August 2016

[Jw35]

Hi just got my bfp! I'm early, 3 days before AF was due so not sure if I'm the only one with an August due date?

I'm due August 3rd

Hi again, I can be a sporadic poster, but will no doubt be on here lots of the next coming weeks!

Bobs I've been having cramps too - actually I start getting worried perversely when I don't have them! They are mild and don't last for very long. I think you'd only need to worry if they are strong and have you bent double in pain from what I've read.

I'm a complete novice on everything as this is my first, but it never occurred to me that you could get an early scan?! I think I'll ask about this when I see the GP, but if everything seems ok then I'll leave it till 12 weeks. Doesn't seem to be much point if it's inconclusive anyway.

Will be planning on telling both sets of rents over Xmas! Would be just too hard to keep it from them. Also, all being well I will be 6 weeks then = running to the loo to vom all the time!

picklebot not unfeeling at all, if it wasn't for my history of ectopic I doubt I would have had one, but having had an inconclusive one it makes everything seem so much scarier

Sorry to hear today wasn't as reassuring as you'd hoped christine but pleased to read your HCG levels are good. Fingers firmly x'd they continue to rise before Saturday!

We are debating paying for an early scan just before Christmas when I'll be around 8 weeks all going well (another with LMP 28/10). DP is desperate to tell his sister when she visits over Christmas as she lives down in London and we only see her a couple of times a year.

picklebot not unfeeling and totally logical! Sadly logic goes out the window in early pg.
The only reason I'm after an early scan this time is that I've had 2 MMC and an early natural MC so am pretty worried. Even then I might not have bothered, but my last MMC was anembryonic so I just want to know that there is SOMETHING in there this time round! And that it's alive and viable-looking. With that MMC I also ended up haemorrhaging badly and being blue lighted into hospital for an emergency op, so I'm hoping to avoid that this time round too! Have only just built my iron levels back up
Am just holding out for Monday at the moment. Had some bad cramps and a tiny streak of red earlier (and I do mean tiny!), no more since but it's not helped the nerves. Hoping so hard that all is well and I can give DH some good news! Really want to tell him about this pg!

I can completely understand wanting to have one in certain circumstances. Hope everything goes well for you (and us all!) GlenCoco

I am hypersensitive to everything at the moment, so hard to focus on anything else, and completely obsessing over any 'change' that I feel. So difficult when you don't know if what you're feeling is normal! I'm continuing to test everyday at the moment!

I think I'll feel better once I get myself to the docs to get seen. Fx for next week.

Hello I haven't read the full thread yet but can I join please!
Just found out on Monday night I am about 4 weeks pregnant so due around 16th August - it's my second and I am more scared this time than with my first
My pregnancy wasn't planned so I think I am feeling shell shocked still!
Waiting for the midwife to call me back to arrange appt...
Congratulations to you all

Morning all!
Welcome to all the new bfps! Nervous/exciting times ahead.
Christine I'm sorry the scan wasn't reassuring, but fingers crossed the blood tests continue to be.
And congratulations on seeing a heartbeat, Somnambulator! That must have been magical.
I am torn about having an early private scan. On the one hand, the reassurance of seeing a heartbeat is just so lovely, but on the other hand, I can think of a lot of other nice things I can do for myself with that money. Antenatal yoga classes, massages, a bunch of super cute baby clothes if it happens to be a girl this time...
Anyway, all seems ok over here so far (touch wood). Had a bit of pink spotting a couple days ago, but nothing major. And this morning the first trimester exhaustion that I remember so well seems to have hit me like a train. Though that may have just been the eventful last couple nights with a teething DS. Enjoying a cup of coffee so I can get through the day running around after him!

Went to Drs today to get referral to the widwife. Saw a jr dr who didn't really know what to do, but got the referral now and a load of leaflets etc so just have to wait for a midwife appt to come through the now. Cramping has eased off and not feeling too sick yet, so just enjoying the time before I start to feel bad and trying to get as much Xmas prep done as I can.

*midwife obvs

I got my scan appointment through! 14th January although I think I'll only be 10 weeks then so I think the doc messed up the referral.

Things seem to be picking up a bit for me. Felt nauseous through the middle of the day today and had heartburn, been really bloated and gassy- and to top things off my libido is sky high it's SO CRUEL because I'm too scared to have sex because of the problems I've had with spotting. Urgh. So I'm just hanging out, super horny and unable to have sex (and orgasms result in cramping ) WHY U NO FAIR, PREGNANCY?!

That's funny smells I've been having a few sexy dreams too! They've so real!!

I'm SO tired today! Can't believe how exhausting the first trimester is! Ugh I'm going to have a nice soak in the bath once the baby is in bed. I'm 6.2 weeks today

Hi all,
It's taken me about half an hour to read through your posts. This is such a fast moving thread.

I think I feel quite different to a lot of you. After having a mmc in August I'm not worried that it's going to happen again, I'm almost convinced, I feel almost no hope! I have booked a private for 6w6d (next Thursday), I've also got my NHS early scan 6 days later.

Whatever shows on the private scan I will be able to take with me to the EPU the following week so none of this "you could have got your dates wrong, come back next week" like I had last time.

It'll be 23rd December when I have my second scan, and I fly to the Canaries on te 24th, so if everything is not OK, I've got a week in the sun with my DH and plenty of Sangria to help me through it!!

I just don't feel worried at all really, cause I feel like it's inevitable. So we are not telling anyone, and we're not getting excited about names or birthing plans. Sounds like I'm a real miserable cow, but last time it broke my heart and I think I must have hardened to protect myself?

Who had the rant about not being told what to do and all of the decisions are ours?
Can I refuse to be weighed? I don't need the scary stories about how heavy women could risk pregnancy complications- I've read them all myself!!!

I know what you mean about feeling negative. Since my scan where they couldn't see anything but told me from blood tests I'm definitely pregnant. I don't feel pregnant at all. I mean I still have all my symptoms but I just feel like they're fake now. Even tomorrow if they say "your levels have doubled, it's a progressing pregnancy" that doesn't mean it's progressing in the right place does it? I can just see weeks of not knowing what I need to ahead of me and I feel like someone's just snatched that excited/nervous pregnant feeling from me and now I just feel depressed and like I'm waiting for something terrible to happen

Did they measure your sac Christine? And we're the measurements right? I can't remember how far along you said you were?x

Well I'm supposed to be 6 weeks and 2 days. That's according to the first day of my last period. On the first of December my test said 1-2 weeks. So a big difference between that and what the doctors are saying. They didn't see a sac

When I had my mmc, I had decided to go for an early scan at 8 weeks ish, and they saw an empty sac which measured the right size for 5 1/2 weeks. They told me to come back the following week and if it hadn't grown then they would know. But I knew there and then, cause there was no error in my dates.

You will know for sure on your next bloods if it's a failed pregnancy or if it's potentially ectopic. If they say that the bloods are going in the right direction then that should give you confidence that on your next scan they will see something more.

Is there any chance you got your dates wrong?

I'm sure the wait is agonising!! But it's not for too long is it? Is it more bloods tomorrow?x

Mrs1986 I feel the same way. Also MMC in August, as well as one before my DD, plus a CP in Oct, and since I found out about this pg I've felt like I was on death row waiting for my execution or something! Just waiting, waiting for the hammer to fall. Have been spotting last couple of nights and it's now turning more red so I expect this one will end soon enough. This is just how the last MMC started (was picked up on scan a day or so later at nearly 11 weeks). The stupid thing is I haven't been excited at all, and yet I will still be gutted when I lose this one. Will find out for definite on Monday.
As for your qu - I actually don't know if you can refuse to be weighed! I think there are possibly some implications for high BMI with regards to guidelines for monitoring in labour and such (which you CAN definitely decline) but I'd imagine you could tell them your BMI yourself and they'd just need to take your word for it!

the only date I have is my last period and that's for sure. But I haven't tracked ovulation or anything. My period is the only thing I know. Yeah bloods at 11 in the morning then I should hear back within a few hours again. I think they've only booked me in for bloods tomorrow but I may ask if I can be scanned again?(not sure how much luck il have with that but I can't not try)

Oh no CoCo so more worry for you!
It's a shame we're not all buzzing with excitement on this thread!
I agree with you about the still being gutted part. Even though I haven't got any hope in me I know I will still be really sad if it is mmc again. It would break my heart the same way as last time though!

Some hope for you CoCo in already having one DC must mean you are able to carry to full term? Xx

Christine just go in there and be a blubbering wreck and they'll scan you I'm sure. Who can turn down a distressed woman??

I just can't imagine waiting! She said my next scan could be towards the end of next week. Which I should be grateful for the fact that il have had 2 scans in 2 weeks when I know some people will have had to wait longer than that but I just don't know what to do with myself. I've taken the rest of the week off work, I didn't eat until 6 o'clock yesterday evening, I've sat in silence all day today. My OH wants to reassure me that it'll be okay and it'll work out but that pisses me off beyond belief. He doesn't know that, I don't need false hope. But if he were to say "let's prepare ourselves for anything" I'd probably punch him for being negative. No one can do anything right atm. I want to be alone but then I just need a cuddle. I'm really struggling

Oh wow hun, in which case, so think you need a chat with your GP. Tell them exactly how you are feeling and they will demand the scan on your behalf! They won't want you spiralling into depression. Please get your OH to be assertive at the hospital tomorrow, and tell them you absolutely can't leave there without another look.
If you don't feel confident that will work then you could always lie and say you are in awful pain?

ps sending you a virtual hug cause it sounds like you need it xxx