December 2016 babies - thread #4 - blooming in trimester 2!

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New December babies thread!

DH has just asked what his "drop everything" cut off date is. Assuming the pregnancy goes okay, at what point would it not be appropriate to go away for the weekend any more?

Assuming it's UK based and he takes his own car, so can leave immediately.

Would 4 weeks before be okay?

Appreciate some have partners who travel for work so would be dealing with this up to the wire, but this would be pleasure rather than business

Thanks

Good luck for your scan tomorrow noodle.
I think the guidelines say baby in your room for the first 6 months, dd3 is still in our bed I love her being in there though.

Another absolutely horrific thing to deal with after birth is when your milk comes in (I assume if you breast feed it relieves it?!) But I won't be breast feeding (abscess that ended up with an operation after attempting to bf) I can still remember the pain from when when dd3 was born, my boobs were solid and every time I moved it was agony.

bristol thanks - I have a DD already but after the miscarriages I'm extra nervous.

I think it depends how far your DH is going. DHs best friend is getting married on 8th Dec and I'm due 22nd but he's not going because it's a 4 hour drive in potentially bad weather. For other people that would be fine but we're erring on the side of caution (although I was overdue and then in pre-labor for quite a while last time.

bigfam I remember the first only time DD slept through the night - my boobs were AGONY in the morning. I had to wake her to get her to feed! I can't image that for a few days. Is there nothing that can help?

First timer here and all this paper pants business sounds icky. I'm too scared to google it...! I think I'll leave it until 3rd trimester...

Hello everyone, anyone feeling baby move? Or being nervous, due to not feeling the baby? I'm 16 wks and haven't felt anything. it's my second baby, so thought I'd feel movement much earlier...

btw, don't worry too much about pants and pads! it all depends how much you bleed, not everyone bleeds that much. I did not bleed a lot with DD, and the hospital maxi ads were a pain du to not having wigs and moving around a lot but they were fine for the hours there and when I came home just used the extra absorbent normal sanitary pads, Always Ultra or something.

oh no, I didn't want to scare people! London you are quite right to say that some people don't bleed all that much. I just meant to let people know of a solution I'd found, if their body went down that route.

16+3 second timer here and some sort of popping/bubbles - maybe, when I'm lying down, and very occasionally - but nothing I'm really sure about.

I've not had any little flutters or bubbles, but I've definitely felt a few proper movements, the sonographer did say she was a wriggler.

Noodlebrains, I've no idea but I'm willing to try anything. Of course dp thought it was amazing as they ballooned to a size E, I told him that if he came within an inch of them he'd be eating through a straw for the foreseeable future

Had a midwife appt yesterday and at 15+1 she found a HB.

Have been window shopping for baby stuff but will not be buying anything till the end. Dh is adamant he will walk in a shop and buy what we need within a day 🤔😲.
Like the idea of the next2me crib and have seen it at a local independent baby shop cheaper then the big retailers .
The car seat seems to be a dilemma .
Like the look of the joie birth to 7 ur old but being a Dec baby would like a car seat I can settle the baby into indoors and take to car.
Thinking won't need a pram till later so not sure to buy everything seperate or get a travel system with car seat.
Those getting a next2me type crib would you settle the baby in that during daytime? Or would you have a seperate Moses etc downstairs?

DS slept in our room until 6 and a bit months, the recommendation is for 6 months because your breathing regulates the baby's breathing thus reducing the risk of SIDS. DS napped on me during the day and early evening and then went up to bed with me until about 4 months then I started getting desperate for some time with nothing touching me so I started to put him upstairs by himself for a few hours.

As with everything though you've got to do whatever works for you!

TMI alert Bleeding wise it was pretty full on - worse than a heavy period but no pain - for 1 or 2 weeks but didn't stop for like 6 weeks or something ridiculous?! Never used paper pants just maternity pads the first week and the always ultra afterwards TMI alert ends

This is very eye opening as a first time mum. I'm feeling very clueless at the moment.
Is anyone still spotting at 17 weeks?

I'm with you there on the clueless front bow but thanks to everyone else for the advice! There seems to be so much about pregnancy that's glossed over in films/tv/general society talk, it makes sense that pushing a baby out will result in bleeding but never occured to me until reading these posts! This forum is going to be so useful!!

I'm having a girl and a boy :)))

Luckily I have an awesome group of friends (actually met them through a MN group!) so had a heads up before DS of what to expect and also what was "normal" with a newborn - including both me and him! - plus I've not joined this group's FB group so I'm happy to overshare feel free to tell me to shut up though!!

Re bleeding this link might be useful www.nct.org.uk/parenting/guide-blood-loss-after-birth

Oh wow steffi that's so exciting!! I'm a little bit jealous

We bought a cream sofa after DD, Ill be sat on a blanket on it after this one. I didn't have heavy bleeding, but it lasted for about 6 weeks. The uterus contractions freaked me out more than anything else.

Congratulations Steffi!

Thanks for everyones advice re: newborn sleeping arrangements.

I have another question (sorry!!) When should I expect my belly button to pop? I was looking down at my tummy and my belly button is starting to become a little more shallow, but I'm only 15+1... And I've also been eating like a horse today so maybe it's just my overeating to cause my belly to explode?

Wow Steffi that's great!

There's also the leaky nipples to deal with, you can never get enough breast pads, i had to improvise whilst out one day when they started leaking and use sanitary towels cut in half (1st baby, I have since learnt!)

We had DD in our room until she was 8 1/2 months. Initially we had a crib that we thought we would use, but she refused to sleep in it from the day we got home; I later realised how common this is. We borrowed a co-sleeper cot from friends (arms reach co-sleeper) and the midwife showed me how to make it feel cosier for her using towels under the sheet so she was in a smaller space (like the sleepyhead just a homemade version). DD slept in that or co-slept with us, bits of both most nights until about 6/7 months when she then moved into the crib but still in our room. I had been really against co-sleeping before she was born because I was scared of safety issues, but it was the easiest way for the 3 of us to get some sleep later on at night. DD used to cluster feed (breastfed) until about 1am for the first 8 weeks or so which drove me insane, so we used to go to bed and feed lying down so I could doze. I then transferred her to the co-sleeper when she fell asleep.

We had planned to move her to her own room earlier but we were having real issues with her sleep and as I was feeding at night and she refused bottles (not during the day for some reason though, drove me mad!), and I couldn't be bothered trekking out of bed multiple times a night to try to settle her it took a few really bad nights at 8 1/2 months for DH to persuade me to try moving her to see if it helped. She went from waking 6 times a night to sleeping through 7-4-7 within a week, then sleeping through 7-7 by the time she was 9 1/2 months so I now realise we were disturbing her constantly. We will see how we go with this one and move them earlier if we think it will help.

Another one here who didn't bother with paper pants etc. I bought some but never wore them. Took loads of cheap, big black granny pants in a size up to the hospital and used them with the thick maternity pads. Just binned the pants each day for the first week or so as they would have been a nightmare to wash. I bled for about 8 weeks after DD was born, just wore big pants and maternity pads for a few weeks then it eased enough to use thin pads or panty liners. You may notice sudden heavy gushes during feeding if you bf as well for the first few weeks. Get a protective cover for your mattress!

Tiny - your belly button may not pop... Mine went shallow then totally disappeared last time. It seems to be doing it again now as DP noticed it being shallower the other night - I'd totally forgotten before he commented!

My belly button is getting shallower as well!
So much to look forward to. Leaky boobs, bleeding, no sleeping through the night for months....

Steffi that's amazing . When both our embryos implanted I was convinced I had one of each and named them accordingly. When we lost one I had no feeling at all of which sex was still in there, even though with my three previous pregnancies I had a strong feeling (never confirmed whether I was right or not though).

I've got insomnia again .

steffi that's lovely news

I bled for a long time after dd (6 weeks), it was heavy but nothing horrendous. Paper pants are awful, just buy cheap ams huge granny pants.

I think we had dd with us for about 6 months, in a Co sleeper. Downstairs, we used the carrycot part of the buggy. But she never slept in it anyway! Always on us.

Not been spotting so far bow (although I had a light 'period' at 4w) but this morning I had some pinky brown discharge and I am pretty worried