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[lissielou]

hi, im due on the 1st of october with 2nd after 3mcs in the past 18m. anyone else?

When I got pregnant last time, I had a docs appointment made already. I took the test along with me and he said "congratulations, that is as accurate as any test I can do."

This time I called the surgery and explained to the receptionist that I had got a positive pregnancy test result that morning. She said I had to see the midwife, so I have a booking appointment on Monday next week, would have been yesterday, but I had a work appointment already booked in.

Sorry to hear you are still bleeding Lissie, I am sure your scan will be fine on Thursday.

Good luck to everyone else with Early scans.

BTW. DP said the other day that I am already looking 3-4 months pregnant

I have just had a phone call from one of my ommunity midwives. My sppointment on Monday was booked with one that now cannot make it, so it has now been reagrrange for the lady that called me to come round to mine on Sunday 18th.

I get back from my mums on the 17th so I will be rushing roung making sure that the place is tidy before she gets here on the Sunday

LOL winnie, glad im not the only one

Sneaks - hope you are feeling better and getting some rest.
Lissie - good luck with scan.
Mrs - are Drs receptionists trained to be like this? (Apologies to any - I know you are prob overworked).
The receptionist in mine gave me wrong sample bottle and wouldn't let me decant into new one so I had to strain away to get another sample out. Nice.

Hope everyone else is OK, and that some of you are actually managing to enjoy your early pregnancy!

I think that is the reason I am so anxious about the whole test thing, I can't understand why they can't just take my word for it and book me in! It's crazy! Feeling much better tonight because I did another test at home just to reassure myself that I am indeed pregnant.

Lissie - sending you hugs, poor you, I hope DH is being more supportive now.

Well I just spent the last two hours crying my eyes out and sobbing because DP is just so insensitive. I am finding controlling my emotions impossible. I was complaining this evening about being so tired and he told me that i never stop complaining. It was like a red rag to me so I just said obviously you dont care what im going through - but he had to keep on texting me and giving out about what a bitch I'm being to him and treating him like shit and blah blah blah. He kept on and on and wouldnt listen or understand anything. He thinks I'm using pregnancy as an excuse for being a bitch to him.
He threatened to walk out on me if I didnt start being nicer to him! He told me I was sick and evil over something I said in a hormonal over emotional outburst of anger the other day (i shouted that I didnt want his child- I know i know.. )

I'm so upset - I'm actually in tears as I type this.He doesn't understand at all. I've tried to explain to him and I'm just getting more and more upset and stressed out. I even went into a panic attack this evening (but got back out of it again) over it all.
All he cares about are his feelings.

Just popping over from the Post Natal June 2006 and Due in September 2007 thread to say congrats everyone! .

Sneaks, so sorry to hear you're DP is being such a complete insensitive scumbag. when I was expecting DD last year, I had exactly the same problem. Hormones all over the place and couldn't control what I was saying (you can't, no matter how much you try), constantly crying and as soon as something insulting came out of my mouth I'd instantly regret it but DP had no time for my waterworks, telling me what a selfish bitch I was being and how all I wanted from him was a baby. Then he got ill...... and I walked out for a week to stay with family.

We eventually sorted things out and he started to realise that it was all part and parcel of being pregnant (jesus, you would have thought PMT was bad enough!) Now I'm pregnant again and he can't be more helpful and considerate to my emotions, even doing the housework and making up DD's bottles so I can have a rest. It will pass, just try and spend some time with people who understand and will help you get through this. x

Just popping over from the Post Natal June 2006 and Due in September 2007 thread to say congrats everyone! .

Sneaks, so sorry to hear you're DP is being such a complete insensitive scumbag. when I was expecting DD last year, I had exactly the same problem. Hormones all over the place and couldn't control what I was saying (you can't, no matter how much you try), constantly crying and as soon as something insulting came out of my mouth I'd instantly regret it but DP had no time for my waterworks, telling me what a selfish bitch I was being and how all I wanted from him was a baby. Then he got ill...... and I walked out for a week to stay with family.

We eventually sorted things out and he started to realise that it was all part and parcel of being pregnant (jesus, you would have thought PMT was bad enough!) Now I'm pregnant again and he can't be more helpful and considerate to my emotions, even doing the housework and making up DD's bottles so I can have a rest. It will pass, just try and spend some time with people who understand and will help you get through this. x

Oh Sneaks, poor you! sounds like you need some time to relax and look after yourself. Talk to us, we'll listen and understand

Thanks for all your replies to my GP question - I thought it was interesting how almost everyone has had a different response from their GP practice on what to do. With DS I went to the GP (in a different area from where we live now) and she asked me if it was good news or bad and what did I want her to do? I suppose it was good she wasn't judgemental, but I was a bit surprised! She just filled in some forms and I got my scan date through a few weeks later. I didnt' see my midwife until about 14 weeks! I think you really need to see someone during those first 12 weeks, as that when you can feel really anxious - especially with a first pregnancy.

I called the GP yesterday and she offered me various appointments this week, but I'm going on Monday. She didn't seem to know what he'd do, so she advised me to bring a urine sample just in case. I feel quite excited because it certainly makes it more real!

Lissie I hope the bleeding has settled and you are feeling more reassured. Let us know how you are getting on.

Sneaks, sorry you're having a hard time with DP. I wonder whether he is also feeling very anxious / worried / excited too? I know my DH is secretly really pleased with himself, but he is also very worried about money etc, so hasn't been as 'happy' outwardly as I hoped he would be. I think his feelings will change as he starts to see the bump (which always make it more real for the bloke, who otherwise has no 'evidence' of the pregnancy to see) but at the moment he is walking around with a concerned look all the time - and it is stressing me out!

Mrs Bee - I know what you mean about the "Daddy Syndrome" money worries seems to be a major symptom. Not that I blame mine because things will be very tight but I'm sure we'll find a way (I'm hoping that when we tell our friends we are expecting, they'll give us lots of stuff as many have finished their families just as we are beginning )

mrs - you will get given so much stuff from everone you wont know what to do with it all! are you feeling happier today? i read that you did another test! me too! just dont seem to be able to stop myself!

sneaks - i really hope you are feeling a bit happier today. these hormones are crap aren't they?

well, i just feel a bit down today cos my dh still doesn't seem to have aknowledged the fact that i am pg. he NEVER mentions it! he probably wont believe me till my 12 wk scan which he will hopefully be able to come to. once he actually sees something he might start accepting it!

Hi all

sneaks and greedy, I can really understand what you are saying about your dh/dp's. I think that no matter how kind and thoughtful they are they just cannot react the way we want them to to a pg as no one who hasnt been through it can understand.

when we dediced to ttc my dh didnt seem that happy. He was, but we just reacted to the whole process so differently that I was quite upset until we properly spoke about it.

Still, there was no need for him to be so nasty to you sneaks. The pressure on both of you being apart must be horrible, its so hard to communicate well by phone or text. How long is it until you can properly be together? I hope you make up soon.

Pg hormones are a terrible thing, I cried because I couldnt get a spreadsheet right yesterday! how is that??

I feel like I have been pg forever!

I also meant to say, that when we have all had our babies (touch wood - sorry I have to add that) we should all have a sort out of stuff we have had before and maybe have a big swap of items we will not need. I know if I have a girl I have lots of boys stuff that wont be needed, and if I dont know anyone in RL with a little boy I would be happy to pass it on, and maybe get some girls stuff in return.

Its true though, people buy you so much when you actually have the baby. I spent so much time opening the front door to the postman delivering gifts he stopped knocking in the end and just left it on the doorstep for me. I think he got fed up of seeing me in my dressing gown

I like your thinking Kezza. I have lots of girls stuff as I have not got rid of anything od DD's and she will be 5 when this one comes along.

bloody hell sneaks

how is everyone today? lets have your stats

sickness: not too bad, but inhaling ricecakes to keep it at bay
homones: what of em.... eh?..... are you starting something

bleeding: just spotting old blood now
belly: maternity jeans.... again!
knickerchecking: pretty much continual [blush}

sneaks - just big hugs to you girlie ...

lissie - glad the bleeding has died down a bit ...

Have been to see the acupuncturist today. She was really helpful, and is going to be seeing me 4 times before next Friday - for a hugely discounted price - the next 4 visits will cost me a grand total of £50. She did say that it was a good job that she doesn't see a lot of pg ladies (people tend to stop seeing her once their fertility issues are sorted, ie, they're pg) - as she'd never make any money!!

Also, had the most bizarre (but lovely) phone call from he deputy in charge of staff issues this morning - and am still reeling from it.... She has said that she would much rather I went to my doc's and got signed off until 12 weeks (she put it as 'the most critical time for you'), than keep trying to come back to work. She did admit that it's not completely altruistic - if I'm off for over 10 days, some insurance thingy kicks in, and the county will pay for my supply cover (I teach in a secondary school) - but that if I try to come back (even if I fail), we keep having to re-start the 10 days. She said that it would be much better for the kids to have a subject specialist teaching my classes (I teach French, which is not the easiest subject to just step into!), and it would ensure continuity. I was absolutely amazed! I've told her I'll go and see my GP, and will phone her to tell her what my GP says. I couldn't get my head around it! I'm signed off until Monday anyway - but was absolutely dreading going in - every time I get in the car, it takes a good 20 minutes to get over the journey!

This is the same woman, incidentally, who, after my first mc, tried to start a disciplinary procedure against me for taking time off ... she didn't get very far, incidentally, and was forced to apologise to me. Tact is not her strong point ... blimey!

Anyway, am now exhausted from doing sod all all day (I've watched 3 episodes of Time Team on 4 on demand this afternoon!), and will probably be in bed just after ds!

ejt

p.s. Ruby Wax as presenter of Knicker Watch - inspired!! Now starting to go off on all sorts of tangents - how about Louis Theroux for example?

pmsl and at getting 12w off!!!!!

your reaction was very similar to mine - I kept thinking 'the word 'but' is going to happen in a moment!'

ejt

p.s. thinking of you tomorrow - don't let the snow get in the way ....

i wont. told dh that we were going if we had to walk there!

get your old tennis rackets out to use as snow shoes!

ejt

pmsl, or a binbag and veg crate to make a sleigh

I'd go for that one lissie - it sounds much more fun!

When dh and I were both still in college, the one day it snowed, and all my lectures were cancelled (dh at the time was doing a phd, so pretty much chose his own hours(!), and loads of us piled into the department minibus and went up to the hills behind rudry.

We took (borrowed) trays from the canteen, and used the bags they used for storing samples of rock, and went sleighing - it was one of the best days out ever! At that point I was the lightest person there (probably still am now - they've all got beer guts now), and I was flying down the hill - fabulous!

Nostalgia break over ....

hope all goes well tomorrow - I'm probably off to bed fairly soon - waking up at 5.30am to puke really doesn't agree with me!

ejt

Sorry been slack at posting - just taken me ages to catch up!

Sneaks - what an insensitive bastard! Hope you are feeling better today. Have you been alble to talk to him properly?

Lissie - good luck for scan tomorrow

Haven't got a midwife appointment yet as we are moving shortly and will be in a different area, so didn't see the point in booking in with a midwife here.

Soo sick today, really bad.

will be thinking of you tomorrow lissie.