Due in March 2017 - thread #3

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New thread for the March 2017 club!

Here are my stats:
Name: Name
Age: 30
EDD: 2nd March
DC #1

I am going to see the Harry Potter plays in October! And have just booked tickets for the new Groundhog Day musical in a couple of weeks too! I love going to shows. When I had DD1 I really missed it. Now she's two she loves spending time with family when we do other things but it wasn't until I gave up beastfeeding at 22 months that I could relax when I left her. Anyone pregnant with their first should make the most of this time, for sure!

It's utterly amazing, I don't know how they do some of the special effects but I have been blown away. I was keen in a mildly interested way, it was DH who booked it, but I've been blown away. Had a massive coke zero now so I can stay awake for part 2!

If you haven't got your exemption certificate yet, you can ask for a receipt when you pay for a prescription, then you can claim it back when your certificate comes through. Whatever you do, don't get a pre-payment certificate - you don't need one!

Happy I've had mine for ages, my booking in appointment was very early (I was 7+3) and they sent off the form after that. The certificate didn't take too long to arrive in the post. And actually I went to the dentist on the DAY I found out I was pregnant and they didn't charge me! I asked if I could have a receipt to claim it back, they asked why and when I said I was pregnant they didn't ask to see a certificate or make me pay. (Probably very unusual!)

I also didn't even get asked for my maternity exemption when I went to the dentist.

That's great to read, Super!! Hope you enjoy the rest of it :D

My MW said I could just take my handheld notes to the dentist for free dental care - I guess they must be pretty easy going about it!

Great news on the scan MrsM

Hope everyone is having a relaxing Sunday evening!

Is anyone else struggling with roughly maintaining their weight being hungry all the time? I feel like I'm ballooning because I'm hungry all the time but it says first trimester you only need something like 200 additional calories. Feels like a silly thing to worry about but if I keep on expanding like this (due to fat not baby) i will be very large by the end of it. Any advise from non first time mummies ?

Newbie last time with DS I was ill
until around 22 weeks so actually lost weight but put it on after he was born as I could suddenly eat without feeling sick again! This time I'm just glad I'm not as bad but have been Mali g a conscious effort to make healthy choices some of the time. Just go with it for now and soon it should all calm down and you can go back to a normal diet.

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Mrs - pleased for your good news.

Garden - feeling for you, have had a similar day, really wanted a Sunday roast, we drove around and all the pubs had stopped serving, so we came home hungry and moody. I can't face cooking, my DP is in a grumpy mood now cause we are not having proper meals and I didn't communicate what I wanted. I'm in bed feeling fed up and bored but incapable of doing anything. Realise now how much fun revolves around eating and drinking. Such a pain when you spend all weekend feeling tired/ sick/ indecisive. Roll on 2nd trimester.

Glad your scan went well mushrooms!

Clarity I feel for you. We've just had a "shall we or not" debate about going out for dinner and decided to stay in but now I'm grumpy because we're having fish and veg when I really want a stodgy pile of carbs! (I had a macdonalds for lunch so am being incredibly unreasonable here....!)

Mini moan... My mum popped round a bit ago with my auntie, who I haven't told I'm pregnant. I've told my mum that until the 12 week scan I don't want people to know as I can't deal with their excitement (previous miscarriage). She has told my aunt...! My mum is lovely and so generous in many respects so I let it slide and didn't have a grump at her, but then they wouldn't stop talking about it and asking OH if he's excited etc etc when actually he's quite anxious about the whole thing. He's not excited and to be honest I think he's feeling what a lot of men do. It's a planned pregnancy but in all honesty if I hadn't wanted a baby, he'd happily have plodded on without. I know he'll be fine when it comes, and he is very supportive etc, but he's not "excited" because it's something I've pushed for, not him. (I'm trying not to make him sound like an ogre because he's really not!)

Anyway it just annoyed me that not only is she telling people when I've asked her not to but she also then keeps going in about it when I'm trying to ease OH in gently . It's also bugging me that people keep going

"You'll be fine, I can feel it."...No, you can't! No one can! My anxiety isn't unfounded so respect it and leave me be.

Rant over.

I'd be fuming if someone I'd told the news to in confidence told someone else without my permission MissClarke, and I'd be having words with my mum about it. I'd also be saying pointedly "it's quite hard to feel excited when it's so early and we don't know if things are going to work out." When we were struggling with infertility my mum always used to say "I know it will happen for you" and it really annoyed me as she didn't know that, no one can know for sure.

Thanks alpha. I'm funny about confronting my mum because my dad is notoriously a bit of an arse and she's put up with a lot of unnecessary confrontation from him over the years so I'm quite protective of her in that respect...I find it easier to just rant behind the scenes! Bloody families eh!?

MissClarke
Sorry about your previous miscarriage and about your mum telling your aunt even though you asked her not to.
I would like to gently disagree with you when you say "a lot of men" could take or leave a baby, perhaps this is true of some men but it's not the case with any of the men I know, they have all been very much on board. I hope that doesn't come across as a criticism of your partner as it isn't - it sounds like he is being very generous and supportive which is great
I hope the anxiety eases soon for both of you. When's your next scan?

NameChange I didn't mean to stereotype men at all...I just know quite a few who took a while to get used to the idea and he's definitely in that camp! I'd like him to be more excited, but I know he's scared of how life will change and he has never been around children so the "excitement" bit just isn't there for him yet.

I'm still waiting for the blooming scan letter which isn't helping!

MissClarke
Fair enough - and to be honest I'm finding it difficult to feel excited (despite this being a very much planned and wanted baby) because it's such a big thing, rather overwhelming and difficult to get my head around. I imagine it could be even harder for a father-to-be because he doesn't have the physical experience of pregnancy as a mother does (although I'd gladly let DH do the pregnancy and childbirth bit! )

Anyway hope you get your scan letter soon! x

Thanks countdown. Hoping it will settle. I used to rely quite heavily on exercising but I've been so tired that's not happened either so starting to feel like a baked potato.
missclarke my partner is the same so I'm letting him come around to the idea slowly and he is gradually getting excited but I know the feeling! I would be annoyed if my mum had that type of chat with my partner and he would probably be a bit quiet and spooked if that happened right now so you're right to feel annoyed with her. But like you say, it's your mum so hard to stay mad at. Just tell her not to tell anyone else because you'd like to do that yourself

Hello

I hope you don't mind me joining you all...I have been reading this thread religiously and contributed a bit to the first one. It's so comforting to read about symptoms that I'm also facing! Here are my stats:

DC1, 27 years old, EDD: 16th March.

Newbie, I feel very much the same. I was a keen runner and gym bunny before falling pregnant but first trimester has resulted in extreme fatigue for me and a significantly increased appetite (often an aversion to healthy food too). I'm hoping my diet will return to normal shortly - I'm sure you'll feel the same too!

I've had a similar situation this weekend ms.clarke. We were at a funeral (DPs grandpa) and had told his grandma about baby (for a couple of reasons, to give you something to look forward to when going through a difficult time and as DP was keen for Grandpa to be told before he passed). Despite not having my 12 week scan until Thursday word has obviously got out and suddenly I had distant cousins that even dp had never met asking me when I'm due, what I am having. One lady I've never met and do didn't know who she was even touched my tummy and said 'how's bumpy doing, I've three so I know you must be feeling so fat' well I certainly do now thanks! Felt really strange as considering the circumstances I felt I couldn't be cross! Hey ho I guess it's done now.

Don't forget most mums will be so excited on your behalf, it will be a huge secret for your mum to try and keep when she is bursting to tell the news too but probably minus the natural early anxiety that you are feeling. I'm sure it's annoying but on balance having a mum around who is full of excitement is going to be great for you and the baby. Don't be too hard on her. I'd love to have my mum around to be part of this.

I understand though we are both scared to be excited or plan until the 12 week scan, we have had our fingers burned and it takes its toll. My partner very much wants this baby and almost talked me into it. However I know the realities of a small baby,he doesn't yet. So I hope his enthusiasm doesn't deteriorate after the birth.

Hope you get the scan date soon.

Wow Cloey poor you. That makes mine sound trivial! I think they mean well they're just excited to share their news, and because they don't see the anxiety behind it all they don't realise how important it is to us. Still annoying though!

Cloey that sounds like a very intense situation to be in, I'm not sure I could handle the invasion of bump touching so early on! Think it's lovely that your DP managed to tell his grandfather

Becky Hello (again) and welcome (back)! Feel free to add yourself to the stats spreadsheet if you like.

Reading back its sounds more dramatic than it was on the day! Other than the lady who actually touched me I was mildly annoyed but not overly bothered. I only really started to get annoyed when dps mum got cross on my behalf as I felt it gave me the go ahead to have a little moan 😄

Just wanted to say missclark my dp was exactly the same with our first I wanted to shield him from some of the over excitement until he was properly used to the idea. (When we got our bfp he literally went mute for 3 day except occasionally muttering, well that's a bit serious!) He is upstairs at the moment putting DC to bed. They are best friends and play together beautifully.