Due May 07 - W/C 29th Jan

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Happy Monday all............

But the way SKYTV-Meant to say earlier-glad you're feeling better today-but if its any consolation I sobbed my way into work on Tuesday because dd had woken for the third morning in a row at a quarter to 5 and I was exhausted and felt as though I couldnt take it anymore-it happens to us all..
Anyway its good to talk so come on here if you need a friendly ear to commiserate with..Kids just will not play ball sometimes eh?
Also cinnamontam, how cute are your cats?And I must say your picture puts me in mind of that nurse of Holby city-the pretty blonde one who is a bit evil and used to go out with Abs..(not that im saying you look evil, rather the pretty blonde part!)You are the spit of her!What was your film about, or is it a trade secret?

Oh i love warmed up ginger cake with custard - on a mission to get some now. Thanks ladies, just what i need!

Scooter - evil ain't so bad And the blonde isn't exactly...cough cough...all my own colour

The film is one I wrote with my best friend 3 years ago. I abandoned her by coming to the UK so she took the story and kept working it, got funding and I flew back to play one of the parts (there are only 2) and she directed it.

Basically it's about 2 best friends who haven't seen each other for 10 years and it's the night of the High School Reunion. My character is married, 2 kids, lives in the country where they both grew up, had scholarship to performing arts school but didn't go, has put on weight and stuck in a rut.

Other character is career driven, in the closet, has a girlfriend but not told anyone. Something happened 10 years ago to drive them apart so she turns up on the doorstep of my house to confront me.

The film itself takes place over 1 evening with just the 2 characters. We filmed it in 3 weeks and should be about 80 mins long. I was 3 months preggers at the time so bloody exhausted but it was an incredible experience. I should have a proper copy of it in a month to watch...very nervous about that

SOH hope you are feeling better

MMMMM giner cake cake & custard, better not tho as have just been and spent 3.50 in the sweetie shop they do little sweets yummy, munching my way through big bag

OUCCCCCCHHHHHH at ligament pain - omg me and dd missed the bis home - so she decided we were walking - ok I said - never been a problem before it's only a mile - ahhhhh, by the time we had reached the bottom of our hill I was in agony am sat down and am not moving till its time to cook dinner, cant believe how incapable I have become

SOH that did sound like a real ordeal, I'm sorry but i just has to laught at the whole book thing. I can understand it's a rare one but there is only ONE of you ever ever ever..... Hope you feel better soon.

Lupins, I can sympathise with the feeling knackered after walking a mile. My bump really aches by the end of the day. I didn't have this at all with the other two, I'm not sure I'm going to be able to stand up by April/May, it just feels so heavy.

Scooter, Lunch was not very exciting I'm
afraid. I only arranged it yesterday so I didn't have much in. Stuck a quiche in the oven, made some herby potato wedges and some salad. Nice, but uninspiring.

FFF your lunch sounds gourmet compared to the piece of toast and chicken noodle soup i ate!

FSF - I am sobbing at that poem. Is it the hormones or what?

My own mum gave me a 'talking to' yesterday. She said that I need to involve dh more, as she is worried he's feeling left out. Then she started saying she wouldn't be as important to me when I have Mia because that is the 'cycle of life'. She's only 49 for god's sake.

I'm crying just typing it.

What's wrong with me? Can't I love my mum and my daughter! All gentle words gratefully received...

Nipping out now - but if anyone has any words of wisdom for me, I'll log back in later.

xx

Jenny - there is nothing wrong with you (((hug)))

It sounds like everything she has said about DH is actually what she is feeling. She sounds scared of what might change and how it will affect her. Please don't be offended but i think it was selfish of her to say that to you. Not constructive.

You will have plenty of love for everyone xx

Hullo all, its taken me ages to catch up! Been spending lots of time in Cheltenham for work so no time for MN (Blasphemy!) and just too knackered to do anything. We've also ripped out our kitchen which we are refitting this month (ourselves) so sitting room looks like a bedsit with the hot ring perching on the fridge in the corner.

LW did laugh at your TV licence rant - haven't had a TV since I moved to this flat 2 1/2 years ago and they send me a letter every now and then saying they are sending an inspector round even tho' we've told them we DON'T HAVE A TV, OK? DP hides the letters now as it sets me off on a 'who do they bloody think they are/they aren't coming in here/what right do they have to intrude if I don't want their bloody services etc etc'. Mind you, would be happy to pay the licence for Radio 4 alone .

Is everyone else having problems remaining sane at work? Everything just got too much for me today. My boss told me something I didn't want to hear so had an absolutely barney, told her not to bother calling me again as I was going home (this was just after an 11am coffee - maybe thats why they say you shouldn't drink it whilst preggers!). Anyway switched off phone,went home, had bath and two hour nap followed by MN catch up (3 hours). I'm now feeling peachy again but don't fancy going to work ever again. Overreaction? Moi? .

pink J - Your mum may very well be worried about what will happen to your relationship once Mia arrives. Maybe her relationship with her mother suffered when she had you??? However you are right you will love them both, I don't feel my relationship has changed for the worst with my mum. I perhaps don't depend on her as much, and before we all lived together I perhaps didn't have time to see her as much, but our "mother and daughter" relationship improved no end. I was now a mother and was experiencing something that she had been through so it definately brought us closer together. Maybe your mum wasn't having a pop, so much as she was a little insecure and needed some reassurance from you that you'd always Love her.

I'm sure dh is just fine, I found that I involve dh by telling him about mw appointments and he comes to scans but he is not actually that interested in the whole pregnancy bit. He is wonderful once baby arrives but can't really relate to the bump thing. If you asked him would he be honest with you?

mmm...custard...

PinkJenny, I can also say having a baby has brought my mum & me closer. In an odd way I'm more her equal now as she can see I am being a parent, but I respect her more as well, because I realise how bloody hard it was to raise us 3 kids! And any grandma will melt in the face of a newborn grandchild. Perhaps your mum is having a bit of a struggle with her own fertility going away? My mum said it was v hard for her, and getting grandkids was the only thing which made her feel ok to 'become old.' a bit sad I know but really it is very special, you'll see...(((HUGS)))!

PinkJenny - When i got married in June 2005 at the age of 24, my friends placed a bet with my mum at the reception that i either have had a baby or be pg by the following April. My mums reaction was 'oh no i dont think so, and i dont want to be a granny until i am well into my 50's - bear in mind she was 48 at the time. Well, 8 weeks later i had a car crash - all was ok, just scary - and had a nagging feeling that i might be pg. I confided in my mum and her whole perspective changed in an instant. She wasnt at all surprised when 2 weeks later i told that she would be a Granny at the grand age of 49, so definately not well in to her 50's. During planning of my wedding and then the pg we became far closer than we had ever been, so much so that she was present at the birth of J. She hasnt looked back, and was over joyed that she could celebrate her 50th last yr with her Grandson.

I think what i am trying to say in a long winded kind of way, is as soon as your baby arrives whatever insecurities she might be having about dealing with her age/fertility will just fly out of the window and be replaced with an overwhelming sense of love for her baby's baby.

As my mum said 'i didnt think i could love another child as much as i loved my children, but the love i have for my grandson is in a way far greater'. J regularly makes happy tears appear in my mums eyes.

Hello everyone. Well I had an interesting incident with the new painkillers last night. I took 2 with food, as instructed, at 7pm. By 10pm I was rolling on the floor in agony. I had awful pains up the right side of my back and across the top of my bump. Then I was violently sick, probably more sick than I have ever been in my life. Dh was extremely worried as he knows I have a high pain threshold so he rang NHS Direct. They rang me back in half an hour and I spoke to a lovely nurse who confirmed what i was thinking - that it was proabaly a reaction to the tablets. By this time the pain was easing and I felt a lot better. She told me to ring my gp today. I woke up this morning feeling absolutely fine and rang the dr. I was given a phone consulatation by a different doctor who said that 2 tablets was probably far too strong a dose and he would recommend half a tablet building up to 1! I feel really cross that I was told to take more as I was really worried last night. I've never had pain like it!

Talking about relationships I definitely feel mine with my mum has got even closer since I had ds but the real surprise has been my dad. He was never really a hands-on dad with us 3 as he worked long hours and was away a lot. He had fun with us but never played to a great extent. However since he's had grandchildren he has totally changed. He plays with them all and can regularly be seen crawling around on the carpet! It's really nice to see him and I think he appreciates us more now he sees us functioning as parents too.

Abbylou - omg what a worrying evening for you.

Weird you saying how your dad changed. My dad has always been a big softie and nothing much has changed, however the change has effected my step-dad. He was as you descirbe AL with his children, didnt get too involved and isnt all that close to his 5 grandchildren. However he is a changed man with J, and can be found most Thursday afternoons crawling around the floor or lying in the pop up tent playing all sorts of games. My mum says that it is so lovely to hear them playing together.

Abbeylou - how horrible for you, I have to take painkillers most days - I know when I have had to take differant ones it can really affect you, I cant understand why you werent told to take lower dose your gp should say that as standard especially as ur pg, hope your feeling better now

You're all gorgeous. Thank you so much for those kind words. I've just had dinner with my mum and dad, and my mum keps kissing and hugging me all night. I think she told people in work what she said, and they all thought maybe it came out a bit wrong.

What can I say? I'm a mummy's girl through and through.

I'll sleep easier tonight after all your postings.

xx

Dear All

I seem to be a once-a-week poster too taken up with other things a the moment.

SOH - poor you, I think DS had the same thing on monday. I was all worth it though because while he was at his most feeble he stroked my face and said 'I love you'. I nearly melted. Hope that cat comes home soon.

Bethnalbub, we are in the midst of refitting our kitchen, doing it ourselves too. Last night I was making up drawers and fitting handles, this weekend will be laying plywood on the floor, making some little cabinets to fit in the gaps..... It is quite exciting to be at the stage where we are making things better instead of making more of a mess at last.DS has been striking a blow for gender equality and if there is any drilling to be done, he thinks mummy should do it.

Morning all

PJ - my Mum told me a few weeks ago that I was being very introverted about being pg as I had been the last two times as well and she felt sorry for DP! Apparently I leave everyone out!

SOH - hope you are feeling better today and the cat comes home.

I frightened myself, DP and the DDs last night by having a really bad pain down the side of my bump. It felt like stitch/cramp which I have been getting when I walk too far but I hadn't really being doing anything. Anyway, he wanted to call the Dr but I wouldn't let him and it did ease. Baby still moving around lots so panic over. I had just about convinced myself I was having a placental abruption. DD2 ran down the stairs to get DP (never seen her move so fast). It could of course have been trapped wind as I have been having loads .

Forgot to say Abbylou - that must have been very frightening. Hope you are ok today.

SkyTV - my active birth teacher was talking about those stitch like pains as being due to the baby pressing down on the muscles, and probably having a bit of a growth spurt. She suggested going down on all fours and stretching each leg in turn out behind you to relieve it. Might be worth a try.

Morning all
And what a lovely morning it is, in Dylan Morans words 'the birds are swaying and the trees are singing!' Feeling very perky today, been having lots of early nights and finally got my sleeping pattern back on track. Seeing my sister this sunday so very excited about that! Lectures don't start till 2:30 this afternoon so am trying to find something to occupy myself with so that i don't eat the 2 remaining chocolate muffins lying next to my bed.....mmmm, chocolate goodness, no LW be good - must refrain from finishing the muffins!
Oh and my left nipple is half the size of my boob at the minute, the right one is bigger but still looks fairly normal. I have mismatched nipples - i belong in the circus!!!!

Abbeylou - sounds scary - hope you're feeling better today.

BefnalBub - I for one am not remaining sane at work. I am BORED, at times hysterical and want my ML to start TODAY!!!

By the way the ginger cake and custard was LOVELY

URGHHHH we have all woken up with sore throats and cloudy heads, dp has man flu of course, dd and I just have niggles lol - although dd was sick and had temp last night, seem ok this morning tho - good ol' medised

Skytv these pains can be really scarry cant they, sounds the same as the pain I had yesterday after walking to far, good sit down and warm bath done the job tho

LW lol at nipples and glad you are feeling perkier today, go on eat the muffins you know you want to lol!!

SOH any news on moggy?

On the work fron dp starts again on Wednesday, yipeeeeeeeeee, sounded off at hime yesterday told him he was useless - I only asked him to get dd dressed and he couldnt find anything FGS the girl has 3 wardrobes of clothes, so I think he will be glad to go to work where he is useful lol!!

Hope ev1 has a good day

Thats good news on job front Lupins. Hope his man flu has gone by then!

Benson - I tried the all fours things last night and it made it worse. I do think the baby moving was the cause though. Hopefully it won't happen again. Didn't think of a warm bath.

Going out for works annual "do" tonight which I can do without. Have to sit at my desk all day which gives me a bad back then rush home to get ready, bus collects us at 6 pm returning us as midnight (arrive home approx 1.30 am) not sure how I will manage it. Sitting at dinner table all night will make back worse. I'm sure the meal will be lovely although but everyone else will be drinking loads and even 1 glass of wine gives me indigestion at the mo! Also DP could be gritting tonight (on call this week) and has to get cover as we are out. We need the money. Hopefully will be a cold weekend! Sorry to those who don't want cold but we do!!

Rant over

Glad you are feeling ok today Lwatkins