September 2017

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Hi all - looks like I'm first here! I'm pregnant with #1, due 2 September. Got my BFP a couple of days ago and already it feels like a rollercoaster ride - I'm utterly thrilled, anxious about the possibility of a loss and terrified at the thought of the birth! But hey, bring it on!

I have had 2 water births but both in hospital not at home

Hi all I've not checked in for a while and so many new people which is lovely, very exciting! I'm feeling pretty rough 6+1 today although it's going much quicker than my previous 2 pregnancies. I keep panicking about what we are going to do with a 3rd (my 2nd is only 10months and this was not planned) but I'm hoping it's all going to be ok somehow! I'm another Londoner too (Stalingrad I'm also in Fulham!) These are my stats:
Age: 33
Cycle: none (DTD on my period - still no idea how this happened!)
Kids: 1 DD, 3yrs, 1 DS 10monts
Due date: 30th August
Status: Married
Fur babies: none
Location: London
Find out sex: Yes! I have no self control I couldn't wait 9 months to know!

And names I love Rupert for a boy and Olivia, Alexandra, Clementine or Flora for a girl.. I have so many girls names I love, find boys names much harder!

I was meant to write Olivia .. Silly phone 😁

Morning girls, hope we're all feeling OK.
Quick question about maternity bras. My boob's are normally none existent however with this pregnancy I've already busted out of my bras, previous pregnancies they've just filled out at first.
Debating getting maternity bras fitted now, but if anything like my previous pregnancies they'll only get bigger...
Any ideas what to do? Anyone in the same boat?

Added myself to spread sheet :-)

Hi Nw85 I'm in the same boat! Usually sleep on my front and the pain has been unbearable let alone the fact they seem to have grown into melons. For now I've bought a couple of m&s full cup wireless bras in the next cup size up (hello granny) as I have an inkling they will go up another cup size during my pregnancy and I will buy maternity bras when that happens.

I've just ordered two off jojos in a small, they have various hooks etc to accommodate growing sizes apparently, buy two get £5 off. Use code mum62 for a further 10% off and it's free delivery.
If you mention my name Nathalie Wardell at check out you get a free gift too apparently.
I love bargains so apologies in advance if I post all the ones I find.

I would LOVE a water home birth but I have a feeling I won't be able to because my BMI is over 30 and I have other health issues. If they let me, I'd love one in hospital instead. I don't really want any pain relief either. Quiet, dark and calm. It will probably be the opposite lol.

Boobs are still non existent on the sensitivity front. Belly is a bit hard. I'm sure I'm a bit bloated but all in all I feel great. It's taken me 3 years to get to this point so even if I was chucking up I think I'd be happy 😂

So interesting seeing everyone's stats, I tried to add to the sheet but my phone is being a pain.

Age:32
BFP: 1
First pregnancy
EDD: 3 Sept
Status: married
Fur babies: 0
Location: Brighton
Will definitely find out the sex

Anyone have anybody they are nervous of telling they are pregnant?
My DH & I are looking after my sisters flat while she and her DH have gone round the world traveling. Sadly They are not able to have children and they always struggle when they hear someone they know is expecting. We would be moving out of their flat when they get back from their travels in July (we pay them rent). It sounds really dumb but we really were not expecting this to happen this fast (and are really excited) but I feel so guilty like I have betrayed my sister and I don't want to hurt her. Family members have said to text that I have news and arrange a time to call so there is time for her to get used to it before speaking to me. But I'm not sure what is best

Thanks mouselove added myself to the spreadsheet!

I think I'll give it a couple more weeks before going for a scan unless the pain gets worse. I told doctor and he just looked at me like 'what do you expect' and I'm like- I have no idea my body hasn't done this before!!

Defo getting some new bras soon though- so painful and normal underwired bras don't help! Six weeks tomorrow!

roobois that's a tough one, I guess telling her over the phone will give her time to process, whereas if you were to wait until you saw her she may feel like you've hidden it from her? But I'm sure you could argue it either way. Perhaps steer away from any mention of how quickly it happened for you tho!
NW I love a bargain so post away!!!
You can buy bra extenders from amazon for a couple of quid too which may help with the mega norks!

I had something very similar - my sister had been trying since getting married for 4 years and had moved to London to get away from
all her friends having dc as it just became too difficult for her, she didn't tell many people but I was one of them so i knew how much is would hurt her and i was really upset and scared (we are very close). I hadn't been with my DP as long and DS was unplanned too so extra salt in the wounds. Her best friend when delivering her news emailed my sis to tell her - at the time i remember thinking how impersonal that was but my sis appreciated that she could be free to be upset behind a comp screen. I found out 2 days before her 30th birthday (big boozy party in London!) that i was expecting and it did taint that initial excitement, but I managed to hide it for the party i think but i was a smoker and a drinker and didn't take her long to interrogate me in the next few weeks. I did similar to advice you were given and messaged her saying I had some news and when would be a good time to call - I think she prepared herself beforehand so could try not to sound too gutted but i was so upset telling her. She couldn't hide her hurt very well but was pleased for us - i'm sure your sis will be too but be ok with her possibly getting upset. Ecstatic isn't the word when 2 months later my sis fell preg and now she has 2 beautiful girls so all was ok this time around but can sympathise. Sorry for my essay!

That's a tough one, I'd definitely tell her over the phone, give her time process it whilst away from you. My best friend was desperately trying for a baby when I found out I was expecting DS, she was devastated but came round eventually. I just gave her time and space. I'm sure your sister will be happy for you once she's dealt with her own upset. X

It is hard but you have to remember that hopefully they will be there for you in the long term and that's why you want them to know. With my sis in law she had just experienced failed IVF (second round - my gorgeous niece was the result of the previous successful round) but as I love wine we knew we had to tackle the topic sooner rather than later before she noticed as she would be hurt either way. We found after consulting with the mums that texting her to say we had news, then calling her, gave her enough time to prepare. She was upset but also happy for us and doing it that way gave her space to grieve her own loss.

With a close friend who has struggled over the years to conceive, I decided to tackle it head on over a glass of wine and say, I get that it's difficult, I'm here if you want to talk about it but understand if you need some space. After quite a few wInes (on her side!) she gave me a good hug and said she was more delighted at having been invited into our special early pregnancy time than sad at another friend conceiving while she hadn't, as she could tell I was holding something back, so I think the head on approach worked there. I'm relieved because I only have one or two friends that I can talk to about pregnancy, the rest are single or nowhere near it. This group is already a bit of a lifesaver for me!!

Good luck everyone who is worried about telling others x

I'll be honest, sometimes news can really hit you in the gut. As I said this is a 3 year process for me to get pregnant and I always wondered if I could or would ever get to this stage. I think if you need to tell anyone who has has losses or difficulty to handle it in a personal and sensitive matter is the best way forward. Acknowledging how difficult it might be for them is a good way to start.

I know you have had a hard time and I was really hoping to share our news but I didn't want it to come across insensitive....

The day before my BFP one of my best friends confessed she was miscarrying. She has to have another scan in 2 weeks to make sure she's either lost the baby completely or needs an op. They couldn't find anything on the last scan. I'm really hoping it's a good outcome because I don't know how I'll tell her. They were not TTC and she has Pcos.

shwighty I planned a home water birth and hired a pool, put it in living room etc
Checked hoses reached. Ran two baths in a row to make sure we could make enough hot water. Had two spare kettles handy to help filling up/topping up.

When it came to it, it all happened pretty quickly and I didn't have time to fill it up!
But the day after birth I had a lovely huge bath in the living room with a glass of champagne! Best bath ever!!

I really hope all of your friends and families take the news well! It must be hard for you all!

Who is not telling anyone at all until your 12 week scan? That was my plan but it didn't happen like that 😁 I've only told a few people but will wait to tell the rest of my family and friends at 12weeks.. It's so good it was Xmas as a few people have already have asked me if I'm bulking!! Which in gym terms mean you've put on weight and look a little fatter hahaha.. I just said I ate a lot over Xmas 😁😁

Also ladies I have also got boobs for the first time in my life 😀 I was very small before so I'm loving it 😂😂😂 Looks like I've had a little boob job 👍

cashmere you've inspired me tho! I think could buy a longer hose and get it set up in the living room. Hmmmm keeping the toddler out of it may prove interesting!! Last home birth I thought about having a pool but didn't bother but I do think I'd love it!

We almost told my parents, sister and her fiancé last week. Moment ruined with a family argument so didn't tell them. I'm not sure when/if we will try again but I really want to tell my mum. I'm almost positive that she knows already. I'm sure she's seen my pregnancy things around the house (vitamins and tests) and is just desperately waiting.
I think we might tell my DHs parents but maybe leave everyone else and family until after the 12 weeks.

I'm nervous about telling work. Or should be how I'll tell them. My team is very young and 6 other people directly. I just found out someone else in the office is pregnant too so I can steal the decaf lol. We've recently had 5 pregnant ladies go on maternity!

Hello again everyone. Sorry I've not been around for the last few days, work has been particularly crappy and I've had to go off sick, so feeling quite awful.

In good news though - I did another CB Digi today and got my first ever 3+! A week ago today I got a 1-2 so this is great to know the little one is doing what's he's supposed to for now. I'm finding it a little bit difficult not knowing exactly how far on I am, because I didn't have a cycle between miscarriage and BFP. Rough calculations between date of MC and Christmas Day BFP mean I have to be between 4+5 and 6+0 today, which I know is a fairly narrow window, and babies generally don't arrive when they're supposed to anyway, I'd just really like to have an EDD! I'll hopefully get one in a couple of weeks when I have a scan at the EPU, so I know I just have to be patient, but it's hard.

I've added my stats to the spreadsheet, thanks mouse. I was nervous about telling work too, especially since things have been so rough there for quite some time, and they all knew about MC, but I ended up telling them in tears a couple of days ago when it all got really bad, I blurted it out in a "I'm pregnant again and can't lose another baby to this stress", so not exactly as planned.

Roobois that is such a tricky situation, I have a very close friend with similar problems and going through fertility treatment. She's told me how she doesn't want to see her other pregnant friends and hates finding out anyone else is expecting. I even delayed TTC hoping that she'd get her BFP so I wouldn't have to be someone else causing her pain, but I'm actually getting quite old (34) and was aware that I had no idea if/when I could get pregnant myself, and would have forever regretted not trying. I'd planned to tell her early about last pregnancy, but miscarried before I got chance to. When I told her about the MC she said she'd already been avoiding me just in case I was TTC (we tried for 2 weeks, I didn't tell her that bit). I haven't seen her since then, that was about a month ago. I don't know how I'm going to face her now I'm pregnant again. It must be so much harder when it's your sister though, I feel for you, and hope she takes it as well as can be, even if that takes time.

Sorry for the massive essay. I'll try and make the next one shorter (and more positive hopefully!).

Oh I just remembered - massive positive - like amz I now have boobs for the first time in my life! DH is thrilled, although they're so sore it's very much "look but don't touch, dear"

MouseLove yes she probably does know, mums know everything! I told mine straight away and she said she knew already 😀 I'm really scared too and don't know how to tell my boss either! I'm a nanny so work with one family and feel bad they're going to have to find a replacement nanny for a year.. I want to come back after, hopefully being my DC with me but not sure how that will go down. 🤔

elpinguino sorry to hear you're having such a rubbish time! Are you feeling better today? But on the up note I'm glad your test has come back saying 3+ week X

I've just caught up on this thread!

Thanks mouse for the spreadsheet. I've added myself.

Wouldn't rule out a home birth, but probably not a water one as seems like a lot of faff to have to deal with. Our local midwifery led unit looks nice online with ensuite family rooms and the ability to have a water birth without the faff. Feel a long way off looking round and planning such things yet still!

Have only told my mum so far. It is hard roobois I have a couple of close people who haven't been able to or are struggling to have a much wanted baby so feeling excited but nervous to share the news with them in the coming weeks as I know they will be happy for us but it is a sad reminder.