Due in April 2007 - BigOnion to the rescue

[EllieK]

another week, another thread

Hio I'm gate crashing from Feb 07 thread. Hope you dont mind.

Not read the whole thread just that you measuring small for dates weeonion. When I was preg with my dd I went to a routing ante natal at 36weeks and was ad iff mw from usual - she looked really worried and said baby was measuring 28 weeks so I was sent for weight and growth scan to be told baby was 5lb 2oz and would prob be about 6lb at birth. They also said that I wouldnt be expected to have a big baby as I am only 5ft myself. They were actually spot on and dd was 6lb. I too do not smoke, drink(during preg anyway), commuted by bus to work 60mile round trip per day and left home at 7am and didnt get home till 6.30pm. Has been the same this pregnancy but no mw has mentioned small baby - mayb cos mw i have this time is the one that sent my bp racing in last preg by saying baby so small - prob terrified i might lamp her one for putting me through undue stress alst time.

Please try not to worry about it - I'm sure all will be fine.

Hello - still grumpy here - got a decent nights sleep but when got up dh said I was fat and ended up in tears for 1/2 hour. He did say sorry though when realised how upset I was and is going to cook me a nice dinner. I don't think it was him saying I was fat that upset me, just 16 weeks of worry, tiredness and morning sckness followed by 12 weeks of spd, headaches and more tiredness... and the thought of another 11 weeks to go was just too much. Have decided to stick work out for another 3 weeks until half term then stop as planned.

Have read other posts but can't remember a thing! Apart from weeonion - why not give them a call and see what they plan to do next - I assume they will scan you again soon to check growth. Big Hugs xoxoxoxox

Off to grump with milky coffee!

OK, am trying to motivate myself to start the supper - bedtime routine. Feeling SO tired. Wish me luck, am hoping for a better one than last night. Only two and a quarter hours till lights out -hurrah!!

WO - hugs to you. I can totally sympathise with the stressful job and long hours. This week I have done mostly 10 hour days in the office (am usually the last person to leave in the evening, so know the cleaners quite well now!). It is absolutely pants isn't it? I just can't stop myself though, even though I know I'm not doing myself any good. I actually need my boss to tell me to slow down, and I guess you could do with that message being drummed into you too...?

Is there any way you could work from home a day or two a week - could work give you a laptop or something? What do you do?

hey all! How do i make a profile on here? i didn't even realise such things were possible

Weeonion - due date buddy! - try not to worry about your appointment, i'm sure all will b fine, all babies are diff sizes n shapes xxx

Hello All,

Wish all the unwell lo's the speedy recoveries!! Hope they all get well soon and that they don't make mummy ill too...

Oh WO, big {{{{{hugs}}}} to you don't let them make you feel bad, you're not doing anything that would reduce the baby's size (eg smoking) therefore it is not your fault. Hopefully they'll set you a follow up scan etc and all will be well. Babies grow at different rates and as long as he/she is continuing to grow all should be well... positive vibes and {{{{hugs}}}}....

Positive vibes and {{{{hugs}}}} to all those who were feeling down yesterday also... I wonder if it is something to do with the end of the 2nd trimester cos I distinctly remember feeling low, fed up, anxious and depressed a from about week 25 and then a lot better at week 27/28..

Well I don't want to sound like a winger but I need a little advice too.
I don't know if this is normal or not but it just seems like anytime i do anything remotely active I get the most horrendous backache and pain in my pelvis.
Yesterday morning I bathed mia, made the beds and took a slow walk up to her baby group (10/15mins away) and back, by the time it came to shopping I could hardly walk! I had a backache going from the middle to the small of my back/bum and then braxton hicks in my pelvis.
Today I mopped the floor, hovered downstairs they are the only things that I did different to a normal day and my back hurts so much moving makes me feel like its going to snap, I also have pains in my pelvis and hips as well.
This has been going on for weeks and it just seems to be getting worse. I'm potty training mia so I have to walk up and down the stairs a to take her toilet. By the end of the day my back is aching.
The only relief i get is when i sit absolutely still....
I went to the docs early on about it and she said that i should just excersise and take pain killers if it gets to bad..... I don't want to sound like a cry baby but it just hurts soooo much and seems to be getting worse.

Does anyone else have this?? what do you do to relieve it?? any tips/addvice is much appreciated.

xzx
29+4wks

bubblez - sounds like you have the dreaded spd - welcome to the club! My pain goes round my hips and dwon my legs - other folks just get it down the front pubic bone. Rest really is the only way to ease it - do take some painkillers when bad and get your midwife to refer to you a physio to get a support belt. I couldn't do half the stuff you said - it would kill me!

Big hugs xoxoxoxoox

Hiya 12weeks - Im not entirely sure what spd is... what triggers it? So you think that maybe I should speak to my midwife (instead of supid doctor)....

The thing is that I try not to moan or let things get to me but this seems to be getting worse... today i felt close to tears im in so much pain.

Hello all.

WeeOnion, I know it has been said already, but really sorry you had such an appalling appointment. Honestly, some members of the medical profession are so insensitive.
I hope you get some advice, and as hard as it is, try not to worry. Your dp/dh should be able to get some time off to attend appointments with you.
With Becky, they told me she was going to be huge, which also sent me in to a spin. I even thought about stopping eating so she didn't get too big. In the end she was an average 7 ibs 14 oz's.
As has been said, babies grow at different rates. Hugs to you. xx

Not much to report here. Took B to the GP and thankfully she hasn't got impetigo again - hurrah. She is also in a fab mood.

Hope everyone else is ok, and CB hope tonight goes better for you.

Back later.

Weeonion - just wanted to join everyone else in sending you hugs. They really shouldn't say your baby is small, get you all concerned and then not make a follow-up plan. I hope you get some good information and encouragement from the MW you like.

12weeks - I really felt for you with the 'fat' comment and how that was the straw that broke the camel's back with all the stress you've been under. Take care. Your DH sounds like he's really sweet - just put his huge male foot in his mouth as many men are wont to do! Enjoy your special dinner tonight.

Hope all the LOs feel better soon.

Enjoy the weekend everyone!

Oh, and Bubblez - GO SIT DOWN AND REST! I hope you don't have SPD but if you do, you need to start being very kind and gentle with yourself!

Hugs Weeonion, you poor thing. When do you start maternity leave? Hopefully soon beacuse you sound like you could do with a rest.
I haven't had a small baby but would like to tell you that my biggest baby was my first. That was when I was still working long hours aswell as having to provide 24hr callout cover. DONT feel guilty. Babies grow at their own pace.
Will beep the horn on Monday. My favourite Aunt lives in Troon (well Barassie) and we will be over their alot so maybe some iceceams on the shore??? LOL- when the wind dies down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Take care and demand some tlc from your dh.

Good luck tonight CB, it has been a complete war zone here. DD2 got so cross with me last night that she went and made herself sick all over the bedroom We had people viewing the house this morning so I was livid at duvet/carpet washing etc.
Grrr!

AngeG at your test results.

Bubblez at your pain. Hope that they can get to the bottom of it and give you some relief.

Liath, how is your sister doing?

Group hug to all tonight, think that we could all do with it

so much to catch up on!

bubblez - sounds like you have SPD would strongly recommend either seeing your mw asap, or if it gets really bad (or mw doesn't do anything),go to A&E. They will send you to maternity, who will HAVE to do something about it. Unfortunatley, it seems that some mw aren't very knowledgable about SPD (lucky for me, mine have been great) Please, please, see someone about it. I found that having a toddler actually meant me getting seen earlier by the physio (the running around that you have to do!)

WO - how bloody insensitive its bad enough when "the public" comment on the size of our bumps, never mind these so called health professionals.

Lots of sympathy to all those (and their lo) feeling poorly/grouchy. Here's a virtual hug

Still haven't had the results from the cholestasis test. The mw did say they would only be in touch if it was positive, and the itching seems to have stopped, and the spots have gone.

Sinuses - my mum has suffered from them for years, and found that best way to manage them is to have a facial! her friend is a beautician, and concentrates on the sinus area. She has a runny nose for a day, but is fine for about 6-8 wks. HTH

Liath - pita for your sister. let us know how she gets on.

going to take some washing down to mums now (dh hasn't had chance to fix machine yet) if I don't get back on here later, have a lovely day tomorrow for the SE meet up - AND TAKE LOTS OF PHOTOS!! [GRIN]

xxxx

WO - sorry to hear that your appt got you all in a tizz.. I´ve not been told any measurements ever for my baby, when do they start doing that? But I have read lots on other threads about people being told they´re going to have big/ small babies and how inaccurate, on the whole, these guesstimates seem to be. Obviously you´ll want to be followed up to put your mind at rest but please PLEASE don´t blame yourself, I´m sure you can´t have done anything to stop your baby growing as she should x x x

AngeG - congrats on passing your GTT! What a relief, pass the chocolate!

Sorry I can´t remember anything else but lordy me we have turned into a right bunch of moaning minis, haven´t we? Must just been something that´s blowing through with the change of weather, hopefully it´ll pass soon. I´ve had the most thoroughly BORING day doing nothing nothing nothing but I think it´s what´s needed when you get so full of cold as I am. Hopefully it will have paid off and tomorrow I can get back to normal. My mum came and took my wet sheets etc, to hers to dry (no dryer and cold weather means it takes forever to dry at my house) and brought me a roast chicken from the market. Love my mum.

I am now permanently relegated to the Lazy-boy armchair as it´s the only way I feel comfy but I feel quite exiled from the sofa, next to dh and the cats and I´ve now got an almost ever present pain in the right side of my back, in the middle. Just strain from my bigger belly or would the baby be pressing against something? It´s always the same place.

Feels like about 2 weeks ago I was thinking what a breeze this whole pregnancy thing was (more or less, you know) and BAM! I just feel so uncomfortable a lot of the time and dread to think we have 3 more whole entire months to go of this. I guess the anticipation is what makes the 3rd tri a bugger?

hi all
haven't caught up yet
just a quick note to say enjoy the meet up and don't post too much before sunday night, I'm away for the weekend
matthew is with his dad so i'm off for 2 whole nights and days of pure, uninterupted pleasure at dp's house
see youu all sunday x

and no starting a new thread til I get back, it always confuses me

ta folks for yr lovely thoughts. u r right -probably is nothing and i am worrying too much. somehow thought i would have a bigger baby as dp is 6"4, i'm 5"6 and we were both whoppers at birth. typical 1st timer?i have to go back in 2 weeks for usual mw appt and they will rescan us in 4 weeks to see.
sorry to have been moany of late. i am also one of those people who thought pg would be a breeze. hmmm. feel bit wick as all i seem to do is moan. i am not normally like this usually - honest!

hope the meet up is lovely 2morro - someone said it was exciting but bit scary - like a blind date but i thinkit is lovely to think of all you and bumps piling off a train, dandering through the city together and then filling a table fro lunch. make sure you get some pics for the rest of us.

hugs to us all out there. we are or are all nearly into trimester 3. the end is in sight. light days / evenings are on their way. xoxoxo

OOh Ellie, a dirty weekend eh! Have a great time.

Maveta, hope you are feeling better after your day of rest. Sounds like just what was needed.

WO, it was me who said it felt like going on a blind date - exciting, but still a little bit scary - in a nice way!

I don't think you sound moany at allby the way. You seem to have a lot on your plate,and this is a great place to vent. My dh is 6' 4" and I am 5' 6" and B is average. I was 6 ibs 11 when born and my dad is 6' 2 and mum is 5' 8" so I really don't think it follows any pattern whatsoever.

i've managed to put my scan photo on my file - feel free to nose peeps xxxxxxx

Happy meet up, South East people!

WO - I was 6 lb, DH was 2 lb (10 weeks early!) and our firstborn together was 10 lbs. So go figure..... I know it will be hard not to worry until your next scan - keeping everything crossed for you.

Also feeling ill and have friends coming to stay and will be in lousy form for them . At least the rest of the family appear to be ok (fingers crossed emoticon).

Pesha - hope your DS is starting to feel better?

Check this out - this cannot be for real

Hope that cheers you up.

(sorry blatantly nicked from another thread).

Oh WO don´t apologise! I certainly didn´t mean it like that and hope no one took it as a dig that I was saying we were being moany..I´m first in the queue to have that finger pointed at me!

If we can´t let it all out here, I´m not sure where we can?!

Have a great meet up girls.

Flump at your DD making herself sick. Bet you were fuming at the extra cleaning. I was mad enough at a beaker of juice being spilt on the marble floor.

Bedtime was better than last night (more positive I cannot be!).

Bubblez - on no, really does sound like SPD. I have it, but so far quite mildly. Would love to go for the bed rest option, but sadly no chance round here. Just a five minute walk to the supermarket and back gets my braxton hicks going and my lower back and pelvis aching. The wonders of pregnancy, eh?

Well I'm off to have a soak in the bath and finish of my book, Little Face, which I can thoroughly recommend. Probably better to read before or well after birth as it's a thriller about a newborn being swapped (or was she?) at a few days old. Only the mother is convinced. Perhaps not one to take into labour with you - LOL!

Here's to a good weekend, though I fear mine will be much of the same. V of yours, Ellie.

for the folks with spd - i am sure you have heard this before but found advice from another mnetter - drink loads of water to stay hydrated, no caffeine at all, make have loads of omega 3,6&9 oils in diet from oily fish or seeds and to take 2 tablespoons of olive oil a day. not sure if it would help nayone but thought i'd hand it over .....

Quick post before hitting the hay (gotta be up early to get to the SE Meet Up!! )

Sorry about your crappy, crap, crap appt weeonion, how horrid for you - There's plenty of time for your wee one to move into a better position and to grow - Don't let them worry you and give you unneccesary horror stories - It is cruel and wrong!! All babies grow at different rates and at their own pace. You LO has a strong heartbeat and is moving lots, don't worry! [hugs]

Great news AngeG! See you tomorrow hon!!

Right, off to bed now ....

Weeonion

I'm posting as I go along as I'll forgot what tosay otherwise...
Poor poor you - what a worry. If I was in your shoes honey I would ring first thing monday and ask to speak to your consultant. I would want a plan of action - i.e any plan for regular monitoring to see if growth increases etc. I know every case is different and comparisons are not always helpful but I do know that a friend was told her baby was small for dates - had a really stressful pregnancy as she was continualy being monitored etc and when the baby (who ended up being born at 35 weeks) was born he was over 51b inw eight and if had gone to term would have likely been a 8 pounder!! He was also the length her other son was at term.
I think that the way you have been treated is unacceptable - especially the lost notes which I think is inexcusable.
Your going to be worried sick over it until something is sorted out - our Midwife Unit has a Midwife Manager person that you can raise concerns to - maybe ask to speak to the equivalent up there?
Hope that helps - thinking of you - you need to do what is going to make you relax....maybe even a private scan would be worth the money if it reassured you?
hugs
xxx