November 2016. Hoping for sticky ones!!!

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Just got my BFP this morning. Only 11dpo on our 5th cycle but hoping for it to stick.

I already have 3 DC. DD (nearly 12), DS1 (8) and DS2 (nearly 4).

I have 3 early m/c in between my DC so very cautious at the moment.

Anyone want to join me?

Hello, I got my BFB yesterday at 14dpo. This is my 4th pregnancy after 3 miscarriages so feeling very anxious! I'm starting to feel sick but not sure if thats nerves.

Congratulations and welcome Bumble. I have everything crossed for you that things go well in this pregnancy. I associate nausea and sickness with a successful pregnancy so hopefully it bodes well for you if you already have the start of ms.

Thank you Fuzzy!

I'm contemplating booking an early scan, at what week should I book it for so that I'm sure to see the heart beat etc? I don't want to book one then have to go back in a few weeks because the heart beat wasn't visible, that would shoot my nerves through the roof!

I keep changing my mind about an early scan but am feeling as if I will have one today. If you go when you are eight weeks and see a heartbeat, then your miscarriage risk drops to 2%. Don't forget that your dates can be a little out, so it is probably best to aim for when you think you are 8.5 weeks.

Morning all!

I'm really struggling today after a weekend of nausea and low energy and a night of anxiety resulting in no sleep. I've ended up taking the day off sick as exhausted and the nausea is so debilitating.

Hello everyone. I found out on 2nd March, husband's birthday, that I'm pregnant with number 3! We already have two daughters aged 2 and 4 one born in 6th Nov and the other born the 10th Nov. This ones rough due date is the 2nd nov! Feeling ok although a little shocked as it was a bit of a surprise. x

Morning all.

A bit of a rough morning here, TMI warning! After a bowel movement I had some vaginal blood. Only when I wiped and nothing since. I was expecting more of the pinky discharge I had over the weekend but this was a shock. I'm seeing the GP at 11.15 but knowing I've MCed in the past I'll probably be sent from there to EPU. My poor DD, who is 2, must know something is up as she keeps following me everywhere needing mummy cuddles. Read her a story a little while ago and ended up crying.

Oh Spotty. I really hope everything is ok and I am hope you are send to the EPU rather than home without any reassurance.

Fi that sounds like November is the celebratory month in your household!

Hope being at home helps Flamingo

Hello ladies - room for another?

I got my BFP on Friday. Although we were trying, I am in complete shock as I had what I thought was a weird/light/short AF... Only tested because my boobs felt like they had been used as punch bags. Its my first pregnancy and my last period was late Jan, so think I am about six weeks... According to Glow I am sure early Nov... Just made a Drs app for next week. Feeling OK - boobs still sore and spilling out of all bras, slight crampy twinges, generally quite nervous as its first time and REALLY REALLY want everything to go well!

I've just seen this thread. I'm due in early November. It's my first pregnancy after many years of infertility.

I'm not excited in the slightest and I'm suddenly terrified of the responsibility of raising a child. I don't know if I'm cut out for it.

I didn't think I'd feel this way.

It doesn't help that I've been feeling pretty rubbish do far. I've had cramping and backache on and off and feel generally achy and unwell.

I'm sorry for such a depressing post but that's how I feel.

Oh, spotty. Everything crossed here for you

Hi to all the other newbies!

finding, don't apologise. There's no right or wrong way to feel about being pregnant. It's very easy to be caught up in the fuck, what have I done? side of your emotions. Early pregnancy is a very hormonal, tiring time and quite often you feel like absolute rubbish - none of which is very conducive to being over the moon. I imagine if you've spent years trying then this has been a bit of a shock to the system?

Hello, welcome and congratulations Mrs and finding. I think pregnancy can be both terrifying and overwhelming.

Has anyone been to the doctors yet? I've had 3 previous miscarriages, should I go to the doctors now? Will they do anything now?

I think it all depends on the policy in your area Bumble. Where I am, the doctor doesn't see you and you go straight to the midwife who only sees you from eight weeks. Due to your history though, it sounds like it would be worth calling your surgery and asking whether you should see the doctor although (unless you have any problems) I am not sure what they will do.

I am not sure when I will tell my family or friends and I have made a Drs app simply to reassure myself! When is anyone else or has anyone else told people?

Mrsflowers we told immediate family straight away with pregnancy 1 and 2. We were very excited and decided if anything awful happened we'd want their support so no point keeping it a secret. However after having daughter number 2 we discovered my sister and husband couldn't have children so we haven't told anyone about this one yet. I just don't know how to tell her

I've told loads of people I told my parents, and also my line manager and manager at work as there are appointments etc that I need to juggle. But I've also told quite a few friends. I am a talker/sharer though. I'd tell them if something (sadly) went wrong too. Plus I'm feeling rough and the a few of the friends I've told are lovely, local other mums who have immediately offered to have DD for odd playdates to give me a rest. Luffs them!

Fi84, I'm sorry, that is a rubbish situation to be in. Are there any family members who might understand well how she would like to know?

MrsFlowers we told our parents straight away and have told a few close friends who we want to be able to talk to about the pregnancy. It's my first too and I'm totally daunted and anxious about it all!

I had to tell my boss today as think I'm going to have to stop travelling for work until the nausea and fatigue subsides, but thankfully I know him very well after working for him for years so know he'll be supportive. It's going to be hard thinking of excuses to tell colleagues though, I really don't want to lie to them but don't want everyone knowing until we know everything is OK.

Thurlow I think we will tell my mum in the next couple of weeks and ask her advice x

Flamingo, my line manager has agreed to say to some of my colleagues that I have some health problems and so will have a few appointments and the odd day working from home over the next few weeks. Otherwise it starts to look unfair that I'm suddenly WFH and coming in late after appointments, and I don't want there to be any resentment.

Tbh, I suspect most people will probably just assume in a woman our age that it's pregnancy, but you can't stop that!

It is so hard. I've just had to tell my oldest friend as their last funded round of IVF failed just a few weeks ago It's very awkward. I think all you can do it give them some space and not push them to react in any way, and ask them to be honest if they want to, about anything.

We have told parents and siblings and I have also told a couple of close friends and others who I know who have been ttc at the same time. I am not keeping it a secret but I don't feel the need to go out of my way to say to many people. As I am still on maternity leave, I haven't said anything to work yet but will do so in a couple of weeks once I have had my eight week scan.

Sorry you've been in a similar situation thurlow it is very difficult.

Think I've finally sorted the spreadsheet out to make it editable for all!

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1ttMO3RUBPOnQmHdOil9GgSyeEaLRaJE8jMu67TMmbl0/edit#gid=0

Please add in your stats if you'd like to.

Congrats & welcome to all the newbies :)

MrsFlowers We've told our parents, siblings & closest friends...quite a lot really! But when I miscarried last year I needed their support and it helped that they already knew...so with that logic I did the same again.

I've got a doctor's appt tomorrow eve to ask for an early scan due to previous mc and a large ovarian cyst I have, I can't wait...even though I will (hopefully) just be referred, it just feels like something pro-active I'm doing!

Hi Al, feels like I haven't been on here for ages.

Welcome to all the new comers and congratulations!

Spotty I hope you get the reassurance you need and everything is ok.

Finding I am feeling a bit similar - completely anxious, quite crampy which doesn't help with the anxiety and a bit run down. Already have had to make some decisions based on this little ones existence (friends wanted us to join them on holiday in June and we can't as DP only has a limited amount of leave that we're trying to save for when this one arrives) and it all feels a bit daunting. I must admit I wanted nothing more than a glass of wine over the weekend which of course I couldn't and didn't have. Not helped by DPs parents wanting to celebrate by going for a drink, which was fine, until FiL bought a 4pint pitcher for him and DH and we sat there for 3 hours with me nursing a ginger ale and starving as we hadn't planned to be out that long and hadn't eaten. Oh god, sorry, now I'm just moaning. Anyway I just wanted to say you're not alone and shouldn't apologise. It is all wonderful and lovely and we are extremely lucky but the reality is it is also hard and different and shocking and we are humans.

Glad I've got some of that off my chest...this thread really is grand!