Due in March 07 - Numbers starting to dwindle now - will anyone outlast this thread?

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Yet another new thread, because just like all the remaining posters the old one is about to go pop.

Morning all - and happy belated birthday to Mossie. If it's any consolation to those who are still waiting, if what happened to me and to Laidback is anything to go by, the longer you wait the quicker it's likely to happen when it eventually does.

I've posted the full story of Toby's rather dramatic arrival here .

Morning all,

I'm afraid to say the hospital appointment, or "prod 'n' sweep", hasn't done anything; the mw said I'm not dilated or anything like that, she said something technical about my cervix but I'll be honest I didn't sleep at all last night and it just went right over my head.

Lo is fine, I'm fine, but she said by Tuesday (+14 days) she couldn't guarantee there would be enough fluid around him or something like that.

So I am booked in for another "prod 'n' sweep" next Tuesday at mid day, and then I am booked in that night for an induction if that hasn't started things off, or if there are any problems.

I think they would have been okay with me holding out a few more days, but in the end I caved in. I've just got to the stage now where I have lost my ability to think about it rationally, I know with my head that the jokey comments people make are just that, jokey comments, but emotionally I feel like I'm taking everything to heart, like everyone is judging me because I am incapable of giving birth by myself.

I know that's a stupid way to think but it's like being scared of spiders isn't it? You know there's nothing to be scared of, they're tiny little creatures that can't do you any harm, and are in much more danger from you. And nevertheless, they are terrifying.

Sorry I think I'm going off on a bit of a tangent! I think I'm a bit shook up.

Kitty / Runningal sorry to moan so much I know you're both in the same position.

Dolly I'll text you, I'm sorry to hear that you and your dd1 didn't have the best time on our birthday.

Foxy your ds1's Easter egg sounds brill - what a shame to eat it!!

Right I'm going to go and retreat into a nice emotionless world of cult sci-fi and pretend that I'm not pregnant at all and I'm not going to be induced and everything is just fine and dandy. Will pop back later today.

Oh god just recalled sil is coming over... cue more well meaning but more and more irritating by the hour "he's never coming out is he! Ha ha ha I bet there isn't really a baby in there" etc. etc.

What a mardy cow I am! I'd better go before I bring you all down!!!!

mossie,dont feel bad,i was in hospital for a week and during that time there was a constant stream of overdue ladies getting induced.and like in dollys case,sometimes the baby may have wanted to stay put for quite some time after 42 weeks.they are little people but in this country we seem incapable of accepting they all develop at different rates.

bertie might decide to be cheeky and do what i did when my mum went in to be induced with me the mw had just showed her to her bed and her waters broke

i leave everything to the last minute

Mossy - do NOT feel bad about it... there are loads of us who have been induced or had the drip on this thread - I ended up on the syntocin drip with all 3 of mine at some point in each labour... if it does come down to it you will be fine

On the major positive side there are hours and hours before next tuesday... anything could happen between now and then... one day your cervix may well be posterior and long etc and the next it can have radically altered... you just never know... but one thing is sure, each day is bringing you closer to your first brilliant cuddle with Bertie! When that happens, you'll forget all about these concerns and niggles i promise!!!

Kitty - i know what you mean about felted woollens... really gives me the heeby-jeebies

Hey... where's sazzy these days?

Happy Easter everyone... look forward to hearing about you delivering your little Easter bunnies in the days to come

I went for some ctg today and another poke. Baby is fine, which is reassuring.

During the poke the midwife said she could stretch me to 4cm, horray!! And that the water bag was very 'tight', i.e had a lot of pressure on it and she had to be careful NOT to inadvertantly break it.

I'm going in for more monitiring on Sunday. They said it was very much up to me what I wanted to do next.

Whilst I was there (for an hour) I could her a wailing woman in labour, she'd come in for an assessment and by the time I'd left the unit she'd had the baby .

Mossy, I'll email you.

mossie, however it happens, it doesn't make you any better/worse than anyone else, and i'd look on it as you're doing such a good job that baby just doesn't want to leave

Kitty - sounds as though it'll happen anyday soon now

Mossie - I was induced with DD and it was fine so don't worry about it. Just make sure you book an epi as well as the contractions with Oxytocin are very strong and you'll be monitored.

Just think, baby on Tuesday then back home in time to watch Dr Who next Saturday

so how many/whos left????

Jay, I think there are three, me ,Mossy and Runningal.

Tomorrow I will be up to my record if I don't drop tonight.

Well sending you three a huge amount of labour vibes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Kitty, do you want to break your record or would you rather have yr baby!?

Evening ladies,

Thanks everyone for saying such nice things and cheering me up!

Kitty many thanks for taking the time to speak to me today. I do feel a bit better now. I thought what you said was very wise, that we all try some form of induction, whether it's the raspberry tea or the evening primrose or clary sage etc. and a chemical induction is just upping the ante. So I don't feel so bad if I do end up going down that route.

I am hoping that something will happen of its own accord before Tuesday of course... Diva it would be great if I could make like your Mum and have him kick off by himself just as they're about to induce me!!

Well I walked the dogs, thought I'd do a nice relaxing walk to the park instead of the waste ground, but I forgot that it was Good Friday and the park was packed with loads of children, I had to keep the dogs on the lead (they're not killer dogs! Just that they are quite boistrous and I think it might scare very small children if they jumped up) so now they're pestering me for another one! I don't think so!!

Dh wasn't very supportive of me when I was at the hosi and I felt a bit pressured by him into agreeing to an induction, as he had pointed out that the longer it goes on, the more holiday / paternity he loses. And I do understand that is a concern, and he wants to spend as much time as possible with Bertie when he's born, but it's not a valid reason for inducing me.

So now he is in a sulk because I told him how I felt. As he felt he was being supportive by not agreeing they induce me at +10 days (that is their policy and I had managed to say they should do it at +14 instead).

Anyway I am going to start a thread in childbirth to get lots of thoughts on induction and advice, so any of you who have had it done please pop over!!!

Right I am more cheery and no more moaning, not today anyway, promise!!

just posted epic comment on your induction thread mossy!

Morning, still here

17 days over

Morning, yes, I am still here too Kitty, we knew it would end up like this though didn't we! Hope you slept okay last night did you have any wine in the end?

Muppet many thanks for your comment on my induction thread.

Is Runningal still here too?

Oh dh is doing my swede in. Yesterday, and so far this morning, he has been in the sulkiest of moods over the inducing thing.

He thinks I am somehow selfish by not jumping for absolute joy at the thought of it, because don't I realise the longer it goes on the more it eats into the time he has taken off to spend with his newborn son? Yes I do realise that and yes it's a pisser, but I told him at the same time I couldn't make such a big decision based on that.

He has taken umbridge and all yesterday kept going out (to his mate's, to look for a new kitchen door , for a drive, whatever) and when I said that I could have done with some support yesterday as I was quite down and upset over the whole thing he said, "well no one cares what I think and it's not support you want you just want a cheerleader who agrees with all your decisions."

He is normally very considerate but sometimes he just gets on one and won't let it go. Like now. Just as I'm due to go into labour in the next couple of days. Way to time it!!

Moan over... going to find some displacement activities to keep the ol' demons at bay!!

there's another baby!
almost became a live birth last night!

Sorry that you are still here. Kitty, 17 days, what a woman . I am very impressed and hope that when Ronnie shows up it will be swift and relatively pain free for you. Sounds as if your body is getting really ready - how long are you going to wait? There was a woman in the MAU whose neighbour waited 44 weeks for her LO and the MW had experience of another woman who was nearly 45 weeks ! Gosh, that is patience. Felt a bit embarrassed being there at 39 weeks for my pre meds and blathering on about being uncomfortable etc but each to her own....

Mossy - big hugs. I remember last time that I was mightily pissed off with the world for leaving the "oh you're not there, I expect you're in Tommy's having the baby" messages whilst I was in tesco's gathering supplies and fending off Qs from all and sundry ("haven't you had that baby yet?" "Can't be room for many more in there" "Any longer and you'll burst" etc etc ) Tempting though it is to leave a message saying "eff off, I'll tell you when there is some news " I just decided not to reply to anyone by phone / text / in person. Just leave them guessing. You are so not a failure. Your body will eventually go into labour when Bertie's ready. This may not align with the NICE guidelines on induction, but it is of no concern to anyone else. By Tues you will be underway and so can look forward to having that cuddle in just a few days. Am thinking of you loads and sending lots of love and labour vibes across the ether. Hang on in there.

Runninggal - I am afraid I haven't caught up with your news and can't remember how far over you are and if this is no 1. Still, you too will have a fabby baby very shortly. Wishing you a speedy labour and a beautiful baby.

It was DH's birthday yest and we met up with friends at the pub. DD2 slept very well as we drank and DD1 was quite good as well, although we did spend a long time running up and down stairs with her! No plans for today, and more friends coming over tomorrow. WIll be back on later and hope that you all have a restful Sat.

XXXXXXX

Hi everyone - well have you had those babies yet??? LOL!!

Mossie - when I had Monti my decision to have my waters broken was based on my having arranged my childcare for the day - I was in "gotta get this baby out today" mindset, so I can sort of relate to your DH. Although its undermining, its nice that he wants to spend time with the baby isn't it? Sorry, that's not very helpful is it?

EllieK a live birth sounds exciting I will pop over in a mo and have a look!! Although you lot go through threads at such a rate, I go to "threads I'm on" and you're already two further along lol!

Dolly thanks you are right, I am trying to look at it like that, like after Tuesday I will have little Bertie come what may.

Foxy yes I suppose it is nice that he wants to spend more time with his baby, I imagine there are a lot of blokes out there who really wouldn't care less, I should be thankful really.

Doesn't help though now he has buggered off out again, it p*sses me off more I think because I can't really get out atm, there's the toilet every ten minutes factor and the can't walk further than fifteen minutes factor to take into account... so I'm left in the house on my tod.

Good grief, it echos the birth situation. Will I give in and induce him out of his sulk by being the bigger person and understanding his concerns etc. etc.? At some point he will come out of his sulk by himself but it could take weeks; how much longer will I wait?

Mossie - I hope he's not going too far away and is still contactable. These very late babies can arrive in a real rush, and he might just miss it!

Mossie, remember, you are the one who gives birth and you are the one that carries that experience round with you, not him.
You should NEVER give birth at a certain time or in a certain way to please someone else UNLESS you too are happy with that.

He is being a prat, sorry, but he is. I really believe that this is the one time in your life when it is all about YOU and your BABY, nothing else.

Sorry, rant over

mossie/kitty-i think i have sent kitty the photos twice and mossie not atall cos i got all flustered whilst sending emails due to stereophonic whinging babies

if i have fooked up i will sort it later

unless you are both in labour !!!!

mossie
With ds ( my first) he went 14 +
On day 3+ I had an internal, nothing doing cervix as snug as a bug in a rug.

On day 10+ had more monitoring, scan bay fine, placenta/umbilical flow fine, cervix action = nil

Happy to let me go 12+ before further monitoring then to discuss induction/elective c section

12+ no cervix action, baby fine

13+ midwife check no cervix dilation
Booked in resigned for inducttion assessment 12pm on 14+

At 9am woke up with bad period pain, though oh yeah more of them niggles.

At 11am cancelled induction as midwife said I was in labour although no pain at all, just random period pain (had independent midwife as was in NZ and they are free)
Started throwing up at 2.45pm, went into transition, mad dash to birth unit, ds born 11 minutes after arriving.
Home 1.5 hrs later.

so first babies break ALL the rules
Here is hoping for you Mossie - tis your body btw your dh should respect that xxxx

Well, mil came over and took me to TK Maxx, where she bought me a pair of blue and white polka dot pumps. I must be a very shallow person because that cheered me up no end. Also I bought some baby clothes.

Kitty he is being a prat, so when he gets back (he has gone to sil's - Manchester - which is as you say Lunar is a little bit far if things do kick off quickly) I am now feeling logical and right-headed enough to discuss the decision I've made.

I've decided I don't mind being induced if the conditions are "favourable"; i.e. I have a good bishop's score (get me with the technical terms! All Lulumama's doing I must admit). As I am fed up with waiting and also, I would like to have him around to help me for the first couple of weeks of Bertie's life! But if it is looking like the conditions aren't favourable I will decide then what I want to do. And if I want to wait longer, then so be it.

Diva looking forward to your photos when you get chance!!

Piffle here's hoping I go the same way you did, that would be the ideal of course!!

Hooray Mossie, glad you hear you sounding so much

more....sure of yourself I guess. That's the most important

thing, that YOU make decisions YOU are happy with.

Thanks for the pics Diva, yeah I got 2 lots Elsie is so lovely

I went for a walk after lunch , me and DP, we haven't been out just us for as long as I can remember. It was lovely just to chat with no little people interupting.

I tried to walk for 1/2 hour as fast as my fat and swollen little legs would take me!! No twinges, not one. Now I have backache .

Hello all,

No news from me, as usual, still hanging in here.

Sorry to read you've been feeling stressed Mossie. I have also booked in for induction at 2 weeks over, that was the last possible date they would give me (wanted to do it a week over - that's today!) As you say, we'll see what our Bishop's scores are first.

Take care all