Thanks dartmoor/ theaks/ sunnydays/ weechops/ watermelon/ kitkat/ firawla I think I'm finally letting myself get a little bit attached now, it has definitely helped me to find out.
banana yes, harmony was booked privately, it was £400 for the scan and bloods. You don't have to find out the sex if you don't want to know. I was 10+4 I think, if you Google where they do it near you they'll say when it can get done.
Sorry about all the sickness. I've struggled today, and after 4 hours sleep last night I just wanted to curl up and do nothing!
babydreaming I weighed myself last night and was suprised I was still 8 stone (same as always) as I'm so bloated and feel like I'm doing nothing but eat, and I'm not doing any exercise.
Swan what have you done?!?! Now I really want fizzy sweets!!!!!! 
hiding please, please, please tell them by text or email first. I've been on that end so many times. It's so much easier to hear the news in private, burst into tears without worrying about upsetting them, and then try to compose yourself before you see them. When my mate told me by text she was pg last year I cried for 3 weeks. If my ivf hadn't failed we would have been pg together and I was devastated. I wouldn't have wanted her to see that though, I was grateful that I was able to send my congratulations in reply and she knew me well enough to know how it would affect me but that it didn't mean I wasn't happy for her.
salmon there won't be any fb announcements here either, and I'll be avoiding any photos of my bump going up either. We started ttc #1 when I was 32 and I'm turning 37 in a couple of weeks and still not convinced it's finally all going to work out. Scan photos and baby photos are so painful to see on fb when it's what you want so desperately for yourself that I've unfollowed everyone of a fertile age!!!
eskerina great news on the 12 w scan 
Hi Ellen and Elodie!
notaclue it must have been amazing to see two little babies and two heartbeats!! Are they going to scan you again soon and give you more news? It's so worrying when you're not sure exactly what is happening 