May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

Toffee good luck for your scan, hopefully you'll see a good baby-shaped blob by 10+6 (rather than just a bean shaped blob!) Definitely put your feet up tonight if you're feeling rubbish. And so exciting about your colleague!

Bish lovely news, glad your scan went well.

Poster that sounds so scary, thank goodness you still have a healthy baby there. Hopefully you're feeling ok after your scare, good to have another scan already booked in for Friday- you can have some reassurance that everything is ok. And interesting that perhaps the slow growth was linked to the twin that was lost- that might be reassuring in a way?

Mollie they didn't mention about the slow growth being because of the twin. I think that because it was obviously growing well now they assume I was just off on my dates so they didn't worry about it anymore. Maybe I'll ask on Friday. It's all very strange but overall I'm very happy (and amazed) that everything seems ok.

Poster sorry, I just read back and spotted it was just suggested by other people, I thought you'd mentioned it. It's great news anyway, really glad it was good news for you, and great to hear your bean is growing well

Just wanted to let you know unfortunately we have lost the baby. Been following the thread but not replying this week as I knew something wasn't right. I've had a missed miscarriage. Sending you all love and luck as you head into the second trimester

Wow poster. I'm sure you must feel all over the place. Glad you have a healthy baby though and that you are feeling positive. Lovely to come on here and there b so many positive stories today

I'm so sorry to hear that grapefruit that is terrible :(
I hope you've got good support.
Love and hugs

Sorry grapefruit I missed your post before I posted. I'm so sad to hear that. Please take care of yourself. my post about positive stories now looks very insensitive

Sorry to here that Grapefruit, take care of yourself x.

So sorry to hear your sad news Grapefruit take care xx

So sorry, Grapefruit. Take care.

Grapefruit just so so sorry to hear this. Still wander how a missed miscarriage can happen- did you have any symptoms? Understand if you don't want to talk. Sending big hugs xx

Grapefruit I am so sorry to hear this... I hope you have lots of support and comfort around you, big hugs x

grapefruit sending you hugs and look after yourself. It's a terrible thing to hear and my heart breaks for you x

Grapefruit I'm so sorry.

So sorry grapefruit. I am right here with you. Hugs.

Poster I am glad that one baby is doing well, sorry about the other one.

Glad you have a lot of support fluffy and things are okish just now. My SIL was on a lot of medication for her last pregnancy and my nephew has been born perfect. SIL was in and out of A&e and all sorts with panic attacks and really struggled. Don't be scared to take the medication. If you leave it too long it will make it alot harder for it to work the sooner you catch it the better. And they wouldn't give it to you if they thought there was a real risk to your baby. Those statistics make hard reading but they have to record everything, unrelated or not, so they are often falsely pessimistic. SIL is pregnant again and has none of her previous issues this time round.

peas mine was a MMC too. My baby died at 8 weeks. We saw a heartbeat on a scat at 7+6. I had morning sickness and sore boobs and felt exactly as I had done until 9 weeks, then it tailed off and we found out at 10+1. In the case of a MMC your baby stops growing and developing but the pregnancy stays in situ and can still produce some hormones and fool your body into thinking it is still active.

Today I am struggling. I should be 12 weeks today and celebrating heading out of the danger zone. I miscarried on saturday night in the end and, while it is a horrible thing to do, it wasn't as bad as I expected it to be and I think it was a bit of a relief as I was booked in for a surgical intervention this tuesday as OH didn't want to be sitting around for weeks and didn't want to risk me getting an infection. I really didn't want the intervention and hospital, so I am glad it happened at home like I wanted. I had kept a sieve by the loo and managed to catch the baby. We named him or her Rowan and took them to the funeral directors on monday. The cremation is this coming monday My heart is totally broken.

I am so glad to see lots of lovely scans starting to happen. Wishing you ladies all the luck in the world. .

Brenna thanks for explaining. Nature is so cruel. I am so sorry you have gone through this. You sound very strong. While you will never forgot your sweet bean, I hope you will be able to focus on the future and start TTC when you feel ready. xx

Hi brenna I totally understand getting to certain milestones and feeling that pain, it will get easier but it will take time, I still remember all the details of my mmc back in 2009 and those feelings don't dissapear but you do find ways of coping with them. That's lovely you have a cremation booked, I didn't know you could do that and I feel sad I didnt. I'll be thinking of you monday x

Sorry I haven't had a chance to respond to anyone else, I will have a read back through, I had a few days away as have a infection and had some spotting again and been feeling a bit down. Will catch up later though. Saying hi to everyone x

Oh Grapefruit - I'm so sorry. There are no words. xxx

And Brenna, again... no words. I'm so glad you were able to meet your little baby though and will have the chance to say a proper goodbye. Like Southy said, although I have no miscarriage experience, I hardly doubt the emotions ever 'go away' but hopefully this will allow you some sense of closure and that you'll be blessed with future good news soon.

Selfishly, of course, this makes me even more nervous for our first scan on Saturday. I know so many of you have already had early scans so I feel quite 'behind' to only just be going for one now. Just doing my best to stay positive.

Hugs southy. I am sure that you loved your little bean just as much, cremation or not. I doubt it matter what you do with their physical remains which are so tiny at that stage, they know you love them anyway. Thank you for your thoughts.

Toffee please don't feel even more worried for yours. We are the exception not the rule and 97% of pregnancies which have a heartbeat at 8 weeks go on to be viable. I am sure you already had a scan, so you should be just fine. I am sending you all my prayers.

Thank you peas as well.

We will start trying very soon. I can't say I am really looking forward to that right now and I really hope it doesn't take long asI don't think I could take that right now.

Love to you all.

Hi Brenna. How lovely that you can have a cremation and say a proper goodbye. Rowan is a lovely name.

My sister miscarried a few years ago and she and her husband named their little one Annah. She says it really helps her to have a name to remember their baby by.

So sorry grapefruit sending hugs
brenna im so sorry you had to go through that experience
peas i had no symptoms for my mmc and i was still getting positive pt's until just under a week after surgery. Like brenna said though it's not the norm and definitely less common then a normal mc

Thank you brenna I hope you have a short journey, but don't put pressure on yourself (hard I know) take time to grieve too xx

Thanks all for the messages of support. It's just as Brenna said. I had a private scan at bang on 8 weeks and saw the heart beat. Had some bloody discharge Tuesday (I was 10&3) so went to A&E but they were unable to scan. Ended up paying for a private scan last night and there was no heartbeat. Baby was only measuring 7&2 but they said when the heart stops it shrinks in on itself and reduces in size. I have been signed off work for 3 weeks. Been to GP this morning who has advised we wait to see if it happens naturally over the weekend. I am booked in with EPU on Tuesday who will then decide whether I need surgical intervention under general anaesthetic x

Gosh it's so hard reading all of your stories, I genuinely feel for each of you going through such hard times. I hope you have an amazing support network and that you are looking after yourself.

We have our 12 wk scan tomorrow and I'm absolutely terrified, have barely slept all week. Hubby is very positive but my mum got to this stage a few times and nothing. I am definitely showing and my nausea is still terrible but I know sometimes your body tricks you into thinking everything is okay.

So sorry grapefruit and brenna