The long and short of it is - DH's parents are crap! Just for a bit of background - they only live just down the road and in fact, up until about 4 months ago, we lived in their house for 2 1/2 years ....
Anyway - they have never been very "hands on" with the children. despite DH's mum harping on for yeeeears about wanting grandchild - Now they got them, they completely take them for granted. They rarely see them and hardly ever offer to take them out etc- FIL is retired, but working ATM and MIL works 2 1/2 days; but they are sooooo busy all the time. Their garden and their house are more important to them than their children and grandchildren - their social calenders take precendence over everything else in their life.
I just find it so hard that they take v.little interest in the girls and that they don't ever "think " to give DH or I a break from them. We always have to ask and more often than not, the answer is "we're busy!"
On the one hand, I do completely understand and appreciate that they "have had their children" and now they are enjoying their time as "just the two of them" and they are doing all the stuff they couldn't do when they had children at home; but all I am asking is for them to take a little interest and care enough about DH and I to want to give us a little break. Even if they aren't bothered about us, surely they would like to have a relationship with their grandchildren????
I feel like the girls are just "a chore" and "a burden" to them - They are nice to look at for a couple of hours, but then "time's up". Am I making any sense???
It just makes me soooo and a bit
To be a bit more specific - we've have asked them countless times when they are free over this long weekend and they have just been sooo crap and non-commital. Finally MIL called me this morning to say that we could bring the DD's over for tea tomorrow evening if we wanted, which was progress at least.... We also asked them if they would possibly mind taking them out for the day on Monday, so DH and I can spend a little time together before baby's born and sort out a few bits and pieces too - Cue: Major flap-out!!! FIL is decorating one of their front rooms and "needs" to be left alone to get on with it as he has just been too busy to spend any time on it recentely and "needs" all day Monday to crack on with it ..... MIL says she is free; and is willing to take one of the girls out for a couple of hours and then come back, drop that one off and take the other one ..... WHAT!!!!? she says she can't possibly manage the two of them alone on her own!!!!? OK, I do sort of apprecaite that as they are v.close together and v.young, but I MANAGE!!!!!! So does DH!!!!!
It also makes me worried cos she is supposed to coming over to look after them while I go to hospital to have No3. Well, if she can't manage both of them on her own on Monday, surely that implies, she can't manage both of them on her own EVER!!?
I am so, so ,so worried about what is going to happen to my girls when I go into labour and go to the hospital etc - I don't want them to be messed around and I really don't want to come home to complete chaos, mess and devestation.
I am soooo worried.
What should I doooooooooo!?
I am sorry - that is v.long and incoherant; but I hope you get some kind of jist from what I have splurged ....