September 2017 #2

[oliversmummy26]

Starting a new thread for us all....

I've been spotting for almost a week now and I still can't get in at the doctors. 7 weeks tomorrow.

Oh eevee I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. Can you speak to them about a referral for an early scan for reassurance?

That's what I'm hoping for when I can finally get in at the doctors. Will try again tomorrow! If not I'll phone 111 and see if they can help at all.

Eevee that's awful. What do the receptionists say when you speak to them? Have you tried being really arsey to them and demanding that a doctor contacts you otherwise you'll go to A&E? (Even if you wouldn't)

eevee ive been spotting / bleeding on and off but something every day for over two weeks now. Had a scan at epu yesterday and so far everything is great and the bleed is caused by implantation.

Can you ring your local early pregnancy assessment unit and ask for advice?

Eevee, try not to worry too much. Spotting is normal. The doc probably won't want to know unless it becomes heavier, enough to fill a pad. Anything under the 6 weeks gestation stage may incur some spotting. Fx you can see a doctor soon.

Eevee hopefully you get to see the doctor and everything is fine.

Good morning all - I'm really not sure how I'm holding my shit together today. I do two days' a week working at a client's offices on a large country estate - my office is freezing.

I felt too sick to eat anything this morning, so I set off to work hating even the thought of food. I'm now sat, wrapped in coats, craving spaghetti carbonara and Bovril on toast, I'm so hungry and I feel so sick. I've got a meeting 12-1pm and then lunch with the client. It usually consists of something cold and fancy. If there is seafood I will actually be sick.

Living on decaff coffee and counting down the hours until 5.30 today!

Cali I did - i apparently have a sensitive cervix So we end up refraining in the first trimester as it is too stressful! I would get checked out though, as with any bleeding.

Eevee that is awful. Last pregnancy I had spotting so called the dr and got them to do a phone consultation (I said it was urgent). They then referred me to the EPU (and GP was lovely). In some areas EPU is self-referral.

Frilly I am sat at my desk feeling atrocious too. Can't go to the canteen as it will smell of food, but know I'll feel better if I eat something. No idea what though. And dh keeps sending slow cooker recipes through to me!!! I have threatened to vomit on him. Do mints help anyone? I have nothing to suck and the excess saliva is making me feel

Constantly on the mints, kep, so much so that I'm worried I'll give myself the runs as they're sugar free! Salt and vinegar Pringles, cereal and mints are all I'm living on right now.... And what I ate yesterday turns my stomach today. So horrid.
Still, I'm determined not to let this defeat me. I google hypnotherapy for morning sickness and am now listening to it before I get up in the morning and trying to get through queasy moments with positive reinforcement 'I am happy, I am calm, I am having a healthy pregnancy'.... I'm probably crazy

So i am handing my notice in finishing end of march, and without going into too much detail my team are a bit of a pain and rather than drip feed info i have just rolled my news out all in one as think it will go down better. Did so today but now feel like the world knows as big team, but haven't told my dad and some close friends yet, which feels quite strange?! Am i being an arse doing it this way?

I am looking at an early scan (7+4) and if i get one in soon and all is well i might just tell people early. I would hate for them to find out in other ways, although i think i'm fairly safe for word getting out but feels a bit strange as normally wouldn't have told the wider work lot so early. Thoughts?

kski wow big steps!! Maybe get on to telling those important to you I don't think you're being an arse about it. If it had to be that way or had to be.

I've no idea what I need today.... more sleep I think!!

Ksk very similar situation here - have told team at work (about 13 people) but my FIL, DH extended family and our friends don't even know yet but circumstances have driven it. Do you think there's a chance of people finding out by accident? Ie social media or something? If you do, maybe it's best just to bite the bullet and tell them first...or get an early scan and then tell them? It's a tricky one isn't it!

Yes! Finally got my booking appointment letter. It'll be Monday 13th, when I will be 10 weeks. At least they sent my mat notes booklet to start filling in personal details/ family history and some leaflets to read in the mean time.

ZylaB you're not to far behind us, but the time does go so slow! I'm only 8+5 and it feels like I've been pregnant for about a year 🙈

Eevee77 try not to worry even tho I know it's so hard! The same thing happened to me and the doctor said not to worry.. he said it's just the baby getting comfy and could happen at anytime in your pregnancy! But if you still wanted to get it checked call up your nearest EPU and explain your situation, I'm sure they'll be happy to help you.

Kskifred I don't think you're being an arse telling people, sometimes in life you're forced to do something different! My grandmother is very ill and my dad wanted me to tell her yesterday as this will be her frist great grandchild, I did want to wait until 12weeks but plans change and she was over the moon.. it's so hard keeping the best news to yourself, roll on the 23rd Feb 😁

Thank you all for the lovely posts. The receptionists are quite black and white, there are no appointments and that's it. I phoned 111 and they've got me an appointment elsewhere, I'm waiting to be see know so will update you. I'm trying not to worry, it's reassuring to know some spotting is normal, I just think that coupled with the fact I've not seen anyone about my pregnancy yet, no Midwife to contact etc...anyway, again thank you for the support.

kski you're not being an arse. Sometimes practicalities come first. When do you plan on telling the family?

Eevee77 so glad you have got an appointment! Defo let us know how it goes.. good luck x

Hey everyone :-)

Please can I join? I am nine weeks tomorrow, due date 5th September.

I'm excited but terrified, and climbing the walls waiting for scan in 3 weeks.

I have my booking in appointment on Wednesday :-) Has anyone had this yet? Will I be able to hear the baby's heartbeat (so worried things aren't ok)

Love, Alice x

Welcome Alice! What a marvellous name ;)

I've had my booking in, mainly just chatting, weight, blood for tests, urine sample. I don't think you'll be able to hear the heartbeat at an appointment until at least 16 weeks though!

Thank you!! And thank you for the quick reply!

Ah - that's good to know. I guess I just need to sit tight and stop worrying! Only a few more days to go :-) I think it will be nice just having someone at the end of the phone just in case.

Hi Alice and welcome! We're all climbing the walls here, will soon be champions at rock climbing at this rate, so join the club! I didn't get a booking in appointment (I will be seen first at 12 weeks), but those that have had one say it's sometimes possible to hear the heartbeat at that point, and sometimes not until much later. So opinion is divided and some MWs do it, some don't (to avoid worrying you if they can't find it, presumably). I'm a first-timer too, and I'm planning to make a nuisance of myself asking questions once I get the poor MW captured!

Welcome alice good luck for your booking in appointment.

Okay doc didn't say much but I got a scan tomorrow at 9 at EPU so we'll see.

Eevee, glad to hear you have an appointment at EPU, sorry that the doctor didn't have much to say though :(

Hi all, looking for some advice and not sure who else to come to :( .. Can't seem to bring myself to talk to friends/family about it and I could do with some advice from other fellow preggies! Apologies in advance for the essay :(

Had my booking appointment last week and OH came along for moral support. 1st pregnancy so all new and exciting and he really wanted to be involved after we had our early scan. Midwife seemed lovely and obviously went through all the medical Q's- told me to be as honest as possible which I was. In my head- I'd rather tell her everything and know there are 0 risks than leave something out and have it come back to haunt us later!

She asked about drug use- and I said no- because we don't take anything and wouldn't! But I told her I went to Amsterdam 5 years ago and tried a space cake (trying to be light-hearted and not thinking it would be important).. She then put it down on my record as a 'one off' and seemed fine about it and told me not to worry (and praised me for being honest)- but mentioned the reason they ask is if we'd ever done anything stronger that she'd have to tell social services.. We haven't and never would, but this obviously terrified me, anxiety set in and OH looked at me as if he wanted to kill me- I didn't think it was that serious and it was honestly harmless- I just wanted to be as truthful with her as possible.

OH has been off with me since and said I was stupid for mentioning it, and now I feel like the worlds worst mother-to-be for admitting something silly that happened years ago. Was I wrong to say it?! I didn't think anything of it and I know she said not to worry, but it's been playing on my mind ever since :(

Any advice/words of encouragement would really help at the moment to stop me from thinking that one harmless space cake when I was younger is going to end up with my baby being taken away from me! :(

Charl please try not to worry, I can sympathise with how you feel. I have a bit of trauma in my history and absolutely hate that this gets noted and always worry that it'll look bad (pragmatically I know it won't but what pregnant women is pragmatic hey?!)

So please don't worry yourself. You were honest and THAT makes you a good Mum to be. See the positive in that she said it was nothing to worry about.

It's such a rollercoaster being pregnant isn't it!