Feb 2016 babies: Welcome to the 3rd trimester - the final stretch! (in more ways than one)

[haquoi123]

New thread! Stats in next post

Oh sighing

Of course it's not just you to blame. Some people are just more succeptable, aren't they?

Isn't it better that you found out now and can make the necessary changes and start medication (will you need that?).

Please don't beat yourself up, you will get this dealt with and all will be ok

No idea if I need meds. The dr didn't seem to know what happens next really, he told me a whole bag of risks and damage i've probably been flaunting so far. So i have tried to contact the midwife to let her know and find out. Never had a funny sugar reading, referred because of my risk factors (age, miscarriages, family history of diabetes). It's my diet though. I think it's ok but obviously it's quite crap. Poor baby.

Sighing I also have GD, and had similar feelings to you. Spoke to my consultant who put my mind at rest by explaining that diet is not the cause. Basically when you get older or if there's a family history of Type 2 diabetes, you produce a larger amount of a pregnancy hormone which inhibits the uptake of sugar from the blood by the pancreas. Once your sugars are under control, either by diet but more likely by meds, then baby is no more at risk. You should get monthly growth scans and consultant reviews. The good news is that after around 35wks, the amount of hormone reduces and sugars improve.

sighing don't beat your self up, it is only prolonged highs that really cause problems and there are very few pregnant women who have those. It is diabetic before pregnancy that is more of a risk. Just try and reduce your carbs and cut out sugar until you have a plan.

Metformin is causing my 1hr post dinner results to be under 5 and causing my terrible upset tummy and I'm only on 1 tab with dinner but 2 Drs insisted I take it. Would much prefer to be on diet alone.

House is 75% done now. Nursery is a disaster zone, literally.

So my mum decided to kick one of the cats this morning in front of DH as he was tufting the sofa. She shouldn't have done it and DH told her off. She completely overreacted and shoved me out of her way, nearly fell over. Then world war 3 erupted, it was horrendous!!! My mum hit DH at least 5 times!!! She behaved appallingly. There was a plumber, 4 carpet fitters and a handyman in the house and they all just stood and watched! DH took every punch and slap and the only time he touched her was to try and control her hands. She has accused him of hitting her. Then she wouldn't leave and the fight just went on and on and on. It was an absolute nightmare! I was just wailing and all those men didn't absolutely nothing to help! There is no repairing this now. They both said terrible things

Oh sighing, really hope you're OK. You haven't failed, this has been picked up on, which is a positive sign, and there are steps for moving forward. It's also only in the last few years that any of this has been monitored, the chances are babies will have coped for millennia. Maybe you could do some of your own research as well as what the Dr told you as then you can regain your control over the situation and make informed decisions? AIMS is great for non-biased research. But you haven't failed. And the calm you'll have felt before this will have done bubs the world of good. Thinking of you.

rufus that sounds like absolute hell, especially that your mum would lose her temper enough to endanger you and your baby's safety. Is it worth ensuring that you are safe and concentrating on that, rather than trying to patch up something that isn't necessarily going to fix at this moment in time? I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this now!

rufus

God, I thought there was bad blood between my mum and my sister's partner (I mentioned a couple of months back he's about to go to HK and leave my sister with a 4yo and a 9mo). But bloody hell. How awful for you to be stuck in the middle of that.

Thanks. I appreciate being talked down from my panic. So far I've barely faced food and am starving. Hopefully I can talk to my midwife this week and at least have some appointment/ something to focus on.

And rufus. OMG! That's the kind of stress noone needs, but way too much for you right now. Can you avoid contact with your mum for a while?

sighing you have done nothing wrong. A oiling food will only make you feel worse. You and baby need some fuel and you just have to change the way you get it a bit. Probably some meds will help this feels like a catastrophe now but will pass.

It does mean you are at risk of diabetes longer term but you can do lots to keep yourself well no 1 thing is trying to eat healthily (think low GI) and keeping on top of weight. I was lucky that my GTT ok but have he family history and so aware of risks. You can't hose your genes so chin up, boobs out, learn some new stuff and you will soon be back in control.

rufus that sounds horrendous. I have no words. Sounds like DH did well to be honest. I miss my mum a lot but she was prone to histrionics. You really don't need it - hard to walk away but maybe you have to?

Haven't been on for a while last time I wrote a whole lkng post and my phone deleted it :( will go back and catch up on everyone's news hope you are all well! Can't believe how time has flown and we're in the winter season and babies will be here soon ( for those of you who are at the top of the list like me) I start mat leave on Friday, slightly cheating by having two weeks school holidays first but very excited to stop work, 34 weeks now and feel like a beached whale I'm measuring bang on for dates which is the same as last time but I feel much bigger and fatter!!

sighing I echo what the others are saying - this is NOT your fault - please don't be hard on yourself.

rufus what a dreadful situation I hope you feel calmer now xx

Rufus that sounds absolutely horrendous, what an awful situation for you to be in the middle of.

Sighing please try not to blame yourself, I think it's in our nature to (I know I did when my blood results showed high risk of trisonomy) but it's really not your fault.

Had a big sort out at my mums at the weekend and got all the baby stuff I'll need in the beginning together. Feel a lot more organised now. Although I was massively disappointed with the state of my size two nappies, they were in a lot worse condition than I'd remembered. But then I suppose they did have 4 years continuous use on two babies/toddlers and some of them were second hand to me so perhaps even if I chuck those ones they've still been worth a) the £250 spent and b) the landfill savings. Just disappointing because I thought they'd last forever iyswim but they're really cardboardy, all the pile has gone, they smell (despite being double washed before being put away) and are stained .

In other news baby has changed position/ moved lower so I am a lot more comfortable now. Only 31 weeks so plenty of time for that to change but am enjoying the respite from sore ribs and heartburn

rufus that sounds horrendous definitely stress you don't need!

It's lovely to see everyone starting to get everything together - my preparation plans have been halted by another bleed. I had a 32 week scan on Weds to see if my placenta had moved up - it hasn't so I'll probably be having an ELCS around 39 weeks. Then I had a bleed on Friday (my second, I had one at 28 weeks) so had to spend two nights in hospital again.

All's OK and I'm back at home with instructions to chill out and not go too far from the hospital - I'm so bored but my parents are coming up today for a couple of days so I'll be thinking of chores for them to do

Are there any other placenta previa types on the thread? I know there were one or two low placentas at the the 20 week scans but hopefully they've moved up now?

In the interest of giving myself some sort of sense of "control" i bought myself a blood glucose monitor today, as I wont be able to talk to the midwife for a few days (shifts i guess) and I've no idea how long referrals (i'm not even sure who i'll be referred to/ if at all) take (I'm already under a consultant for growth scans).
Anyway. Now i can test my own blood glucose.
So i feel a bit of panic fading. I had my whooping cough vaccination today.
Rufus. I hope today is better for you!

Just come out of my 32 week scan and everything fine 😊

He is 4lb 8oz, head down, and we can start trying natural methods to get him out from 37 weeks as with my age my stillbirth risk goes from
1-1000 to 1-500. Those seem horribly high to me, even the starting stats!!

I've booked to start acupuncture again from 37 weeks, we haven't had sex the whole pregnancy so we are good to go again from then apparently and raspberry leaf will become my friend 😋

Rufus so sorry you are still having to referee between your mum and husband. They really should have more consideration for you, particularly since you are now heavily pregnant and feeling it.

Really sorry to hear about those with bad GD test results. I know when I had the test with DS I failed the short test and then passed the long one. Do they still offer the lengthened version too?

Wonderful news whoknew! It's not long now is it?! As soon as I hit 37 weeks I'm also having as much sex as I can - pelvic rest and pregnancy hormones (coupled with annoying erotic dreams) have not made me a happy woman!

sighing really glad you're taking back control. How annoying that they do the test and then leave you to deal with the consequences!

step glad everything's ok, it sounds like they're taking good care of you

Well, work is winding down for me - combination of floods and schools finishing for Christmas, so my second free day today. And I slept. All. Day. Despite sleeping all day yesterday. And all night last night. This baby is taking it out of me! I've booked a reflexology for tomorrow so hopefully she can energise me. 6 days till maternity leave! My morning sickness symptoms are coming back though, just a little, but bloody annoying.

till you ok?

rufus how're you doing?

I've been getting terrible acid reflux at all times too! Has completely put me off eating. I've also got a stinking cold and DD is ill too. We're a right misery this week! I finish work on Thursday and am so so happy about it. Feeling pretty tired and just ready for a break, the last 10 months have been so stressful on this project.

Hope everyone feels better soon. We're in the home stretch! I wonder who will be first!!

It is scary thinking some of the babies could be along in the next few weeks- anyone due at the beginning of Feb will be at term by early Jan!

Delighted everything is OK Who, that's brilliant. Did they say anything re the fibroid?

Let us know how everything is going rufus- it can be utterly traumatic just witnessing an assault, never mind the added issues of it being family on top of the house move and the pregnancy.

zebra hope there is no more bleeding for you

sighing make sure you put pressure on your finger after pricking it. I've found it stops the bruising and therefore stops the pain. I just use my ring finger and little finger on my left hand as well (I'm right handed) and found that then I don't have to use them for much and doesn't bother me as much as pricking fingers constantly used. A reading above 8 is too high but unless you are getting 10+ don't be too concerned, my highest has been 12. It has taken quite a bit of food experimentation to work out what I can and can't have.

Thank you for all the support, I'm ok. I asked both of them to stop talking about it and let me just move on. I don't care if they are still upset and stewing about it.
DH has listened to me and dropped it and we are just moving forward. My mum, just as I thought she would, tried to make out DH had physically attacked her which is just an outright lie! I'm sure she is telling everyone who will listen to her that he hit her. She hasn't mentioned it today but I'm spending tomorrow night with her and I'm sure she will drag it up again.

Had my hospital tour yesterday evening, have to admit I was bitterly disappointed! In fact the midwife kept on asking if I was feeling ok as she said I looked very unwell, wasn't going to explain what I had just been through. Saw the operating theatre and that gave me the hebbie jebbies, mainly because most vet operating theatres look better. I'm just going to have to suck it up as my Dr doesn't work anywhere else and I feel safe with her and don't want to have to find a new Dr now. They are just going to have to be prepared for me having a full melt down.

I seriously need some sleep, I'm emotionally and physically exhausted. My feet are so swollen they keep on going hues of red and purple and are painful to walk on. Walking and standing just makes the swelling worse.
Today went for a nursery tour and got exposed to hand, foot and mouth, it just keeps on getting better and better! The nursery only changed their policy today banning children with symptoms as it was spreading so much. Seemed very stupid to allow sick kids to go to nursery. Also seemed ridiculous to have to register for starting Feb 2018 but that is how popular it is and if we didn't we wouldn't get a place.

My tour isn't till 9th jan - mind you I am dead familiar wih operating theatres etc so won't bother me.

Wish I fancied sex - my husband has decided I am the most attractive thing on earth but with the back pain, pelvic pain, heart burn and head in liver I can't think of anything I would less rather do. Will probably end up agreeing to a pity shag to shut him up. Very odd situation for me & would think I could be tempted on grounds may persuade darling baby to shift position....

I've just about had enough now. For about the last month I've had insomnia but now it seems my body clock is completely back to front. At night I can't sleep, I feel sick when I lie down, if I can lie down and ignore the nausea, I get the most terrible pains either in the base of my tum/pelvis, or in my ribs. However in the day I can go up for a nap, snuggle down quite comfortably and get to sleep in minutes, if only for 2 hrs max as then I need a wee. I can't function like this anymore. The house looks like a car boot sale with all the baby paraphernalia lying around, and because I get so breathless I am doing the minimum amount of housework. I can't concentrate on anything, and can't think rationally. Fuck knows what I'm going to be like when baby gets here. I'm not going to be a great parent, I do know that.

Oh isla, yup that sounds shit. Have you tried upping or reducing pillows (I'm sure you have, but asking just in case)? Apparently we can look forward to baby dropping down soon, which should give more space. Is it worth chatting to midwives for some advice? Or lowering your expectations of what you can do? Our house also has baby stuff and bits of cot strewn everywhere and despite best intentions I haven't lifted a finger in the last few days. You're going to be a fantastic parent, remember there's still time. Be kind to yourself, your body is doing what it can and needs to do xx

I've struggled to stay awake the last two days, I've just slept continuously and done absolutely nothing useful. Then yesterday I had about 3 hours worth of regular braxton hicks/false labour, which worried me enough to call the hospital. It was really strange, they didn't actually ask me to come in, but to wait. I wonder if they heard 42 weeks and not 32. I ended up taking some paracetamol and having a deep bath while practicing hypnobirthing, and DH came home to time the surges and stroke my hair. Amazingly it turned into a fantastic trial run and I ended up feeling exhilarated and empowered and not scared. The surges also calmed down, which helped. But I'm taking it easy from now on (pah! more sleeping?), I really really don't want baby to arrive before the new year.

whoknew and madsaz my libido is insane right now, but alas no one to do it with, I'm worried the baby will come out vibrating!

til please check in soon!

isla my sort of grandmother in law has terrible reflux and has the head end of her bed on 2 bricks so she never lies totally flat, could you try that? when are you finishing work?

I finish in 3 days. Feel like I'm just crawling over the finish line. The house looks like a bomb site and I've done NO Christmas shopping yet . Also plagued by insomnia and the last week at work is proving to be insanely stressful, not the relaxing, clearing out drawers sort of affair I thought it would be.

Pmsl Calypso 🙊🙊

To be honest DP really wasn't up for sex in the last stages last time as he said it was too weird to feel the baby moving. This baby moves way more than DS did so I am expecting him to freak out again. I think the safest position will be doggy, in the dark, and he needs to not put his hands anywhere near my stomach.