due march 2005

[misdee]

is anyone gonna join me?

due 3rd march.

Hi Aku, I hope you find a new place to move to very soon! Good luck! As for the moving since I found out I was pregnant I have moved once into dp's place and we are moving again next weekend into another slightly bigger appartment. I found a couple of friends to help and apart from doing easy packing of boxes will and have done absolutely nothing else. I think if you ask friends to help out. Don't lift ANYTHING at all, your will put too much strain on your back and other joints and my mum (who has 6 children) is convinced that lifting and carrying will make stretch marks worse.

Hi Shortiemum, it is also my first baby and although I am 32 I don't think it makes me worry less. In the beginning I was worried about losing the baby, then if the baby was going to be healthy, then about me, my weight, if i am going to get stretch marks, which hospital, if I go to hospital will they make it too medical and do procedures I don't need, the word epitisiotomy makes my stomach turn, how will the birth be.... and this week I am feeling tired which is making me feel insecure and miserable about how I am going ot cope with the baby, am I going to like it, is it going to be healthy, what if it cries all the time is it going to drive me crazy.... the list goes on.....! We have a lot of babies in the family, i am one of 6, have 4 nieces and nephews and dp has 9 nieces and nephews!!!! His sister has given me demonstrations of how she gave birth to each of her 4 children (yuk!!!) and my mum keeps saying things like '..oh, actually I had better not tell you that I might worry you!'. I keep reassuring myself by saying that I am not the first person to have a baby and if all the others have managed OK then I guess I can too. I think I am lucky as well that dp is very supportive, but I also worry about if that will last, since we have just moved intogether are we still in honeymoon period?

As for my weight worry I am 24 weeks and have put on about the same as you Munchkinsusie (most of it in the last 4 or 5 weeks) and am also really worried that it will carry on so fast! The nurse that does my check up said she put on 20Kg (44 pounds I think) the thought of that fills me with horror!!!! But also said that the weight gain should start to slow down in the next few weeks. Still it is frightening to see my body change so fast!

I have to say (god this is long winded and I am sounding like a wingy cow - this is a bad week! SORRY!), but I don't like being pregnant, I am very happy about it and want the baby very much, but I find it boring waiting, not being able to do the same things I could before but not yet having the baby here. It feels as if life is on hold. Saying that there is no better feeling ever than when I feel my little one moving around inside me!!!!

....well, now I have got that off my chest and feel much better for it I suppose I should do some work!

anyone getting little nosebleeds?

Hi Sweeney - not nosebleeds as such, but nose feels blocked all the time and, (sorry to be graphic) but when I blow it it's a bit bloody (yuck). I don't remember having this with first pregnancy, but I think it's common (according to my book anyway!)

sweeney, i had nosebleeds with the 1st pregnancy. i used to try and get things off the bottom shelf and blood would pour from my nose. lovely. didnt happen with 2nd pregnancy or this one (yet).

I have persuade dh we need a new bed, so am off bed shopping later today. oh to sleep well.

i had nosebleeds through both pregnancies....

once again i'm reassured! thanks

hello.

just thought i'd update a bit. baby is kicking well, have another appointment beginning december at the hospital, after that i get relased into community midwife care (quite a bit later than previous pregnancies). but it'll be nice just to walk to the end of the road istead of having to go to the hospital.

Have just ordered a new bed. have paid extra for the matress warrenty and a protector, am worried my waters will break in bed lol. all in all its cost around £630, the most i've ever spent on a bed lol.

Am still decorating the babies room, have order the baby circus stuff from mothercare, so its gonna look fab! cant weait till its all finished, am stripping and painting today, will finish the floor during the week.

Hope everyone is ok.

Misdee - as someone who spent what seemed like a fortune on a bed 7 years ago, I can say it was well worth it. Just imagine the value for money you'll get - you use it every night (and if you're like me during the day too!!). It's wonderful if you've been away to come home to your lovely comfy bed.

I saw one of the homebirth community midwife team on Friday - she came to my house. All very reassuring - she just listened to me banging on about my 3 day labour with dd and didn't bat an eyelid! But it wasn't a proper appointment - just a chat about what the homebirth team do, so now I have to see my usual midwife at my GP's surgery for a checkup this Friday.

Also getting big kicks from this baby. Dd asked me again could I "take the baby out" please!! And had to be told, not just yet.

i'd love a new bed misdee, good on you.i can feel my little one kicking more now.had a dream last night that i held baby up in the air. was lovely
i stopped work today from one of my jobs. it happened rather suddenly but i think it feels great!!!!

cant belive i have about 14 weeks left. i said when we moved in that we'd get this palce finsihed by xmas. well thats 4/5 weeks away and the kitchen isn nowhere near started, neither is the bathroom. dear lord, best get a move on.

after xmas i want to be relaxing and doubt i'll have time to decorate after baby is born.

Misdee, for someone who spent her first pregnancy rolling off a mattress on the floor, I fully know the joys of a good new bed. Enjoy! When is everyone thinking of stopping work, I have till sometime in December to let my people know and I can't make up my mind. Everybody keeps saying with twins I should stop as early as possible but so far I feel fine. What do you guys think?

aku - well I'm working till 2 weeks before due date, but I don't think I'd be doing that with twins!! One thing that is worth remembering though is that it's easier to bring your end-date forward than it is to push it later. So if you're feeling fine you could give them a late-ish date, and then you can stop earlier if you need to. I guess you're less likely to go to term anyway with twins, so make sure you allow enough time for some nice resting at home before the babies turn up.

this time i'm not working so no need to worry.

but with dd1 i took 3 weeks of holiday first which was owing, and then started my mat leave, so i effectively left work 5 weeks b4 dd1 was born. she arrived bang on date.

I;d work as late as possible as you really do need the time after the bubba is born imo. but maternity leave and pay has changed a lot since i had dd1. think SMP was 60quid then. and only had 16 weeks leave as well.

Hi girls,
So sorry haven't written for ages, don't really use my computer as much as before, I've come back to my old office for a week to cover for someone so it's easier this week, but I've been reading all your posts and keeping up with how you're all doing ;)

nothing interseting is really up with me- another reason for not posting and boring you all! I'm feeling great and loving being pregnant (most of the time) I'm 24 weeks now and look preggers so evryone seems to be really nice all of a sudden! I still go to pregnancy yoga every Monday which is great and see my Midwife quiet often, I can see it geting uncomfortable the bigger i get but It's all part of the experience I guess! Can't wait until Christmas, i'm trying to stock up on pressies and decorations now before the rush, I'm a huge christmas lover and intend to make the most of my last christmas as the baby, I know it will be even greater with a little baby next year but feel i need to have one final christmas fest for me this year!

just think once christmas is over we'll only have two more months and then we're nearly there ( for those of us due at the beginning of March)

I was getting really bored and restless at home so it;s great coming into work and seeing all my old friends, I wish I'd worked throughout it makes time go by faster and maternity leave all the more special

the only problem I have a the moment is that dh has strted snoring, he never used to and it's bad enough tryong to go to sleep pn my left side without him snoring in my ear- I guess with that and needing the loo every five mins I'm being prepared for the baby keeping me up all night. I had a scan at 23 weeks as the 20 week wasn't clear and the baby had already moved into position! So pushing head on bladder, but it can still move so no guarentees it will stay the right wayup.

What symptoms has everyone been having? It helps reading books and mags and looking at this site becasue you know what to expect and what's normal and it makes you feel a bit better about it

Hope you're all doing well and I'll try to keep you posted more often...

Hi,

Symptoms - heartburn and restless legs are my two main ones I'd say. Constant fatigue (but I blame my 2 year old personally and the more tired I am, I can get very weepy. Twinges of pelvic pain that I'm desperately trying to stop becoming full SPD.

I'm honestly finding it harder work second time round and I wasn't expecting that.

I'm stopping work on 5th January - its about 9 weeks before I'm due but I can't keep on like I am doing - I'm definately overdoing things and something has to go.

Sorry - wasn't expecting that to become a moan but I think it reads a bit that way.

Hi Zoe C, poor you, I can imagine it must be so much more difficult if you have other children already, hope you get a chance to chillout before January, I've been getting really weepy too for no reason at all, I was bawling at the last episode of the OC last night! I don't think you;re alone on that one. I haven't got heartburn yet but legs feel a bit restless too, wander what the new symptom for us will be tommorow ;)

Also no heart burn or leg problems. But still my bump is often really really hard which is quite uncomfortable and when I sit for a while it gets painful. Magnesium supplements and pregnancy yoga seem to be helping a lot though!

Zoe C, I had a really bad week last week and I am sure it was just because I was exhausted (and no 2 year old for an excuse). It sounds as if you could do with a good rest and some time to catch up with yourself. Can you find someone to take care of the 2 year old while you have some time to rest?

I read somewhere recently that pregnancy symptoms are supposed to be worse second time round. Don't know if it's really true, or if it's incremental with each pregnancy, heaven forbid. It's certainly my experience - sickness was worse and lasted much longer, indigestion is constant, tiredness more marked, waking at night to pee more often!!

Having said all that I do feel generally pretty good - still doing my cycling to and from work, and trying to walk up the stairs to my 3rd floor desk. Plus dashing about after dd, I must say!

The really disconcerting thing this time round is how BIG I am. I had 5 people yesterday ask me when my due date was, only to gulp in surprise! I'm only 5'4" and frankly this bulge is going to have my toppling over frontwards pretty soon. Am hoping the bub has been having a growth spurt and will now mellow out, slow down and quit bulging!

I don't know about pregnancy symptons being worse second time round but I think every pregnancy is probably different even for the same mother. I think the bump gets bigger ealier second time round cos the muscles and everything stretch more easily.
I really have no idea what is a normal bump at this stage in pregnancy and am really curious so I had a look a the belly pictures (!!!!!) on a website yesterday. I was amazed at how different the shapes and sizes are for people in the same week! Some looked HUGE and others hardly looked pregnant at all!

Leogaela - you're so right - the variety is huge. Even though you know that in your head, once you've done it once you just imagine you know what it's going to be like second time round! More fool me

Hi everyone - thought I was doing quite well last few weeks - no symptoms, tiredness lifted, feeling good, but yesterday developed really sore shoulder and neck, feels like I've pulled a muscle or something. Worse today and making it hard to drive as I can't look over my shoulder easily. Didn't connect it with the pregnancy at all but was chatting to a friend this evening who said she had the same thing when pg with her youngest and has suffered on and off ever since. Hope it doesn't last - will have to see the doc otherwise. On a positive note though, I'm finishing work on 22nd Dec and can't wait! It's 11 weeks before my due date so earliest I can finish but am finding the whole pregnancy thing more tiring this time round and work seems like a drag. Am a bit worried that I might get bored though.

update on me ladies
still on the sick.....7 weeks with another 3 weeks sick note - bp is hovering between normal and the low end of high IYSWIM. Docs worried that if I go back it will send bp shooting up and I will be in hospital......

That almost takes me to the xmas hols.....and i had planned to only go back to work for a week after new year....

I feel quite good though - for the first time this pregnancy, I actually have some energy. Must use these next few weeks productively!

Hi popsycal - you enjoy your time off, sounds marvellous! And at least the bp is stable and not doing anything too worrying.

boneym - so you are nearly a lady of leisure too!! The nice thing about maternity leave before the baby arrives is you (hopefully) get to pamper yourself rotten and have nice treats. I remember three wonderful weeks of doing a bit of swimming, then a bit of snoozing, then lots of trips to cafes to have cake! Oh and painting some shelves too, which was less exciting.

Has anyone else been doing pelvic floor exercises? I have been so lazy this time round - have done a total of about 3! Gulp, am beginning to feel a bit guilty, must remember to do them.

Hi everyone!

I'm due anytime between the 27th Feb and the 2nd March 05 (keep getting different dates). I'm 25 in May and my DH is 33, this is our first baby. My pregnancy has been ok, not been sick or too tired. Have suffered from panic attacks for a number of years now and they've gotten worse with being pregnant, just hope once i've had baby they will settle down again. Either way i'm trying hard to work through them and not let them ruin my dream of being a mother! I'm based in Derby.

Currently I have heartburn and am starting to feel heavy and tired. Maternity leave starts in 3 weeks and takes me through to next September!

hi shalaa
welcome.... have you ever talked about the panic attacks to a therapist? in my experience of working with people it's good if you can find out the underlying reason for them. anyhow i'm getting bits of heartburn too and a terrible left hip. a little patch of it gets pins and needles, very uncomfortable!
down to 2 half days a week working, and it feels so much better.
as for pelvic floor i do them at yoga and pilates, so 2ce a week, not very much. i hate the feeling.