Thread 11. TTC #1 Grads, Babies Arriving Or 'Look At What I Made With My Genitals!'

[AudreyBradshaw]

Behold, the wonder of birth! Members from 6 weeks bfp to post-partum wonder Mamas! No question to grotty or minging.

We've come full circle from obsessing about cervical mucus to now obsessing if it's our vagina baby plug going! What larks!

Lots of talk about poo, ours and now babies too! Baby brain is REAL! This heat can kiss my arse. And who KNEW being so neurotic about which changing mat to buy could be so satisfying and addictive!

Roll up literally, in my case, cause I'm practically rotund! for TTC #1 Grads!

think i can add another pregnancy symptom ....
... head-rushes when i stand up.....

as for the fatigue, definitely managing it better. I am "scheduling" my caffeine doses! one coffee at 10:30/11 and I am functioning at work ! And i can have a second dose (tea) in the afternoon if needed. I have been much better this week.

OH is on a mission to home cook me lots of healthy meals ! I'm not complaining

he also bought me a bag of figs, as apparently if you eat figs you'll have a girl! I won't correct his science. I just love figs and will happily enjoy eating them! (he doesn't like them!)

1 week to my next scan........ (fx for clear heart beat ....)

I really need to do some exercise though..... i will try to return to gym (yoga and pilates mostly) next week.

best wishes potato. It sounds cruel, but you have new priorities now.

bunch sounds like Atticus is doing amazingly well! Hooray for boobies, I really hope mine work as well as yours. I'm slightly obsessed with stretch marks and have read they can appear after you've given birth even if you didn't have any at all during pregnancy. I've managed to get to 34 weeks with just small ones, but my mum has them terrible so am expecting to have loads by 40 weeks.

Thanks indi, hope you're not suffering too much with it

hep are you both wanting a girl? I take it you'll be finding out at your 20 week scan! if you're getting head rushes you could have low blood pressure/sugar so take it easy and mention it to your midwife

miley

I feel guilty having a secret preference. And neither of us have explicitly mentioned out loud. he probably just saw nice figs and knows i love them. He's on a mission to ensure i eat my 5 portions fruit/veg

Thanks soda, miley, indi feeling calmer now.

The leaky nips freaked me out Elle I can't lie no idea why!! Obviously going to happen but freaked me out!

Glad to hear Theodore is doing well leonie.

Hope things go better today potato.

I've not bothered ringing may felling fine and I think like miley said it's the hot weather etc. Too.

Re back pain miley I was at the Physio on Monday for my now diagnosised as pelvis girdle pain but I thought initially was sciatia and hip pain. Anyway I was a bit dubious it would help but my god 4 days later and my mobility and pain levels and even sleeping are much better. She gave me a support belt, excercises things to do and not to do and it's really helping

may you shouldn't feel guilty! I'm sure you'll be happy either way as long as baby is healthy but I think deep down a lot of people have a slight preference. My OH says he'd prefer a boy but he wouldn't be disappointed one bit if we have a girl either

feef glad you're feeling better! My midwife did mention physio so I think I may give it a go! It's been useless for me in past years (horse riding injury, car accident injury, broken foot...) but I'm willing to give it a go!

OH wants to take me out for an Indians tonight. I'm not sure wether to or not because I'm so paranoid about going into labour early after my plug incident plus BHs have ramped right up! Someone tell me I'm being ridiculous and a madras isn't going to put me in preterm labour.

miley you're being paranoid

you can't stay in your house until you go into labour!
have a lovely meal !!

Miley - ring your midwife again deffo - say some random on a forum told you to!! How many weeks are you again?

I've got some pretty strong pains now but they aren't distinguishable as contractions, they are more constant. Bunch - do you recall that at all? Great weight gain Atticus!

X

shelb this sounds promising! I hope they are here to stay thus time!!

I'm only 34 weeks, but I have extreme paranoia about early labour because my mum had my eldest brother 6 weeks early. I know I'm being ridiculous deep down!

Should have said well done atticus! Also thanks bunch as it was you who made me ring the Physio!

I feel bad saying this miley as I work with loads of lovely physios but I totally didn't think it would help!! the pain is not away completely but definitely a lot better. I think the belt is a big help but I was also unintentionally doing lots of things she said make it worse so was still pushing myself to use stairs and I was having baths to help the pain, both are no nos!

Also miley have the curry

Baths are no nos?! Oops! I've had one every night for the past week or so I'm glad it helped you - I definitely will give it a go, it can't possibly make it any worse.

I will go for a curry...mmmm curry.

Oh yeah - def go for a curry!! I'm having one myself too tonight!

X

I had some contractions while waiting for the c-section - they felt like bad period pains. I didn't get them very intensely but I was only 3 cm dilated when I was assessed at midnight. I didn't notice them until about two or three am when I was waiting to go to theatre but the monitoring machine picked them up.

No baby with me today but hoping for cuddles as they should be stopping his phototherapy later. I've been given my own room with a shower and my boobs have been hand expressed by nearly every member of staff on the ward. I'm trying to do it myself but I find it really hard. Hopefully I can use a pump soon. I need to try to express every 3 hours or so - about 8 to 10 times a day. It's very difficult and so little comes out each time - about 1 ml. I've managed it with help at nighttime, this morning and lunchtime so far. Not quite enough, I don't think...

It's visiting hours for one grandparent on the neonatal unit so DH has taken his mum across to see Theodore. The staff there have been very nice and he has pretty blankets on his bed. He is so lovely. We just need his blood sugar until control so he can be with me. Miss him lots.

I am quite mobile but it's impossible to move from one position to another. I feel absolutely worn out too.

Sending DH out to buy some newborn sized baby grows for him to wear now and a Moses basket. I think he'll be too small for anything much bigger. xxx

leonie
sounds really tough for you. I know it is sometimes hard to separate the logic of knowing he is cared for and the instinct to be with him.

i should probably say imagine and not know........

Well Atticus is officially registered eek!!
And according to the midwife my bits look to be healing so I shouldn't need resuturing woohoo!! Monday will tell though.
Sleep deprivation has caught up with me today as little man is struggling with me being on antibiotics. Only managed 2 half hour naps as he'll only sleep on me or DH when his tummy is sore. We're both on probiotics now to help counteract them.

Shelb I had near constant BH but not near constant pain per say. How are you feeling now. For both you and pink if you like the ingredients it might be worth trying this recipe I've posted in the photo. I ate it and went into labour 3 days later... Coincidence maybe but worth the effort of making it I thought. It was really tasty too.

How did today go Potato?

The staff managed to hand express another feed for me to give to the Neonatal Unit and DH changed his nappy when he was visiting with his mum. 😁😀

Well done Leonie you seem to be coping amazing. Hand expressing is hard, I only ever managed 0.5ml in hospital. Bet oh can't wait for the snuggles. It'll all be worth it.

I might give that a go Bunch! It sounds tasty.

Leonie, hand expressing must be hard. Glad your OH got to change Theodore's nappy! Have they said anymore about when you can have him back with you?

Shelb, any more pains? My BH have died down and I now seem to have no symptoms of impending labour at all, other than some period type pains.

I hope today went ok Potato.

Evening all

Potato how did today go?

Thanks bunch, looks tasty.

Leonie you are doing so well and the little seems to be steaming along well?

Pink - NOTHING!! Totally died down. I've just order the hottest curry I think I'll feasibly be able to handle with OH! I'm past caring now, I can't cope with this "this is it" and then nothing rollercoaster! She's a total tease!

X

Hand expressing is impossible but the midwives are great at doing it for me. Seem to manage about 1 ml each time which I think is fine. I would rather have a baby to nurse though as I could at least have cuddles then.

Just been to change Theodore's nappy. 😁 I'm totally useless but got some guidance from his neonatal nurse. Waiting on his results to know if he can come off the light therapy. Still dealing with the blood sugars so not getting him today.

DH and MIL visiting me for a bit and then Theo. Only one grandparent can visit in each of the two visiting spots and only one of us can accompany him or her. Think DH's dad will meet him tomorrow and my dad on Sunday if he's still in there.

Really hoping we can have some cuddles before I go to bed.

Feeling a bit sore now but hopefully my paracetamol and ibuprofen will work soon.

Lots of love to all of you growing babies, waiting for babies to arrive, and fellow new mamas. I will catch up and reply to you all properly soon.

I spent last night Googling the hottest curries! Apparently you need one that is hot enough to give you diarrhoea, and the emptying of the bowels helps to clear things out and bring on labour .

I'm kind of over it now. I've frustrated myself getting all stressed about when its going to happen, and I'm not even overdue yet. Time to take a step back and just see what happens and when. They will come when they are good and ready!

Leonie hope you get baby with you soon, can't imagine what it's like for you but you're handling it so well x

Bunch yay for your bits healing and Atticus being registered. I hear you on the sleep deprivation. I can't wait for Arya to sleep most of the night I'm also dreading it as I want her to be this adorable for ever!!!

Shelb, Pink I really hope things get moving for you soon!

So, today didn't go as planned! dr sent me to hospital for blood tests, I called mum to say we would need to rearrange for tomorrow and she went crazy. Called me every name under the sun including selfish b, sobbed uncontrollably, told me off repeatedly for not telling her I was going into hospital even though I kept telling her I called the moment the dr told me to go. It was horrible, there was no reasoning with her, she just kept telling me how selfish I am and how much I was letting her down and how I don't care about her at all etc. Etc. Etc. She wanted me to go see her instead of going to the hospital and in the end I just lost my temper. I could hear the carer in the background telling her to calm down and stop being nasty but she wouldn't listen to anyone.
When I got off the phone OH said enough is enough and wants me to go no contact until they get this current abusive phase under control because it's not helping my bp. We've also now agreed that we can't take Arya to meet her until she improves a lot as she's far too unstable and volatile.
I feel sad about it as I know mum will be devastated and that doing this may well make her mental state worse but I cant cope with it right now, my blood pressure is still high and I've still got the same preeclampsia markets as I had before not sure what that means dr also thinks I may be anaemic on top of everything else.
My sister's going to call mum every day and report back and I'm going to reassess once my blood pressure is under control but there is absolutely no question of us taking Arya to meet her until I'm 100% nothing will happen.
Feeling quite sad about it and I'm sure my mum sobbing will stick in my head for a while but I think I've done the right thing for Arya and I.

Oh Potato so sorry to hear that but you're doing the right thing. Just think about you and your little family. You need to put yourself and Arya first in this instance.