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hi, im due on the 1st of october with 2nd after 3mcs in the past 18m. anyone else?

forgot to say congrats to mumpbump too!!

Curlygirl - so sorry to hear your news Having had two m/c, I know how terribly upsetting it can be... I hope you are okay though - I assume you are as you're back home.

I hope you will post if you need some support and sympathy... I can't check MN over the weekend, but will have a look on Monday to see if there are any messages from you.

oh curly...thats horrible news. there seems to be far too many people on here that have had a bad time, its not right, why cant making and keeping a baby be easier? its just not fair is it?
sorry again to hear your news.
xxx

MrsMcJr - so sorry that your scan was not as positive as you had hoped. I totally understand about being positive though. Last summer before mc I was convinced everything would be alright. Hey at least they have given you 50/50 odds. Look after yourself this week and all the best for next Wednesday.

Curlygirly -You must be devastated. I'm so sorry. Being friends is what it's all about here though isn't it. I know that I took great comfort in reading other women's stories after my mc last summer although I never joined a thread until recently.

Hi to everyone else.

so sorry curlygirl

Curlygirly - so sorry to hear your news - I'm thinking of you. You take care of you, and hang on in there

MrsMc - I'm sorry to hear your scan news wasn't great. I'm hoping and praying that everything gets back on track next week. I've been in the limbo period myself just last June, and I know how unbearably hard it is. If it is a mmc (which is what happened to me), that you'll be given options of what to do next. If you want me to talk to you about what they are - and just let off steam then email me eirianthomas232 at hotmail dot com. You take care - and eat as much bloody chocolate as you want!

J20 - glad I've got somebody to share my scan date with!

lisadutton - welcome to the party! Hope your stay is long and uneventful.

buffy - I'd seriously contact the EPU direct, and talk to them - explain your fears and the fact that your GP is being less than sympathetic, and hopefully they'll be able to help you. As for the midwife issue, get hold of the number of the head of midwifery, and ring them - you are entitled to midwife care - even if you start with one, and then are transferred to another. Your GP is talking bllcks, frankly!

hairybaby - great news from your scan - it's a wonderful feeling isn't it...

Me, I'm feeling really crappy - any and all drinks are making me puke - not much fun!

take care girlies,

ejt

CURLYGIRLY,,so sorry to hear your sad news i am thinking of u at this difficult time, xxxxxxxxxx

Curlygirl - really sorry to hear your sad news am thinking of you x

MrsMc - Sorry to hear you scan didn't give you better news but hope things are better at the next one

Lisadutton - hi & welcome

Ejt - sorry to hear you're still feeling crappy I have up & down days but I feel more tired than sick

Thehairybabysmum - glad your scan went well and you saw a hb

I'm still having trouble with sleep too! am waking up between 5&6am and so having to go to bed about 8! Just wish I could break this habit!

Hope everyone else is ok

Thank you all for your kind thoughts for me and for your continuing offers of support, it means and awful lot to me.

Curly - I am so, so sorry. I can't say I understand how you feel but I am thinking of you and sending you hugs.

Keep well everyone and congratulations to the newbies

Sorry to hear yout news curlygirl Hope you are ok.

Have everything crossed for you here MrsMc

I rang the doctor and asked if I could see/speak to the midwife and she said no! She said they won't contact me until 12 weeks and that they don't have a number that I can ring them on

I actually remember now that my midwife 'care' with DD last year was shocking and I vowed I'd never have another baby in Southampton!!

I was looking through a baby magazine this morning and dd was looking with me, so I casually asked her if she'd lie another one and she said "Yes. Twin boys"

Ooh I forgot to say - all of you with the sickness thing, last time I was pg I found that drinking orange lucozade did wonders for the sickness and is working this time as well! Worth a try!

Curly - I am really sorry. I do understand what you are going through, although every person is different and reacts differently. The important thing now is to take good care of yourself. After I had my m/c in September I took things really easy, including a full 3 weeks off work, and we booked a 2-week holiday about a month after it happened. Of course nothing takes the pain away, but it did help me.

MrsMcJr - sorry to hear about it. Again, every person is different, so you are the only person that can work out what approach to the situation is best for you. In any case, as you are asking for people's experiences, I'll share mine, although it may not be what you need/want to hear. But of course your situation may be completely different, so please don't let this make you feel negative. Also, it is encouraging that that they gave you a 50/50 chance, because in my case they didn't.

In September, I had a scan because I was bleeding at 9 weeks and they told me the foetus was not more than 5 1/2 weeks and no hb was detected. They asked me when I had taken the pregnancy test- and when I said it was at CD29, they said it was unlikely I had had a late ovulation because at that point it would probably not have been positive yet (although they can't be certain, I think). They booked me for a scan the following week saying not all hope was lost, because dates could be wrong. But from the way they were talking to us, it was rather obvious they already thought I was most likely having a m/c and were trying to prepare us for the worst. In fact, the m/c happened 3 days later.

I am happy to hear that there are cases when the dates had been wrong - and I really hope it is what is happening to you and you'll have good news for us next week. Good luck.

Of course I am now worried about myself too, and will definitely try to get a scan in the next 2 weeks (am now at 6 weeks). I am not sure it works for everyone, but my approach now is that pregnancy is complicated, and that it's better to be informed, and know about things that can go wrong - although that doesn't mean one should spend their time worrying. On the contrary, being positive is clearly better - but positive in a realistic sort of way, if that makes sense.... If it's any help, from my experience and that of many friends, it seems to be really easy to get pregnant after a m/c and most people have a successful pregnancy next time.

On another note. Are people exercising at this stage of pregnancy? I am swimming a bit, and I find it very helpful to release some stress.

BUt I am a bit worried about other forms of exercise so I try to walk a lot instead of going to the gym - which I would find a bit scary.

I guess it's about doing what feels right - but this is another case when help and advice from midwives in early pregnancy would help, rather than having to wait 12 weeks..

Gemmamc.
I asked my GP if it was ok to continue going to the gym, and she said yes, so long as you don't do really high intensity stuff like spinning, where you get hot & breathless.
Gentle stepping & cycling etc will be fine.

curlygirl, sorry i must have cross posted with you yesteday, really sorry for you, a m/c is just such a horrible thing to happen. Take it easy and look after yourself. I posted on the mc thread when i had mine and it really helped as i got talking to a couple of others going through the same thing at the same time.

Gemmamac, re exercise i looked into this lots when i was pg with DS and the main thing is not to get v. hot so dont go mad running or anything like that. It is fine to continue with your ususal level of exercise, so if you normally gym then carry on, less advisable to take up a new sport. Whatever you do just don't go mad! Swimming, yoga etc good for everyone though even if you've never done it before.

With DS i did gentle runs til 15 weeks and taekwondo (non contact obviously) til 20 wks...i alao cycled to work everyday until 36 weeks, although looking back i dont know how!! I had awful SPD and could barely walk so was actually easier to cycle.

Mind you after DS born i do no exercise so for this pregnancy the most exercise i get is peeling the wrapper off a creme egg!!!

curlygirl,really sorry to hear your news ((((((((HUGS))))))))

im going to ring health centre up in the morning and ask to speak to mw.

ive got a friedn that is a mw at the local hospital,and she said that its unlikely they will do a scan until im 12 weeks (or there abouts) as the risk of mc is so high in the first few weeks.the only time they will scan is if there is a problem.

im totally disgusted that they dont want to keep an eye to see if everything is ok.and the reassurance would do me the world of good tbh!

i still dont feel pg,dont even feel sick anymore,so i am worried.mind you last night i had really bad heartburn!

ive invested in some really nice stretchy trousers from matalan.very comfortable and smart looking with an elastic waist!!(my belly is definately getting bigger!!)

will post tomorrow to let you know how i get on when i ring the health centre!

hoep everyone else is feeling ok!!

hi guys well i just had afternoon sickness, yay,,, lol

made me feel so much better as i never had any sickness with mc,,

not long now till, scan well seems a mile away, really but tuesday 9.05,,

buffy i would call epu,, im sure they would fit u in,,,

hope everyone else is doing well,

Gemmamc - thank you for sharing your experience. It must have been horrible for you. I got my BFP on CD29 too and that is one of the reasons I think it is really unlikely that I am 1 1/2 to 2 weeks out. I am pinning my hopes to a slow grower/equipment error at the moment but am trying to tell myself that things could go badly too - it is just so hard to even contemplate. I read too that brown liquid spotting can be the baby fading away slowly, I wish I could just go to sleep and wake up after the scan on 7/3 and for everything to be as it should.

Beanie - I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday.

Fingers crossed for all, let's hope all golden piglets are kept safe and sound.

Really sorry to hear curlygirls news

and Mrsmcjnr oh no what a horrible position for you and DH to be in am thinking of you both and keeping everything crossed for your little one.Who knew when we were TTC that the 2WW would turn it to other nightmare waits.

Buffy _ I hope you get hold of midwife today and get something sorted.

Beanie - goodluck for tomorrow and well done on the sickness - wish I had been sick(can't believe I am saying that)

Hi to everyone else hope your all feeling okay

I'm alright but still having some stomach pain but I am starting to wonder if it is partly constipation realised yesterday I have not been a regular as normal (sorry if TMI)has anyone else had this? Anyway will try and drink more water and eat a bit better this week, see if it makes any difference.

Kittiwake - constipation is a symptom of pregnancy, unfortunately. When it gets bad, I have dried prunes and they work wonders!!

MrsMcJr - take it easy in the next few days. I know it's almost impossible, but try not to think about it too much before you get the scan. I hope I didn't scare you too much - there is no reason why my situation then should be the same as yours now. Clearly, if they said 50/50, they must have good reasons.

Thehairybabysmum - am very impressed by the idea you did running, tae-kwon do and cycling during pregnancy!! Hmmm, makes me feel like a wimp for wondering if I can go swimming or not..I guess I am the over-cautios type.

Gemmamac...don't be too impressed, this was nearly 2 years ago and i obviously had a v. different life then so just carried on as usual. I'm a complete slob now and looking back not sure how i managed it then either!!

MrsMac, still keeping everything crossed for you...not long til weds now!

B2B, good luck for tomorrow's scan, hopefully your afternoon sicknesss is an excellent sign that all is well.

Morning Whoops if you're around today I'm thinking of going to get a private scan to find out exactly what's going on in there! Did you say there is a place around here somewhere?

morning all!!

well,ive rang the mw,and shes getting back to me.i told her i was worried and she said that she has some things to do this morning but will have a word with the gp and ring me back this afternoon.

feeling soooooooooooooo sick today and was sick last night.so looks like im finally getting some pg symptoms!no dount i'll be moaning about it all soon!

also feeling abit constipated.been eating fruit and drinking lots of water,but im still bunged up!i was with dd3 aswell.so another "good" sign!!

hope everyone else is feeling ok today!!

Morning all! Good to see that pg symptoms abound. For constipation, I am eating allbran and muesli and then sometimes dried fruit (apricots being a good source of iron as well) on the way home. Haven't got much news. Just waiting for my booking-in appointment next Monday now... Hopefully she will pick up the heartbeat again for some extra reassurance...

Good luck to all those with scans (or re-scans) this week!

Curly so sorry about your news. The m/c thread was also very helpful to me when I had my m/c in Nov. In fact it was the most theraputic thing I did in those early sad weeks after m/c. Often it is hard to talk about with people you know in the real world, especially if a lot of them did not even know in the first place. In my experience even if they did know no-one knew what to do or say except DH. However, lovely as they are men cannot completely comprehend what m/c feels like for a woman. Anyway, if you want to, I'm sure you will find some comfort on that thread.

MrsMcJnr you must be really anxious right now. Only a few more days to go until the scan -hang in there. I really feel for you -big hug. Hope it is a positive result on

I don't mean this to be tackless in the face of the above heartache, but I had a scan last Thursday. Dates right,pg in right place and heartbeat found. Phew. However find it hard to accept the positive stats about the success of the pg now there is a heartbeat. As I had a mc at 11 weeks my babe must have had a heartbeat when it died (they suspected it had died a week before). I think I'll crack out my thimble of champagne after the 12 week scan.

Talking of m/w appointments mine is not until 15 weeks!