could be spent on cute baby stuff :) x

@hannknitted Under those circumstances, I’d not go. It sounds like an awful lot of money to spend to hang out with people getting more and more drunk! If it was a regular city break, fair enough, but it sounds like it’s a little more alcohol-focussed than that!

Thanks @Hulaballo @BlueeSpottyTiger & @Glitterandunicorns - your comments have made me feel a lot better, I didn't really realise it before I saw your replies but I think I needed someone to tell me it wouldn't be unreasonable for me to just cancel and not go.

I think you're all right and I need to just do what's best for me so I think I'll just make an excuse and not go - I like the idea of a family wedding that can't be missed, I'd never thought of something like that!

Thanks for your advice, you've made me feel a lot better. Hope you're all doing well

Welcome newbies!

@hannknitted I agree with the others - I would have no qualms at all about telling a big fat lie. MIL's 60th, parents' wedding anniversary party, friend coming from Australia, whatever.

@LittleBirdBlues I forgot you'd done this before...you should know better than to wish for symptoms!!

@heregoeseverything you are absolutely right! I'm so excited about this pregnancy though, I really feel like a novice again.

@hannknitted absolutely make up an excuse! Everybody will understand when they find out the real reason

I've been thinking about this and I really think it is an absolute prerequisite to be comfortable with lying if you don't want everyone to know you're pregnant. "I'd rather not say" is just so obviously "I'm pregnant".

"Why aren't you drinking?"
"LIE."

"Why aren't you coming?"
"LIE."

"Why aren't you eating that?"
"LIE."

Btw @snufkin84 I could have written your first paragraph except that I'm 34 and 7+2! Haven't been given my scan date, but imagine it will be after Christmas as my referral to midwives was delayed...ho-hum... I am going to get a viability scan and Harmony test at 10 weeks though...

Thanks @Heregoeseverything & @LittleBirdBlues - I’m glad you’re all on the same page as me and think it’s fine to make up an excuse and not go!

Totally agree that you have to be prepared to lie about everything to hide that you’re pregnant - I hate it, I’m generally a very open person so I find it hard, can’t wait until 12 weeks when we can just tell everyone!

@hannknitted

Is it bad that I find lying in these circumstances super-easy?! My only concern is that my lying isn't good enough (leading to a group of friends twigging at 5 weeks and interrogating me, which really made me cross)! Everyone understands the need to keep quiet at the start, there is nobody I know who cares about me who would expect me not to lie in the circumstances.

I would say I'm an honest person generally except when it comes to my privacy (again, I feel like if someone asks a very personal question and I say I don't want to answer it, that often tells them what the answer is - I feel totally justified in lying in those circumstances...and I just hate idle nosiness, like when someone who barely knows you asks if you're TTC...).

I threw up on the train home tonight :( Only a tiny bit into my mouth, but still... Was at a conference today and was feeling pretty squicky before lunch.

I'm only 5 weeks! Hope it's not a shape of things to come.

Hi everyone, hope you're all well! Ive been a bit quiet lately.
Welcome to all the new bfp's!!
@snufkin84 what a bummer that your scan isn't until Jan 8th! I'm 2 days ahead of you and have everything crossed that I get a scan before Christmas!
My hospital has changed procedure since DS and I now have a separate booking appt which I'm going to on Monday. Hopefully they'll give me the scan date then.
7+3 today and not feeling too bad except boobs are still so sore and I'm super tired and gassy. 😳

@hannknitted- I agree with everyone else too! I wouldn't go. You'll not be able to take part and it's a waste of money if you can't partake!

@Heregoeseverything I’m definitely not good at coming up with the lies - I’m like Joey on that episode of Friends where he has to lie to get off work and every lie he comes up with ends with “and then a raccoon came along...” and Phoebe is like “NO, you stink at lying!” Haha. As you say though, everyone will understand when we can finally tell all!

Thanks @Boboelephant - everyone thinks the same which is good so you’ve all definitely made me feel much more comfortable with just making up an excuse and not going

@Heregoeseverything and @Boboelephant - thank you, hope you won't have to wait until after Xmas for your scans. I think part of the reason mine's so late is that my booking appointment isn't until 20 Dec - that was the earliest slot they had free when I called the midwife two weeks ago. I'm in Edinburgh, perhaps it'll be different where you are?

@hannknitted - adding my vote to all those saying make an excuse and don't go. I'm facing a similar dilemma with a dear friend's hen weekend abroad, planned for last weekend in April. Really keen not to miss it, and I don't imagine it'll be quite as focused on booze as your Amsterdam trip sounds like it was going to be, but bit worried about flights at that point (think I'd be 29 weeks so would need a fit note?) and whether it'd be helpful for the organisers to know that one in the party will be pregnant. Need to commit by end of Nov so accommodation etc can be booked - but don't know any of the bridesmaids organising it well, so not sure I want them to know at this stage. Any thoughts?

And in the shorter term, anyone got any iron-clad excuses for not drinking at upcoming Christmas parties?? Again these are being put on by good friends and colleagues, so don't want to not go along at all, but also not keen for everyone to know at this stage why I'm not drinking...

oh and sorry to hear that @karategirl - hope you're feeling better today?

Oh no, @karategirl ! Any better today?

I had my worst day the other day, felt on the verge of puking for most of the day, but I think that had a lot to do with the 200g of cheese and chive cracker crisps I ate in one sitting

Personally I'm finding the balance between hunger pangs and nausea tricky! Any time I've been nauseous before pregnancy I've felt like I want to throw up and not at all hungry. But now I feel like I want to puke and stuff my face simultaneously... and while my hunger pangs love the face-stuffing, the nausea is less keen...!

@snufkin84 Personally, I would go at 29 weeks, you should be totally clear to fly unless there are unusual complications (and even if you're pregnant with twins!). I really don't think you need to tell the organisers you're pregnant now. They won't need to know that at this stage and frankly at our age (assuming your friends are around 33 also) it is unlikely you will be the only pregnant one. It is a long long time since I've been on a hen with no pregnant or breastfeeding mothers!

@Heregoeseverything - thank you, that's v reassuring and good point about others likely to be pregnant too! I hadn't thought of that.

Thanks @snufkin84 and @Heregoeseverything I'm feelling much better today (at the moment!) Although I was awake from 4:20 this morning because my boobs are so painful... Working from home today, so taking it easy as far as possible (hence the cheeky break on MN!)

I know what you mean Here about balancing hunger and nausea. That's a huge problem with me too! I've just been snacking on crystallised ginger. Terrible in terms of sugar intake, but so so good where the funny tummy is concerned.

I'm 6+1 and already so sick (excuse the pun) of feeling rubbish. I'm nauseous nearly all the time and have thrown up a handful of times. I don't know how I did it last time - with DD1 I was sick about 5 times a day until 16 weeks but not sure when it started. That tended to be after eating whereas now I feel sick whether I eat or not. Grumble grumble grumble

@karategirl The problem is I don't like ginger!! If I ate crystallised ginger I would almost certainly vomit, thought I'm managing ginger tea. I'm finding it so weird to just not be able to trust my own body and instincts, craving things that then make me feel sick, not feeling at all like eating things that are actually fine when I do eat them, massively overestimating the quantity of food I can eat, etc...

@pennyw85 Oh dear! Yes they say that not eating is the worst for it but when I first got it it was only after big meals...now a bit more variable but I'm finding little and often helps...

@Heregoeseverything totally the same here... I can't judge if I'm full and sometimes I'm just making myself feel less nauseous by eating ... Can't tell if I'm nauseous or hungry and if I eat I feel better but 10 mins later feel worse but if I don't eat it's sickness again... Feel like I'm going round in circles 😁

@Hulaballoo I deal with it by realising that I am very much like Krang from Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

In short, my food consumption is currently under the control of a tiny little person whose decision-making faculties are poorly developed. So nothing makes sense and there's no point trying to work it out...!