barkingtree glad to hear you had a scan that went well! I'm considering booking a private one too, just for reassurance, this wait is killing me. Just wish DH was more understanding of my worry, he keeps telling me not to worry and that all is fine, and reminding me how much I worried with DD, and that she turned out fine. But I tell him that's no guarantee for this time!! I know I'm paranoid, but I guess if you're generally an anxious person, which I am, pregnancy is bound to be a difficult time for you. Oh well, may look around for scan options.
Also, sorry to hear you're having difficulty telling people, but totally understand! esp if you went through IVF. It's always nerve wrecking to tell people if you still feel nervous yourself. This time around I told loads of people a lot earlier than last time, and in a way it made me more anxious, as I can't help but think what if I had to tell all those people something went wrong! but on the other hand, I also think that if (God forbid) something was to happen, then it would be a support that I would not have to hide it. It can be scary to tell people, but once you've told them, you'll feel a weight off your shoulders, it's so nice not having to hide things.