May 2017 #6........ 'Half way there and trips to Mothercare'

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And the chat/moans/advice/excitement continues.............any newbies welcome !

I also won't see the GP at all!
They seem to book my upcoming midwife appt when I am there.

Thanks Esme

I was offered the NHS antenatal classes again, it's a set of 4 but I think I'll just go to the labour one as I clearly wasn't listening the first time round as missed all the signs of various stages. They weren't great but free and gives you a rough idea of why to expect.

I'm trying to find a yoga class. I did daisy birthing classes last time which were great but just can't fit them around work and a toddler this time.

IT'S A BOY with a big head (ouch)

Great news newbie. I'm sure the rest of him will catch up with his head 😂

Hello, thanks for the new thread.

I can't believe the price of that egg pushchair! It does look amazing though, but since my first two (dd and ds) managed with a £15 Tesco's buggy (the same one - it's pink!) then I think this one will have to do the same. Am going to show dh the egg though. I'm saving £600 on a pushchair - but I'm sure I can find something I'd like to spend that "saved" money on!

Found you! Very nervous for tomorrow's scan, got work as usual 1st doubt I'll be able to concentrate. Boots sent through normal vouchers including a 7000 points when you spend £70 so that's £25 of points if I buy that Maclaren that I don't 'need' ... seriously tempted!!

I've booked on NCT classes. It's my first and as DH works abroad some weeks I thought it would be good to have a support group nearby !
Love my pregnancy yoga class so if you can find one is definitely say give it a try.
Booked in for whooping cough at same time as 25 week check plus getting MATB1 form.
Booked in for Anti D at 28 week check.
And.......I go to Gran Canaria on Saturday ! And relax.......

We are booked in for nct classes as well. It's our first time and I think it will be good for both of us but especially DH who doesn't do much reading around things so has no idea what to expect of the birth etc. They start the end of feb so I'm looking forward to that. I've found a pregnancy yoga and Aqua natal class in my area so I just need to invest in some maternity gear and I will give them a go.

I'm getting a lot of pelvic pain, cab barely walk sometimes. I saw my gp at about 14 weeks and was told to take paracetamol and use a hot water bottle as it's only going to get worse until birth. Great. I mentioned it at my 16 week appointment and was told it could get better. It's definitely getting worse but I don't know what to do about it. I don't have a midwife I can call and don't have an appointment until the end of the month. Is this something my gp should help with or hold out until my midwife appointment?

I'm booked into an antenatal class at the hospital, went for a one day one as opposed to a few classes due to working hours. Not really sure what to expect, but I'm sure there should be some useful bits :) anyone been before and have some insight into what happens?

Rabbitykinns55 - ask your midwife to make a referral to a physiotherapist. That's what I've done and am waiting to hear from them. Was told there is a 3 week wait.

rabbit you need a physio referral. GP probably could do it, but sounds like they won't in your practise, so I'd ring your MW and ask her. It's pelvic girdle pain and it usually gets worse. x

That's a really good offer peas and mclarens are so so useful once you get past 6 months. I say go for it if you've got the storage space.

Esmes think if all goes well tomorrow I'll order it, will make the next 20 weeks with a chubby toddler much easier on my aching body aswell rather than lugging the big pram in and out the car!
I never bothered getting referred for PGP last time, its back but for now I'm just trying to get on with it, i can't tell you how much better I felt after birth, I could barely walk one day and was skipping down the corridors the next! lots of people really recommend a support belt.

Thanks everyone. I'll speak to the midwife at my next appointment. I don't have one that I can call. I tried calling the maternity unit for advice but was told to see my GP or go to A&E. I opted for my GP as is neither an accident or an emergency but the GP won't refer me anywhere I don't think. Part of me thinks I should just get on with it because this is just part of pregnancy but it's really painful.

Rabbity - PGP is part of pregnancy but it can be lessened or managed so don't just assume you have to put up with it. Your GP should be able to refer you. Personally I wouldn't leave without a referral - I've already got my midwife to refer me despite only having night time pain as I know mine will get worse (I've a history of lower back and pelvic pain pre-pregnancy).

Barnes thank you. my GP won't do anything, they aren't a great surgery but I thought switching now would cause more problems so waiting until after the baby is here. I don't have a midwife I can call, in my trust we just get whoever is available on the day of your appointment. Its my first so I really don't know what I'm doing or what I'm supposed to do in these kind of situations. I feel very useless and underprepared.

Hi, long time reader but first time poster on the May thread. I just wondered whether anyone had experienced gender disappointment? I feel terrible even writing it down.

I had a really bad experience with my first pregnancy with DD (10) and have no positive memories from that time at all. In hindsight I think I had some form of pre natal depression. The pregnancy this time was very much wanted and planned. I've had a few emotional episodes but have been really positive about the pregnancy so far. In my head I've been 'fixing' the negative memories and replacing them with new positive ones. And all was going well until the scan showed we're expecting a boy. I'm absolutely devastated. I feel like I've 'lost' the girl I was expecting to have, and the chance to fix the rest of the negative memories.

I hate myself for feeling this way, and I know it's silly. I can't bear to think of the thought of it being a boy, I feel like I don't want to feel the kicks, I don't want to think about names. I want to run away and start again.

Even writing it down I hate myself for feeling like this towards the baby we planned for and so eagerly awaited. I don't feel able to talk IRL to anyone as I know how awful it sounds.

We are booked onto nct classes starting in Feb. And the midwife referred me to the physio for PGP, she gave me a support belt and some other advice. Mine gets really bad if I spend a long time standing so trying to sit down more often especially at work.

I am also stupidly over emotional... DH thinks I have gone crazy! I just cried because I thought we had paid for a heated airer with cover included (Christmas present from PIL) and it came today with no cover. Not sure if I am hormonal or just over tired!

22WR - I just wanted to say that I don't think you are awful for thinking such a thing. Unfortunately gender disappointment seems to be more common than we think and i can imagine the guilt u feel is overwhelming. Please speak to someone - if not your family then your midwife or a counsellor.
Some thoughts - it seems that you have been putting a lot onto this pregnancy to fix or make up for things that previously didn't go to plan - is this why you are so disappointed? If so then it may be worth finding some way to work through what happened last time as otherwise u may never really be able to enjoy this time. If it's not about what happened last time and simply wanting a girl not a boy then I think there have been some previous posts on gender disappointment which may offer you some peace of mind? Lastly - is it possible you are experiencing a return of the low moods you had last time? If so you may be able to seek some support via the mental health midwife.
Either way, please talk to a independent, professional person who can help you work through this.

If your having pgp or spd pain your gp should be able todo a referral to a Physio or osteopath.

I found the women's Physio at the hospital useless in first pregnancy she basically said i was pregnant and there was nothing they could do!

Second time I saw an osteopath who specialises in pregnancy and it was amazing I saw her monthly and it kept the pain manageable.

I have seen her once this pregnancy at the start of Dec and hopefully seeing her next week.

There are lots of tips on helping the pain or stopping it getting worse on pelvic partnership website.

I find sleeping on a folded duvet with pillow between knees helps me get more comfortable at night so it's easier to manage in the day. And never standing on one leg so sottti g down to get changed, shaving legs, does on or off etc.

22WR
Please don't feel bad about disappointment. You are allowed feeling and emotions, as is everyone.
I think that's the reason for he that I dont want to find out the gender, as I'm sure that once I meet baby I'll be in love with them.
Have you spoken to the midwife about what happened to you last time? I hope that you get enough support to avoid another depression.
Actually I think you're very courageous for speaking out, as pre and postnatal depression are more common than we think and it's still such a taboo!
Big hugs your way!

Congrats Newbie!
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FOB* - I know it's a lot, but this is only happening once !!! and OH is determined to not get pram etc second hand.

Re nct classes, I've booked us on the weekend one in march and one more day the week after. I think notbhaving family around us, it will be nice to have the social aspect. The prices are steep, though...
Also today I received confirmation that we are booked onto the NHS class end of April also 2 mornings in one weekend and midwife led. It's in our own town which is lucky, I realise.
First time parents we need that support, even if I'm rather experienced in handling babies due to my job.