May 2017 Thread #2 - sore boobs, early scans & feeling rather queasy!

[lullaby23]

Thread #2 for those due next May!

Link to thread #1

To be honest, I'm not 100% sure where I am weeks wise... I am 10 weeks if I date from my MC, but I think I ovulated late (due to hcg still in my system for a bit), putting me around 9 weeks, I have decided to go somewhere midway in between the 2 for now - making it 10 weeks this weekend, I'll know for sure after my scan, whenever that is. Until then my EDD is somewhere end of April/ beginning of May, a bit vague, I just put 5th May down on the stats as I wasn't sure so went for the latest date... it may be a bit earlier than that!

Haha I'm the same! If I go from lmp i'm 30th April but if I go from when I think we may have conceived then I'm a week behind that. I guess we will find out in a few weeks.

jonsnow sorry you are feeling so rubbish! My job requires me to sit at a desk and not talk to anyone so it's perfect. I do wish I could curl up and have a nap somewhere though. My DD allowed me about 3 hours sleep last night THANKS!

lullaby I pm'd you about the FB group, hope that's ok!

Jonsnow feel free to moan away! We all need an outlet for this massive secret we are dealing with every day! Hope you don't feel too rubbish (just enough to reduce worry and no more) for too long

Cinnamon I just need your email address to send the invite

Thank you for a welcome, indulgent read! My other half is a very positive "It will be fine/whatever happens is ment to be" etc etc, while I am secretly googling miscarriage stats and symptom spotting like a crazy person... It's going to be a long 9 months (I hope

Guess it's time to join in too ED 11/05/17 I think, although having just made the booking appointment with the midwife I think we might differ on dates.

Already have one DD (toddler) who spent the start of the week coughing all over me so I'm now getting to enjoy the start of the first trimester with a stinking cold. Cheers love. Haven't told anyone yet but I have a night out with my small local mums group next Friday so it's probably going to out me then.

Welcome stationary! I have a similar issue. My mums group is trying to arrange a night out and I keep trying to delay it until I have my scan haha. I don't think I can hold it off much longer though and they will definitely know.

Thank you for indulging me.

CinnamonTwist that's exactly that, keeping the massive secret and having no outlet to moan (apart from poor DP). I think a friend guessed last night when I ordered a lime cordial in the pub. I brazened out her quizzical look. I so wanted to tell her and have a good old moan but I don't want to have the painful conversation if anything goes wrong...

Feeling a bit better now, the symptoms seem to come in waves. No proper nausea yet, just the tiredness, this tingly exhaustion and braindeadness.

lullaby I'm going to pm you now too, as I haven't received anything from PupPup yet either. Thank you!

Hanflan I forgot to say; my paranoia today was not helped by DH cheerily telling me this morning that he thought my boobs had got a bit smaller again and my bump didn't seem as big as yesterday (it's only a teeny curve atm, in the mornings anyway!) I think he was trying to be nice regarding my boobs, as he knows I don't like them being bigger, but he did some serious back pedalling when he saw the look on my face... poor man

Ooops! Sometimes they just don't think do they?!

I was reading the thread about people sharing their obstetric history and got myself in a proper state

So many people have such an awful time time getting their babies and I keep getting these brief moments of wondering why I'd be as lucky as to have this one, born healthy, at term, when it's due.

I had an early mc last cycle and feel incredibly fortunate to have got pregnant again so quickly. I know nothing makes mc more or less likely and I'm focusing on looking after myself, eating well, sleeping, keeping stress to minimum. My NHS green book said 10-20% pregnancies end in loss before 12 weeks, so our odds are good! There's an 80-90% chance our babies will be healthy and sticky. And the odds of a loss go way way down after 12 weeks.

I'm rambling.... All I/we can do is travel hopefully. My positive mantra as abandoned me so I need another one!

Hope everyone is having a good day and sickness is staying away.

I'm beginning to feel not normal, I'm terrible at keeping secrets, so far I've told, parents, sibling, grandparents, aunties and uncles on my side, my best friend, my immediate team who I manage at work.

After a scare over the weekend I told my boss on Monday and HR manager today. Am the only one who has a very big mouth?

Haha iCoCo.,

No you're not! I begged my DH to keep it from immediate family til 12 week scan. Yesterday, a friend called and soon as I picked up, she went " You're so pregnant!"
I didn't know what to do, really can't lie, so just said well it's very early, but yes.
I'm gutted to have said anything, but didn't know what else to do. Still not telling anyone else though! Just hoping I can hide it well! Living with in laws at the minute and they've not noticed at all!

iCoCo you're not** alone! We are telling my family officially on Friday, however I already told my mum (on the day I got my BFP, which I had planned to anyway) and my brothers worked it out, so only got sisters and my grandparents to actually tell. I have also accidentally told 2 colleagues at work and deliberately told my manager... feel a bit bad that they know before my close family though had to tell my manger for safety reasons, but 2 colleagues was due to it coming out in conversation... not much I can do about it now!

Not sure where those 2 extra asterisks came from....

july some people are so psychic, how on earth are you keeping it from inlaws.

cinnamon I told work colleagues before my grandparents so that made my mind up to tell them as it didn't seem fair, but they don't know that. I was going to tell everyone at 12 weeks, but if something went wrong, every person that knows now would be told then, so we figured no difference.

DH says he knew I wouldn't keep it a secret.

July how did she guess??

ICoCo it's just such a big exciting thing to keep to yourself... and when you're feeling crap it's also nice to have some sympathy

Um, I've told my family, 3 of my NCT group, 2 other friends, and my two bosses at work. Plus my husband's family guessed and asked him directly so they know too. Oh well, if it goes wrong I'll need the support anyway.

I agree talulah. I think you should tell the people you would rely on for support if things don't work out.
I'm a bit odd this time round! I've told our parents (only because prosecco was brought out at a small family gathering and I'm usually the first to open it!) and I've told my best friend...that's it! It's a bit different second time round I think. I'm very happy and still anxious things could go wrong but I'm so preoccupied with DD that I'm not thinking about it 24/7 like last time!

I told some friends at the weekend as I wasn't drinking and was so sick. Tbh if there was a problem later on I'd be talking to them about it anyway. Not sure about work or other relatives. I would like to wait a lot longer until telling my DC.

iCoCo, they've got a new baby so I think they're very busy at the moment and I've only got nausea in the evening so no one is noticing.

Cinnamon, I'm really not sure how she guessed, she said that I had been "underground" for a bit so she assumed that's what it was.

I get what people are saying about the support, it's so important and precious. That was my approach last time before I miscarried. The support was lovely and I would have told them in any case, but for me, the absolute worst thing about it was their elation at the good news and then having to tell them it was over after a couple of weeks; they were heartbroken and every time I had to tell them what happened, getting the words out and hearing their sadness, it was devastating. Interestingly for people who hadn't known, although it was sad to say, it wasn't the same gutting feeling.
But everyone is different and we have to get through things as is best for everyone! I can't wait to tell my mum, she'll be ecstatic!

I get what people are saying about the support, it's so important and precious. That was my approach last time before I miscarried. The support was lovely and I would have told them in any case, but for me, the absolute worst thing about it was their elation at the good news and then having to tell them it was over after a couple of weeks; they were heartbroken and every time I had to tell them what happened, getting the words out and hearing their sadness, it was devastating. Interestingly for people who hadn't known, although it was sad to say, it wasn't the same gutting feeling.

this is exactly how I feel and why we haven't told them yet. I needed to get past where I got to before to feel more positive about this pregnancy. Last time I MC the hardest thing was telling everyone who had been so happy for us and seeing their sad disappointed (for us) faces. After I came to terms with it I told a few other friends who hadn't known about my pregnancy and it was much easier but I still got the same support from them. I am telling family on Friday as I can't keep it secret any longer and I'm feeling much more positive (mostly) but I won't tell anyone else til after the scan and I know it's all ok