May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

Toffee do it! 40 is an excellent price :)

Welcome deli and pikz, it's lovely hearing your stories how it has finally happened for you both after a long wait. Deli that's amazing that you have an adopted child also :) we also took 2 years to conceive, had a mc in April and we're just about to begin fertility treatment when it happened for us :) had a bit of spotting 6-7 wks but all ok so far on scans and looking forward to my 12wk scan this wk (but I will be 11wks). I'm hoping I'll finally accept this is all real after the next scan :) I wish you both well and glad scans have been positive so far :)

We are going to book a private scan around 16 wks to break up the time between 11 and 20wks, the cost will be 79 which isn't bad at all and we can find out the gender if we want also.

Do you think you will find out Mama?

Peas I'd love to say I won't find out....but if I know someone knows...I will want to know! haha!

Fluffy I read up a lot on MMC statistics etc and I just felt really negative like, “Oh a 2% chance of it happening to me? Well it’s DEFINITELY going to happen” haha, I’m so negative I need to be more positive! I know what you mean about looking forward to looking back on old feelings and being able to say “I was wrong, it was all ok!” Obviously I’m not glad that other people are feeling anxious/worried in a similar way to me because I don’t wish it on anyone, but I am a bit relieved that I’m not the only one!

I work in magazines and there is a parenting mag on my floor, I was reading one of their features on top of a printer waiting for something to print earlier about how under reported depression and anxiety is in pregnancy as women feel the need to tell everyone they’re fine because we feel pressure to feel like pregnancy is this wonderful happy thing and feel like we can’t admit to it being anything but Disney-like (nearly cried reading it, still crying at everything obviously!)

Welcome delilabell! What a lovely surprise, same thing happened to my husband’s parents, they thought they couldn’t have children and adopted, then he arrived!

I wish there was a place near me I could get a scan for £40, the one near me is £99 before 12 weeks! It’s only been two weeks since I had a scan for bleeding, but I have another two weeks and two days before my 12 week scan now it’s been put back and it feels like FOREVER.

I hope everyone is having a good day!!

Welcome and congratulations Delilabell and Pikz lovely to have you both on here. And so lovely for both of you as it sounds like you've both had long roads.

Welcome back Toffee (though I'm sure you're not so happy to be back!)

I had a stressful day at work today (oh dear, more moaning from me I'm afraid, I'm sure I'll turn it round and get more positive soon, I promise, but it's good to have somewhere to vent!!) Today I was in the office (just 4 of us in there) and was feeling awful, but using a migraine as an excuse as I often get migraines. A colleague I'm good friends with was saying I looked a bit pale. My other colleague came out with "you're not pregnant are you?" Even when I said no, she just kept persisting, with me getting more and more flustered, till eventually I said I was. Aargh! It was so stressful, I had hoped not to tell people till after the 12wk scan at least, and hopefully not till I started showing if possible. She just kept going on about babies after then, were we hoping for a boy or a girl etc, despite me trying to say that we were just getting to the 12 wk scan, early days etc, until my friend eventually told her she should maybe rein in her enthusiasm and just let me get to 12wks. I found it so difficult- we've barely processed it ourselves, I'm just not ready to chat to people about it like that! I felt so railroaded into telling them.

And breathe... I'm going to try and relax this evening!

I think it's really rude for people to keep asking if you're pregnant. Two women on my team keep asking my editor if I am (she tells me when they do) and they keep hinting at it, like I'll tell you when I'm ready, eff off, you're both parents you must know what it's like! I know they're going to be all crowing "I KNEW" it" when I do announce it too. It's ruining someone's surprise!

VickyHW you certainly aren't the only one - I do wonder what % of women actually feel quite down in their pregnancy. I've never been one for lying or not being honest, however even I feel a pressure to be happy and excited about things.

Oddly, I've got a friend who's 7 months pregnant and she's pretty freaked out about the whole thing - nowhere near as down as me, but when I saw her a couple of weeks ago and her tummy started moving as her baby was kicking her, we were both staring at it and she said 'Isn't that totally disgusting? Ewwwwwww' and hid her stomach with a cushion! It was actually quite heartening to hear that even at 7 months, she found certain aspects of pregnancy pretty grim and it's not butteflies, roses and happy faces etc.

She said she's spent most of her pregnancy in denial... the scans are like someone elses scans and even when it kicks her, she tends to make herself busy so she disengages with the whole thing. She's bought a pram, babygros etc, however she said she's petrified of the whole thing and worries loads.

It's her first and she might be going for a C-section due to complications, so she's offered to take a lot of photos and send them to me! I'm not sure that's such a good idea, but I appreciate her offer

Hi delila and pikz. Lovely news for both of you.

Fluffy I'm glad you've found a good, supportive midwife. That will help so much.

I've got my booking appointment this afternoon. This already feels like the longest pregnancy in history and I'm only 9 1/2 weeks. I've been a bit up and down with it all, I think mostly because I'm so tired. It's such hard week with two small ones already. Came close to pre-natal depression, I think, but managed to turn my head around. I had post-natal depression with DD1, and have a history of depression anyway, so I think it's always at the back of my mind.

Fluffy I was like that with my last preg, didn't acknowledge I was pregnant but seemed like it did to others. Was totally depressed and when DS was born I wouldn't hold him I just stared at him in disbelief that he was mine, DH done most of his "firsts" like nappy changes, feeds etc and the midwives just put it down to me being a young mum when I was actually quite depressed.
I had an emergency operation when DS was 3 weeks old, went back to work when he was 8 weeks old.
Luckily had an excellent HV that then got me the help I needed.
I can see the signs of it happening again already but I'm prepared and will have the help I need , although this is a much wanted child being so poorly doesn't help :/.

Wow - that's the first time I've ever wrote any of that down

for you Icant - I hope this time round is an easier run for you and you can keep the dreaded d-word at bay. I think it really helps for us all to have honest conversations with each other about how we feel - so often you're made to feel like you should be skipping with joy every step of the way towards motherhood (whether you're a first time Mum or a Mum many times over) but it's not always that easy.

I'm lucky in that I am overall very excited but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't occasionally plagued with thoughts of self-doubt and overwhelmed with the enormity of it all. I'd like to think I'll take to motherhood well and am preparing myself for sleepless nights, and how tricky it'll all be but I do worry that I'll struggle.

Mollie - grrr, I'm annoyed on your behalf about your colleagues! That's really unfair to feel pressured into telling. Surely most normal people wouldn't push like that? I think especially being on this thread and hearing about how things have gone wrong for other women in their pregnancies makes getting to that 12 week scan all the more important. I hope your colleagues are better with you today. Hugs.

Got a private scan booked for Saturday at 2pm. EEEEEK. I'll be 10+6 then so hopefully will see something vaguely baby shaped!

Early scan done 9+4 with a heartbeat :-) just looked like a little blob but feeling much happier now. Last time round I had massive cysts on my ovaries but nothing there this time either so that's a relief.
Good luck with your booking in appointment Grouchy and your scan Toffee!

Thank you toffee feels good to have got it off my chest.
bish that's lovely news :)

Yay Bish!!! Lovely scan news. And you've always got a wonderful support network here Icant.

AHHHHHHHH. A colleague at work (the first person I told at work I was preggers) has just confided in me that she is also preggers!! She's about 3 weeks behind me. I have literally been skipping around the office I'm so excited! We're going to go out for a celebratory lunch. I'm so excited to have a pregnancy buddy. Think it makes it more difficult for her to tell our boss now as it comes so soon after my news, but I'm so excited for her.

There must be something in the water!

Lovely scan news bish. Good luck for Saturday toffee and how lovely that your work friend is pg too. I have a few friends that are trying but they haven't had any luck yet but I really hope one of them catches soon as I won't be doing nct classes this time and it would be lovely to have someone to share mat leave with.

Finally have the taste for tea and coffee back. Not to the extent I did before but I can drink it without wanting to vom! Woop woop!

5 days to go until the 12 wk scan on Monday when I can finally tell everyone!!

Oh I've been the same with tea and coffee ODog, and I'm normally a bit of a tea addict. Good to know you are back on it now! Good luck with your scan too.

So I started bleeding last night. Quite heavy red blood. Thought for certain I was miscarrying what with the baby being small for dates at my last scan.
Today I had a scan expecting the worse and the baby is still there, heartbeat, growing fine (still behind but caught up a few days). But he saw a second empty sac which they have never seen at the other three scans . So maybe the bleeding was a twin which didn't develop.

In shock

Blimey Poster... glad to know baby is still safe in there, but what a shock about potential twin loss. How are you feeling? Hope you're okay - I can imagine this is a lot to take in. xxx

Thanks Toffee. I'm just pleased that one baby is ok. I dont really feel upset about the other at all. Maybe I will later on but at the moment just relieved. I was up all night crying because I was so sure it was all over.
I've got another scan on Friday (my original one two weeks after the first to check growth) so will probably have more questions for them then. I was just so relieved to see a heartbeat. He suggested that the other twin never developed at all and that it was quite common.

I can't even imagine how scary that must have been for you last night - what relief to have gotten heartbeat good news today! I suppose the main thing is to concentrate on healthy baby and make sure they hang in there for the next 6 months. I hope your next scan gives you further good growth news and there's no more horrible bleeding.

I'm really struggling with nausea today. I've not had it this bad in ages. Don't know what to do to make myself feel better. Feel like my stomach is really bloating out as well. Grumble. I think I'll definitely be putting my feet up this evening.

Bish great scan news! :) that's lovely!

Poster how frightening for you, but that could explain why your little bean was behind as was a twin and they do tend to be smaller in measurements! So hoping this wee one keeps going strong. That is a lot to take in though hope your ok.

Toffee good luck for your scan on sat!

10+5 today....things seem to finally be moving forward!!!

Oh Poster that must have been terrifying. So glad your baby is well. It could be that your little one is measuring small for dates because of the lost twin? Hope all goes well with your next scan.

Met my midwife today and she seems very nice, if a little scatterbrained.

Doesn't look like it, but cross post with Mama. (I should refresh before posting.)

Haha! Grouchy stop copying me! Haha!