Thread #10 - TTC#1 Grads Thread - Babies Ahoy

[PotatosMum]

Welcome to TTC#1 Grads, thread #10.

Congratulations to Bunch our first graduate, graduate!!!!

All are welcome to the thread whether you've just got your BFP or your about to pop!

No TMI is TMI and no question too silly to be asked. But be warned, this thread is addictive and moves FAST!

Thanks miley that's cheered me up a bit. Had a cry with DH when he got home so feeling slightly better now

Feef - who are you on IG? Totally normal to feel unattractive. Way ive got through it is to think 'this isn't forever'. And to plaster in the fake tan when I feel awful.

Indi - that must be ace to have a fixed date to work towards.

Thank for encouragement guys. No doubt it'll be another false alarm. Still got rock hard bump and tightenings. No CM at all though, bone dry. so thinking it can't possibly be it. Sigh.

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Fionaelizabethdowling

Currently plastered in fake tan!

27+2 indi. Definitely going for the section, the further on i get the more certain I feel it's the right thing for me and baby.

Feef I second what Miley said! You look great.

I'm not plastered in fake tan, but I am getting my hair done on weds- decided to pay someone proper to tone down the ginger from the home dye!

Miley I play that game too!

On our way home at last. It was touch and go if they were going to keep me in but they've sent me home for a week and double the amount of antibiotics. They need the infection to clear then it's surgery for re suturing. Drs words "Oooh that's bad" lovely! Fucker then squeezed it then got the registrar who decided to test the integrity of the sutures that are holding by trying to prise them apart. I hate them all.
One thing is everyone was so lovely about "how awful, you poor thing, it looks awful" abs how much pain I must be in but actually the pain is fine until I pee. Feeling quite smug I'm coping with such a "bad"'infection the way I am. Not emotionally though. Emotionally I'm a wreck.

Sorry for the me me me post. Atticus got loads of attention on the ward though which was nice. And my blanket and trousers I made were complimented lots

Aww bunch so sorry you're having such a tough time! I think you're coping amazingly!

Thanks canters! Glad you are getting the birth that you want

bunch. It's rubbish that you have to go in to be re-stitched but hopefully they will do a better job this time and the healing process can begin. It sounds as if you are coping brilliantly with the pain.

Loving the pics of Atticus on IG, his hair is amazing!

I've had a bit of a 'oh holy crap' moment of realisation today that a baby has to come out my bits Obviously I've thought about the kind of birth I want etc but for some reason the reality of getting any out has just hit home....

Shelb, hope you are doing ok. Is lots of CM meant to be a sign? I've definitely got more in recent weeks, but no you're signs of labour today.

Aw bunch, the bastards!! I hope this load of new pills sorts it, sounds really rough

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God, Bunch, you've really been through it. Fingers crossed the antibiotics work their magic quickly, and it can all be re-stitched and sorted soon.

Out of interest, was this just something that could always happen? Or does it mean your original stitches weren't done very well/ properly?

Pink - that's interesting about finally realising the baby has to come out your vag. I know it technically has to happen, but I don't think it's really sunk in for me yet. When I think about labour and birth, I don't actually connect it with my own vag and cervix expanding for a huge head to come through....

Sorry pink missed your post - yeah I think cm does definitely increase, sure bunch would testify to that. I'm like the Sahara!!

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DH has had a look and the fuckers have opened the wound more. But I imagine it's stitches that would have come undone anyway.

Lisa it was highly likely apparently any kind of instrumental delivery is 9 times out of 10 likely to result in some sort of infection. Natural tears however apparently are the opposite. Who knew?!
Here was me thinking I had a minor infection but sounds like mine is pretty bad. Every midwife who has had a look recently said they usually let them heal on there own. As soon as the Drs saw it they were talking surgery so it must be grim. I have been banned from looking by DH and I don't fancy breaking that ban. I chat believe the sheer amount of people I've shown my vag to recently and I really don't care. So bizarre. Boy it is stinging tonight. I'm really pissed off tonight, makes a change from crying though.

On the early subject of baby noises- Atticus now likes to imitate a goat. We've started calling him billy goat. It's rather hilarious.

Shelb, Pink! Boy yes did it! Buckets of the stuff!!!

thanks for the tip drwhy re: breast pump I'll check different stockists and I think I did get a Mothercare voucher from when I bought my Snuzpod

miley I play that stretch mark vs clothing mark too!!! although I need to get DH to check under the bump. I know they are coming as DM and DSis both had them late in pregnancy.

indi congrats on getting your ELCS booked! Must be a relief and now we you have a date to look forward too.

Feef good to hear your parents are planning to come and help with the tough early days. It must be reassuring. I was hoping mine would come too but DF can't deal with the cold and gets sick from it so DM wants to come next summer instead - otherwise I'd have my DF to look after along with a newborn!

potato so impressed you're managing to get out and about so soon! in my mind I thought I wouldn't leave the house and hobbling around in pain like John Wayne.

bunch those doctors sound a bit rough grrrr! it's horrid that sometimes the recovery is worse than the actual labour itself. people just don't realise or talk about what women have to go through nor do they warn you in antenatal classes so women aren't mentally prepared at all. hope the next lot of antibiotics clears it up and at least baby Atticus is doing wonderfully!!

so after telling my friend that I've luckily had no constipation or piles so far... had a day of 2 poos and the second one was not a good poo it was very sore and after getting home and wiping again there was more blood. I don't know what to do about it other than giving it a wash and putting up with it!

Sorry ladies, I'm struggling to keep up atm. 2 weeks left at work but could do with 2 months. Doing so many extra hours I'm struggling a little. I'm doing my best to lurk on the thread but if I'm quiet for a while I'm not ignoring you all.

DH kicked me out of bed at midnight because I was fidgeting So much for looking after his uncomfortable pregnant wife.

God Bunch, that's grim. I had no idea it was so common (and how dramatically different the odds are if you tear naturally). Another lovely highlight of pregnancy and birth . Love Atticus the billy goat though!

Co5mo, I'm so sorry you're struggling. Are the extra hours for overtime and money, or is it because there's just so much to do and get done before you go?

Don't apologise for not being on here - we've all got to get our lives and work sorted, and then once all our babies are here we can chat away to our hearts' content in the middle of the night when we can't sleep!

Morning

Agree Lisa - I just didn't have the time (in my head or otherwise) whilst still at work to keep up on here...but then mat leave strikes!

How is everyone? How was your night bunch and potato?

I lost a bit (50p piece) of clear jelly this morning (sorry tmi). Optimistically hoping might be start of plug.

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Yay for plug mucus, Shelb! (A phrase I never thought I'd type or say...).

How are you spending your mat leave? Are you keeping busy or mainly relaxing?

shelb fingers crossed it is your plug and arrival will be imminent! Mine best stay bloody put though.

co5mo I know the feeling! I have 4 weeks left and I'm snowed under with a deadline to hit 1 day before I leave!!!

Been sick again this morning I need it to stop - I'm fed up.

Fingers crossed, Shelb.

I got out of bed this morning and some cervicalfluid seeped out onto my knickers. 😑😑 Pregnancy is so glamorous. Hope it's nothing more than a bit of fluid - too early for a show.

Woke up every single time I wanted to roll over last night with hip pain. I think I'm a bit worried about my growth scan tomorrow. Arghhh.

We are off to visit DH's family over the BH. Already planning regular service station stops to manage my PGP and thinking about sleeping in the car. My daily naps keep me human with my disrupted sleep. DH's grandparents will also be there... We told everyone the sex after our 20 week scan but they said they didn't want to know so we will have to avoid saying "he" or "him" the whole time... 😑😑😑 Haven't seen some of his family in months so will be feeling like a massive frumpy slug whale.

Thanks Potato and Bunch, will check those out. So many choices!

Canters glad work went ok. I get to sit down so it's been fine!

Indi that's great that you've got your date , you must be so relieved!

Yay for mat leave Dr!

Oops missed a page!

Oh Bunch that sounds rubbish your poor vag. I had no idea the infection rates were so different for tears vs instrumental delivery. Hope they can get it sorted soon.

Miley Feefs Shelb and Leonie I hear you! I've never felt so fat and unattractive in my life, I'm only 26+1 and have put on 2 stone already. When I'm swimming (in my black costume) I imagine I resemble an orca with bad skin (thanks hormones!). Plus my hair is frizzy and fluffy all the time and definitely not thick and luscious! I've never had a fake tan but seriously considering it now.

Hope the drive is ok Leonie. Funny they don't want to know the gender, are they superstitious? My MIL was the opposite, she came to one of my scans as DH couldn't come, I had to go for a wee and she said she considered asking the Sonographer to tell her the sex when I was in the loo (I'd told them I didn't want to find out!)! Haha.

Hope it's a sign of things happening Shelb!

Sorry you're feeling rubbish Co5mo. I would not be happy at being kicked out of bed . Hope you're not overdoing it at work and getting enough rest in the evenings

No idea why they don't want to know, Elle! I think they want a surprise. Problem is the rest of DH's family know including his other set of GPs who will be there... Let's just say that his Nana isn't very good at discreet! I think DH's mum is going to have a word with DH's Granny to see if there's any flexibility with their stance. 😀😀 So funny.

Bunch My sister is on antibiotics too. Poor thing had an episiotomy AND a tear... She had to have a forceps delivery, like you I think she's healing OK but she's not been anywhere other than hospital or her bed in the week since baby boy was born.

Leonie, that's going to be interesting, trying to keep it secret when most people there will know! I hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

Shelb, good news on the mucus plug. Was it blood tinged? (Such delightful questions, sorry!) I'm checking every time I go to the loo, but nothing yet

Miley, how are you feeling now? It's rubbish that you are being sick again. Hopefully it won't hang around for long.

Cosmo, try not to work too hard.

Lisa, I'm not sure why the baby actually coming out bit has just hit me. I think it's just pre-labour/ birth nerves.

Bunch, don't look! I'd wait for the infection to clear up and to be re-stitched before investigating if it were me. Do you find Atticus makes a lot of noise while he is sleeping, sighs etc?

i am so knackered.
I really just want to crawl back into bed.

I have my own office at work, but with windows that people can look into. I actually had a nap under my desk where i couldn't be seen.

this is meant to improve in the 2nd semester right? I am being so ineffectual at work. It is ok-ish for now, since it is august, and so many people away, but i really need to be able to focus once september comes. And i can't even dose on caffeine. Am slightly concerned about my job security (rolling fixed term contracts based on you being productive). Already know that I will only be able to take 6 months off.

(I realise that overall I have been incredibly lucky with pregnancy symptoms, and this is nothing compared to what some of you are going through.)

In other news, I have my "12 week" scan booked for tomorrow! hopefully i'll have undeniable proof that i am actually pregnant ! (apart from two lines, no periods, bigger boobs, bigger waist, digestive issues, bad back, fatigue.....) I still doubt myself ! silly right? The midwife at the booking appointment didn't believe me when i said I had only 1 BFP, as most people take the test many times. its just with all my bfns i just don't trust the pee-sticks ! yes, i know, you can't have a fake positive, .......

another question: travel insurance. I have a couple of work trips to europe. Do I have to tell the insurance people (arranged via work) i'm pregnant?