May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

Thanks, everyone 29 they tell you each bit (legs, heart, stomach) is normal as they go through them. The downs etc are done as odds and are worked out with combination of blood tests, your age, measurements etc. After your scan they tell you the likelihood your baby is affected (1:1000 do example). If it's high odds, under 1:100 I think, they'll offer more tests.

Lovely scan Dorothea we have the same due date!

I've not told work yet and feeling really nervous about telling my manager too. I don't think anyone will be expecting it. I think I might wait until I'm 14/15 weeks. Not really sure why, just putting it off I suppose!

This is going to sound odd, but I sneezed this morning and had the worst pain in my lower abdomen... Spent the last hour rubbing my nose loads to fend off any more sneezes. Irrationally worried that it was such a big sneeze that I dislodged the baby

Parsnip I get that too. I mentioned it to my mw and she said its normal - something to do with our muscles and ligaments stretching.
Not nice when it happens though!

Welcome seasandandlove congratulations and well done you for quitting smoking so quickly :) must have been tough but you must be really pleased.

Yay dorothea that's a lovely scan pic, glad baby is doing well.

grapefruit I think I have definitely lost definition round my waist, had a shock when I was weighed by my mw, gained 5 pounds already :( she was luckily nice about it though and said a lot will be water retention (so I kept quiet about the many bags of crisps ive been eating...)

Glad the bleeding has stopped vicky and poster I'm crossing fingers but think mine has too.

Glad you're still having a nice holiday toffee shame about the sickness but at least you've still been out and about and seen the sights which is good.

29 glad everything is ok with you and baby, I've not seen fluffy either, hope she's ok and decided what was best for her, hope she comes back to let us know how she's doing.

Can't remember who said (on my phone) but I've told my boss now and a couple of other people I wrk closely with as ive had to work from home a lot and didn't want them to think I was taking the p*ss, they were so lovely and supportive and I'm glad they know as it makes things easier now I'm not telling white lies. I was nervous too but it was fine once it was out in the open

Hey all. Sorry I've been awol. Been reading just not posting.

It's fab to see everyone's scan photos popping up. I'm not due until the 21st so a wee while for me to wait yet.

parsnip yes, yes, yes to the sneeze pain. It's searing and leaves me sore for a while. I think it's normal but also partly due to scar tissue from my precious surgery. It hurts like hell!

I'm still constantly nauseous but not being sick (9 weeks today). By far my worst symptom is bloating and the awful rib and upper back pain I get after eating due to it.
My ligaments in my groin and pelvic are also softening and I'm getting lots of pain when walking. Will have to keep an eye on that.

What is everyone up to today. My dd went back to college yesterday and dh and ds2 are out so I'm home alone with a clothes declining 3 year old, watching peppa pig

I had my private scan this morning, and all is looking good. Changed by due date to 25th May

Great news Fizzy! :)

I had my flu jab today, was a bit stingy but over very quick! Glad it's done and dusted!

Good to hear Fizzy.

Just back from having my flu jab too Mama. I have needle phobia but luckily it was fine. I think I much prefer having something put in me than having blood taken out of me! Got a busy week at work next week so hoping I don't get side effects!

Congrats to everyone with scan news! Sorry I haven't name checked but I know there's a few.

No sneeze pains here but had a terrible headache today. Not sure if it's pg related though.

Great news on the scan Fizzy

I've got the fly jab this week and ds has the wee shot of stuff up his nose. I'm a little reluctant to get stabbed again after the mw totally butchered my arm taking my booking bloods. I have a huge, hard, purple lump

Could headache be dehydration related ODog?

Hi 29 / Southy

I am still reading this thread, however wanted (needed) to take a step back after I last posted as I felt incredibly upset and guilty that how I was feeling and what I wrote on this thread could potentially upset any of you.

Brenna and Beckle, if you're still reading, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I really hope you're both OK and that you get a BFP soon and things go really smoothly for you .

To all the other ladies who have had positive scans - all of your scan photos look amazing and I really hope things continue to be uneventful!

In regards to what's been happening to me - long story, very short, I've been really struggling as my hormones have just been all over the place. I didn't actually have a scan a week ago, it was my 'booking in appointment' (do'h, shows how much I know about what happens in this process) which went fine and I actually managed to cope with the blood test.

My scan is on Friday 23rd October and I've already had a letter about seeing the Consultant to discuss an ELCS in November in 5 weeks time.

However, my mood is just so bad - On Monday I broke down to my boyfriend and said I couldn't cope (won't go into details as don't want to upset anyone!). Even feeling so low, I went into 'logical mode' and booked a Drs appointment which I had on Friday (yesterday).

Turns out Tokophibia / Prenatal depression is real and I have been prescribed Sertraline with an agreement to come back and see how I'm doing in 2 weeks time.

However, after googling the affects in pregnancy, especially in the first trimester, I'm very reluctant to start the tablets in case I harm the baby - I don't think I'd ever forgive myself if I did that.

So at the moment, I'm trying to cope until next Friday, have the scan and then if everything is OK... make a decision on starting the tablets then. I just feel that if there aren't any abnormalities, I will feel more comfortable potentially putting chemicals into my body.

I still feel very guilty for not feeling happy and excited and the last thing I'd want to do is bring doom and gloom into a really happy thread . I have posted in the AIBU pregnancy anxiety thread and it seems a lot of women have felt like me which has meant I don't feel so alone and that's helped a lot. My Boyfriend has also been incredibly supportive and is still saying whatever I choose is absolutely fine.

Bottom line - I really do want to be a Mum, I think I'd be really quirky and fun and I am coming round to the conclusion that I don't have to baby obsessed or give up my career. Hopefully I can be a loving Mum and a successful professional woman. I just need to find a way of coping during pregnancy which works for me .

I'm not sure gizzy I've been so thirsty that I have been drinking pints of water day and night. Took a paracetamol in the end after much googling and guilt and it's finally gone which is a relief. DH out for the night and DS in bed so I'm going to watch strictly and eat pizza and chocolate!!

fluffy I'm glad you are feeling in a better place and in sure the medication wouldn't have been prescribed if it was harmful to your baby.

fluffy it's great to hear from you, thanks for posting.

I'm sorry you're suffering with prenatal depression and glad that you found support on the anxiety thread. I have a friend who suffered with prenatal depression with no history of depression prior to that, it was a complete shock for her and her DH. It sounds very difficult. Great that your boyfriend is so supportive though.

I agree with ODog, these drugs go through so much testing and I'm sure they wouldn't be prescribed if there was a risk to you or your baby. I know what it's like once you start googling though, I've scared myself silly many times this pregnancy!

Please do stick around, we're all in this together

ps thanks everyone for reminding me I really need to sort out that flu jab!!

fluffy I've not posted here much either as my pregnancy seems to be all negative but wanted to reassure you I had sertraline in my last pregnancy and my son was absolutely fine and I'll probably start it again in this one.
Hope it all works out and all you ladies are doing well

Thank you ODog / 29shoes - Google is indeed amazing at times, but other times, it can scare you witless! I want to try and be supportive for all of you ladies and don't want to upset anyone, so will try and strike a balance. I never thought I'd be prone to depression (naive maybe, just been lucky and always happy! ). 29shoes - I do hope your friend is OK and got through it and now is a very happy woman, enjoying Motherhood.

Ican't - I'm sorry to hear you're feeling quite low, thank you for letting me know your experience with Sertraline didn't cause any side effects, I do think I've scared myself with reading stuff on the internet.

I hope you feel like you can post on here as well? I do appreciate it's conflicting, especially when you feel differently so thank you for posting tonight. I hope you are getting as much support as you need and that you are able to find ways of coping and feel better soon

gizzy ive been suffering with groin/pelvic pain too, my mw said we will definitely keep an eye on it. Also feelings very bloated and nauseous :(

Glad your scan went well fizzy :)

fluffy it's really good to hear from you, sorry to hear you've still been struggling but it's so good you have a supportive oh. I probably didn't say much to you to start with - not because you upset me with how you are feeling but I really didn't know what to say to reassure you. I'm so glad you've been talking To your mw and Dr too. I think the thing is with pregnancy is that everyone feels emotional/anxious/fearful/sad/happy for all sorts of reasons, I am really happy you have come and shared how you are feeling here, we are definitely all in this together and not one person is right or wrong with how they feel, because how each of us feels is personal to us and everyone is individual, it would be a boring world if we were all the same. I have friends who've suffered from postnatal depression but not pre-natal and actually I'm glad I have come to see how you feel about pregnancy. Please don't feel that you can't post here, and icant I'm sorry you've also been having your own worries too x hopefully we will be able to offer you both supportive words as you have to us

Fluffy can you ask your midwife if they have a specialist mental health midwifery team where you live? I'm waiting for my referral to go through because I've really struggled with anxiety since getting pregnant, had really negative and intrusive thoughts and generally felt quite panicked at the enormity of it all - I'm not much help with details about what services they provide because I'm yet to see them but if they offer more support it might be s good idea for you too? X

Hi everyone, ive got lots of catching up up to do!

I am still very sick, vomiting on average 10 times a day if not more although I have a tiny bit more energy. I am 10+2 I think.
I must admit I am not enjoying pregnancy. I feel disgusting and can't do anything I previously enjoyed, I basically spend my time not at work lying around which is the opposite of me normally! I can't help but wish this would go faster. I can't wait to stop vomiting, feel abit more like myself, go outside and get a takeaway!

fluffy, I'm pleased to see you back. I meant what I said before, I really think it's vital that women be able to express negative as well as positive feelings about pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. Your experience is not uncommon and others on this thread will struggle at other points in the process. We should all supporting each other.

Vicky and Icant I'm sorry to hear that you're also struggling at the moment. Even the most wanted pregnancies can be overwhelming and stressful.

Now we've had our scan we're busy sharing our news. Just got back from telling DH's mum and brothers. It was really lovely.

Unfortunately we found out that his cousin miscarried in August. I hope our news isn't upsetting to her. I'm worrying now that our progress will match what hers should have been and be a painful reminder. Can only fx and hope she falls again quickly.

Oh no dorothea :( fx she falls again soon.
Pregnancy is wrecking my body, I just can't deal with it between the lupus and hyperemisis.
In hospital on my 4th addmission and become jaundiced now so just feel sorry for little bean having drugs all the time!
waves to you all :)

Fluffy good to see you back on here. It's good to hear that you're feeling more positive about everything- one step at a time.

Icant Grey and Vicky sorry you've all been having difficult times. Icant hope this hospital stay isn't too long and you're feeling better soon.

I had my early scan today, all was fine and we saw a strong little heartbeat which was very surreal! It's slightly worrying though that I was dated at being almost a week behind what I thought (I had calculated 8wks today, but my scan put me at 7+2). I have quite short cycles (21 - 23 days) and am very sure of my dates, so I'm really worried that it's just not growing enough. If those are my dates then I would have only ovulated about 7 days before I tested positive, I'm not sure if you can even get a positive that early? And it would have made my cycle much longer than it has ever been before.

So I'm not feeling very reassured, and also quite disappointed that I'm potentially a week behind where I thought- time is already dragging unbearably!

It also means I'm likely not due till June, so I had best get myself off this May thread and over to the June board sharpish!

Hi everyone, how lovely to finally share your news dorothea sorry to hear about your dh cousin.

Oh no icant sorry to hear you are unwell again, you've been having a tough time and hopefully the hospital will have you feeling better soon x

mollie that's good news about your scan and really positive to see a strong heartbeat. Try not to worry about dates, I think it's hard to accurately date before 8 weeks. When I had my second scan they said I was exactly 6 weeks but 12days later I had gained 4 days. It's very hard to accurately measure baby when they are that small and curled up, I know it's hard but try not to worry x you also don't have to move to June thread, Babies often don't arrive on time so potentially some of us could end up with April or june babies, don't go you'll be missed

I'm in the same boat Mollie don't go to June thread we can stay and talk amongst ourselves when everyone else has had their babies!

Just to add to my tales of woe this pregnancy, the dc now have hand, foot and mouth. Hopefully I'll be alright as I had it as a child but could do without the sleepless nights right now.